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He didn't care about my rape.
My boyfriend knows that I got molested awhile ago and is great with helping me deal with it. But recently I told him I got raped last year. It was hard for me to tell him or anyone and he barely even cared. He just said I'm here for you. Should I be concerned?
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He probably didn't know what to say. He likely wants to be supportive and offer comfort, but it's something he knows that he can't really understand. He may be worried that he'll say the wrong thing and make you feel worse about it.
You don't say how old you are, but I know that up until I was about 20 or so, I wouldn't have had the slightest idea how to respond to something like that, beyond what your boyfriend said. I certainly would have cared a great deal. I would have felt compassion toward the woman who told me, anger toward the man who assaulted her, and a desire to do whatever I could to help her recover. But I wouldn't have known what to say or do, so I would have remained mostly silent for fear of saying or doing the wrong thing.
If he's demonstrated in the past that he cares about you, give him the benefit of the doubt and assume that his natural reaction - whatever it may be - is one that he's afraid will be wrong.
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Guys have harder times with being emotional. He could,be in shock or feel guilty he wasn't there to,save you. I wouldn't make a big deal of him not crying but if you really want to talk about it with him ask him if he will talk with you. I hope I helped:)
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