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What is it really like in the oil rig camps of alberta? Why is my fiance texting the maid there?
MY fiance has went to work on a oil rig camp. I thought everything was fine and i didnt think much of all the horror stories i heard...until a maid answered his phone one day...when he was in the shower and she was RIGHT there. why would the maid be right in his room or so near his bathroom? anf turns out they have been talking, and texting when he goes on his night shit ALLL night long as i saw his phone records. I cant see much reason to seek out the maid to be so close with when your engaged?
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Sounds to me like the maid is cleaning more than just his room. However, you did say the maid answered the phone while he was in the shower, so maybe that is a good sign as she very well could have been "in" the shower with your fiance. The texting and talking all night long raises a few red flags, but I am an optimist. After all, she could be giving tips on how to scrub grout with a tooth brush, or how to properly dust with a feather duster. The real question is what she was wearing while she was performing her "maid" duties. If you could get me some pictures I might be able to better determine her activities in your fiance's bedroom. So, where you go from here?
If you do indeed believe your fiance is not being faithful, and I think that is quite apparent, it is time to move on---immediately. Of coarse this isn't easy. You were planning to spend the rest of your life with this person (in today's A.D.D. society that would be a few years at most). The first thing you need to do to move on is have a night on the town. Get your friends together and hit the bars, movies, bingo halls, whatever you do to have fun. Next, you need to one-up your fiance and find a maid to do a little "cleaning" for you, maybe even try out a few maids and get the cleaning of your life. Then, tell that hoser that thinks he is engaged that he can have his ho, and he is not going to have you. Don't be the victim be the aggressor, you deserve better. Take control of your life. Life is way too short to be miserable.
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I doubt that she's the maid. She probably just said that when she answered the phone because she had to come up with a reason why she was in his room.
Unfortunately, all the signs are there that your fiance is having an affair; it might be an emotional affair or it might be physical, but either way there's something not right here. If it were just the one phone call that the "maid" answered, I'd say let it slide, but the talking and texting records demonstrate that there is something going on that can't be dismissed so easily.
Your fiance needs to be confronted on this. He needs to explain those calls and texts that he's making all night which are clearly not work-related. It is very likely that he will deny wrongdoing, perhaps by saying that she's "just a friend" - but just-friends do NOT stay on the phone with each other all night and every night. If there's ANY way you can confront him in person, that would be preferable, but I imagine that he's in a remote location and that may not be possible.
Still, it's vitally important that you find out exactly what's happening here, however you need to do it, before the two of you get married. Otherwise, it will poison your marriage and it'll cause huge problems if it all comes out later. A marriage without trust cannot survive, no matter what else it has going for it.
If it turns out that he is having an affair, only you can decide whether you can forgive him for it, whether you can still marry him, and whether you can trust him again when he's away at a distant work location.
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