I'm a cool chico, and I try to help others to love themselves. It's a rough world out there, but grawr, I can handle it.
Since this comes up so often, let's make this very clear: You can not pick and choose where you want to lose fat. Exercising your abs will make your abs strong - but losing tummy fat is dependent on your body fat percentage and genetics.
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I've got some fat on my stomach and inner thighs. What are some specific exercises that I can do to get rid of the fat? Thanks! I rate high! (link)
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http://www.exrx.net/WeightTraining/Myths.html
Diet and exercise.
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this is going to sound really stupid, but please try to answer as best you can? im 15/f
im used to being on the bottom when kissing, and when it's flipped around so im on top.. sometimes i feel like i might be too "forceful" just because im not good with the "control position." im used to the guys having control over it.. (and yes, i like it that way, if that makes any difference.)
my question is, how do you know how much to "control" when you're on top? how do you know if you're too much, or not enough? without actually asking the person?
any help would be great, thank you! (link)
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One: Do what you like. Or.
Two: Pay attention to what your partner is doing and mimic.
Top or bottom, that's really all kissing has amounted to, for me. I don't know, I can usually "sense" when something I'm doing isn't working for a lady.
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15/f
Ok... this really is for guys only but if girls want to give an opinion. I just have a question... why do guys not like me. I mean... every girl in my class that is so annoying and so holding a leash on their boyfriends has a boyfriend but not me. And you're probably thinking that i just want to go out because everyone else is. Um... no. I just want that special relationship with the right guy is that too much to ask? Guys just don't like me for some reason, though. I'm not that bad looking.. im not that skinny but not that huge. I have an awesome let loose personality. I'm into stuff like action, comedy, a few chick flick but it's limited... and I love going to games and stuff... idk.. why am i still single? (link)
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I have to be a pain in the butt here.
How many boys have you asked how? How many have you persued? How many have rejected you? If you HAVE been rejected, then you're here for the right reason.
But otherwise... We all want "someone special". I'm not mocking you, I'm twenty-two and I wish I could find someone worth my time! Alas, quality people seem few and far between.
If you have that awesome personality, let it shine. Talk to boys, interact - but don't settle. Really do find someone special. And if you don't, remember: Boys in high school may not be all there. Be patient and focus on how awesome you are, and how a boy would be LUCKY to be with you.
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15/f
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months now and i still havent given him a handjob yet because i am so nervous (ive never given a handjob before).. can you please tell me everything i need to know.. like should i use lotion or not? etc.. and just any tips would be great.. if you can't say it on here then you can give me your sn for aim.. thanks (link)
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I remember my first sexual experiences. They're so exciting because you have no idea what you're doing.
And then you realize, "..I have no idea what I'm doing."
You can fumble blindly and enjoy the cluelessness, or you can suck it up and be a woman.
There's not a person in the world that can tell you what your boyfriend wants out of a handjob. Do you need lotion? If he's circumcised, maybe. Some guys like myself prefer, or even require lubricant for any pleasure. Others don't. If he's intact, your experience will become much simpler; the glans will retain its own moisture and you simply use the foreskin and shaft skin to stroke.
But otherwise, there's a simple point: Ask him what he likes. It need not be a complicated or demanding question. If you can't ask him something as simple as, "So do you use lotion when you masturbate?" consider why you want to do this in the first place.
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How do you hook up the 100 dollar Kodak Easy share cameras to the computer to load them? I don't have a docker. I have one wire that you're supposed to hook up the Camera to the computer with, but where on the back of the computer do you hook it up too? I didn't read the directions because I want to take the easy way out.
Thank you :) - Adrianna, 15
Oh and I don't know if this helps but, I do have a memory card. (link)
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USB.
Find the smaller end of the cable. Plug into camera. Look at other end of cable. Notice shape. Look on back of computer. There will be a port with the same symbol and shape. Plug it in.
GOTO Kodak site and download their drivers.
Turn on your camera.
GOTO windows explorer and your camera should show up as a removable drive. Copy/paste to your computer.
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Ok well here is my story. I am a 16/f I have a 5 month old baby boy with this wonderful guy! Here is where the problem comes in, today me and him were talking about our relationship. (We date) And well he broke up with me. We have been together for 2 years! I am head over heals in LOVE with this boy! Like honest to God there is no question about it. What should I do? Because he said that he feels really bad because he hurt me I mean he cried because I was crying (because he hurt me by breaking up with me) Well I just need someone to tell me why he would have done this!! I really love him and he really loves me, I don't know why he did it and I want him back. HELP! Both he and I didn't want our relationship to affect our child. That is why I am asking. I think our break up might affect the baby...What can I do? (link)
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If he wants a relationship with the kid, then he will. It's that simple.
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Do you guys believe that high school sweethearts can last throughout adulthood? I've heard from many people that if they end up getting married they'll just end up miserable. Or that most end after senior year. (link)
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People like tricking themselves into believing whatever they want to believe, sometimes. Do some people make it? Absolutely.
But for most, dating in high school is just one step in learning how to socialize with people on a romantic basis.
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okay well i asked a similar question before but it seems that know one got what i was saying so here it is again.
okay i got ddr max (or whatever the purple one is called) for xmas and its really hard for me. like within 5 sec i fail. so are any of the other ddr games for ps2 easier? because this is the newest one i think and its hard! if any are easier please leave the name of it! (link)
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Turn down the difficulty. Either do it on light or beginning - and go through the training mode stuff. It makes a difference once you discover you can spin around in a circle when there's a certain pattern to the arrows.
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Hello,
I am 27 years old and have been grappling with my social awkwardness from my early teens. I've always been very shy and insecure, though have improved greatly over the years. I've learned to accept myself the way I am, but sometimes I still make the same social mistakes. I am tired of embarassing my husband, family and friends when I make social blunders - namely putting my foot in my mouth. I am always conscious of other's feelings, so don't do it on purpose. That's the problem - I don't even realize that I've said something wrong most of the time. I only find out what a doofus I was when my husband or someone else asks me how I could have said what I said - didn't I realize how rude that was?! I feel so ashamed, and shudder to think what else I've said in the past that may have hurt/enraged/upset people.
Anyway, the point is, I want to improve my social/conversation skills and learn how to realize when I am going to say something wrong. I think I often say things too quickly before thinking it through because I'm often so nervous talking to people that I try to fill the void with something, rather than allow some silence while I consider what to say. Can you help me? (link)
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You say you've accepted yourself the way you are. Let's run with that concept.
You say you tend to say things without thinking first. The obvious solution is to pause for two seconds before saying things - but the problem is that might cause paranoia in that split second, causing you to indeed "second-guess" yourself. How are we supposed to know, anyway?
You also say that you don't notice when you've said something wrong. Now I think I've got a partial solution. Don't think too much about what you're going to say. Reacting is something you can build on, it means you're already free to open your mouth. Consider working on your listening skills. This way if you DO say something inept, you'll be able to perceive when you have - and THEN you'll be able to say something to cover your ass. Apologize or whatever.
You can doooo eeet.
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i dont understand what prude means.
is it liike where you havent hooked up with anyone or had sex?
14/f (link)
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Typically a "prude" is someone who is physically conservative or sexually repressed. Really, being a prude is just a factoid, most of the time. However, people like to use the word as an insult, as if to imply immaturity, or insecurity.
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is there any way for boys to "finger" themselves? (link)
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*cracks fingers*
Let a professional answer this.
You can tease the anus, that probably feels the same for both sexes. But to finger the ass, odds are, you're going to be aiming for the prostate. It's about two-three inches inside on the anterior wall. (As opposed to posterior, if that word throws you off.) Prostate is where the bulk of fluid that goes into semen to help sperm live for their limited lifetime outside of the body. And it just so happens that when it's rubbed, it feels good.
Though, personally, I find it easier to use my penis-sword.
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13- Female.
I want to start eating better to make sure I stay fit. I'm current like 109 lbs and I would like to lose a few pounds and trim off a few inches off my arms, thighs, and stomach. I need to know how many calories and carbs should I eat? How do I count Carbs and calories? I'm very confused to this whole process. If you guys could help or give me websites that could help I would be greatly appreciative. (link)
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rainbowcherrie is quite right. Don't bother counting carbs unless you understand what they are, and what everything else going into your body is. (I won't claim to understand carbs as it is.) Eat sensibly, exercise moderately, and your body will respond.
http://weightloss.about.com/cs/nutrition101/l/blcalories.htm
Ah, as I thought. Space out your meals. Frequent small meals are better than eating everything in one shot.
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Okay I really wanna lose weight (really badly) I NEED advice!!! I wanna lose it the "healthy way". I know anarexia and bulliemia are easy ways to lose weight but i wanna be fit and healthy. Can you be both? anyway so i have been excersising alot latly. and i know one of the ways to lose "stuburn belly fat" is doing situps. well every time i do situps it makes my tailbone hurt. At first i thought it was excersising in jeans so i put on pj's it still does it. How can i lose belly fat the "healthy" "in-expensive" and "not hurtin way" is it possible? i wanna lose belly fat (thighs too) lol. Anyway does anybody have any idea's? i would really appreciate it. Happy new year.
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Spot reduction is a popular myth. Where you lose fat has nothing to do with where or what you're exercising. It's rather simple equation of (health) food intake, and body exertion. Sit-ups don't burn much calories compared to other exercises.
Moreover, our bodies are designed to distribute fat in a certain way, allotating different amounts to different areas based on our total body fat percentage.
Basically, you'll lose your "stubborn belly fat" whenever your body fat level reaches a point where it says, "Oop, we're low on fat, time to deallocate from the belly!"
Point? Keep the exercise/total calories burned in a day over whatever you're eating, and you'll be fine.
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Has anyone ever played magic the gathering? How...mystical/weird/gothic/spooky is it? Does it involve wicca? What is wicca?
Thanks! (link)
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It's just a game. Kind of like some RPG attack battle systems. Except with all cards. It has nothing to do with wicca.
Wicca is a more-dressed up name for people who are witches. Cool beans for them, but not something I'm knowledgeable about; I've known some in my lifetime.
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How would I properly say this sentence -
If I were you.
If I was you.
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If I were you.
If he was you.
If we were you.
If they were you.
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Ok, Well for xmas today I got Sims 2. I knowits really graihc and my Insperon 1200 Dell Just can't handle the file and stops at the first Cd and freezes. So We will return it. OK? No problemo. Ok now heres the problem. it takes up 652 mb.. and i cant get it off. I go to add remove programs and clickon Remove.. and it doesnt do anything. The screen goes away and comes back, in less then a second. I need help unisttalling it.. its a brand new computer and if i take up this much space my parents will kill me. thanks i rate 5s of all. Thanks
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Odds are, it's installed under C:\program files\maxis\sims2 Look there and delete the folder(s). The reason the uninstall doesn't work is because it didn't complete installing.
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i made out with a boy when i was younger and i really regret it. i try to keep it a secret and told the boy that i wanted to keep it low. the boy didn't respect my opinion and said that he had already told his friends and some of mine. how do i try to keep this from getting furthur. his parents and my parents are close friends and i come over his house sometimes. everytime i come all he wants to do is makeout and keep my younger sister from knowing.sometimes its hard to say no to him. i need help on what to do.!!!! (link)
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He has nothing to brag about if there's an equal and opposite rumor going around. If anybody askes, tell them he's a bad kisser. : D
Or otherwise downplay it. People will only jump on you if they sense insecurity or embarassment. If you play it cool, you're fine. "Nobody can put you down without your permission."
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13/f and well i have just recently gotten my first period, but its been a week and 3 days already and i still have it !! its light right now but is it suppossed to be like this considering its weird the first time or is there something wrong with me ??
xoo ♥ (link)
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It will take a couple years for your period to "normalize". It's a light period? Not a problem. Just keep your iron intake up a little.
Only if it keeps going and you have pain/discomfort, or you FEEL like something's wrong is there probably a serious health issue. Just see the gyno when you normally would (as a budding woman), and you'll be fine.
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13//FEMALE
As you probably know their are many ways to self harm yourself other that cutting. Well since I don't like knifes I do other things. Such as bruising myself, banging my head against the wall, scratching myself until I bleed, picking scabs, and punching myself. Well I cannot stop. I am not in control of it its my emotions. I think I'm very ugly because I cannot get a boyfriend.
And alot of guys think I'm ugly, and I'm not fat I'm actually short and skinny. I just don't understand why guys don't like me ... so I have come to the fact that self- harm is better. It makes me feel better. I dont know why. I cant control it. Help? (link)
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There's two sides to handling this. There's the preventative strategy. Trying to sort our your emotions and recognizing where they come from, what different things make you feel. Many become self-destruction when they feel they have nothing else. It's a lack of self-love, self-respect, ... self.. you name it.
But that's a lot to ask. You're smart enough to recognize that this is a problem. But as I've said to myself so often, "Why can't I just fix it and be done with it?" These things take time. Therapy can help, if you want it to. It's a delusion of self-perception. Some people don't see themselves in the mirror, some see the negative extreme, some see the positive.
But the other side of the coin is what happens when that urge hits, when you notice yourself being self-destructive. Think of some things you like to do to make yourself feel good. "Healthy coping techniques." It's a dry phrase, but that's what it is. Watch a movie you like, see friends you like. Anything that makes you feel good. And when you avoid being self-destructive, don't feel bad that it happened, feel PROUD that you made progress.
Many people need help. Good luck to you.
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I hurt my back two days ago, not by any sudden movement. I was just sitting there, and my spine flipped out. Yes, it hurt very baddly. Question is, how long should I wait until I begin weight lifting again? The weights are not much; no more than 10 pounds. Heck, less than 5 pounds, to be honest. It doesn't really hurt anymore, but I think I can tell that it's not back to normal. Should I still give it a few days, or would some stretching assist in the healing process? (link)
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We are not doctors.
But, what's the common sense thing? Wait until you're back to "normal". Do some back hyperextentions, to see how a range of motion feels. If it's a random spasm, I'd wait a minimum of five days. If it's something more, I'd wait a week. Then spend a week priming my back, making sure it's okay. Then go back to weightlifting.
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