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Ok, I'm 15/f and I was with this guy for 2 months. Well he starting trying to pressure me to have sex with him. And I know this probably sounds stupid but I really wasn't ready to go that far. I know that a lot of other girls have had sex but I just wasn't ready for it yet. So anyway one night we were hanging out and he started to ask me to have sex with him again. I said no and I tried to explain why and make him understand. Well he seemed to understand and I thought that everything was ok. He brought me a drink of water and then I started to feel weird. The next thing I know I'm waking up next to him and now I'm pregnant. My friend said that he probably gave me a drug or something so I would have sex with him. I really don't know and I don't know what to do now. Did he rape me? And what should I do about the pregnancy?
omg!!! yes he raped you. he gave youa rape drug and then he took advantage of you, what a jerk. you didn't want to put out so he drugged you and took it from you. tell the police. file charges and try to geet his ass locked up. The babay on the other hand. :( i think your gonna have to abort. you got pregnant by rape. not by being irresponsible. you shouldn't have to carry that rappers baby.
I hope everything works out for the best
**PIXIE**
Ok so i am going out with this boy and its been 7 months and 20 days and he is moving to virginia and im still in florida and theres this boy named Doug and i really really like him a lot and i dont kno what to do??? do u stay with my bf which i dont see anymore or do i go for doug which i see every day????
-13/f if that helps
Thats an easy one. Long distance realtionships never work out.Go with doug. You'll see his ass every day!!!!!! instead of the boyfriend thats movin away. So i hope i helped :)
im a very good catholic. i really feel bad if i do so much as say oh my god. anyway. i have been sort of mastribating lately. when i get horny sometimes i use a fake penis to 'have sex'. is this sinning because i wanna know if i should stop doing this. please please please help
no it's not sinnig.whats wrong with reliving your sexual energy. masterbating is not eviel nor is it a sin.stop stressin about it.
ok this is kinda weird to be asking but i had to know...If your going to tease about it dont write me... Ok here it goes
every time i get fingerd i tend to cum alot adn i was just woundering if it was normal to cum so much. and if it is normal is there a way to slow it down a little bit? Please, give me any advice.
um yea it's normal but no you can't slow down your cum, or the amount that comes out. thats like asking can you slow down the movement of the earth or slow down the rain. WADAQ!!!!!
i know its embaressing but dont answer if you're gonna be mean. but whats a clitoris? like i know its down there on a girl but..like where and what does it look like? plz help--clueless
What the fuck. your a girl and you don't know what a fucking clitoris is. ok fin i'll tell YDA.a
Clitoris is a small erectile organ at the anterior or ventral part of the vulva. there i answered your question. YDAB
Okay...
I know this guy, and he flirts with everyone. We used to be pretty good friends until he became friends with this other guy who told my friend that I wasn't cool. However, lately, my friend has been talking to me more then he's been talking to his girlfriend. I can't tell if he likes my or not. He's always touching me, teasing me, and being so sarcastic (in a good way). Im a just a LItTlE BiT CoNfUsEd...PLEASE HELP ME! DO you think he likes me or not? I RATE HIGH!!
~*~Madison age 15/f
uh.. sure yea he likes you.and know yall can become a good couple but what about the girlfried? you don't wanna be a home wrecker, do you? ask himif he likesyou instead of asking us. and if he does tell him to dump his Gf and then yall can be happy. Butwatch your back his ex-gf might want revenge for you stealing her man or whatever.but yea i'msure he likes you.
Can anyone help me find information on Teen Pregnancy?
um yea plan parent hood.com or one of there clinics.
in health class, i have a project with the topic of "stressors of kids having kids" ..can anyone PLEASE help me find the right information for this? thanks so much in advance. i really appreciate it and i wouldn't ask for this help if i didn't really need it.
Just google and tada the websites with the info your looking for will show up.
im a female 16 and me & my bf have been on & off for 2 years now we are long distance and it started out as a summer romance at the beach because my family spends the summer up there but turned into love. ok im madley in love with my boyfreind & when i talked to him the other day he said his freind came over and told him he should take this one girl he dated while we were seperated to the prom. i asked him if he was and he said he wasnt going to and he told his freind no but im kinda scared do you think hes still seeing this girl? do you think mabey he was hinting that he wanted to go to the prom and that mabey we should go? please tell me what you think.
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and if you ansewer you should go to prom with him well how how do i ask him really with out asking him flattly cuz im kinda scared just to come out and say it.
um.. you could be like" you have a date for prom yet" he'll most likelysay no.you say " well who do you want to go with.and again he'll most likely say you. And you say "are you sure". And he'll be like" hella yea your my GF why wouldn't i"
well he problywon't say it like that but you get my drift.
when do you start showing when your pregnant?? and does anyone know how much tests at planned parenthood cost?
Um it think you start to show on your 3rd month. And aren't plan parent hood test free?
im a female 16 and me & my bf have been on & off for 2 years now we are long distance and it started out as a summer romance at the beach because my family spends the summer up there but turned into love. ok im madley in love with my boyfreind & when i talked to him the other day he said his freind came over and told him he should take this one girl he dated while we were seperated to the prom. i asked him if he was and he said he wasnt going to and he told his freind no but im kinda scared do you think hes still seeing this girl? do you think mabey he was hinting that he wanted to go to the prom and that mabey we should go? please tell me what you think.
Maybe. With a long distence relationship you really can't be sureifyour spout is being fathful. But f he wants to go to prom the better date should be his girlfriend.
im 15 and someone told me that my boyfriend -hes 15- looks at porn..is that normal? and like he said that my bf jacks off to it, too...is this normal or bad or what? and should i be offended that i cant make him feel good enough or somethin?
OMG. gurlthat is normal. you should be worried if he looks at male porn sites andno you shouldn't be offended it'snot like he's cheating on you. He's just relesing his sexual energy through his hand. And whats so wrong withmen masterbating really. women do it. why can't they.
I'm almost 35 years old, and I've never had a sexual relation, therefore I'm a virgin.
However, I'm not sure if I might have already ruptured my hymen.
Because when I was 17, I was once exercizing (quite moderatly), and all of a sudden I felt something rupturing.
It didn't hurt AT ALL...
I just felt something going through my vagina...
I can't tell if I bled because of this, since I was in my period.
(But there was a piece of unknown matter to me on the sanitary towel...)
So, I would like to know if this might have corresponded to the rupture of the hymen, and if I might bleed if I ever have sex.
(Furthermore, I've been a victim of some serious calumnies in the past, and I would be glad if I could prove my virginity if I ever have sex with a man...)
Thank you very much for your reply.
OMG. a 35 yr old virgin. anyways um yea it could have been your hymen. And a womens hymen being broken doesn't inform someone of he virginity.
hi, well i have been very confused lately on my sexuality. i've always been dating guys and shit. but this year, i think i've been atracted to girls as well. i mean, im still atracted to guys, but i think i am to girls too. i've made out with alot of girls, but that was for like fun and shit. but now i really think im attracted to girls too. am i bisexual? and if you have rude comments, save them for your self.
um yea i totaly thinkyour bisexual. your attracted to both sexes and bisexual people are attracted to both sexes so your diffinitly BI.
we'll call her leslie...we used to be best friends, until this year, i made a ton of new friends(being involved in a lot of stuff helps) and well she doesnt get involved in anything, and she complains about people all the time and talks trash about people, and is obsessed with really retarded things, like TPing is like her favorite thing and she keeps asking me to go TPing or spray painting with her, and well shes kinda childish...we're both 16 but im the only one who has the liscense and if we hang out i always have to drive and gas is really expensive, and overall shes just really annoying. how should i let her know that we're not really best friends anymore?
Wow. Um let me see. You can be like "we were once real cool. But now were growing apart. I'm growing up but you still seem to be a child. I don't want to seem cruel but I don't want to be friends with you anymore". It's short, simple anad too the point. I hoped I helped.
i hate school! i mean, i always fake sick and shit. i try to just focus on my friends being there but there are always bitches and so many people have been pissed at me lately -- im not good at apologizing...how do i just stop thinking of school as a hell hole?
Ok this is the best way to stop thinking of school as a hell hole. If you don't go to school you can't get an education. If you don't get an education you can't get a job(well not a good paying job). No money no food. No food you starve. You starve you die. Thus you need an education. unlike you i love school and i already know this. Don't take your education for granted hon.
ook, just to let you know im 14/f, and i read your column and i really like your advice! and the ones i read were mostly about sexual things, so your a life saver! ook heres my question:
im not prude or anything, but i havent done much, i definetly want to, but it's like one minute i want to and the next i dont, like im scared, or something! how do i know if im ready or not? and how do you exactly make-out? i have done it before, but im not sure if i did it right! ples help me!
I'm glad you like my coulum and the answersto your quetions are this.If your afaried to do something sexual things you shouldn't. Because after it's done you don't want to have doughts or shame.And to make out is just to french kiss and foundle. I hoped i helped.
i am pregnet like 2 months along, and as we know your not supposed to have sex, well my boyfriend really want it, but i cant give it to him, and i dont want him cheating on me, i was wondering if you can have anal sex while being pregnet?
Yea you can have sex being pregnant. Who tolldyou differnt?
I hae to close friends that are pregnant. Unfortunantly one was raped and the other one was by her boyfriend. They are both considering abortion. Why is it that people think it is all right for my friend who was raped to get an abotion and the other one isn't. Both are still killing and innocent child...Please help me understand the difference!!
This part is concerning your raped friend.
She was force to have sex.She had no will, to choose if she wanted to or or not.She got impregnated by her rapper. Not only is rape depressing physicalbut it's even worse mentally. How would you like to look achild and be reminded of the man who raped you. She probaly would neglect thechild if she kept it. So it's best that she abort. I'm pro life ad am against abortin but the only time i'm with is when rape is involved.
Now concerning your friend who had sex with her boyfriend willingly.
She had a choice. She said yes. She was reckless. I'mguessing she didn't have a back up form of bith control(birth control pills). She doesn't want to live up o her responsiblitys and neither does her boyfried so she takes the coward ways out and abort. Or maybe her parents forced her to abort.
Now you see the diffenrce.One had a choice the other didn't. One will be forever hounted by her rape. While the ohter can live her life on normally. I hoped imade it clear for you.
How can it be that you can have casual sex? I am a virgin and some of my friends have had sex. Those who have also have casual sex. I just don't understand how you can have sex without having a comitment. Doesn't it still end up being a comitment because someone will want a relationship. It's natural for humans to want to have a relationship. So why is it that people can have casual sex with different people without a more serious relationship??
Easy. They don't have emotional feelings for the person ther haveing sex with.So it becomes casual. And i guess it does make it a kinda of a relationship since they shared there bodys with each other but still not everyone thinks like that.