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why is this happening?
im 14/female. i used to have this really good friend. we could talk about anything. he was like my big brother. well lately (in the past few months) we've grown apart so much. we can't talk to each other about anything and i get mad at him over little things. i don't know why our relationship is changing so much. i miss how things used to be. any ideas why things are happening like this? any advice on what i should do?
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well, sometimes you grow out of things. like my friend who used to be my best friend. we were so close but when i moved and made new friends ( five times), i just didn't feel comfotable around her. it's normal. happens to everyone. so don't worry...
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The interesting thing about what you wrote is that you said that you also get mad at him over little things. To me that sounds as though there is some serious tension between the two of you (I assume you dont have that reaction to your other friends). Are you perhaps seeing each other in a different light for the first time, perhaps not just as friends but as a man and a woman? Or is it simply frustration because you no longer have the same interests or something?
I do agree with what others wrote about people growing apart but I dont think you should let the friendhsip go without a fight. Do talk to him like others suggested but beware... guys in puberty are notoriously lousy at conversation and dont like (or know) how to share their feelings.
I think the first step is some soul searching on your part- try to understand why YOU are reacting differently to him. Understanding his actions might be easier afterwards.
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Yeah, I know. When girls and guys get older they want different things. It won't be as easy. Did you try talking to him? Maybe say, "Hey, we are growing apart. But I'd like to stay friends. Can we still hang out sometimes?" Something like that. But alaso remember this guy will have different problems he may not be able to talk to you, a girl, about. And you may not want to tell him some of your girl troubles. Focus on your girl buddies. Hang out with them too.
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Does he go to a diferent school. Maybe he wanted to hang out with guys more. Keep in touch with himi as much as u can. Dont let him slip to far away. He could be really busy, this one is a mystery!!haha
Let me know how it goes please!!
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I wish I knew the answer to that. It just seems like the excitement spills out of every exciting relationship after some time. My guess would be look into ideas to research to help rekindle a friendship flame. I know that's not much help, but the truth is this happens for like the rest of our lives with most non-relative relationships. It sucks. Hope things get back to normal!
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People change and grow apart. That's how life is. Your might not ever have a relationship like you used to, but try to maintain some kind of relationship. If not a strong friendship, atleast be able to talk to eachother. Talk to him about how you are feeling, maybe that conversation could explain some things. Try to think about why you get mad at him for little things. If you realize your doing that, it's a step in the right direction. Sometimes relationships are just not able to be fixed and you have to come to terms with that.
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i think that he may have been starting to like you, and you like him. cuz you get mad about little things that is what always happens to meh and guys i like.. i get soo pissed off..but then they just say sorry and hug meh. try talking to him. and see if big brother can come back . lol
xox manda hope i helped
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well maybe you both are going through puberty lol.. and well maybe your not.. I think you just need to chat with him one on one cause I had the same problem ... even though now it's not fixed... but I moved on and made better friends.. now we just say hi in the halls..
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It's normal for people to change and grow apart over time. That's why they say to always keep the pictures, because they never change. Only the people in them do. Talk to this person and tell them you're upset about the way things are changing. Let them know how it's making you feel, and hopefully they will be cool about it and try and make things work out. I hope everything works out for you! Good luck hun.
-Jennifer
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