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19/f I'm looking for suggestions and/or tips on how to lose weight. I'm 5'10 and the 230lbs (the last time I was weighed at the doctors which was months ago) I would really like to lose weight in my stomach area, my thighs, and my arms. I eat fruit everyday and water and pineapple juice is really all I drink. I attempted to start the Special K diet, but I've kind of given up on that. I also consume sweets all the time, its like a constant need, so any tips on how to curb my appetite would also be helpful. And exercises that I could do at home, I do go walking on the trail with my friend 2-4 times a week for about an hour. Thanks all suggestions and comments will be helpful
Don't start any special diets. Start to eat as you would if you were the weight you'd like to be, i.e. lots of vegetables (green leafy ones, not potatoes!), lean proteins (chicken, fish, turkey etc), good fats (avocado, nuts, olive oil) and complex carbs (beans, parsnips, carrots, quinoa, buckwheat etc). The more you eat to keep your blood sugar stable, the less likely you are to crave sweets all the time. Try to eat protein + fat in the morning to set you up for the day and curb those cravings.
Don't eat so much fruit - stick to 1-2 pieces of fruit a day max, and aim to eat darker skinned fruits like berries rather than things like apples or bananas. Aim to eliminate calories from your fluid intake, i.e. no more pineapple juice! Drink water and green tea or coffee instead.
You can exercise if you like but make sure it is something you enjoy so that you keep doing it. Your weight is based much more on your diet than your exercise. Walking with your friend sounds great. Try to keep your general activity up if you don't have a gym habit or a regular sport. That means "why drive when I can walk? Why take the elevator when I can use the stairs?" and all that other common sense stuff that will keep you moving throughout the day.
Remember that you can't spot-reduce fat, but losing fat overall will reduce the fat in your problem areas also. If you want to keep your muscle you can look into starting a weights program, but you will probably have to join a gym for this (unless you have the right equipment at home).
Hope this helps.
i proposed a girl indicating 1 4 3. next day she also wrote same. and also thrown piece of paper in
it was written as 1 4 3 . what does it mean?
It means "I love you", where the 1, 4 and 3 represent the number of characters in each word.
Me and my guy friend have lockout (no class) twice. each class is 1 hour and 8 minutes long, so that is about 2 hours and 20 we minutes we have together everyday.. does anyone have any suggestions on things to do? I don't want it to get boring really fast. We can't leave school, and we will work on homework if we have any, but we still have a lot of free time and i dont know what to do during it. any suggestions will help (:
We're 17.
Bring a pack of cards and play poker, or any other card game. Or get a set of Liar dice and learn to play http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liar%27s_dice, or use them to play Yahtzee http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yahtzee
Can I lose 20-25 pounds in less than 10 weeks if I eat healthy, 1200 calories and work out 1 hour everyday. I'm 5'5" and 145 pounds
20-25 pounds in less than 10 weeks is a big ask. To lose weight in a healthy sustainable way, without putting yourself in danger of overdoing it in the gym or developing eating disorders, you should aim to lose 1lb per week. Any more than that is asking for trouble.
Weight training will give you more bang for your buck in terms of fat loss and metabolism, so focus on that rather than endless cardio sessions.
As for calories, figure out what your daily requirement is according to the Harris Benedict equation http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harris-Benedict_equation, and aim to eat 500 calories less than that per day. Take measurements before you start, then after a week measure again and reassess your caloric needs, adjusting up or down as necessary. Don't forget to include a carb refeed once a week to keep your metabolism ticking over.
I'm 22 M and 250lbs. My skinniest weight (while I was working out) was 198lbs in June 2010. I feel, look and am fat. Problem is I have little to no idea what I was doing when I lost all that weight. What I'm looking for is a workout regime that I can stick with, one that works and works well. People with a first hand account on these regimes will be given highest priority but all advice will be looked at and rated as to how helpful it is.
Thanks everyone,
Gateway01
There is literally tons of information out there on this subject, but I will summarise:
1. Your fat loss will come down to your diet much more than your workout regime. Use the Harris Benedict Equation http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harris-Benedict_equation to figure out your daily caloric requirements, and then aim to eat under that by 250-500 calories per day. Take measurements regularly so you know whether to adjust your calories up or down.
Some pointers for dieting:
- Eat lots of vegetables
- Keep your good fats (nuts, avocado, olive oil etc), eating 1 or 2 portions per day
- Eat plenty of lean proteins: chicken, turkey, fish etc
- Avoid processed carbs and sugar
- Don't drink alcohol, soda or fruit juice - all your fluids should be very low or no calories
2. Endless cardio is a false economy, it will only make you hungry and retain fat on your stomach and thighs. Rather look into doing weights 3-4 times per week and incorporate high intensity (interval)/tabata-style training for 15 mins at the end of your weights sessions. Both of these will help you to build muscle and increase the "afterburn" effect, meaning you have a higher metabolic rate and will burn fat faster. As for particular workouts, there are plenty online such as Stronglifts 5x5. It may be an idea to speak to a personal trainer who can help you out with form and give you programs to follow.
3. Get lots of rest
4. Drink lots of water
At the end of the day, the best workout is one you will stick to, so if you are not someone who enjoys going to gym, then start walking, play basketball, or even start a dance class with your fiance. Find something you like to do, and do it! Exercise may feel difficult at first but if you push through the first few tough sessions, you will love it!
Be realistic about your goals and don't overdo it. Join a forum online where you can get advice and support from likeminded people. I would advise a training forum over a dieting forum.
Use online resources to help you with your diet, like http://www.myfitnesspal.com/ or http://www.fitday.com/ to keep track of your calories and macronutrients.
Keep your goals in mind, maybe stick up pictures of your ideal body in your room to keep you motivated. Start a countdown calendar where you mark off days until your wedding. Take "Before" photos so you can see how far you have come. No really, do this! You will appreciate these photos when you are close to your goal.
Don't get discouraged if you have an off day. Make sure whatever your motivator is, it is big enough to get you through the tough times. Good luck!
If you want to know my background: I lost 55lbs in 2010 and have now started working on body recomposition (building muscle while losing fat). I have had personal trainers advise me about diet and exercise weekly since January 2010.
There is a virtual world I found that didnt work when I was trying to sign up and I want to try again but I can't remember the name and cant find the website anywhere! I know it has the word paper in the name and you can make families on it. The colors on the website were pretty bright and colorful. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Thanks.
Papermint? http://www.papermint.com/
Hi I'm 21/f looking to go on a no/low carb diet for a week or so. Nearly all I eat is carbs. Lots of pasta and bread and sugars. Not much fruit and veg. I'm not very good at cooking and also I am a vegetarian but I don't like lentils or
Tofu etc. I will not eat any meat or fish but I will eat eggs, milk etc. I don't know where to start. I have no idea what to eat to go on this diet and google isn't helping. Can anyone give me any ideas?
Thanks so much
Fill up on vegetables, make yourself big salads and drizzle them with olive oil and balsamic vinegar. No cooking involved - all you need to do is chop! You will need to get protein from somewhere, I would suggest beans which can also be added to your salad, but if that is too many carbs for you then try all cheeses. Cottage cheese could also easily be stirred into a salad.
You can make yourself a "no bread sandwich" which would be all your usual sandwich ingredients, but instead of bread you put it between cabbage leaves. You could make a stirfry easily, which is also just chopping everything up and then frying it quickly in a wok or a pot. Or, after frying add some stock and simmer for 20 mins then blend with a stick blender - voila, you now have soup/stew. Again you could add chickpeas or beans to this for protein and/or texture but it depends how strict you are being with carbs.
For sweet things, eat fruit on its own, or you could add it to plain yoghurt. You could also add cinnamon, vanilla essence, a tsp of hot chocolate - whatever takes your fancy - and blend into a thick smoothie.
For snacks on the go, try nuts, which are high in protein and fat and will keep you fuller for longer.
I don't tan, all I do is burn. I NEVER tan because my body just doesn't do it lol. So I was wondering if there was something I could do to help it besides spray tan or burn. Are there like herbs or something that could help? Also do guys like pale girls? Becuase ir seems like every guy I know doesn't like it...Thanks! :D
I also have pale skin and I used to think all that would ever happen was a) stay white or b) burn. But that was because the sun protection factor I was using was either way too low or way too high. I currently use SPF20 and that seems to be about right for my skin, I get a bit of colour and I don't burn.
You can also buy tan tablets from health shops (google "tan tablets"). I haven't tried them, but they may help you.
Or you could use a body lotion with a tint in it, like Johnson's Holiday Skin which will give you some colour without being too obvious.
Be careful with your skin in the sun. Us pale types are more prone to skin cancer than the rest and nothing will age you more than prolonged sun exposure. Don't put aesthetics over health. A guy who can't see beyond your tan is not a guy worth dating anyway.
19/f; my best friend is 18/f.
We are in our first year of college, and we both work partime. We are in all the same classes together, which is how we became 'best friends'.
Well, one thing that really bugs me is we never talk about me. Aren't friends suppose to talk about their problems with one another?
She ONLY texts me or calls me when it has something to do with her ex, or the new dude she likes.
When I do have something to tell her, its only talked about for a couple of minutes, and she flips it about herself. NO LIE.
For example, my grandmother is in the hospital, her intestents were twisted together; and I was really upset about it. So I texted and told her and she said, AND I QUOTE.."oh that sucks; so guess who called me today?" and I said who? and she said something about her ex. I swear. 99.9% of the time its all about her, and the 1% if that, is about me.
Another thing is, she cannot take jokes! She can make them, but she cannot take them. Another example, in psychology class she said I was a big drug addict in front of a cop (which isn't true,) so I laughed, and I said "Your such an alcoholic" and she gets so mad and doesn't talk to me for the rest of class. This isn't the first time this has happened. She'll make a joke and when I come back with a joke- she always gets mad. She claims because shes sensitive. I told her after class that I'm tired of her always getting so upset when she makes a joke and I aim one back. It isn't fair becuse I always have to bite my tongue, and I shouldnt because she's my 'best friend'.
And the last thing, WE NEVER HANG OUT, outside of school. When she has free time- she's with other people, and never me. She onlys hangs with me, when she wants to study? But the thing is, we hardly study. She only talks about herself, her ex, or the new guy she likes. Its so annoying, but if I'm honest with her, she gets upset, and that is annoying as well.
So I end up going home, wasting 2 hours of my day with her for nothing, and re-studying. I end up making WAY better test grades than her, and when we compare grades after a test, she gets PISSED. So mad that she almost cries, and she told me today "Don't even talk to me; you make me sick"
Like really? Ugh. Sorry its so long, but i don't know what to do. Is she a true friend?? Should I just stop being friends with her? Should I talk to her, so she can just get upset? What do I do?
Get rid of her. This is a toxic friend who is using you for all her "me me me" stuff and you deserve better.
I had a friend like this up until last year, also my supposed "best" friend, but we only ever talked about her and her drama. I called time on our friendship and I haven't looked back - best decision ever!
Friendship is a 2-way street - you're doing all the giving and getting nothing back. Her reaction to your chat with her says it all. Find friends more worthy of your time. Good luck!
my husband works and i stay at home. he says there is no reason why the house should not be clean and laundry be done etc... he refuses to help in any way says he pays all the bills and
i am responsible for everything else. if its not done, i really get yelled at and im about to have a nervous breakdown
I agree with him that if he is working and you are not, then you should be doing the bulk of the housework. It makes sense. However he should not be yelling at you about it.
Is there a reason you are not doing it? If it is too much to get done in one day then you need to explain this to him and discuss sharing the responsibilities or getting a cleaner. Maybe list out your tasks for the day and your time schedule so you can prove that there really isn't enough time get everything done.
However if you are simply not doing it because you don't feel like it then you should probably start. He works all day and is probably stressed out by the time he gets home - and no-one likes to come home to an untidy house.
Okay so Ive asked you things on here like twice before in the last week. And I know its probably getting annoying dealing with me :/ But I really am like freaking out and your advice really helps me. So thank you so much!!
So I still havent heard from my "ex". Now its been a week and he graduates his program today and if he hasnt changed his mind I think hes heading to a halfway house today. But what I just don't understand is if I am gonna hear from him anytime soon or if he like changed his mind about me? There's so much going through my head and I've been going out at night so that I'm not killed with waiting for his phone calls. But every morning that I wake up and realize he still hasn't called makes me more anxious.
It all made sense when he said he couldn't be in a relationship right now and just wanted to start off slow with me. Build back the trust and show me the real him. But now it seems like maybe he's changed his mind and doesn't want me anymore? Like I keep thinking what I could have done wrong last conversation. but can't come to any faults. I was friendly, nice and didn't show him I was upset in any way.
I mean the thing is that I extremely care about this guy and love him a lot. I've been with him through almost everything. A lot of people have been saying that his addiction was just in love with me and I was his sunshine in all the dark. Or others say that theres no way we could have a relationship after all that has happened. I really dont want him to just chalk me up to his dark days and leave. But if thats what hes doing then im gonna let him. I just wish he didn't just leave without telling me. I feel like i deserve knowing...not just a lets be friends, ill call you after still and then nnothing. Please help! I really do love him and I really thought he did too. I just need a fresh perspective on this. And if you think he will call soon
Don't worry, ask me as many questions as you like!
Ok, so firstly, I need to say that it's very difficult for me to give advice because I don't know your past history and whatnot. However from the latest update, it sounds like something has changed. A week is a long time not to call, even for friends. Especially as he is moving soon.
Can you call him? Or just send a text asking how he is? Don't go all clingy, just say hey, I haven't heard from you for a while, how's it going? Ask him how he feels about moving on to the halfway house etc. But don't ask him for a relationship status update!
Chances are it is nothing you did, however he may have been advised at rehab to cut off everything from his past life, to make a clean start. But he owes you a goodbye at least.
I still don't know if it IS goodbye, but you should find out. You do deserve to know, especially after he said all that about starting again and building the trust etc. However! If he still wants you in the friend zone, then putting pressure on him about a relationship is a bad idea. Just be friendly, ask him how he is, and try to gauge from his reaction what is going on in his head.
I'm sorry you are going through this; it's not nice. Sending happy thoughts your way!
So here's the deal, I started going out with my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years my freshman year of college, before I had really experienced much of the classic college life. I care about my girlfriend and I want her to be happy but she pretty much dominates my entire social life. Pretty much whenever I'm not in class or studying I'm with her. We get into really stressful fights fairly frequently and sometimes I feel like I may die at the early age of 45 because of this stress. Another thing is that I had a lot of plans for myself post-college. Like, I was going to go teach English abroad in Japan for a year or two before I settled down to getting a real job. It looks like I wont be able to do any of that stuff because I've got my girlfriend holding me back.
Basically what I'm asking here is, would I be wrong for breaking up with her, even though I know it will completely devastate her? I'm only 19 and she already is expecting me to commit to her for life. Am I an asshole for wanting to move on?
You're sweet to think of her feelings however you have so much to do with your life - if you commit to her now and miss all those opportunities, you will just end up resenting her for holding you back. She is young enough to find someone else. She will be hurt in the short term but it is best for both of you to go your separate ways. Good luck.
i have screwed my bf over 2 times in the past year and we got back together, but i want to breakup should i?
If you want to break up with him, then yes you should! You are obviously not happy with the relationship as you are screwing him over. It sounds like you're trying to sabotage things on purpose so that he breaks up with you? You need to break up with him, as it doesn't look like he will do it, despite what you keep doing to him. It's never going to work out if you don't want to be with him.
i saw eraserhead and thought it was badass...it has inspired me to start watching more good under the radar movies...where should i start? i'm thinking of watching dead or alive next...throw your suggestions and reviews at me!!! thanks in advance :)
It depends what you mean by "under the radar" - Eraserhead is very well known but not "mainstream".. Google "cult movies" and you should get a good starting list, eg
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cult_film
http://www.nerve.com/movies/the-fifty-greatest-cult-movies-of-all-time
http://www.filmsite.org/cultfilmsew.html
Try to venture into world cinema too, eg all the Dogme movies esp. Festen(Swedish/Danish), then look to places like the far east for good horror films, south america for crime/urban, french for a wide variety of genres... If you liked Eraserhead then you'll probably like a lot of stuff by David Lynch too, and also David Cronenberg. Also try Bad Boy Bubby (Australian)
As I said, it really depends what genre you're looking for and what you mean by "under the radar"
This isn't a question but I found your post to be is quite rude. I can do whatever I please, I can use whatever font I want. I don't need it to look any different. I can do whatever I damn please to do with MY blog. I didn't need a big lecture on how bad my blog looks.
My fault. I thought you wanted a critique. Good luck with your blog!
So I am starting an A Cappella group of about five to seven (more or less) and we are asking a lot of people. Yet I wanted your thoughts. It has to be school friendly, and also catchy and funny. thanks guys! :D
No Strings Attached
Acafellas (all boys)
Deep Treble
Instrumentals
4 dings and a dong (if your group had 1 boy :) )
Hello. I need someone to check out my blog please, copy and past this:
kierakov.blogspot.com/
into your thing and comment and like, it'd be a big help!
What is the point of your blog? It looks like your diary/creative writing outlet? If you want people to come back to your blog again and again, you need to offer great content - may talk more about the bullying etc that you mention in your profile, offer advice on what to do about it etc.
I like the background graphic a lot but I don't like that you change your font in every post (and often within your posts). It doesn't look professional. Pick one and stick with it - and don't use comic sans or times new roman!
You have had quite a lot of life experience for one so young; it would be great if you could pass on your coping strategies (dealing with loss etc) to anyone reading your blog. This would be much more interesting to read about than your program coming on TV or your phys ed class etc.
So in a nutshell: tidy up your fonts, and then be very clear in your mind what the purpose of your blog is and who your target audience is, and take it from there. Good luck!
Hey you answered some advice for me from friday and it helped me deal with some of the emotions. Well im having some more issues and was hoping you could help.
He called me friday night and instead of being pissed cause of our previous convo (him making sure i knew "just friends") i just acted normal and joked around and tried the wholw friends thing. And it worked...he said he loved me a couple times and it was kinda like normal. Except we didnt talk as long as normal and he was the one who said i gtg. At the end of the convo he was like "you can count on me".
Well now its monday night and its like during my days i sometimes have things happen and im like ohhh im gonna tell him about that when he calls tonight or tomorrow. But i havent heard from him since friday night. I know its only monday...but wouldnt he want to talk to me more? Like i know this is a difficult time for him but i feel stuck in the middle of not knowing if he meant he wanted to carry on a relationship after friends or if he just didnt want to hurt me. Like maybe when he says he loves me, he does. But hes not "in love" with me. Im just so scared of losing him but id rather have it happen fast then like him worrying abour hurting my feelings. Then again this could all be my low confidence. I just dont know how to be okay with this whole "just friends" thing
Hi :) In my honest opinion: you're overthinking this. He has a lot on his plate right now - his focus is on getting better. He loves you, but he needs to put his feelings and healing first. So 3 days between a phone conversation to you might feel like a lifetime but to him it is not long at all because he's probably busy in counselling and other activities etc.
The thing is that you are torn emotionally between 2 places - firstly wanting to keep up the appearance that you are 'just friends' for his sake because that's what he asked for, and yet at the same time you want it to be so much more. He probably is as well - wanting to be more than friends but knowing he can't right now. Maybe he is thinking "well a *friend* wouldn't phone this often, so maybe I shouldn't either".
It's a complicated situation as you said, but from what you have been saying, I think you guys are going to be fine. Try not to stress out about it, and don't pressure him into committing one way or the other. Make sure that when he DOES phone, it's a really good conversation that you have, so that he remembers how much he likes you and enjoys your company. If you start to project any of this "is he going to break up with me?!" stress onto him, chances are he will see it as more emotional anguish that he can't cope with at the moment, and break it up.
It's hard, and it's obviously tearing you up inside, but for both your sakes you need to be friendly, warm, funny, happy, supportive, caring etc when he calls you. And then hook up with one of your girlfriends and a tub of ben & jerrys afterwards and let it all out. Be strong!
i am an aspiring artist. i love art and everything that comes with it, i am also an active member of Subeta.net a virtual pet site wher i see other artists work and try and get inspired recently i finished this work and asked for peoples opinion. they said it was 'sordid'. I feel let down because i really work hard in what i do and i thought it came out fairly well.
I just hate that im never good enough! it kills me cause theres so many other people who do so much better then i do and i can never reach their level of skill.
what am i supposed to do? shouls i just give up my dream on becoming a concept aartist?
16/f
Part of being an artist is being able to take critique. If you want to give up the first time anyone says anything bad about your work, you will not get very far! Even the greatest artists that have ever lived had critics. "Sordid" may not even have been a criticism, it sounds more like they were referring to the tone or emotion of your art rather than your technique. You need to be able to take comments on board and use them to improve your art - this is how people progress and hone their skill.
You could also set up a profile on worth1000.com, where there are many contests for you to enter, where you will get some great feedback, and also learn a lot via the tutorials and from other members. Don't give up on your dream because of one 'bad' comment.
Female/16
My boyfriend (also 16) teases me tonnes, to him it's hilarious - anything that winds me up is hilarious to him - but to me, it's irritating and well, I cannot stand it anymore.
We've been together a few months and were seeing eachother for about six months pier to going out officially.
For example, when getting intimate and say I move him on top of myself, he says 'Alright, Claire!' - Claire is a friend of mine, she tends to sleep around and in his eyes is not attractive at all, he also hates her - this really, really irritates me, for obvious reasons, and I just really wish he'd stop it. As for one it completely ruins the mood and it's almost like he's thinking of someone else (even though I know he doesn't like her.)
I've tried telling him to stop, but he wont as he thinks it's really funny.
How can I help to stop this? Any help will be much appreciated and sorry for it being fairly long.
Thank you.
You need to tell him this bothers you and that it's a complete turn off. If he continues to do it, then stop being intimate with him as soon as he says her name. Once he realises what will (or won't!) happen when he says her name, he will soon stop saying it. You need to be consistent in your approach for this to work. For the other scenarios, you could try a similar approach (depending on the situation of course). Good luck!