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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!

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Hi there,
I am a 13 year old male and i reaaaallllyyyy want to have sex but i don't have a way to buy condoms or lube because i barely have any money and i cant ask my mom or dad to take me to the store to get them because if i do they will lecture me and they will forbid me from having sex until at least 20 because they are mean parents and they will not let me date until 18 so how should i fill my sexual desires?

Sometimes life has big temptations and I am sure as a a teenaged boy the temptations are strong. But your parents only tell you these things for your safety. You dont want to have children at such a young age. My advice for you is to visit WWW.ITSYOURSEXLIFE.ORG and check out the preventing pregnancy section. Also check out some clips from the teen mom tv show so you can see just how hard being a teen parent could be. If you still have the urge to have sex talk to your parents. If you dont want to do this then maybe you should talk to your girlfriend, her parents may be ok with birth control. But I strongly believe you should wait. As hard as it is, being a teen parent is harder. Trust me I know. I had my first child at 16. I hope you take this seriously and think of the consequenses having sex at a young age can bring. Good luck and I hope you make the right choice. And if you do have sex definately use protection to prevent pregnancy and STD's. Maybe a friend can loan you protection if you feel you must have sex.

Stephie :)

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this morning i remember a spoof song saying joy to the world something is dead we barbecued its head anyway its been troubling me today and wont skip my mind so how can i get it to

It might help if you try to sing the whole song. There are many verisons to this. The one I grew up hearing was about Barney (oh how it crushed my little heart haha) But try researching it to find the lyrics that you remember. Or try thinking of a different song to get your mind off of it. In time this will pass :)
Hope I helped
Stephie.

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You see, I'm 13 and I wear g-strings:) I was wondering if I'm too young to be wearing one?

Hi sorry it took so long to reply.. I had to go take care of a few things for a while but I am back. Although this question is so old I want to respond to all of my questions. I think its your body and you can wear what makes you comfortable but I definately think you should ask your mother and father before wearing them because they might not approve. Thank you for your question,

Stephie

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PLEASE HELP ME!

i haven't pooped in like 2 days! i can;t get it out! i tried so hard and idk what to do! i tried medimucial and it didnt work, i tried eating fruits and water and it didnt work! i can;t buy anything at the store and i cant go to the doctor and im NOT telling my parents!


PLEASE HELP ME! any suggestions?

thanks!!!!

try drinking lots of apple juice or prune juice always works for my kids :)

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13/f
Ok,so me and my boyfriend Michael have been dating for 5 1/2 months.He really loves me,and I love him.But recently,we've been having tuff times.First,because he moved away to Texas,and I live in Illinois.Second,he keeps things from me.
He recently just told me his parents are rich.Then he just recently told me also that he doesn't live with his parents,so when I asked him did he live with his aunt and uncle,he took offense to that.So I stopped talking to him,because we would argue over him keeping secrets from me.So I haven't been talking to him.I want to tell him that I can't be with him right now,but when I go to do it,something tells me not to.Should I end it with him?Or should we just try and fix things?

You are so young... I am not going to tell you that you dont know what love is because i know thats not true.. you love him but he was keeping secrets from you... you are a smart beautiful young girl and you deserve someone who is going to be truthful with you.. if i were you i would tell him that you need to talk try to work on things let him know how you feel and if he doesnt want to be open then leave him and go find someone who will treat you like the princess you are good luck

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So I have a problem.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year now (our anniversary is monday) and I absolutely love him! We had a rocky past but everything is going great now. Our past was rocky because I caused some trouble by still being in contact with my ex, and my boyfriend found out and thats when things got worse. But I fixed them and no longer in contact with any exs. However, a few days ago I found out that he's still facebook friends with his ex. I know nothing is going on between them because the last time he spoke of her was the beginning of our relationship and I trust him and know he wouldn't cheat on me. But I can't stop thinking that he has some kind of connection with his ex, even if it is just facebook friends. I don't know why but it just bothers me so much. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it for the past few days. And i've noticed that whenever I do think about it, I get a sickening stomach ache feeling. It makes me a little upset that he's still facebook friends with her. I'm not facebook friends with any of my exes.

In fact, one time I had some pictures of me and my ex (it was prom pictures) and my boyfriend got jealous/mad and was uncomfortable with the pictures. It gave him bad memories of our past. So I was kind enough to delete those pictures because I knew he felt uncomfortable with them. Now i'm uncomfortable with something (him still being facebook friends with his ex) but i really don't know what to do.

I feel like this is so juvenille and childish... to get uncomfortable that he's facebook friends with his ex. Am I making this a big deal when its not? Should I talk to him about it? Another thing you should know is that my boyfriend can get angry very easily. Like I said earlier- our 1 year anniversary is coming up on monday. I'm scared that if I bring this problem up, he might get angry because its so juvenille and then our 1 year anniversary would be terrible because he would be mad at me. So i'm not sure if I should mention it or not because I guess it is a little childish problem but it still bothers me.

And another thing, if I didn't talk to him about this, I think it would really get on my nerves. I'm not the one to "forget" about something like this.. I think it would haunt me and especially on our anniversary, I wouldn't get as pleasant feelings. I guess i'm just scared to bring it up because I fear that he will get angry because its such an immature problem. I don't know what to do :( I love him and don't want him to get mad at me over something like this. But still it irritates me that he is facebook friends with her.

You are not being childish when it comes to this. He wanted you to get rid of pictures and not toalk to your ex's then it should only be fair for him to do the same.. he wants to talk to his ex's and not let you do the same thats not right. and honestly there is no reason for him to stay in contact with her... sit down and talk with him... tell him that you dont feel its right that he wanted you to get rid of your pictures and stop talking to your ex's and he can keep in contact with his. he is being very disrespectful and hypocritical... and if you dont talk to him about it then nothing will change good luck

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19/f

So i'm kind of with this guy and he always tells me he loves me. I've been in love before and i know the feeling and I know that I don't love him, therefore i refuse to say it back. When he says it I usually just say "you don't really love me don't say that" or "that makes me kinda uncomfortable" but he usually just says "im sorry i can't help the way i feel." I mean he's a nice guy and everything but I'm 100% sure I'm not in love with him, and he has liked me for 2 years and has been trying to be with me ever since. I just don't know what to do anymore, it freaks me out.

its not fair to you or to him to stay in a relationship if you just are not feeling anything. If you dont love him and dont think you will then sit down with him and talk to him let him know that he didnt do anything wrong you just are not feeling the way he is and maybe you would be better as friends... you dont want to stay in a loveless relationship all your life and you should be fair to him and let him go so he doesnt have to be in a loveless relationship either good luck and dont worry you are not doing anything wrong by not loving someone

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hi, boyfriend of 9 months says we're a couple. what does he exactly mean? thanks.

It means you are in a relationship with him.... You and him... boyfriend and girlfriend... a couple

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i love my best friends boyfriend, i have no idea what to do. shes already caught us sexting an he says he loves me. i love him to. HELP!!!!

This is your best friend you are talking about... Dont betray her like that... Boys will come and go... best friends are life... dont mess that up... that is her boyfriend so you have to take a step back and respect that.... No more texting him or being alone with him.... Its only going to lead to trouble.. Go find yourself someone else.

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Ok so, my other question is about what i should do. im pretty sure i love him, hes everything i want in a guy and more, he's about a foot long in penis size, really cute, etc. but im not sure im in love. i think i am, i cant stop thinking about him no matter what. he totally pushed this other guy from my mind and hes all i talk about. i need answers please. ive only been in love once an it was puppy love

Well loving someone is not just loving their appearance and "size" but loving who they are on the inside. If you think you are in love with him then hey maybe you are but if its just about his appearance then I would say no its just lust

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hi, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1 year now. he's a single father and 30 years old and i'm 2 years younger than him. we love each other a lot. he used to tell me how much he loves and me and wants to be with me. but recently, i argue with him in front of his daughter and he seemed really upset plus he's quick tempered and stubborn unlike me i'm more of a easy going and he didn't like my attitude because i was arguing with him in front of his daughter, and afterwards he wouldn't talk to me when i approached him. i asked him, 'so u don't love me then and he said, oh yeah i love u, but that't it and that's enough. so, guys, what does he actually mean? he still says he loves me. he used to say he misses me a lot but at the moment not often unless i say them first. i just reckon he wants to break up with me. but i don't want to break up with him. please help. thank you guys.

you shouldnt argue with him in front of his daughter. I would be upset if someone were to argue with me in front of my children. It frightens them.. Especially the little ones... Apologize to him for crossing the line... No matter how angry you get at someone you should NEVER argue with them infront of someone else especially their children. If you want to confront him about something take it in another room. If you are truly sorry then let him know. And promise not to do it again. And make sure you keep that promise

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Okay, so let's start by saying that I'm a 17 year old female and my main problem is that I've never been kissed before. I've never even had a boyfriend before nor have I been kissed and this worries me. I'm not socially awkward or anything, and I get along well with other guys, but apparently not on a romantic level?
What should I do? Should I stop worrying so much about this, because it really does bother me. :(

Dont worry about it. You will have that first kiss someday. And when you do it is going to be so amzingly wonderful :) Try being a little flirty with someone that you like... good luck

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I really love one of my friends from all my heart , but seemed that he loves my best friend from two days i was at her home and she and another girl made something really annoyed me so i went to this guy to tell him , he made feel that i am wrong and he she is totally right before to let me complete telling him the story and that's so strange on him so i feel that he loves her because he always writes for her hot comments and care for her very much but she's not feeling him at all and all the time talking him with bad things if he really loves her i will go away because i don't want to lose her and lose my heart i didn't tell her about the truth of my feelings towards him because i am really feeling that he loves her but i am not sure and i love him so much but he keeps hurting me to come over my rights for her sake .

If you think that he likes this other girl, maybe you should take a step back from him and try finding someone else to be with. He is not the only boy in the world it will be okay :)

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I dont know what to do. Im only 14 and ive been in a relationship with this boy for a year, on and off now, and he's been talking about us having a child. Ive been really thinking about this and I really feel like Im ready for something like this. I know its not exactly a walk in the park bringing up a child and that it isnt something i can just forget about if i get fed up of the responsibilities. I do want to have a child with him now but honestly im not sure if I should. I saw what you said to some girls question and just thought youd be able to help. Please reply, Im not sure who else to ask.
Thanks:) x

You are only 14... you are just a child yourself... raising children is not easy.. You think that raising a child is just holding them, playing with them and loving them. I use to think the same thing. I got preganant at 16 and I thought ooh a baby yay someone to hug and cuddle and dress up like my own personal baby alive doll. But its more than that. I am now 20 years old with 2 children and I still struggle with it. Please do yourself a favor and wait until you are older and more mature you think that you are ready now but the truth is your not... you are not even old enough to get a job... you are going to need money to buy everything that you need for this baby and you need ALOT. Dont do it... be responsible and mature and wait

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Hi.Thanks for your prompt answer.You still haven't answered my question though.Who defined fornication as premarital sex?Leviticus chapter 18-what does that mean to you?And...a couple of verses from leviticus chapter 19.Was premarital sex included in that?Well,if you check out Corinthians,where Apostle Paul was talking about getting married instead of burning.Burning here means having the desire for sex and yet not having sex.So,as pointed,getting married was for the sole purpose of relieving yourself of the burden of sexual desire,but it always doesn't end there.You should love the person.And hey,i didn't say it's not right for married people to have sex when ever they want to,please don't get me wrong.I'm saying we all have the same physiology.If one person,married,has the same sexual desire an unmarried person also has,why should one be counted a prerequisite for ''sin'',and the other,a blessing?Check out every other commandment in the BIBLE.It address everyone,whether old,young,married,single,male,female,parents,kids...and so on.Anyways,thanks for the message.I'll like to read from you anytime you can write.GOD BLESS!

Thanks for comming to me with your question... again my friend is a pastor so he answered for me here is his reply

According to Websters Dictionary, fornication is: voluntary sexual intercourse between two unmarried persons or two persons not married to each other. So noone decided to make it mean that, the word itself means that. As far as Paul goes when he says it is better to marry or to burn it has nothing to do with passion burning. It has to do with if we know to do good and do it not to him it is sin. In other words if you want to fornicate by the definition above then you are in danger of hellfire (the burning that Paul mentioned). As far at the scriptures in Leviticus I will look those up and give you a better answer but that will at least answer in part what you were asking. God Bless

feel free to message me here with anything else

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What are 3 good things about our world?

We live on it, theres pancakes, and who can forget the most impotant thing, indoor plumming

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I am 13 and i am pregnant. I took a pregnancy test that I stole from a store and it was positive. I already know i am way to young for sex. But we did use a condom it just broke. I can't tell my mom because she doesn't even know that I like boys yet she still thinks that I think boys have cooties. Abortion is out of the picture 1. I can't afford it 2. I could never kill a child. But i am just so scared I didnt tell the dad yet and not my mom only my best friend. I don't know how to tell them so please just tell me what to do or give me potions or opinions but please don't lecture me on how stupid I am for having sex I will get that from my mom it has been 2 weeks. Thanks for the help

You are going to have to tell your your mom there is no way around that. Its not going to be easy, but it has to be done. You are right on not killing your baby, but you are way too young to be a mom. You are only thirteen. I know how hard it is to raise a child when you are still a child yourself. Its hard and at your age I think its impossible especially since I still strugge at 20 with my two children. Adoption is the best option I can think of for you. First know that it is most likly going to be the hardest thing you will ever have to do, but you are so young and it would be best for not only your baby but also for you. You are going to find a wonderful family who want a baby and will love your child so much. Dont be selfish, give this baby a chance at life. And give it a good home and parents that are old enough and ready to take on this responsibility.

Now talking to your mom as I said will be hard but you have to do it. So just go up to her take a deep breath and just let it out. Tell her you are pregnant and your plans for the baby. She is going to be upset, but just think how you would feel in her shoes and try to understand it.
It is going to be ok, hard, but ok.. good luck and best wishes to you, your family, and your unborn baby...

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Ok so here is the situation, my sister and I are best friends like we are really close. I'm the oldest and recently she did something that I thought was really foolish and very dangerous, so I told on her. My sister is a lot more advanced than me as far as sexual things go (I'm a virgin, she isn't) and so I don't know I think the big sister part of me kicked in. She war really mad at me but she isn't big on holding grudges, Do you think I over reacted by telling on her?

If your sister was doing something that you honestly felt was dagerous you did the right thing to go to an adult and let them know... You are just being a good sister and worrying about her is not a bad thing she will get over it dont worry

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Ok so me and this guy I like were flirting alot. & we started asking each other questions I asked him if he thinks" he's a good kisser?" he said "yeah maybe I'll show you sometime."
We both know we like each other & were playing to hangout in the next few days @ the lake. I really want to kiss him but I'm nervous. P.s. Im a girl and almost 15. How do I make it were we kiss thou?

When you are ready it will just become natural to you.... if you like him and you want to kiss him then just do it

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Me and my boyfriend have had sex twice so far and both times there was a lot of liquid. I understand that I get wet down there but there was a lot. the first time there was some on his bed. it was as if I peed. The second time there was a lot more. It got on his shirt but he laughed about it. I, on the other hand, was very embarrassed. What is it? I've had one partner before my boyfriend and we always used condoms but it's never happened to me before I got with my boyfriend. Another thing is with my first partner I never felt any pain. With my boyfriend, for the first few minutes it hurts really bad to the point where my eyes start to water. Is this all normal?

If its hurting its only because he is bigger than the other partner you had.... thats is normal and a good thing ;)... the excess fluid is normal too it just means he is good at what he does... look up female ejaculation... that should clear things up for you have fun

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