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Kissing a man on his neck (link)
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Yes, people do that sometimes. What's your question?
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I really like my exboyfriend....I dated him a couple years ago. We just got back from a field trip and he seemed interested in me more than he usually does. I kept catching him watching me and seemed to make an effort to be around me. On the way home, he sat next to me and let me fall asleep on his shoulder. Do I have a chance? If so, what do I do? (link)
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Two things have to be true in order for a former relationship to work a second time around.
1: You have to BOTH want it to, not just one of you.
2: Whatever it is that caused you to break up the first time must be fully resolved, or no longer relevant. This is not something you'll be able to fake; it must be really, truly, completely resolved, or it will come back again with a vengeance.
So long as those two conditions are met, you have a pretty good chance. What you do is make sure that they are met by talking honestly and openly with him about it. And if he says it's just not going to happen... you will probably have to get used to it just not happening.
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If I am getting a ride from someone, they get pulled over, and the cop searched me and my bags found nothing. But found something in persons car, in his backpack. Can I be charged with the same crime as the person who owns and was driving car? (link)
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You could be arrested, charged, and brought into the police station to be booked, but that doesn't mean you'd be convicted. You'd have your day in court and it would have to be proven beyond a reasonable doubt that you knew the illegal item, whatever it was, was in your car. If it was in the glove compartment or the trunk, you'd have a harder time than if it was in a backpack which clearly wasn't yours.
Even if you weren't convicted of any crime, though, you'd still have to go through the ordeal of the arrest and the trial. Depending on the seriousness of the crime, you might also have to get a lawyer and incur those expenses. All in all, it's not something you want to get into, and if you have friends who you suspect might be carrying something illegal in their bags, make sure they know that it's not welcome in your car and that if they're caught with it, you will protect your own interests and let them fry for it.
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i am ten years old i want to have SEX! CAN I GET PREGNANT (link)
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As soon as you have your first period, you are capable of getting pregnant. Even before that, having sex can get you a venereal disease or a reputation as a slut. In addition, whoever has sex with you could be charged as a statutory rapist and end up on a sex offender registry for the rest of his life.
Ten years old is TOO YOUNG to be having sex. You are simply not old enough, in an emotional or legal sense, to deal with the possible consequences. I would invite you to look around this site and see all the questions submitted by girls who had sex at an early age and now wish they hadn't. They're the ones who are now begging to know how they can tell whether they are pregnant, how they can get an abortion without their parents finding out, whether their symptoms are typical of herpes or AIDS, or how to get the boys to stop thinking of them as whores.
It is not unusual to be curious about sex at your age; I certainly was. But it is absolutely NOT something you should rush into.
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could you tell me what's my job in the future? (link)
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I definitely see you becoming a shepherd.
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I'm a girl and i am 16 yrs. old , and me and my guy friend will be dating very shortly and he has asked me for a kiss but it just never happened yet. I am 5'4 and he is really tall he is 5'11 , i never dated someone soo much taller then me but anyways i am soo nervous to kiss him i do not know what to do , i kinda want to make the first move so the pressure can be over but i don't know how to,i get a little nervous around him and he is drastically taller then me.... please help ! (link)
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My wife is 5'4", and I'm 6'6". We've somehow managed to make it work - sometimes with the help of a convenient step or curb. You probably won't even need that; just stand on your toes a little and look up at him, and you'll find a way to meet in the middle.
You'll want to wait for the right moment; I assume that this is your first kiss, so make it memorable. That doesn't mean that it has to be on top of a mountain at sunset or something, but it should be a moment when you can really take the time to appreciate it.
There's nothing wrong with you making the first move, but you should telegraph your intentions, so to speak. Don't just suddenly kiss him; look him deeply in the eyes for a moment first and move in slowly so that he knows it's coming. You'll feel nervous, but don't try to suppress that; revel in it and let it be part of the emotional experience. He's probably nervous too.
Don't go for tongue action or anything like that; it should be just a simple, sweet, lips-to-lips that lasts somewhere between five and ten seconds. Then pull back and look him in the eyes again. Share the moment.
And if your first kiss isn't perfect, don't worry. You'll get plenty of chances to practice.
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wel i am 21 and she is 20, you said i should not ask her hot photos thanks k i hope i do it,and you said i cant get any disease by masturbation ok i am clear in this,but my testis is one side gets down low down then the other is that creates any problem for me,and now i rub my penis and around tht because of itches often whenever i come from collage it itches ,i hope its because of sweat but i want to ask you so i ask you now thanks please give me help full thought,and should i stop masturbation,because daily i do it and may be 2 or 3 times in a day :( pls tel me
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One testicle is almost always lower than the other, sometimes by quite a lot. You have nothing to worry about as far as that's concerned.
Testicles will itch; it's part of the curse that all men must deal with. Hair, sweat, and lots of nerve endings all combine to make the testicles the itchiest part of the male anatomy. Insofar as what you can do about it, you might try changing the kind of underwear you wear; if you're a boxers man, try briefs, or vice-versa.
Mastubating 2-3 times a day is probably a little excessive. There's no danger to your health, but it has to be taking up a fair chunk of your time, and there's also a problem in that if you get too accustomed to your own method of getting off, it may be more difficult for you to enjoy actual sex (you don't mention if you and your girlfriend are sexually active, but eventually you may be, and you don't want to be dependent on your own hand to reach orgasm).
I am now 40, but at the age of 20, I was rubbing one out pretty much once a day. With the wisdom of hindsight, I now think that I spent a little too much time on that activity, but at the time it felt like something I just had to do to keep my needs in check. Really, in the end, only you can decide what works for you. If you feel like you're doing it too much, cut back to strictly once per day and see if you feel better about it.
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I'm 14 1/2 years old 5'7''. My dad is only 5'4'' and my mom is 5'5'', but every guy on her side is at least 6ft. There are plenty who are 6'2''+, including a couple 6'7''. Even a couple of women on her side are 5'11'' or 6ft.
The most growth I've had was 2.5'', so I don't think I've gotten a growth spurt. Can I still get one? And can I grow to 6ft+? (link)
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How tall you get is dependent on two things; your genetics, and your overall health. The genetic factor puts an absolute maximum on your height; if it's not in your genes for you to be more than six feet tall, then nothing you do will change that. However, whether you reach that maximum (whatever it is) or stop a few inches short of it depends on how well you eat and take care of your general health.
If you're 5'7" at 14, then you could easily top out over six feet by the time you're done. I was about 5'8" at 14, and I finally stopped growing at 6'6". You probably haven't had your major teenage growth spurt yet, so you can safely count on getting taller.
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i used to masrubate daily,and it becomes habits for me pls help me ,i want to stop it,even i feel always to touch and see my gf boobs,i jerked by seeing her photo,one of my testis become lower is that bad :(,i fear that i wil get STD like that or AIDS ,more over i want to control asking hot photos from my gal,please help me (link)
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It is not possible to get an STD from masturbating. You absolutely CANNOT get AIDS, syphilis, gonorrhea, herpes, or any other disease from masturbation. Masturbation is completely safe, and even healthy to a certain extent.
This is not to say that it can't be habit-forming past the point where it's emotionally healthy. Masturbation certainly feels good, and creates a "reward" of sorts by releasing endorphins into your system. So, it is possible to do it excessively, to the point where it interferes with your life.
The solution is to exercise a little self-discipline. If you're doing it every day and that seems like too much, try cutting back so you're only doing it every other day.
And you should definitely stop asking for "hot photos" from your girlfriend, because that gets creepy after a while and she may not want to be your girlfriend anymore if you press the point. If she's happy to give you such photos of her own accord, then by all means feel free to accept them, but do NOT pressure her to do so in any way.
This must be said, however: if she's under 18, and she's giving you pictures of herself which show nudity, then you are in possession of child pornography - even if you're under 18 yourself! As much as it might pain you to do so, you should burn any such pictures you have (or delete them permanently from your computer, if they're digital). It is not worth the consequences if you are caught with them.
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So I became best friends with my one friend, Katie, this year and we became as close as sisters. But she has a little brother, John, who is only a year younger but I think he's really cute and I kinda like him... The other day he messaged me on twitter and we talked and he gave me his number and stuff. I have talked to him in person a couple times but now we text all the time and we're kinda "talking". We decided to keep this a secret and I have not told anyone yet but I don't know if I should go for it or not because Katie's other friend became more than friends with John and Katie got mad. What do you think I should do? (link)
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Katie doesn't get a say in who else you choose to have a relationship with, of course. You can be friends with who you want, and talk with who you want, and that includes her brother. But she DOES get a say in whether SHE will be friends with you anymore. If she decides that you-having-a-relationship-with-her-brother is a dealbreaker, then she can end your friendship over it if she so chooses. You must therefore decide if talking with John is worth the risk of losing the friendship with Katie.
What you should NOT do is maintain a secret relationship with John. Friends have to be honest with each other. If Katie is your Best Friend, then you should not keep this kind of secret from her. So, you have a choice: either tell her that you're "talking" with her brother, or stop doing it so there's nothing to tell.
Katie has shown in the past that she's not comfortable with her close friends pursuing relationships with her brother. Maybe she'll get over that with time, but for now, it seems that you will have to choose which relationship is more important to you. I would advise that unless your feelings for John are very strong (which they don't seem to be), you give your friendship with Katie the higher priority, and stop texting him behind her back. There are lots of guys out there who are not her brother; Best Friends are a lot harder to come by.
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Do you think that if one part cheated,chances are there to get back together and be happy like before (link)
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Yes, it is possible to recover from that. It is difficult, though, and it requires serious commitment on both sides. There are certain things which you will have to do, and which he will have to do, in order for you both to get past it.
Here's what you will need to do:
(1) Cut off contact with the person you cheated with. You can no longer have any sort of relationship, friends or otherwise, with that person. No phone calls, no E-mails, no texting, NOTHING. And that's how it has to be for as long as you have a relationship with your boyfriend.
(2) You must earn back your boyfriend's trust. That may take months. During that time, you give him no reason at all to mistrust you. Don't lie to him about ANYTHING, no matter how insignificant. Don't expect him to just believe you when you say something, and don't get upset when he asks for some proof that you're telling the truth about things. Don't do anything that you need to hide from him. When trust is broken, it needs to be rebuilt, and that requires hard work and sacrifice on your part.
(3) You must understand why you strayed. This may take time to sort out in your mind, but you need to find the real root cause, or it could happen again. Were you dissatisfied with your relationship? Were you looking for some adventure? Were you angry at your boyfriend and looking to hurt him? Did it just feel so good at the time, you couldn't summon the willpower to stop? Be brutally honest with yourself as you examine this question, because it must be answered for the sake of your own piece of mind.
(4) You must eventually forgive yourself. This is harder than it may seem, but if you don't, that self-blame will slowly poison your relationship and eventually destroy it. Not only that, but it will ruin your future relationships as well.
Here's what he will need to do:
(1) He must decide whether he will eventually be able to forgive you. The actual forgiveness will take time, but he needs to decide as soon as he can whether he thinks it will ever happen. If he still doesn't know whether he CAN forgive you after a month, then he likely can't. Please note that the actual forgiveness can take a lot longer.
(2) He needs to accept your sincere efforts to make amends. He needs to show trust in you again as you demonstrate that you are worthy of it. He needs to not use this incident as a weapon against you when you're dealing with unrelated issues.
(3) Eventually, he needs to forgive you unconditionally. If he cannot, then he needs to tell you so and end the relationship.
It is very, very hard for a couple to survive a major betrayal. I would suggest that it's only worth putting in the effort if you can see yourselves getting married someday. And no matter what happens, no matter how much time passes, the fact that it happened will always be there. The guilt you feel never really goes away entirely.
I know all of this because I had an emotional affair after ten years of marriage, and my wife and I DID get through it. It can be done. The relationship can even grow stronger, and you can be happier than you once were.
But it will never, ever be "like before". The wounds can heal, and the scars will fade, but they never go away completely.
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Hi, I'm a girl 14
My mom has a new live in boy friend. It not that I don't like him or he does not like me or he does not love my mom(he does with all his heart)It just that he's old fashion and his way or high way. He wants to change so much(moms other boy friend were not even like this)For one He think I to young to date and has been trying to get my mom to make me break up with my boy friend of 1 year(I have been friend with him for 5 yrs)he wants to re-do the house (that means my room to!)he does not like my friend because three of them don't believe in God and there moms and dads don't make them believe.He think I should get new ones. he want to make us not only go to another church but to change from christian to catholic and to make me go to catholic school! And he has this "kids should be seen not heard" thing(what the Hell!!) I don't have any say in any of this!! He not mean is just his way or high way. And I think Mom might give in to his bullshit! Hellllp!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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There are a few things you can do. How successful you will be depends mostly on how much support your mom gives you.
First, talk to your mom alone and explain to her that this man is trying to exert a level of control over you that you are not comfortable with. He is not, after all, your father. He certainly doesn't get to choose who your friends are or when you are allowed to date; the first is your decision, the second is your mother's.
If he wants to redo the house, I think that it would not be unreasonable for you to ask that your room be left alone - unless it's being done for structural reasons, but if it's just a matter of changing the way things look, then you should be allowed to keep your room as it is.
If your mother decides that you're all going to go to a new church, that's something you may have to deal with, but you cannot be compelled to change religions against your will. Your beliefs are your own.
Don't bother trying to change his mind on anything. It's your mother who needs to be your advocate. Make it clear to HER that you don't want to go to a Catholic school, you don't want your room remodeled to fit her boyfriends' ideals, your friends are decent people who her boyfriend doesn't know well enough to pass judgement on, and that you refuse to sit down and shut up just because of his ideas about how children should behave.
You'll need to pick your battles. I think all the things you mention are important ones which you should stand your ground on. I must acknowledge that I happen to agree that 14 is too young to date, but if your mother has already given you the go-ahead, he shouldn't have a say in it. I'm sure that there's a lot of less important stuff that he's also insisting on. It would not be to your benefit to fight him on everything; that will make it look like you're just being difficult. But the matters of your friends, your school, your room, and your religion are important ones which you should stand your ground on as much as you can.
If your mother gives in to him and won't stand up for you on important things, then you should make it clear to her that it's going to seriously hurt your relationship. The bottom line is that she was your mother long before she was this man's girlfriend, and that should be her priority.
One more thing needs to be said. The way you describe his beliefs and ideals leads me to think that he may be someone who believes in the use of corporal punishment. If that's the case, then make sure your mother understands from moment one that you will absolutely NOT tolerate him hitting you for any reason, and that you expect her to be 100% on your side on that one. If it ever happens, and your mother lets it slide, report him to Child Protective Services (warn your mother first that you intend to do that, but if she takes no action to protect you, make the call).
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My boyfriend knows that I got molested awhile ago and is great with helping me deal with it. But recently I told him I got raped last year. It was hard for me to tell him or anyone and he barely even cared. He just said I'm here for you. Should I be concerned? (link)
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He probably didn't know what to say. He likely wants to be supportive and offer comfort, but it's something he knows that he can't really understand. He may be worried that he'll say the wrong thing and make you feel worse about it.
You don't say how old you are, but I know that up until I was about 20 or so, I wouldn't have had the slightest idea how to respond to something like that, beyond what your boyfriend said. I certainly would have cared a great deal. I would have felt compassion toward the woman who told me, anger toward the man who assaulted her, and a desire to do whatever I could to help her recover. But I wouldn't have known what to say or do, so I would have remained mostly silent for fear of saying or doing the wrong thing.
If he's demonstrated in the past that he cares about you, give him the benefit of the doubt and assume that his natural reaction - whatever it may be - is one that he's afraid will be wrong.
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About 4 years ago I cheated on a guy I know, it was wrong of me but ever since then I've been labled as a 'playa', and I have a boyfriend now for 2 years and people keep telling him I'm gonna cheat on him and just wait and see he'll get his heart broken, but that's the furthest thing from the truth I love him and would never want to hurt him, but what hurts me is that he never defends me, when people say these things he just laughs and takes it and when we fight he says 'yeah I should have listened to those people' is it wrong that he never defends me?
I'm 19 and he's 21 (link)
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Yes, it's wrong. If he agrees with what these people are saying, then he shouldn't be dating you. Why is he with you if he thinks you can't be trusted?
You cheated on someone If the guy you cheated on doesn't want to forgive you by now, that's his privilege, but it shouldn't be anyone else's business.
I'd give your boyfriend an ultimatum. Tell him that if he doesn't start standing up for you, or if he continues to bring up this event in your past and use it as a weapon against you, then you will leave him. Then, if necessary, do it.
You made a mistake. But it happened when you were FIFTEEN. You were still practically a child. It's not like you were married to the guy you cheated on, and it's a mistake that lots of people make. You shouldn't be forced to suffer for it years later at the hands of people who weren't even hurt by it, and that includes your current boyfriend. "Caring about your feelings" doesn't seem to be a big priority for him. You should seriously reconsider whether you want to be dating this guy; you can almost certainly do better.
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I had asthma when I was a kid. I haven't had problems with it since I was 14(I'm 21 now). Well I recently had an asthma attack and the fact that I have asthma will put my job at risk. Suffice to say I like my job and losing it is not an option. I've been doing research and I'm trying to figure out what could have caused it. I don't have allergies, I hadn't done anything outside the normal range of exercise I'm used to. I haven't gained any weight. I weigh 185. I've been in this area for 4 months and I keep my room very clean. I run all the time and work out too. My diet is not different or anything. Is It possible it's coming back? If so what are some causes of attacks so I can avoid them? P.S I can't just quit this job I have to wait until my contracts up. The whole point of this is to avoid having to get kicked out early. (link)
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The causes of asthma are not entirely figured out. A person can be entirely healthy and fit in every other way, but still susceptible to asthma. I, for one, never suffered from it as a child but started showing symptoms at the age of 35.
You should see a doctor, who will likely prescribe an emergency inhaler and a daily pill such as Singulair. Severe asthma attacks can be fatal, so don't delay.
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um i was wondering becuse if i was married i would want only one daughter and not have too many kids what can i do to prevent having too much children please help me (link)
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The easy way to limit the number of children you have is to practice birth control of some kind. However, there are two things about your questions which are NOT so simple.
One: Whoever you marry is going to need to accept that you want to stop at one child. Many other people are fine with that (I have two kids, but I would have been satisfied with one - not that I would EVER give up the second now that he's here!). The point is that it is something you will want to discuss BEFORE you get married.
Two: You say that you want "one daughter". When you conceive a child the traditional way, there really is no way to predetermine the gender. You can do it via in-vitro fertilization, but that is expensive and tends to increase the odds of multiples, so that would interfere with your just-one-child plan. The other way to ensure that you have a daughter instead of a son is to adopt.
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Ok so i'm really sick and I went to the doctor today. They said I had to take medication for my lungs (pills) so I didn't make a big deal out of it.
Well, I have to take them for 5 days (once a day) because my lungs are like inflamed or something. I took my first one, and it tasted like puke! I'm not overreacting at all! And I didn't throw up in my mouth. I tried drinking AND eating something and the taste didn't go away. Nothing made it go away! I even tried plugging my nose.
What do I do? I have 4 days left and the taste just can't go away. And putting/mashing it in food won't help either. Please help me! Now i'm afraid i'll throw it up in my sleep or something ;( (link)
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Suck on an ice cube before swallowing the pill. It will deaden your taste buds somewhat and make it go down easier.
After that, try some altoids.
Avoid sodas and other things which will make you belch, so you don't have to deal with the aftertaste as often.
Aside from that, all you can do is suck it up and deal with the next four days as best you can.
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Hi guys. I have PPD (Paranoid Personalization Disorder). I'm paranoid about everything. If I think of something scary, I can't get that thought or image out of my head! I just can't help not thinking about it. It's like my body WANTS me to feel miserable. Anyways, I just really want to know how I can change this without medication. Please help!! (link)
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Your question is one which can really only be answered by a professional psychologist. It may be that you can overcome this problem without medication, or that you can take meds for a limited time so that you can work on coping strategies without having the very problem itself weighing down on you. Or, it may be that long-term medication is your best bet. But these are questions which the layperson just isn't going to be able to answer; even someone who has been in your shoes may not be able to give you advice which will work for you.
The one thing I can tell you is that if you want to try a medication-free approach, you should visit a Psychologist rather than a Psychiatrist.
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MY fiance has went to work on a oil rig camp. I thought everything was fine and i didnt think much of all the horror stories i heard...until a maid answered his phone one day...when he was in the shower and she was RIGHT there. why would the maid be right in his room or so near his bathroom? anf turns out they have been talking, and texting when he goes on his night shit ALLL night long as i saw his phone records. I cant see much reason to seek out the maid to be so close with when your engaged? (link)
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I doubt that she's the maid. She probably just said that when she answered the phone because she had to come up with a reason why she was in his room.
Unfortunately, all the signs are there that your fiance is having an affair; it might be an emotional affair or it might be physical, but either way there's something not right here. If it were just the one phone call that the "maid" answered, I'd say let it slide, but the talking and texting records demonstrate that there is something going on that can't be dismissed so easily.
Your fiance needs to be confronted on this. He needs to explain those calls and texts that he's making all night which are clearly not work-related. It is very likely that he will deny wrongdoing, perhaps by saying that she's "just a friend" - but just-friends do NOT stay on the phone with each other all night and every night. If there's ANY way you can confront him in person, that would be preferable, but I imagine that he's in a remote location and that may not be possible.
Still, it's vitally important that you find out exactly what's happening here, however you need to do it, before the two of you get married. Otherwise, it will poison your marriage and it'll cause huge problems if it all comes out later. A marriage without trust cannot survive, no matter what else it has going for it.
If it turns out that he is having an affair, only you can decide whether you can forgive him for it, whether you can still marry him, and whether you can trust him again when he's away at a distant work location.
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ok, so I have a mole right above my pubic area. it keeps me from wearing bikinis!!! I'm only 13 to i dont want to get it like cut off or anything, and whenever i tell my mom about it shes like, 'its just a birthmark!' (its a mole, but no hair, but its raised, definately a mole.) so is there any place like other than walmart or a pharmacy that i can like get cream or something for it? are there any proven home remedies? (ANY!) thanks I really appreaciate it. (link)
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You can cover it with makeup, or get it removed by a plastic surgeon. Unfortunately, those are your only two options.
Unfortunately, your medical insurance likely won't cover its removal, so it'll be an out-of-pocket expense - which means that it's unlikely to happen until you're able to pay for it yourself. You will want to go to a plastic surgeon when the time comes because he/she will know how to minimize the scar. Until then, it's just something you're going to have to live with.
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