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About Me: Hello & welcome to my advice column! My name is Jennifer and I'm 19 years old. I'm married to my high school sweetheart, Eric, as of 06.09.07! ♥ He is in the United States Navy, and right now we are stationed in Virginia Beach. Eric is my best friend, and my hero..I love my sailor! I also love helping people and giving advice on all kinds of things- I'm a very good listener. I'm in my sophomore year of college, majoring in psychology, and will eventually be going to med school to be a psychiatrist. Feel free to leave anything in my inbox. I'm always looking to meet new people and give advice!!

My interests: my fiance, music, eating, sleeping, gymnastics, dancing, partying, going to the beach, shopping, taking pictures, & there is so much more to me than all this! ;)

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Well, my brother told me that if you put up blue christmas lights it meant that you were Jewish. So does anyone know if this is true or is my brother smoking something? Thanks!!

xo_sherry_ox
I rate 5's!

Hey Sherry! I do know some jewish people who decorate their houses in blue, but I also know people who are not jewish that also do so. And it is definately possible your brother is smoking something. ;)
-Jennifer

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Hey girl!!! umm so how come i dont have a boyfriend? it kinda sucks....i hate waiting, i see all these couples together and I WANT THAT. You and Erik are too cute! damn you haha

love ya, Bethany!

Haha! Bethany I love you. =) And honestly- I don't know why you don't have a boyfriend because you are so fun and cute. =P Waiting does suck though, but remember that good things come with time. Mr. Right is definately out there and I know you're going to find him because you TOTALLY deserve it! I love you hun and we're going for ice cream soon! CALL ME. =)
-Jennifer

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Hey Jennifer, i have kind of a problem here. i like this girl in my 5th hour class but i dont no if she likes me at all and i am too affraid to confront her about it. what should i do?

Hm. Well you definately need to talk to her and let her know you like her! If you are too scared to confront her in person- ask her for her screen name and hint at it over the internet. Make sure you let her know though because you never know.. she may feel the same way! =)
-Jennifer

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Hey, it's Siren here...my best bud and I have known each other for 13 years. We're both seniors in high school. All of a sudden, this year, I feel like we just...split. I can't talk to her about the important things in my life the way I can talk to my other friends. Like, a couple of my friends from band and I - well, I guess - bonded one night and I feel like I can talk to them more than I can talk to her, and I've only known them for 2 years. I can talk to them about things like french kissing with pop rocks (just an example, lol) and if I tried to talk to her about it, she'd just go "oh...um, okay," and change the subject or something. She's always been a little less mature than me, I suppose, even if she is a year older than me. But it's never bothered me until now. I want to be able to talk to her about these kinds of things, but I can't, and it's bothering me. Because of it, we're pretty much splitting. It really sucks because we used to be like sisters. She used to know all my secrets. Now only one person does, and it's not her. I wish it was, though. I mean, I miss being able to talk to her about anything. Help if you can?
-Siren =(

I'm sorry that you have to go through this situation. I know how you feel though. Over time people change and there really isn't anything you can do about it. You are a senior now and you are going to be going down different paths. If you are really upset about splitting- talk to her and tell her that you till want to be good friends, and that you don't want to drift apart. I really hope things work out for you!
-Jennifer

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me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month now, But we've dated before for three months, then we broke up. but now we're back together. anyways now he acts different, before he would always be holding my hands or holding me arount the waist,but now he wont even touch me. I've confronted him about it, but he hasnt changed.what do i do? do i confront him again? Please help!! thanx!

Talk to him once more time and make sure he knows how you are feeling. If things still don't change and you aren't happy, then maybe you two just weren't meant to be. Find someone who will treat you like you want to be treated and tell the guy you are with now that things just aren't going to work out. Hope I helped you, please rate me!
-Jennifer

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i've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. he comes over almost every day, considering he lives in the neighborhood next to me. every time he comes over, he thinks we always have to do stuff sexually. and the last time i saw him, i asked him if everything has to be about sex and he said yes. should i dump him, talk to him, not see him as much? help! thank u! i rate high =)

In a healthy relationship- everything is NOT about sex. You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel about him always wanting everything to be about sex. If he doesn't respect you and stop always trying to get you to have sex with him- then hunnie it means he's only in this "relationship" for one thing- and it's not for love. Definately break up with him if he won't respect you and your feelings. I hope I helped you!
-Jennifer

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why cnt i stop mastubating?? Everytime i finish an cum i always feel bad about myself but during its great! what rong wid me?

Honestly- there is nothing wrong with you. It's perfectly normal for girls especially to feel gulity about it. Just so you know though- there is nothing wrong with what you are doing and no reason to feel gulity. It's a prefectly normal way to pleasure yourself without having sex and putting yourself at risk of pregnancy and/or std's. Hope I helped!
-Jennifer

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hey, any tips on how to make my man cum really quickly?

Talk to him and ask him what kind of things he likes. While you are doing stuff with him- ask him what feels best, and how you can make it better for him. Communication really is the key to good sexual advances. ;)
-Jennifer

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I have a feeling that my two bestfriends talk about me behind my back. Should I approach them or waht? I'm very confuzed about what i should do.

Definately approach them and let them know how you are feeling. They need to know that if they are talking bad about you that you know about it, and they need to stop! I hope everything works out for you- and I hope your friends wise up. =)

-Jennifer

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My mother bought me a beta fish (a Japanese fighting fish) and I have no idea how to take care of it. I got a book on how to take care of it, but you have to decode it (meaning I don't understand a word of it) The local veterenarians don't really know how to take care of these fish because not alot of their clients have fighting fishes. Does anyone on Advicenators know ANYTHING about these fishes? Do you know any sites where I can find information?

I used to have a Beta fish. It's name was wing wong. Then it died cuz I put it in a tank with my dwarf frog. Whatever you do, don't put it in a tank with a frog. If you do- plan on giving it a chinese funeral. =(
-Jennifer

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I have always known that my aunt has had a problem with drinking. But i only recently found out from my cousin that she hits her and bruises her occasionally. I keep telling my cousin to go live with her dad, but shes afraid to leave. I'm not sure what to do about my aunt becuase i promised my cousin i wouldnt say anything, but i am scared that she will continue to hurt my cousin. Thanks Jenn

Yikes. Well, this is a very serious issue you are dealing with here. You have two choices you can make. You can not say anything, and let the abuse continue. Your cousin will continur to get hurt, and things won't get better- however your cousin won't be upset that you told her secret. The other thing you can do, is to tell someone who can do something about it. Call social services or tell someone who can take serious action on the problem. Your cousin might be mad at you for a while- but in the long run it could be better off for her. The abuse will hopefully stop, and your cousin will stop feeling so much pain. Tell your cousin she needs to get out of there, immediately! This aunt is doing something horribly wrong, and she needs to be stopped. Not only is she hurting herself with alcohol abuse- but she is hurting her own niece! Things are only going to get worse and she can't keep herself in that position. It's going to really screw her up if she stays there and keeps taking in all that abuse. If I were you- I would definately tell someone and get her some help. It would kind of be like sacraficing a friendship to save someone from alot of pain and bad surroundings. Don't let any of this slide- this aunt needs to stop! I hope I helped you, and if you need any more advice I'm definately willing to answer any questions and help you to the best of my ability. Good luck and make the right decision!
-Jennifer

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I have a question that I've been wondering about. Okay, so, can you give a guy a promise ring? Friends say that you're not supposed to give a boy any kind of jeweraly only when you get married, is that true?

Psh! Whoever told you that you can't give boys jewerly?! It's absoultely fine! I gave my boyfriend a promise ring a few months ago. It's a nice thing to give boys if you are willing to spend the money, and my boyfriend loves his ring. How would you just give jewerly when you are married?! What about engagement rings? Tell your friends that they're very wrong. Hope I answered your questions!
-Jennifer

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In your opinion, what is the best kind of condoms to use? Which have worked the best for you? Thanks!

Trojan are a good brand. Those, and LifeStyles are both pretty dependable, or so I've heard. =)
-Jennifer

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Is it okay to have sex on your period?

Well, yeah. It's okay to have sex on your period, but I wouldn't recommend it. That would probably be very messy and gross.
-Jennifer

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im 14/female. i used to have this really good friend. we could talk about anything. he was like my big brother. well lately (in the past few months) we've grown apart so much. we can't talk to each other about anything and i get mad at him over little things. i don't know why our relationship is changing so much. i miss how things used to be. any ideas why things are happening like this? any advice on what i should do?

It's normal for people to change and grow apart over time. That's why they say to always keep the pictures, because they never change. Only the people in them do. Talk to this person and tell them you're upset about the way things are changing. Let them know how it's making you feel, and hopefully they will be cool about it and try and make things work out. I hope everything works out for you! Good luck hun.
-Jennifer

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we just started going out and i have a feeling that he has girls that he flirts with and makes out with and stuff. I know he likes me and i like him so much but i'm affraid he just wants to have sex with me. I cant talk to him about because he gets all touchy.What should i do?

If you don't feel there's any trust in the relationship and that he's not being true, DUMP HIM. It will never work if you don't have trust. If you are really serious about having a relationship with him- talk to him and tell him how he's making you feel! If he gets all touchy like you say he will- forget him. He's a stupid boy who just wants to get some if he can't even have a sensible conversation without getting all up on you. Do the right thing before you get hurt or in trouble!
-Jennifer

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I'm 14 and a female. My ex boyfriend is 16. He broke up with me a little over a month now. We dated for 6 months. He broke up with me because he said he wanted to concertrate on school and he didn't want a girlfriend. I think it was just an excuse. When we were dating he told me he loved me and I was the best thing that ever happened to him. I believed him and told him I loved him back because I truely meant it. After we broke up we still talked and he told me that he wanted to get back with me after he brought his grades up. He ignored me for a week and I was upset. We started to say hey and gave hugs whenever we saw each other and I told him to call but he never did. The next day at school I found out that he made out with another girl(this was 2 weeks after we were broken up). I try to get over him and move on but it's hard because I still have alot of feelings for him and I still love him. I wouldn't mind getting back with him even though what he did was totally wrong. I don't want to chase after him because if he wanted me he would come after me...right? I don't know what to do because I still love him and I dont know how he is feeling right now. His friend is supossed to see how he is feeling about me. I don't know what to do though. Can you help? Thanks!

This probably isn't what you want to hear- but you definately need to get over him. It's wrong of him to keep you waiting while he goes off and does stuff with other girls. There's so many guys out there who would be better for you and could make you feel special and loved. I know it's hard now, but things will look up. Once you find the right guy you will for sure know, and you will feel so much happier! Don't chase after this guy because he might just try and keep you on the side incase things go wrong with another girl, and you definately dont wana be in that position. Get rid of him and move on to a real man who will treat you like you deserve! Good luck!!
-Jennifer

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Ok.. so it goes like this. I like this guy but my best frin likes him & see the guy is new & he hasnt known me all my life like the other dudes at school and lets say that I've made "changes" over the years (physically & personality wise). I have many more frinz than I did when I was like.. lil but enough about that. Ok.. this guy. Anyways.. see I like him alot & he has became 1 of my best frinz since school started and I've only known him 4 like 4 months but I like him lots & I kinda already know that he MIGHT sorta like me but I dont wanna say anything to him cuz I dont want our frinship 2 change! HELP!!

If you feel like there might be that "more than friends feeling" between the two of you- then definately go for it. If you two are meant to be, it can only make the relationship stronger! It might bring you closer together too. Talk to him and see if he feels the same thing as you do. But.. I think I understood that your best friend likes him too? Talk to her before you make any moves on the boy. Tell her how you feel about him and make sure she isn't really into him either. The last thing you wana do is ruin the friendship between you two. Whatever you choose to do; I hope everything works out for the best and good luck! Please rate me! =)
-Jennifer

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hey.. about 3 months ago i got out of a 2 yr relationship.. i thought that i would never be in love again or it would be hard to find a guy. Ive been eying this guy at my church for a while and about 2 weeks ago i went up to him and said hi and introduced myself to him. I come to find out that in middle school he useto be my friend. it was one of those hi, bye things. But till this day i dont remember. Today i saw him at church and i said hi and i gave him my number to go out this weekend. He is the cutest thing ever. The thing is im not sure if he has a girlfriend and hes a senior this yr and hes leaving to orlando this summer. but i dont know what else to talk to him about and im not a shy person anymore, i could pretty much go up to a guy i like and talk to him. and i did that with this guy but its been so long since ive done this and i dont know what to do around him.. any advice?.. tanx

Wait and see if he calls you. If he does- he's probably interested! Strike up a conversation about how you're single- and try and figure out if he is. Like you said- you're not a shy person so this shouldn't be a problem for you. If he doesn't call you, then maybe somehow try getting his screen name and talk to him online or whatever? He could be really shy about calling you too! Good luck hun and if you need anything else- don't be shy to leave something in my inbox! I hope I helped some-what!
-Jennifer

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ok well ive been going out with this guy for a while..(im 15 and hes 17). weve talked about sex and we both really want to do it. any advice on how to prepare or anything else? thank you!

Awh thats cute! Just make sure you're both ready, because that's what matters..and use protection! Good luck hun!
-Jennifer

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