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18/F I'm a greeter at Wal-Mart, so I interact with a loooot of different people on a daily basis. Well this one time later at night, this guy who looked to be about 30 and frankly, like a wannabe gangster pot-smoker, came in. I turned around when I heard the automatic door opening and kindly greeted him. He gave me a slight smile and walked past me, but he turned around and said, "You know, you have REALLY pretty eyes. Just thought I'd tell you that." Stunned, I said "Haha, thank you very much! Have a good night." and he walked away. He comes in about 2 or 3 times a week, and ever since he said that, I'd always smile at him when I walked past him, or greet him all friendly-like when he walked in. I just thought he was a nice guy, and I greeted him just like I greet the old people that come in. WELL, tonight I was returning some garlic bread back to where it belongs, when I saw him. So I smile and give a nod as I walk past. Well, I put the bread back, turn around and there he is. He says "Hey, do you have a number I could have so we could get to know each other?" I've never been asked for my number before, and he was so outright, I didn't know what to do. So I said, "Uuuummm... I don't know... How about YOU give me YOUR number?" So he asked if I had a pen and some paper, I said I didn't, but that we might have some up front. I start walking, and he follows me across the whole store to the front. I give him some paper, he rips it in half, writes his number down, and says "Give me your number too." I panicked. I've never dated anyone, let alone been asked out before. He seemed like the type that would call me a ton. SO, I wrote down my dad's old cell phone number which doesn't work anymore. He then asked me if I liked cage fighting. I said "Uh no, not really." and he goes "Well I'm fighting at the arena downtown next week, maybe you can watch one of my fights." and I said "Um, maybe!" then he asked what time I got out of work, to which I said I didn't know. I DEFINITELY didn't want him seeing the car I drive, or possibly have him following me home. He lives in the area, and comes in all the time, and what's worse is I'm a GREETER, so I'd HAVE to talk to him again. I thought about it, and I feel really bad... I probably shouldn't have done that, but I didn't know what else to do! I couldn't just flat out reject him, I see him all the time. After thinking about it, I feel terrible. So I tried to call the number so I could say something like, "Oh sorry, I accidentally gave you the wrong number! Things are complicated, and I'm really not looking for a relationship right now..." or something like that, but his writing's REALLY messy, I can hardly read the numbers they're so squished together, and when I attempted, I got some lady's voice mail. I really wasn't trying to be mean at all. I don't know what to do, or if what I did is right or not... Please help me! Thank you for your time. (link)
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You did the right thing giving him a fake number. I've done that before. Does not bother my conscience one bit. If you're getting a bad vibe about the guy then it's probably not going to be a good relationship for you. I always tell women to listen to their gut instinct.
You should definitely tell your superior about this situation, though, just in case. If he really gets pushy, your manager could have him banned from the store.
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i want to see real boobs, porn websites are blocked here,can anyone know a girl who show her tits in webcam,i am 20 (link)
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There are real boobs on porn sites? Since when? *lol
Learn how to talk to women and you'll see lots of boobs up close and personal.
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Okay, so. I've just started having intercourse with a guy with a slightly shorter than average penis. I'm not very experienced when it comes to sex personally, so I am sort of clueless about this stuff. I love him and his penis, but I feel like he would maybe be more happy with his performance if we could work out some positions that work better than missionary.
So, which positions are advantageous for smaller guys? (link)
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Doggie style definitely. It will feel like he's getting deeper penetration.
But really, what position do YOU enjoy? You guys can always switch off.
Is he small in terms of girth, too? Or just length? Most women will take a shorter penis with some girth on it than a guy with a nine incher but who's about as thick as a toothick. If it feels good to you that's all that counts. "I don't care what you think of your size, honey. I just love what I feel when we're doing it" is what you should say, but only if you genuinely feel that way. Never lie to your partner about sex. Otherwise, you're not going to get what you want out of it.
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So I have naturally brown hair but I get it highlighted blonde at a salon, but each time it's $150 and that's a lot for every month! So I really want a cheaper way to color my hair and I hate my natural hair, I love being blonde. But my hair is already so damaged, It;s pretty long right now but it constantly breaks off and I have so many split ends so I know it's bad to color it! But I really want to just buy one of those boxes of color from the store and try that but if it totally messes it up than i'm skrewed. Right now it is lots of different colors of blonde and it's really pretty but I hate having dark roots, but if I dye it with a box will it make it all the same color? I'm honestly just desperate to get rid of my roots, and I have tried the root touch up stuff but it's just so hard! What should I do?? (link)
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You don't say why you hate your natural hair color. In a sense, you're coloring your hair to try to be something you're not. Why not just enjoy being yourself? I personally hate it when women color their hair because it screams, "I'm fake." It makes you look like you're trying too hard, too, which is never cool.
Get a hairstyle that is a good frame for your face and stick with it. Leave the chemicals out of it.
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Okay, so my name is Allison &' I'm f/14. So, my guy friend James is 15 and we both really like each other. Except that I know that he really wants to have sex.... I want to know if its wrong that he fingers me &' we get a little more intimate. I honestly think that I love him &' I think he loves me too. (link)
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Well, let's look at the facts here:
The brain keeps developing until age 25. Consequently, you're still at a rather early stage of your development, which means that you're feelings, thoughts and sensibility are going to change as the years pass. So what you want now may not be what you want five years from now.
Also, your sense of the potential consequences of a given act, especially sex, aren't really established yet. I don't object to the fingering thing if that is what floats your boat, but sex is definitely out. Wait until you've grown up a little more or you might end up doing something you may ultimately regret after you are a fully realized adult.
Don't get me wrong, I'm no prude. I was a very bad boy growing up. But you want to always be in the position to where all the positive options are still open to you. Risking pregnancy through having sex at your age isn't the way to do that.
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Tanning beds don't even really close anymore, let alone lock lol.
And used properly with the right cream, indoor tanning isn't any more harmful than walking to the store in the sun. I have had skin cancer. I should know.I did lots of research I the matter. (link)
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You're wrong. I don't know what "research" you looked into.
"Analysis revealed that compared with those who never used indoor tanning, indoor tanning was associated with a 67 percent risk increase for developing squamous cell carcinoma and a 29 percent higher risk of developing basal cell carcinoma."
(Carcinoma=fancy word for "cancer").
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-204_162-57525113/study-tanning-beds-cause-170k-skin-cancer-cases-yearly/
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Okay so me and this guy i have a thing with were on the couch and we cuddled madeout he even took my bra off and we touched each other and stuff but we didnt really do anything... he never got a boner through any of that amd i was womderinf if he should have. Is it bad that he didnt did i do something wrong and how can i make him get on next time?
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Are you asking this because your vanity was hurt? Whether he becomes erect or not can depend on a number of factors.
Just live in the moment. Don't try to control how he feels about what you and he are doing unless he is doing something you definitely don't want him to. Guys are pretty simple. They're not girls. So relax, don't overthink and enjoy!
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14/f
I was wondering if guys like it when you kiss them very very softly .. I know if I was a guy it would tempt me to kiss harder
Also do they like it when your thumb rubs their hand while your holding hands?
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Any kind of kiss on the lips and the touch you describe are both very nice. So keep on doing it when you want!
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my name is Rachel and i am 23 year old female and on Saturday there was a shooting in front of my house and ever since i have not been able to sleep and when I do go to sleep I have night mares about the shooting because they still have not found the killer and he looked at me before he ran off and my 2 niece's and my nephew was outside on the porch with me when it happened they saw it to. I also wake up in the middle of the night screaming. I am afraid that he is going to come back and kill me and my niece's and nephew because we saw him shoot the guy and my nieces are only 11 years old and my nephew is only 9 years old we are all scared to even go outside during the die every where i turn i am paranoid because i am scared and afraid for my life. I am never home anymore because i am scared to go home especially at night when i am home i sleep with my mom because i am scared if i am by myself i will next even writing about it scares me. Is this PTSD? how do I get over my fears? please help me. I want to be able to live a normal life. (link)
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This is a really scary situation to be in. Have they named the killer yet or is he still an unknown assailant? If it's the latter, I can see how you would be so fearful.
I assume that you filed a police report about what you witnessed That means that if anything happens to you the first person the cops will go after will be the assailant if he is a known individual. Unfortunately, the police tend not to be very helpful in cases like this as far as providing protection for you goes.
As for the way you reacted to the trauma you suffered, it's actually a normal reaction. This is why, for example, that soldiers often times have mental issues after coming home from combat duty. They see a lot of what you observed. Thus, what you need to do is get counseling to help sort your fears out.
If there is any comfort in this, unless the killing involved a premeditated act (first degree murder), the assailant will likely be charged with second degree murder, which carries lesser charges (somewhere north of 20 years most likely). However, if he then kills you or any other witness, that would be a provable first degree death penalty case. Therefore, it wouldn't behoove him to kill you from a sentencing perspective.
Good luck. I hope everything works out for you.
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How do you let go of your past? It's been 3 months we ended , after a year relationship, i thought he'll come back to me or even chase me but he never.. and its so hard to know what hes feeling cause he would never show his emotions or feelings.
i dont know how to move cause i try say to mysedlf eventually il do it.. but i dunna...
i love him and i think i always will
best thing about it is im his first love.. (link)
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Part of the thing that makes moving on from a relationship that just went bust is the sense of failure. But the truth is that every relationship is a learning experience because everybody is different.
Thus, one way to finally move in is, "well, what did I learn from this relationship, what could I have done better, what should I have demanded from him that would have made it better for me and then apply what you learned to your next relationship.
Also, there are the factors that finding a new partner is a huge pain in the butt and that people often become afraid nobody else will love them. Well, the truth is that if one person likes you, there are probably dozens of others who will, too. So you have to put yourself out there, especially since the more people you interact with the better at the whole socialization game you become because you learn more about other people's potential behaviors.
So see the break up as an opportunity. You're now free to do some exploring and stretch out.
Finally, just know that all relationships have expiration dates. Sometimes it's six weeks, sometimes it's 60 years (and with a whole continuum of in between that or even more). It just depends on the chemistry of the people in the relationship. And the relationship you were in, well, it's use by date came due. Accept it as one of those things and rock on to another situation.
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So I have a twitter account, to get away from my normal crowd of people on facebook, and one night I was having a funny conversation with a bunch of girls, but there was one girl that really stood out to me. She was beautiful, first thing I noticed were her eyes... By the end of that night she was my twifey (twitter wife).
Time went by and we got really close. Messaging like everyday, and flirting. I would say about 4-5 months into it, we said that we loved each other. I mean, I believe I really love her. She makes me feel special, like no one ever has.
**side note** We know A LOT about each other, and talk about almost everything because we're comfortable doing that. We message each other EVERYDAY now, and we have skyped, and I've sent her signed magazine by one of her fave actresses etc. We do stuff like a couple, only, we're not together. And also, she lives in the U.S, and I live in Canada. (9 hours difference). She is 19, and I'm 16.
So now it's 8 months into this whole thing, and I'm still crazy about her, but all I want to know is if it's really love. Is it weird over twitter? Like, she plans to comes visit me the summer coming up, and if all goes we'll, I'm moving to the U.S with her when I finish high school. IS THIS LOVE? (link)
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You're going to have to ask her what her final intentions are. You're essentially asking us to read her mind. It could just be she is doing this as a titillating dalliance with an American guy that she has no intention of following through on (especially given that she is three years older than you and how much more mature she probably is than you right now) or maybe her feelings are indeed sincere. It's hard to determine.
I used to go on Second Life and this stuff happens there all the time, too. People meet, start dating virtually, get married (again, virtually) and then get divorced. Meanwhile, they may have real life mates they have zero intention of separating from. It's just an escape. I'm not saying that this is the case with your interaction, but you have to have that possibility in the back of your mind. That means that you don't ignore potential opportunities that may be available immediately around you.
Thus, the tack to take is have fun with it and see what ultimately happens, but don't make it the be all and end all.
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Sorry if this is long. Ok so here is a bit of background information: I have this best guy friend, we are just so close. We've only known each other for a year but we text practically everyday from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed. He started sending these cute "best friend" pictures so then I started to as well but then he started to see more "love" pictures that were saying "I love you" in all these cute different ways so once again I started to as well. I have always kind of liked him but I just valued our friendship so much more and stopped thinking about anything happening between us. He has crushed on two of my friends and because we r good friends he told me and I told him who I would be crushing on at the time but lately he hasn't said anything. Almost every night he says "goodnight I love you" and I say it back and he sends the cutest good morning texts ever and I can't help but smile stupidly. Oh my goodness I just get this knot in my stomach and I feel all warm and fuzzy inside (I know cheesy but I don't know how else to say it).
My first question is: do you think he likes me? Or is this still a "friendship love"? My feelings r getting stronger for him and I'm afraid to get hurt. I just don't know what to think, please just be 100% honest and don't sugar coat it please and thank you.
Also we had a conversation the other day and he said something really sweet. I said "you're starting to make me blush" and he said "I actually don't think I've ever seen you blush before" I said "I know you haven't" he said "challenge accepted" I didn't really fully believe so I just told ok go right ahead but then he said "I will just you wait...I promise I'll make you blush like never before"
My second question is: why do guys want to see girls blush? I know it's cuz they think it's cute or whatever but how?
I'm f/16 and he is the same age (link)
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Generally speaking (50% of the cases plus one), when a guy puts any effort into being friendly with a girl, especially if he's saying, "I love you," it's because he wants to get with you. Unfortunately, though, women like being chased but a lot of guys, especially in adolescence, have self esteem issues and wait for you to be REALLY obvious about it.
In that way, you're kind of torturing the guy. When you use emotionally loaded phrases, you lead the guy on even if you didn't intend to. Now you may also have self esteem issues of your own or you don't want to be seen as being overly aggressive, so you wait for him to screw his courage up and finally ask to get with you.
The best thing you can do is just go for it and tell him you want to have him as your boyfriend. Or you want to ask him a question like, "can you see me as your girlfriend?" If he says yes to the latter query, then respond by saying, "well, here's you're chance!" Or just grab his hand or kiss him or whatever you'd be comfortable with. Whatever happens, it will bring about some kind of resolution to this issue whereas if you don't do anything this drama is going to continue.
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Hey! 19/f
So my boyfriend and I are doing the whole (kind of) long distance relationship thing. It's not bad because he goes to school an hour and a half away and I see him every two or three weeks. It's been working out really well and I'm so proud of him.
Anyways, recently this girl has been giving him a lot of really obnixious attention, hinting that she likes him... to the point where it's driving me insane. I'll give you a few examples.
The first thing that happened was when she admitted to him being funny and charming... which is fine. I get it, my boyfriend is amazing, I know i'm not the only one who thinks that. Is it weird she said it? Yes. But he ignored it and then when I came up a week later, he went to introduce me and she cut him off and said "HI." to me really nasty and walked away. Later on apparently she put on a really slutty outfit and all this makeup and was looking for me.
A few things happened here and there... she came into his room hysterical crying one night and tried to get him to comfort her, she always tries to touch his hair, she left him notes on microsoft word and hacked his facebook when he let her use his laptop for homework,... etc.
Then one night he was telling a story about us and she was there, and when he said "My girlfriend" She made a face and went "Oh.... You have a girlfriend." And he told me that he makes a point to bring me up as much as he can, so she definatley knew... not to mention when I came up to visit.
Then she said "Come here and rub my neck for me, I think you should do things for me more." He said that all night she had been laughing really loud at his jokes, but he always just ignored her or said no and walked away.
This is when I got really pissed. Who the hell does this girl think she is? I trust my boyfriend with all my heart, but that doesn't mean that stupid things like this won't infuriate me.
Then last weekend... I kind of gave him a hickey on his neck unintentionally, and when he went back to school I guess she saw. She said "Oh do you want another one?", now she walks around calling him handsome and saying really weird things to him.
This is the part where I need help...
During all of this, I didn't hide the fact that I was upset and told him how i felt. I feel that if this progresses he should say something to her... but he feels that the only time he should do that would be if she ever cornered him and tried to pull something. I think that even if she's not throwing herself at him, her talking to him like that is unacceptable and it makes me really uncomfortable. I mean, something new happens every day. If it's not a big deal I dont usually get worked up about it, but I can only let so much slide before I explode... It's so frustrating! I friended her on facebook, a sort of indirect way of saying "back off"- but it didn't really do anything. I'm not the type of girl to start drama or anything, but this is seriously ticking me off! It's like this is never going to end.
I'm really upset and he doesn't see this as a big deal because he says that nothing will ever get in the way of us, and i know that. But honestly, i am so unbelievably uncomfortable knowing that she is always around him because they have the same friends. He says that he's just been giving her the cold shoulder and being kind of a jerk- but i need to know-
How should I react when something else happens?
Do you think he should say something if this continues/progresses? or would it just draw attention?
Advice? I need second opinions, thankyou so much! (link)
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Woah, hold on a minute!
Listen, I get that the girl giving your boyfriend so much attention makes you feel insecure. But let's not get into lashing out and saying that she's "slutty" for it. She is merely competing for his affection like you are. On a rational basis, all you can do is leave it up to him to fend her off. Really, he should just tell her to keep walking, but he's either too chicken to do so (afraid of her causing a scene maybe and looking like the bad guy in the transaction?) or he thinks it helps keep you on the straight and narrow since it is being proven he is apparently a high value male.
Yeah, all women are in competition with each other and some even get a thrill out of stealing other girl's boyfriends. But the guy has to allow himself to be wooed away. Otherwise, there ain't jack she can do about it.
My question at the outset of your question, though, was why aren't you guys seeing more of each other even though you're only an hour and a half away? That is not a great distance unless you don't have available transportation. Then you're kind of stuck. The natural fact is that absence makes the heart grow horny.
Thus, my advice to you is twofold: one, make more of an effort to get together at least 2-3 times a week to keep giving your relationship an intimacy booster shot.
Two, relationships are based on trust. Your boyfriend cannot control how this girl feels about him and neither can you. All you can do is trust him until he proves he is no longer worthy of it.
There are two gambits you can do for number two, though: A) Demand your boyfriend tell her in no uncertain terms to get lost or B) just look at this as one of those nettlesome things that sometimes crops up in a relationship and let the chips fall where they may. At the very least, if your boyfriend weakens, you'll know that he may not make the best marriage partner in the world and then you have some choices to make. In a perverse way, you can see this adversity as a way to learn something about your boyfriend's character. But don't bite his head off about it for now until he actually does something that he deserves being yelled at for. Otherwise, you punish him for not doing anything bad, which is screwy to say the least.
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I am expecting a baby boy and everyone is driving me crazy. The first problem was with his name. I've always liked the name Matthew and it's one of few I feel I'll always like. I planned to call him Matt, but after I became pregnant and already decided on the name, my sister started dating a guy named Matthew. I asked people if they thought it'd be weird to have a son named Matt and a possible future brother in law named Matthew, and a couple people jumped on me saying that I should ask my sister and her boyfriend if I could use the name since they might get married and want it for their son one day. I've always felt that no one owns a name and names should be first come first serve and when I asked, my sister felt the same way. However, when I told people that, they told me to pick another name and get over it. When I did choose the only other name I feel I can live with, one of my friends accused me of stealing it from her. The second problem was with his due date. He was supposed to come on October 8th, which is my brother's birthday. People insisted that I induce labor before then, but after having had a small baby, I was nervous doing so. Now that he's late, everyone's worried he'll come on the 20th, my other brother's birthday or the 26th, the anniversary of my grandmother's death. They want me to induce, but I want him to come when he's ready. Is it the hormones, or are people overly irritating? (link)
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You're way overthinking this.
This is YOUR baby. You name it whatever you wish. That there is someone else around you with a similar or same name is immaterial. Don't let people control you unnecessarily.
Besides, the boyfriend may ultimately decide to break up with your sister, so then you may regret not calling the kid what you wanted to begin with. Do what you want to do here. Nobody is being hurt and you're the one going through all the sturm und drang that comes with nurturing a child in your body for 40 weeks. You earned the right to name it. Mazeltov.
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Can anybody urgently help please.
I want to commit suicide in a peacefull and painless way without jumping infront of moving cars , Laying on a railway track ,jumping from a 17 storey building ,cutting my wrists,taking any kind of a tablets.The remedie i,m looking here for should be 100% death guaranteed without any failures.I would prefer to go to bed at night or day and fall of to sleep and never wake up again.If a had a firearm it would have been easy for me.Please help me with advice which is guaranteed. Thank you (link)
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Life itself is suicidal because we all die down somewhere down the line.
As for the pain angle, you can't avoid pain when you commit suicide. By perceiving yourself as canceling your personal pain through choosing death you cause pain for many others that may last a lifetime (a form of survivor's guilt---could I have done more to ensure that the person would continue to carry on?).
Thus, it is fundamentally unfair for you to commit suicide because nobody has the right to impose pain on another lest that other person is endangering your welfare. Call a suicide prevention hotline, ask your school counselor for a referral to a therapist, or something. Often times the depression you feel can be treated with medication, thereby winning you a chance to turn things around for yourself. You gotta take that avenue first before you opt to visit the cemetary because quitters are never happy with themselves in the end. It's only those who took the gamble who, even if they lost, will have a clear conscience.
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I have been freaking out for the past 2 days, i even left school today because i was guna throw up becuase im scared shes pregnant, me and her where just messing around, i was masturbating her and then we wanted to know what if felt like, so i took my penis out and put it on her vagina, i did not put it in, not at all. just touched it. I may have had pre cum on my penis but not positive, we are both virgins, never had sex before nor have i ever put it in her. Shes on birth control for acne which im unsure if it prevents pregnancy, im pretty sure its the same stuff. Im only 16 and i cant handle a child in my life, nor can she. I think im just scaring my self and worrying about nothing but please tell me if im okay and that shes not pregnant, is she pregnant or not?! im really scared and have been feeling sick for the past few days. please help me ):
Please tell me if i should worry or not (link)
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Very unlikely you will have knocked her up, especially if she is taking the birth control medication she has been prescribed properly and isn't forgetting to do so on occasion.
At this point, too, there isn't a whole lot you can do. So you might as well just relax and see if she has her next period or not.
Then you want to ask yourself what you learned from this drama you guys are putting yourselves through and how to prevent any sort of recurrence of said drama. Thus, anytime your penis gets near her vagina it should be sheathed in a condom, okay?
Remember, you always want to have yourself in a position where the maximum number of positive options are open to you. So anything that cancels options out, like her becoming pregnant, is to be either avoided or precautions taken to prevent it. In fact, anything you do should be with keeping yourself in the most flexible position so that you have autonomy over your life.
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im just 11 and a guy name hunter ask me out he said he was going to dump his girl for me but i dont really know can some of you tell me what to do he really says in my face i love you and i say o wow so stupid but he said he would die for me and i said i stell dont no it has pass5 days and thanks (link)
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Try to step back from the emotion of all this. Doesn't something seem wrong about this situation? Here is a list:]
1. You seem to be getting off on taking another girl's boyfriend away from you. Don't you think that's counterproductive?
2. At 11, you're too immature to be in any sort of love relationship because you just don't understand not only who you are, but the nature of other human beings. The human brain will keep developing until about age 25. That means your thoughts, hopes and interests are going to go through quite a number of changes over the next decade and a half or so. You might want to consider stepping back from having any kind of love relationships until you have more information from which you can use to make better informed judgments as to what you want and/or need.
3. "I would die for you" is stuff characters say in soap operas, romance novels and pop songs. It is not rational reasoning, especially when you begin blurting melodramatic stuff like that at 11.
So save yourself a lot of drama and maybe even heartache and step back, observe how people operate, do a lot of dialoguing with people and reading on the subject and, some years down the line you will have a better foundation on which to build a stable and mutually fulfilling relationship.
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Hi My name is Haley Im 13 and I've ALWAYS had this big dream of being on stage infront of a MILLION people and having fans and people cheering for me but I've also tried to ask my parents if I could be on shows like Americas Got Talent Or American Idol but my parents are not that big on traveling and stuff like that cause we had a little accident that happened to do with traveling but besides the point what could I possibly do to get noticed and to become a pro singer/actress. I can't post videos on Youtube either so thats another screw up there but just PLEASE help me in any way that u can. Thanks for taking your time and reading this.
~Haley W. (link)
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Take part in theater programs in your school, see if your parents will fork out for singing lessons (even famous singers still use vocal coaches to help keep their technique and abilities sharp), learn to play piano or guitar (or both), study famous songwriters such as Joni Mitchell, Laura Nyro, Bob Dylan, Tom Petty, Carole King, Lieber and Stoller, Willie Dixon, Jackson Browne or even Taylor Swift and then try to write your own songs. Watch lots of movies across all genres and be familiar with the underlying works those movies come from so that you can get an idea of how actresses do their craft, taking acting workshops, go to schools of performing arts, Read lots of books, too, because that will help in your verbal formation and give you role models in terms of real dramatic writing (not to mention how it will further your intellectual development).
Listen, if you want to be an actress or singer of real substance and not just some here today gone later today flavor of a lunchtime you have to want it bad and work at it every freaking day somewhat, somehow. Most likely, you will need at least some college to get into the acting biz. Those who make it as children, that is like winning the lottery---chances so small as to be nearly not worth seriously contemplating.
Now a word about those pop tart shows on tv (X Factor, American Idol, etc): nobody takes the winners of those things seriously as artists. Real artists who count for anything pay their dues, hone their craft and work their butts off to get where they did. Yeah, if you want to be some glorified karaoke singer like Kelly Clarkson, then American Idol is your vehicle. But if you want to be taken seriously then you have to use more conventional routes to your goal.
If you don't have the work ethic necessary then think about another line of work. Yeah, it's great to be up on stage with everybody cheering you on, but that crap doesn't happen easily. Don't be fooled by the glamor and the glitz. Show business is brutal.
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I am petrfied of flying and this week I'm going America.
I will yell at anyone that reminds me of flying, I am so scared that i keep thinking it's going to crash. I have bought tablets that'll put me to sleep but I feel as though they won't help I'm so scared that I can't even explain. I will go into panic mode and I know it, I won't be able to read a book or listen to music because i'll feel like I need to hear everything that goes on incase some thing happens. Please help me try and overcome this before I fly ! (link)
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Unless you're flying with an airline with a dubious safety record, your fear of flying is completely irrational. You're much safer in a jet at 30,000 feet than you are on your local freeway.
What you actually don't like is not the flying, but the loss of control. I personally don't like the idea of flying because of the control issue, but when I do fly, I also let my rational side override that fear by noting that you have as much of a chance of being killed in an airline crash as you do of being hit by lightning three times during the same Tuesday lunch break.
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I made out with one of my best friends one weekend. We didn't talk about it the following week.
Then the next weekend we both went to a party and I ended up staying at another friend's house and drunkenly had sex for the first time. The asshole didn't even use anything.
I told my best friend straight away and he stopped talking and looking at me altogether.
I then completely killed everything by drunk texting him 'I hate you'. I then went on to apologise and called myself a 'disgusting whore', to which he replied 'stop guilt tripping me', 'I can't even look at him (the guy I did it with) the same' before he said to 'never text or call' again and to 'go to hell'.
So I deleted his number to do just as he said. About a week later I get told by a mutual friend that he wasn't mad at me, so I tried to talk to him but he always says he's busy. I've tried for about 3 weeks. It's not an excuse but I'm so shy I kinda die when someone asks me to repeat something cause I think I said it wrong. I'm thinking of just giving up altogether on any type of relationship, friendship or otherwise. Opinions? (link)
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When alcohol use creates problems you have a problem. Please consider seeing a therapist or going to AA.
That the one guy didn't use a condom is also your fault. If he didn't wrap his weasel then your legs should have closed right up.
As for your best friend, well, guys and girls can't be friends. He feels betrayed because he has a thing for you and then you cuckolded him through completely irresponsible behavior.
Really, you're trying to blame others for your inability to say "no" not just to booze, but to sex with people who didn't deserve to have it with you. What you need to do is fess up and apologize to your best friend and learn from this. Sometimes people have to do some very stupid crap and inherit some real consequences for it. Moreover, some consequences can be irreversible. So even if your best friend won't accept an apology you have to look at it as, "God, that sucked what I did. I will never do THAT again."
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