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k so last year i was really obsessed with pink and i re-decorated my room so that it is all pink and like green (way more pink though) i really like the colors orange and yellow but my parents said that I can't paint my walls another color for at least 3 years! also i probably shouldn't get a different bed spread because for 3 years in a row i have gotten a new bed spread so i think it might be getting a little ridiculous! if you have any ideas of places to get good decorating stuff that is orange or yellow please tell me (and please be specific cause i rate really well!) thank you so much

wellsince people often get tired of colors quickly esp. teens you should try doing something fun and cheap to get ur decor. paint a vase and get fresh flowers, go take some photos in black and white , and for some color in them you can put them onto your comp. and put some color in, basically dont spend to much since it will get boring after a while, try setting a spending limit, seeing what ur friends dont want anymore, and making stuff

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Ok, this is kind of a long story. However I am having extreme issues with it. I am 16 and a very curious teenage girl.
I have a boyfriend for the first time in a while, and hes a sweetheart. However, I have two other guys that I think about on a regular basis. One of them I have been sleeping with on a regular basis since the end of october or beginning of november. The other guy I constantly am flirting with and have been mutually wanting to hook up or sleep together. I feel horrible about thinking about this and guilty about it. But what do I do?
The guy that I have been 'with' since late october, we have established a good connection however no relationship,labels, or any form of ties keeping us 'together'. However I think I have real, raw feelings for him.
if you could help me out it would be very appreciative. Thanks so much to whoever helps me out.
-Rachael

well im gonna give you the basics you prob. expected to hear... your to young to be sleeping with someone at 16, blah blah blah ... stop cheating on anyone, blah blah blah ... switch shoes, blah blah blah ... and its ok to be thinking about other guys, even having a little crush on them while ur dating, mabey ur guy isnt the right one for you though, you need to think about it more, blah blah blah .. but no i really mean all that( Blah Blah Blah )

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ok heres the issue-
theres this guy at my school(lets call him josh) and me and josh always hang out at school. about the second day after we started hanging out, josh started to flirt with me. ALOT. the problem is hes a senior, and i think he has a girlfriend, but she doenst go to our school. should i flirt back???
thanks

i would say that you first of all need to find out if he has a girlfriend or not, and its ok to flirt a little if he does but dont go far with it, he does has a girlfriend remember

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do you think it is weird that a 17 year old is going out with a 13 year old, even if they love eachother more than anything in the world?

i dont think its wierd. and i dont think that other people have the right to say that you cant love someone just because your young, you dont have to be 25 or up to be in love, not at all, but do think that both of you are young and you prob. wont stay together, 4 years isnt that far apart, but what about when the one goes to college and the other is just a young high schooler and when you are young you prob. do want to be dating a little closer to your age because of the things like school and all the other stuff thats gonna be happening in your life soon

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My boyfriend is in rehab and could be there for up to six months, most likely four months and three weeks. I hang out with his friends and write him letters every day (it's been a little over a week) to help miss him less. My question is, is there anything else I can do to miss him less? What are the chances of me cheating on him? (We were going out for one month when he left he's 17 I'm 14) Has anyone been through this same situation? Please help I'll rate.

you shouldnt be counting on a guy three years older than you who will be gone for 5-6 months to be just as devoted to you in that time.you need to think about finding someone closer to your age and who you will be able to be with,dont just cheat on him though, make sure he knows that you care and are just worried about your seperation in this time and that you dont think its really gonna work.

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i'm 13,female, my boyfriend is 15 and I don't know what to get him for valentines day and he says it's up to me on were we go that day. I want to no on what i could get him and were do you think would be the best places/place to go.

its valentines day, and depending on your taste on the matter then youll have lots of diffrent ideas, if you like the more traditional vday romantic dinner flowers candy proposal(not yet though) idea then go someplace nice and make reservations asap (no duh!) but if you think that all of that is kinda lame and corny then do something a little less traditional and have fun, a game of mini golf, movie night, and for a mix between the two you can try a picnic in the park(depending on where you live) or you can make him dinner

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I am a 17/m and i have problems talking to girls. There i admited it. Now i need help. Please give me some advice.
P.S. I will rate good for HELPFUL advice

your just shy, but girls like a guy who can be shy and sensitive and who can make them laugh and have a good time, be yourself and have fun, theyll respect that and youll feel better

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I havent worn makeup much but now that i am getting older i try to wear it. my everytime i wear some, someone says "your wearing makeup!!" and they sound so shocked, it makes me embaraced so i was wondering if i should just start this summer and when i get back to school it will be different.

you should start wearing make up now, you shouldnt be embarassed about what the other people say, they are just surprised since its something new about you, and you shouldnt let them stop you from doing something you like,just dont overdo it and if your still feeling uncomfortable then slow into it, wear one thing one day then the next add another,after a few days youll feel more comfortable with it and so will they

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i have this crush on a guy in my class and i have liked him the whole year. I dont know if he likes me back. Some times i get mixed signals like one time he called me and asked for homework for no reason b/c he really arleady knew that we didnt, but also i would love it if we were really good friends but i dont know how to ask him. Plz help if you can thanks

if you really like this guy and would be happy just as friends then ask him out, just as frineds,if he likes you back that way then youll get into dating
MY ADVICE: ask him as a friend

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Okay, this is really odd, and kinda random, but I had an idea the other day. When it's warm enough here to go outside and stay there coatless for hours on end without freezing, I want to grab my boyfriend and do a photoshoot type thing of him. I'm a good photographer, and I have such images and ideas in my head. The only catch is, he won't agree to it unless he can take shots of me...Of course, I'd say okay to this if he didn't want to take them of me nude. Lol.
Now, I hate to admit it, but I really do hate my body. I'm not very comfortable with it, and I don't want any memories of my body...lol. But I'm so utterly determined to get shots of him. I have ideas, and I want to stick with them. I want to see them happen. The thing with him, is he hates his body as much as I hate mine, and is convinced he's not photogenic.
What can I do to convince him to let me do the photoshoot? I just want ideas. I'd appreciate no "lap dance" or anything like that. I'm serious about this, and I'd like ideas as to how to get him to agree or (better yet) want to do this with me.

well you didnt give very much info. because I have a question. Are you trying to take them of him nude? If you are then you should realize that if you are not feeling comfortable with him taking pictures of you nude then you cant expect him to agree to you taking his pictures.he might not feel comfortable with it either. if they arent nude then hes just being stupid,you should think of something to make him agree to you taking his pictures like a day trip to wherever he wants like if you live somewhere near a beach or the mountains or someplace fun, your treat or just ask him what he wants in return for the pictures but dont let it be degrading you shouldnt be selling yourself to a boyfriends who wants your nude pictures for his clothed pictures
MY ADVICE: think fair about it,ask him what he wants in return, and dont let it be degrading(like that lap dance thing)

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i got my gf pregnant and we havint told anyone yet should we tell someone like our parents
or should we not. and since i got her pregnant should we like get marryed or something i mean i am not ready for that i am only 15

no crap dumbass you need to tell your parents...ok ill lighten up on you since if i were saying this to a girl it wouldnt be as harsh, 15 is really young though, you need to tell both your parents they may be angry but theyll have to live with it, and being married so young and just because ur having a child is stupid, you do need to stay together as long as possible though, fall in love, dont make any more stupid choices when your older youll be more expirienced with your child and your love for each other im going back to being a hardass now....dont be a dumbass dumbass wait a while and then marry her you already threw your lives away but dont do it again itll cause more problems in the end just wait till ur 18 or somtin yah dumbass
MY ADVICE: wait but dont be a dumbass

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Hi, I'm a 14 year old, girl Freshman. Recently this guy moved to my school. He is a Senior and he rides my bus on the way to school and from school. After a few weeks of being here, he started to talk to me. He got me to write him notes and I only like him as a friend. But quickly after that he began asking personal questions like, "Are you a virgin?", "What have you done with guys?", or "Do you want another guy to do that to you?" He doesn't want me to go out with any other guy. He wants me to go out with him. It is getting really annoying. He is the most perverted guy I have ever met and everytime I wear a skirt he is always peeking up it! I can't stand him! Now he wants me to sit in the back of the bus in the morning so he can do stuff or whatever. I said, "No!" of course and made up an excuse. Then yesterday he told me to skip 3rd and 6th period at school so he can 'do' me ith the bathroom. I am only a virgin and he is 18 I think! I don't know what to do. I tell my guyfriends and they say 'smack him', but I'm not violent.
Please help! This guy is so annoying. I don't like him anyway. He does drugs, smokes, and drinks. He is not my type and he has sex with all these girls! I don't want to have sex until I am WAY older! What should I do? Will this turn into something bad later? Thanks for the help!

SEXUAL HERASSMENT! can you say PERVERT! you neeeeeeeed to tell a teacher or something.this guy is no good and wont leave you alone,he needs to come to reality,someone also need to know that he is doing drugs and smoking drinking. cause he could be having some serious issuse from that and one day he isnt going to take no for an answer from you if you dont tell a teacher or counserlor then this situation could get much worse MY ADVICE: SPILL

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okay ive babysat before before i moved to a new neighborhood and me new one has some little kids on it that i wouldnt mind to babysit so how should i let my neighbors no im avalible when they need me without being o like hi can i be your babysitter or yeah so any tips (and the kids i used to babysit were 2 boys ages of 4 and 6 and a little girl age 2-3 and the kids in my neighborhood are around that too)

does your new neighborhood have a newsletter or a website, you should send your name and info in to it so that you will be posted, also you can make sure that these people know you are good with kids mabey you can go out while their playing one day and talk to them a little play a game or teach them one the parents will feel more comfortable with you and youll be more likely to get a job

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There's this guy that I have a little crush on. He's nice and all and fairly good looking but the problem is he's about an inch and a half shorter than me. I stand quite a good chance with him but I keep worrying about the height thing because I used to go out with someone shorter than me and it was annoying. Should I just forget the height issue and go out with him or leave it? It's not even a major crush, just a small one and I could get over it if I wanted to.

height dosent matter at all and it shouldnt im a fairly tall person and i have friends and have had boyfriends that are shorter than me, you shouldnt care about their height thats like saying you cant go out with them because their blonde or have glasses or something height dosent matter
MY ADVICE: forget about it the hieght thing isnt even an "issue" if you think it is then your being shallow, go out with the guy, you might like him more than you think

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Hey, its your advice columnist NicoleMarie. I had my first sonogram yesterday but its still 2 early to see if its a boy or girl. But now i'm excited. Can anyone give any ideas for baby names? But nothing too common. Thank you!

girls-
elyse
ama (ah ma)
emmie
emma
monique
lizel
haley
audrey

boys-
addison
ansley
benson
im not very good with the boys names
try going to babynameworld.com and http://www.babycenter.com/babyname/

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my kid hates me what do i do they are turnin rebelous help!

ok i just read some of the other peoples answers and i have to say this, your kid does not hate you, its a fact in life, but give your kid some space their growing up, theyll like to hang with their friends and do what they want, if you give them their freedom they will like you and respect you more, but set ground rule, you know cant stay out past whenever, i have to know where u r at all times, stuff like that, and talk to them about it and their friends make sure they know your just tryin to be cool with their wishes you just gotta be in tune with it
MY ADVICE: let them have their space but make sure they know your rules,they will break them sometimes, but hey, their getting older
trust me- im a teen myself

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my bedroom tends to gets really messy.There is not enough closet space for all my clothes & not enough storage space for all my belongings. my room isn't that big and i need some ideas on how i could organize my stuff. any ideas are really appreciated. thanks so much!!


~~~Chelsey~~~

i have the exact same problem- too little room to much stuff- but im fixing it what you need to do is go through everything and get rid of as much as you can part with, if you are like me you have trouble parting with stuff, but remember- you really wont miss it,and youll will be much happier with your room when its gone, do this about every six months to a year so you dont overload- then go to the local art/craft type of shop and buy some boxs- little ones about the size of shoeboxs some smaller and larger work too, you want to buy them cheap but stylish so that you can have them around your room and not just hidding in your room, store things in them like playing cards nail polish etc. also get larger under the bed boxes for off season clothes and blankets
MY ADVICE: get rid of as much as you can part with, organize with storage boxes and types of clothing

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My room is purple. I have a couple things hanging from the cieling an a really cute bed spread. I want some more ideas on how i can make it more decorative. Like what kind of stuff i need on my walls mostly. What colors i need, and stuff like that. i have carpet now, but i want hard wood floors. shoudl i get a light colored wood, or a dark? shoul di put a rug over it? a small on in the middle? or just leave it uncovered? I have no idea what to do i just want my room to be really cute. Please make any suggestions, i could use ANY help that you willing to give weather its a little thing or big.-->ME!

if you want wood floors and your room is a dark color go with a more medium toned wood, because a dark wood cant be to dark and grim and it may feel more cramped, a light tone with a dark room will be awkward, a medium tone will work best,
as for the wall artsie things like reprints of famouse artists like monet and van gogh always make a room look nice and more sophisticated, if that is not you style then go to a store like micheals or joanns and find some great prints,or you could paint or draw something your self and frame it, you dont have to be a great artist for it to look great and your room will be more personal,you should also try taking some pictures you have and drawing/painting them yourself, itll be fun for you and your friends to see,you can also put pictures on paper and paint around them.
My Advice:make it personal and fun, itll be better spending time in your room then

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I just bought an incense stick holder and a bunch of incense sticks, but I don't know how to burn them right. It cost 11.00 all together for the holder and the 14 sticks, and I am only 13 so that's a lot of wasted money for me. Does anyone know how to burn them, because when I did, it just smelled like smoke/charcoal instead of lavendar like it was supposed to be. I know you have to smolder them, not burn them, and I did. My mom is being really negative about it and its really annoying, so can someone please tell me how to do it?

P.S. Otherwise I just wasted a little over 2 weeks allowance, and I have to buy other stuff, too!

what you do is hold the match or lighter like your buring a candle after a few second blow it out put it in the holder befor lighting it
My ADVICE: dont burn your house down ;)

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okay... well me and a few of my friends are starting a band, and allison wants to play guitar but she has no friggin clue what shes doing!(iv'e been playing guitar for a few years and she just started like last week) and she was going to be a singer in the first place, but i have no clue how to tell her that she doesn't know how to play guitar, and NO i can't just go up to her and say "you can't play guitar" or "you suck" because i'm not the kind of person that can do something like that. help please!

well if she cant play guitar then she cant, why dont you go up to her and instead of putting her down tell her "well you were going to sing in the first place, so why dont you start of singing, while i teach you guitar, and once you learn enough you can play guitar too." itll be fun for the both of you and no one can get angry at anyone for trying to comprimise, it works out well
MY ADVICE: comprimise

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