Gender: Female
Location: Pennsylvania
Occupation: College Student
Age: 21
Member Since: October 28, 2004
Answers: 91
Last Update: July 21, 2005
Visitors: 4937
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I am always always depressed. I find myself constantly upset and moody. I have very little self confidence and right now I am in a rocky patch with my friends so I feel even worse. My boyfriend and everyone around me tells me that I am pretty and people like me but I don't feel that way. (link)
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People telling someone that they are attractive does not always help how a person feels about themselves. Take a good look at yourself in the mirror ask yourself why dont you like yourself. You should be able to come up with some really good reasons. ( Im not talking about i hate my hair or the color of my eyes or even your nose) I am talkin about real true things. Only then can you truely have confidence. You cant believe anyone around you untill you believe yourself.
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i am in love with a girl, she used to like me but she for some reason "stopped"...i found out recently that she snuck out with her friend and two guys and went somewhere and was making out with this guy for like 2 hours and i thought me and her had something, she said he was really nice and they just clicked and hes a sophomore at my school, although me and her "clicked" supposedly and i was nicer to her than any guy could ever imagine being to her...she told me not to be mad at her, hate her, or stop talking to her because that would be fucked up...please dont tell me to get over it and everything...ive tried and theres more to it but im sure youll get bored reading this long page...ill rate a 5 if you give me a helpful answer...WHAT DO I DO!?!?!?! (link)
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Sounds to me like shes the moron. The only advice that anyone could offer you without telling you to get over her is try taking her out to dinner just you and her. Treat her real good let her see the mistake that she is making. Allow her to compare. If she chooses the other guy over you at least you tryed. Her loss not yours.
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ok my hair has bin really really fruzzy latly and i dont no how too make it stop i go new shampoo that is supposot too help but it doesnt HELP?!?!
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infusium 23, it eliminates frizz dont get the shampoo get the leave in conditioner. shampoos never really help nor do the rinse conditioners. your only bet is to go with leave in conditioners.
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what's a good brand for a hair straightener, and what's a good product to put on before you straighten it (that thermal care stuff, not the shampoo kind... bah, i wish i knew the name!) (link)
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Infusium 23 is an excellent product to use. Then just brush and blow dry you will have no frizz and your hair will be silky smooth.
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SO yeah .. there's this guy. I'm not sure what grade he's in. But everytime I am near him ..walking past him or just standing there.. he always turns to look at me. Just stares at me.. dead in the eye..sometimes even smiles.
the thing is .. i know who this guy is. well i know who most of his friends are.
i told one of my friends about him .. "hey theres that 'creepy' guy that always stares at me.. thats him".. and shes like "ohh thats him? I know him!".. and she told me his name..."oh he thinks youre pertty!" and i said "really? how.. why what has he said?" and she said "um, we were in the bus and we saw you walking outside and he asked me 'hey do you think that girl is pretty?'..and I was like yeah." And she said that most likely he didnt just ask if he thought i was pretty because he didnt think i was! u know? Well thing is.. i always see him right.. and I WISH i had the courage to talk to him.
its so cute too.. this past thursday i was going to my 2nd period and there he was coming my direction..with his hair covering his face as he looked at me between the spaces of his hair.. and i moved to the side and i noticed he got nervous because he stopped to let me pass by. I smiled as i kept walking because i thought it was funny.
i would like to get to nkow him.. just talk to him.. man.. i need help...
thing is.. most of hsi friends KNOW ME (i dont know all theirnames).but they know who I am... and most of their CHICK friends dont like me because of this girl that started rumors about me because the guy that she liked.. liked me instead.(which i never went out with .. yet)..
i cant explain myself.. PLEASE HELP
[14 yr female gr10] (link)
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Knowing a person is not defined by knowing his friends. Grow up who cares what people think. Are you gonna spend your whole life wondering what people think. High school comes and goes youll never see any of those people ever again. Trust me. If you like him talk to him or some other girl will befor you and you will lose your chance and most likly youll start some "drama" over it. My advice is be confident ignore other people and talk to him.
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All right, I have a friend Lizzie, and we are really close. She has a group of friends that I always knew didn't like me that much, and that never bothered me. but all of a sudden she's telling me that she can only hang out with me on the bus on Thursdays, and doesn't talk to me anymore. I know I should give up on her but she's my best friend!! Please tell me what to do. (link)
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News Flash!!!! Hello the girl is not your best friend or even your friend. Maybe once upon a time she was. But things change and people change. She does not deserve a loyal friend such as yourself. Move on and let her know that you dont need her "friend ship".
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I haven't heard from my boyfriend at all since friday. He hasn't called or texted or anything. I've texted him but he hasn't texted back and I called him yesterday but he didn't pick up. I know that he's gone away for the weekend but he would always have his phone on him. I'm getting worried. (link)
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He either forgot his phone or he is taking a break from talkin to you.
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I've liked this one guy, Bob, for a while now. And he said he likes me and all, but he also likes a couple other girls. He told me this maybe a month or two ago, so I'm starting to think that he just likes being liked (because a lot of girls like him). And I'm starting to think that he doesnt really like me, even if he does act like it.
Anyway, I met this other guy, Bill, and I'm starting to really like him. and i heard that he wants to ask me out. but i still like Bob a little bit. even though im getting over him pretty fast.
should i go out with Bill even though I still kind of like Bob? or should i wait until I'm fully over Bob to go out with Bill?
thanks so much (link)
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How can you get over someone you have never dated? Dont go out with anyone untill you know yourself a little better. Dont wait for men they wait for you.
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I am 15 (almost 16) and I'm a female. There are some guys at school that like me. I know this because they have said it to me or to my best friend. One is a year older than me, and he kinda scares me. He doesn't know what flirting is. He kinda acts as though we are going out right now, but we're not and probably never will. He's always touching me and tries to get me away alone. What should i do about him?
Then there is this other guy. Lets say his name is Joe. Joe is really sweet and he respects me and my boundaries. I've liked him since last year and he just told me that he likes me as well. But, there are a few problems with that. First, I'm not allowed to date til I'm 16 (January), and then there is the guy that I described above. Its like he is trying to get Joe and I farther apart. The first guy is really starting to disturb and scare me. Joe and I like each other a TON, but then there is the other dude. What is your advice for this situation? What would you do to tell the other dude that you're just not interested in him like that? And what should Joe and I do? Thanks in advance.
Signed,
Confused and Weirded Out (link)
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The weirdo guy needs to leave you alone. If he does not understand or cant see that hes making you uncomfortable or that your not interested then he has some seriouse needy issues. All you need to do is tell him exactly where to go. As for Joe if you and joe are supposed to date then you will. Nothing will stop that not even mr weirdo guy.
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ok well latley i havn't been myself and i don't know how to fix it. i meen i pray and stuff and i am a strong christian . but i dunno it is wierd cause i don't even know who me is when people say your name you feel like you are somone when i hear it is like just my name nothin speacial just a word that was given to me. and it is wierd cause when i pray latley bad things seem to happen like in some way i get hurt emotiionally my friend hates me or somthing of such matter.
so here is the question how do i firgure out who the real me is again the one that everyone knew that i knew. the one who can think clearly
thnx
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You can not exspect prayer to change the person you are. If you are having problems with finding yourself then you need to soul search. Its obviously time for you to change emotionally in some way or you would not be having such problems. Good luck.
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i need to get advice on my six year relationship, iam very unhappy as i have just found out my partner is texting a girl he dumped me for two years ago,we split up for 3 months i which time he had another relationship, we got back together as i had two of his kids and was pregnant again he told me abort the baby but i dont belive in it so i kept her, he made all my pregnancy a misery and i found out he was texting and phoneing this oter girl, i was sterllised recently an now for the third time i have found out he has been phoneing and texting this other girl, he keeps telling me he loves me but how can i belive him i cant trust him at all, i have three kids he will want custody if we split up so iam trapped (link)
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Its very unlikly a man would get custody of children unless you are an unfit mother. Hes making you unhappy, considering that he wanted you to abort and you did not this shows the type of person you are compared to him. Dont worry about his threats he has no power over you. I would go seek some legal advice and make sure he does not know about it. Hug for you.
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I have had a boyfriend for 2 years on and off, 6 months straight and im starting to like a different guy, we hung out last night and he had his arm around me and stuff and i feel so bad that i did that but now i like both what should i do my boyfriend is the good guy doesnt drink or smoke but the other guy smokes weed and stuff, and my boyfriend is really mad at me right now he says i am a bitch to him but he has no idea about the other guy and the worst thing is they were once best friends, if me and my boyfriend are really broken up should i go 4 the other guy, or not because then he will never get back with me :'( so confused pealse help (link)
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Dont take offense, however your boyfriend sounds like a goody goody and this boy sounds like the wild and daring type of guy that girls are usually attracted to. Its perfectly normal what has happened even though I dont agree with it. You obviously allowed this to happen because you are missing something with the guy you are currently with. If I was you I would get rid of them both and move on to bigger and better things.
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Ok, I have 2 years to lose 100 pounds or so! I need help though lol. What is the best diet south beach,atkins, ect. Like what should I do. And do you think it would take 2 years or shorter? And what should i NOT eat. Thanks if you can help me! (link)
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I dont agree with the whole atkins thing or any of those fab diets. I used to be heavy myself and now im quite skinny. I found that by keeping by stomach somewhat full helped in sheding the pounds. Ex. I would eat a light breakfast eat a pack of crackers an hour befor lunch eat a small lunch have another snack an hour befor dinner then eat a full course meal at dinner then go for a walk afterwards. It worked wonders for me. You never want to overstuff yourself.
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hey i just wanted to say thank you sooo very very much for ur advice. i rated u a 5. and wut u told me really helped. and wut u said is soo true. when u lead urself to believe sumthin.. true or not.. and sum1 pokes fun at that sumthing.. u then decide that it probably is true. but what u said, has helped. and im not concerned about my weight ne more. im just me, i just want to say thank you again. u were of a LOT of help, and it was really sweet. L0v3 *brittany* (link)
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Your very welcome. I appreciate the 5.
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My daughter is almost 5 and she has a hard time entertaining herself so I can get dressed for the day or do work around the house. She has a lot of toys but rarely plays with most of them and wants to either watch t.v. or follow us around. It drives me crazy and my husband too, because she comes in our room when we tell her not to. I've threatened to throw out her toys, but it does no good. When we get angry she just laughs at us. We tried closing her up in her room but she just pounds on the door and screams that she is scared. We are expecting another child and we are afraid her behaivior is going to just get worse when the baby comes. She does not behave like this for other family that watches her. Anyone got any advice? Preferably parents who can relate to this situation and have some solutions please. (link)
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You need to ask yourself the question. Do you really spend enough time with your daughter? Or is there time set aside for your husband your daughter and yourself truely? Your child obviously wants attention for a reason. It has nothing to do with being clingy. If you are cleaning the house incorporate the child into this task let her help you clean. She will either help you or she will leave because she is bored. As for her comming into your room. She does not give other family members problems because she does not desire attention from them she desires attention from you.
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I am only 15 and I already have a kid and pretty much my life is ruined.I hate bein a mom at 15 it really sucks.The father of my child is wonderful though.He helps and supports my child as much as he can although both of our lives are pretty much over.I can't stand gettin up every 2 hours to feed her.I really regret getting in bed with the father.It was the stupidest thing ive ever done.I now hate my life.I have a beautiful baby but a messed up life.I ruined my life to fast.I should have waited till I was older and well now I just don't know what to do.I love my baby very much but im just not so sure that i can handle raising a child along with going to school and working to pay for the expences of my child....Plz someone help me.I really need to know what to do.I don't wanna give it to an adoption center but that might be my only choice.I really need some advice so someone plz help.
Desperate for my life back and confused!! (link)
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You made a choice to have sex and now you are paying the price. I dont think adoption is even an option anymore because you would have to get the fathers concent as well. What does your parents things about this? and what does his parents think about this? Talk about it not only with yourself but everyone that is involved with this childs life. Its sad that your life is over however dont let the child pay for your mistake. You have a duty to this child to give it the best possible life by considering everything and everyone.
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When I was 17, everything was going great in my life. I had a job, a car, a boyfriend, and family that loved me. But my great life soon turned into a nightmare-I got a phone call, my mom and dad were in the hospital. They were driving when a car had hit them, and they died 3 days later. I'm 20 now, and I take care of my 13 year old sister and 9 year old brother. I have so much stress being a 20 year old parent. Sometimes I just break down and want to die. Of course, that's not an option. I need help, how can I keep up with working full time and taking care of my two siblings. I dont have family that could help me, I'm all on my own! Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. (link)
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You need a huge hug and a pat on the back. Not many people would do what you have done. There are organizations out there that can help you. Talk to a local councelor specifically a family councelor. They will help you with money food housing and such things. You might even be elegable for chip wic all of these government programs that are to be used by people like yourself. I hope that ive helped you.
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I am on the orthro evra patch and i think im pregnant because my stomach has been hurting lately and i pee alot. im not sure this is what it really is it may be symptoms of the patch or it may be because i dont drink water. Can you help me? (link)
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Sounds to me like an infection bladder or urinary track.
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Well my boyfriend is acting really strange...well he always act like he doesnt want to do anything with me i always have to make the plans...he doesnt call me....he doesnt ask to meet me places accept for at times that is really not a good time...and i call him all the and he doesnt pick up unless i send a text message saying PICK UP YOUR PHONE...and i think that is very unacceptable i dont want to take up tooo muck of your time but please help HELP (link)
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Look dumb the little boy. If you have to be his mom then hes not worth it. And of course this is unacceptable. He is supposed to be chasing you not you chasing him.
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17-F I've hung out with this boy Chris twice this week and we like each other but whenever he trys to kiss me I pull away. I have kissed him but I dunno I don't have any desire to do it again. This past summer I was used by this other kid. Since then I haven't wanted to do anything with anyone. What do you think is the reason I don't feel comfortable with Chris?? I do really like him and I think he's getting frustrated with it. (link)
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Tell him the truth and if he cant take it then he does not deserve you. Kissing can be just as personal as sex or any other form of affection. Time is in your hands not his. Be strong and just exsplain why you feel the way you do and that it has nothing to do with him.
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