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HEY!! U can call me Nikki
Im from that little water state. Im fifteen and a sophmore. I can connect with most teens and their problems but also i think older people need to be open to advice from younger minds as well..so give us a chance. =] I like helping people and giving advice is the one the best ways to help. Ask me anything, i may not always have an answer but ill try. I put in thought and time on the question being asked, something id like people to also do for me. So tell me little pieces of your life and ill see if i can try and put them back together. ;]

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i've been into this boy for almost 3 months and we had a thing for one of those months and then he ditched me for a freshmen after he met my parents and everything.
he ignored me for that time period and when i asked why he said he didnt want it to be awkward and thought i would be mad.
i said it was alright and i just wanted to be friends (even though i wanted more)
when they stopped going out he always says hi to me. and when im with my friends no matter where i am standing he always says hi to me first.
when i was walking in the hallway by myself after school the hallways were crowded and then i saw him coming the other way with his friends(it was like a movie like we were the only people)and he was looking at me then stopped talking to his friend and when i looked at him i made a cute face and smiled and then he like laughed and smiled back and then i heard him say she is.. to his friend.
does he like me again? or at least kind of have feelings? or is he just being a nice friend?

It sounds like he likes you. Especially since you guys already had a 'thing' it makes him more open to talking to you . If a boy stops talking to his friends in the hallway and is staring at you the whole time theres a reason. Guys cant help but be completely obvious when they stare at girls, they need to learn something from us and be more casual about it. I say if you still like him, talk to him and hang out, but take it slow because it sounds as if he wants to take it slow otherwise he would of came at you already. you know? well if you need any more advice on anything.. im here. byee

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is loving someone enough to make a relationship work? idk im so lost it seems like its never gonna work but i love him and he loves me... bad bad circumstances tho we fight all the time and he makes me sad alot and i never get to see him but when ever i try to end it i cant. I love him and i dont know what to do

Love is a battlefield.
Fight through it to win the battle. If you cant win you still wont lose because there will be more battles in your life some better some worse. Love is a battlefield. A battlefield is life.

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is there any way to make a teen pregnant? I used the cheat BoolProp but that doesnt work. I can only make an adult pregnant with a teen to make him/she the mom/dad. Is there any way, or have the ppl only been using outfits to make it seem like the teen is pregnant? thanks!!

get the program Sim Pe. u can download it online free. then turn a teen sim into an adult but they will still look like a teen. then get them pregnant by woohoo and they will have the baby. then after that turn them back into an adult on sim pe.

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this may be long but im desperate!
14/f
ok on october 25th me and my friend went to this hangout place and played games and stuff. now my friend is the type to go up to a guy and say hes hot then walk away. okay so shes had boyfriends but shes not a slut now im fat (but im working on it) and ive never had a boyrfriend. there were these to guys that we walked by and she went up to them and she was like do yall go to our school and i told her no they go to ***** (15 minutes from where i live) how do you
know and i said because i went to fifth grade with one of them (not the hot one) then we left. and i kept telling her how cute the other one was and so they both go to the school i was gonna go to if i hadnt moved and all my old bestfriends go to their school. so we were walking around and i was txting my cousin so i was like ya ok and she came back he the hot one was with her and im really shy so i was shocked and he asked me for my number and i got his then my friend and i were walking around some more and there was this one ride i REALLY wanted to go on but she was too scared so she went up to him and asked him if he would go on the ride (an enclosed, 2 person, upside down ride) and he said he didnt have any money left so she INSISTED on giving him the money so he said ya but in like 10 minutes his friend and him said they were gonna go outside to talk to somebody (and we were like ya right there not coming back) so twenty minutes later we went outside to see if they were there and they wernt so we came back and like five muntes later i saw them and he waved by to me and thats it so i fianlly convinced my friend to go on the ride with me and we were waiting in line and i was picking a ride and then i saw my friend turn around and i turned around and he was standing there (my heart dropped, i was so shocked) and so my friend was like you saved me and me and him got on the ride and then he left without saying bye but i started txting him that night and i was asking him questions like so whats your favorite band etc. and he was really short with his answers and he never asked me anything and i was like do u want me to stop asking you questions and he was like idc. then my friend took my phone while i was in the shower ( i told her to) and she called him! and she was like hey do you like her a little tiny bit? and he was like uhmmmmmmmm uhmmmmmmmm uhmmmmmmmmm ya i like her eyes, but i just need to get to know her before we date(:. then they hung up so i said good night then the next night (sunday) he called me from a different number and he was letting me know that hecan recieve and calls a texts but he cant call or txt people and i was like oh then he was like ya but you can call me tonight or tomorrow or both if you want. then that night i called him and we had a really good 30minute conversation, we have a lot in common. and he was like i have a question and i said what and he was like do you wear contacts? and i said no and he said you well you have really pretty eyes (there green.) and i was like aw thanks. (the nicest thing he has ever said to me. so i called him everyother day and he was really just to tired to talk and we have really awkward silences soin total we have only had like 3 good convos since then but one night we were talking and we talk for like 30 40 minutes and he was like hey what time are you going to sleep and i said midnight probably and he was like ok then ill call you at 11 so we can talk for an hour, and i was like ok but ur probably gonna forget and he was like know i wont i swear i double swear i promise. then he called me 12 cause he thought it was 11 and we didnt even talk a lot cause we were both really tired. so i ALWAYS CALL HIM like hes only called me TWICE and we never have anything to talk about except for on the weekends. and last weekend i was at his school cause my bestfriend was in a play and i went to go see it and the next day i called him and was like i was at your school last night and he was like why and i told himwhy and he was like ohh you should have called me i couldve seen it with you(: but yaa i mean i would LOVE to go to the movies with him or something im just so shy and fat... :/
what do you think??
should i stop calling him?
do you think he likes me?
ive gone 4 days without calling himn to see if he would call me and he didnt.
i need help dudes.
please??

doesnst sound like he likes u all the way but hes definitely interested. sumtimes taking the first step lik calling a guy when they dont call you is okay because it shows your putting in an effort and when he feels lik hes more interested he.ll put in more of an effort or hes just shy too. Dont be self -conscious because obviously this guy likes you for how you look because other wise he wouldnt of exchanged numbers with a stranger. People dont usually exchange numbers with ugly stranger.. so dont worry about being as you say fat. Next time I suggest bowling or an activity where you guys can really talk at the same time. The movies just seems lik an i know you already but lets just hang out and see a movie kind of thing. Another good one would be mini-golf.. so he can show you how to hit the ball..even if you do know how just act like you dont. And your friend sounds brave ..just ask her how she does it and try to gain some of her confidence and realize your just fine the way you are. If you need ANY more advice..on this or anything else.. im here for you. -peachykeen

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im think about getting contact lens, but i have no idea of what the hassle may be. and at the eye doctor what will i be put through? risk and bad habits of contacts?

Theyll give you an eye test to get your prescription. If you want color contacts theyll show you the colors they have. And they will put in a pair of contacts for you. So youll put your head back and the person will put it in. Then they will ask you to put the other one in. I wear contacts and for me it seems lik all solutions bother my eyes so i wash it in solution but let it sit in water, which isnt recommended but whatever. Also i sleep with them in which has caused me no problem though they arent the kind to be slept with. And no they wont get stuck to your eye. If you sleep with them on when you wake up your eye might be a little shut and maybe a little red and dry feeling but once they start getting moist and you get some water on them their fine. And after doing it for days you wake up like normal.

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15/f
there are girls in my school who pretend to be depressed/cut/have eating disorders. it drives me crazy! But i don't want to just assume that it is simply attention seeking. what do you think are signs of attention seeking?

People who go showing it off and telling their whole life story and seeking sympathy. You can tell because its like their sad about it but just want to keep spilling their guts out to you. If they were truly all depressed and what not they would keep it to themselves like a secret instead of making drama for the world to know.

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so with my clothes on, i look like skinny and fit.
but then when i look at my stomach, its like fat.
i don't eat very healthy or run very often during athletics.
its just the shape of my stomach. like if it was all even i would look skinny.
you can like see my hipbones sticking out i don't know why....?
but then it kinda goes in a little bit, then when it gets to the middle lt like goes out.
and it looks like i'm sucking in even though i'm not.
i don't know why it does this. but its embarresing.
and i have this like red line accros my stomach.
its from like sitting down and i guess from like...rolls? i don't really have rolls.
how do i get it to look normal?
not with running because i can't run.

wow. i was shocked when i read this, because i literally have the same exact problem. skinny but stomach not really.. you can see hip bones but then it goes out and the line.. i know your pain lol. I suggest crunches and situps. I dont suggest dieting.. youll just be annoyed and hungry but definitely exercise for the stomach area.

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I am a 17 year old male.
There is this girl who is a freshman and I am a senior.
I wanted to know if she is too young for me to date.

shes too young. your at a different level in your life.. she has just entered high school and here you are in your last year almost leaving. Think about it like this.. would you date a sophmore in highschool when your a freshman in college.. hopefully not. In the future the age difference would not be a big deal but not now.

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I have a frined whos in a relationship, and is engaged. Well yesterday she told me that she likes someone....whos not her fiance. She says that she is still in love with her fiance, its just that she likes this other guy as more than a friend.

Now my question is: Do you think its possible to be in love with someone, but like someone else? Because the way I look at it if you say youre in love with someone, you shouldnt like someone else cause that, to me, shows that you dont love the person.... What does every one else think?

How do you think people have multiple loves.
Why do you think people have affairs.
She can still love her fiance and also like another guy. Just because you have a fiance that doesnt mean you are incapable of liking another. People are still found attractive. lol
Also, her love for him can be as real as ever, but she is attracted to this other guy as well.

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yeah so most of you know they block myspace at most school anybody know a good proxy or just a fun website that wont make me bored when i have nothing to do in class???????? :D

myyearbook.com
plus u can just go to tools and pop up settings ..and unblock myspace. or any other sites that are blocked. if thats how tha comps are setup there.

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I like this guy, but Im not sure if he likes me back. Im 20, hes 27. We're close friends

-He stares nd when I catch him, I ask him "what?" he just smiles and says "nothing."

-If I go 2 the store he usually comes w/ or if hes going to the store he will ask if I need anything or if Id like to go w/him.

-Sometimes we will go and get something to eat, and he will pay.

-I know it sounds immature, but we play fight occasionally, he will swat at my ponytail, poke me, slap at me, or kick me in the butt, I usually get him back, and he seems to enjoy the play fighting.

-When hes over and sits on the couch, he sits next to me. Today actually I had a stack of pillows that I was leaning on and when he sat down, he leaned on the pillows too, so we were sharing. We were laying wih our head and arms almost touchin, and he kept slapin at me and grabbing at my wrist/hands.

I know the easiest way to tell if he likes me is to ask him, but what do you guys think? Thanx in advance for the replies.

Yes he likes you.
Its flirting and not aggressively which is really cute. You both sound like little kids flirting, if you like him too, then go for it. On the couch, just turn and kiss him. He wont throw you off. lol Good luck

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Hii :]]

My boyfriend's birthday party is on the 26th and he's 15 and I'm 13/f and we've been going out for 5 months off and on . I was hoping to spend about $20 - $30 [ family is a bit tight at the moment ] ... So , he's into baseball , football , computers and his friends.

I was kinda thinking about making him a scrapbook , of like all the good times.What do you think of that ?
Please give me like 300000000 suggestions if you have them ! I'll love you forever !

Ok you know whats really great and creative.
Pick a number like 10 or 26 because thats his birthdate. And it could be 26 songs that remind you of him, 26 things you love about him, 26 ways to say "ur the best" (or whatever you want to say) in different languages. But it would be a "book of 26" which is really cute and not expensive.. its thoughtful and he'd love it. Or if 26 is too much.. then pick a different number.
Then add some other "26" things to the book. It shows you really put time into it and really care for him.

As for other suggestions.. um you could get him a nice shirt or maybe a game and then make him a card with cut out magazine letters. Then again, that could be cute for the "book of 26"


Good luck ! and if you have any more questions.. on anything just ask me.

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13/f. Okay so I have this huge crush on my best friend.. and I don't know what I'm supposed to do about it. She's a girl, and she likes me too, but I'm afraid something bad will happen to our relationship if we do anything.

I'm just wondering where I should take this.

And please, don't leave an answer telling me how gross liking the same sex is- I don't need it on top of this.

thank you. [

Well If your positive she likes you and you know you like her, and she is your best friend, then sit her down and talk to her about it. I wouldnt take the friends-with-benefits route because that can really kill a friendship. I say you either not be together (romantically) at all or you completely be together, no inbetween. you know ?
So talk about it or try and make a move. Do something you know you both like but with a twist..flirting. Good luck not that you'll need it. If you have any more questions.. ask me.

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so right now i am facing a dilema that im sure people have had to deal with before. i think part of the reason why its so hard for me is because it is completely my choice and no one is telling me what to do.
[ im 15/f & a freshman in HS]
so last year i made the choice to go to a private school (in the town that i live in & my brother goes there too) and basically leave all of my friends. it was hard but i do it, and i still see my friends a lot on like weekends but its not the same. when i hang out with them i feel left out alot and its just saddening. i like my new school alot, the education is better then the public school, but the friend situation isnt. i hvae friends but its like everyone there feels the same way. they all have friends from thier old schools and its juts not the same. ive known my friends from my old school since i was in elementry school.

so my dilemma here is that im going to have to decide whether i want to come back to my old school in a few months, and i really want to go back. but im afraid that if i go back i will regret it and i wont be able to go to the private school. im extremely confused so i dont really know what im asking, but basically based on my situation.. what would you do?

thank you so much. xox

Its the same thing with my friend. She went to a public school thats like a private school for high school but she still misses her old friends that she knew from middle and elementary. I miss her soo much and want her to come back. I think you should definitely go back. If you had a lot of friends before and miss them enough then just go back and youll probably have a better high school experience with the people you've already known and will get to know better. if you stay at the private school eventually you'll just get used to not seeing your friends as much and it wont be such a bother. I dont think seeing your friends only on the weekends is good enough really, but that has to do with how close you are to them. Me and my friend arent as close any more but i expected that. I recommend that you go and shadow one of your friends. If you dont know what it is then its when you go to that school but notify the school first and let them know your interested in coming and pick a friend that you want to go to all their classes with. It looks really fun. You'll be able to compare that school with the private one. If you do that.. tell me how it goes. Good luck

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I like this one guy at my school. I've liked him for a while, and i think he maybe knows? But all he's been for me is heartache. The funny thing is, it's just one big crush. I don't think he likes me. And a couple of times, hes made it quite obvious. But part of me still holds onto him. How do I just let go? He's only in one of my classes, and I sometimes see him at lunch hour, and usually always after school. Its not like he's in every one of my classes. I need advice on how to get over him.

Sometimes theres just that one guy that you feel you're meant to be with. Like the biggest of big crushes. You should just try letting go over time. I mean if you dont talk to him then eventually how could you still like him. Or I suggest you get to know other guys and maybe youll like one of them and then youll forget about that boy because youll have someone new and maybe this person will be easier to get over and will just be a distraction for the time being. I find it easier to just completely erase the person, dont try to conversate, dont look for him, get rid of anything that might remind you of him. Good luck happens to everyone.

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16/f

i know this is stupid and random but does anyone know away i can get alot of money (talking like thousands of dollers, with-in like 6 months)I already i have job but its not enough,i also have school and do travel sports that i MUST do. thank you so much if you can come up with anything.

This might be a little out there but you could try modeling. Go for auditions, you can look them up in your local newspaper or online and get money. Or just get another job that pays like yours, save up and buy nothing that you want.

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i had sex the other day and im supposed to get my period.. but it was unprotected, so im scared. he said he didnt cum in me so if i were to get my period in a few days, would that mean im not pregnant? or would i have to wait for next month?

if you get your period your not pregnant and no need to wait.

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Keeping personality out of the question, one of my guy friends said that it doesn't matter if a girl is super ugly or not but if she has a good body she can score guys. Is that true.. somewhat? How does that make any sense? If someone can argue for both sides for this viewpoint, that would be awesome.

What he said was BS. No one wants an ugly girl.
Good body or not.. guys dont want her with an ugly face. Even ugly guys are shallow, which is pretty dum since they have nothing to back it up with. If an ugly girl does score guys then it means that those guys obviously didnt think she was ugly, they might not have thought she was gorgeous or beautiful or hott but at least okay looking and her personality made up for that. But it does matter if a girl is ugly..because she will have a hard time dating.

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Mkay .
This has been bothering me for some time now .
Why when there's a gay guy couple everyone makes a big deal , But when there's a goy women couple people think nothing of it ?
Also , Why are guys turned on my gay girls ?

Just to let you all aware , Im straight .

well guys are supposed to be guys.. like the mascular hott manly men. and when two guys are dating many people will think its straight up disgusting and when girls date its not a big deal because guys dont have nothing to do with it. Guys like girl on girl because they like females in general.. so to see two of them together.. is good i guess.

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im wondering why everyone tells me im so pretty, yet guys don't think it. its not like me to really care, but its still a thought i keep in the back of my mind. guys see pretty as skinny blondes who are only fit to be in cover of Vouge. but when a girl tells you your pretty, they see it in greater detail. the color or you hair, eyes, skin tone; a different kind of pretty. when i look in the mirror, i look past the fact that im not a tall skinny blonde. i see how many shades of colors are in my hair, and i see how it brings out my eyes. yeah, im not the skinniest girl-- but im not really all that fat. i was raised to eat healthy, and i do. actually, i don't eat all that much junk food. yeah, sometimes i eat some candy, or even cake, but its not really all that much. im average. but yet people tease me about my weight, claiming that im over 120-- sometimes even say im 140. but im not. and who really cares, anyway? looks have become so important to people. so important, they look past the really nice, good people, who are actually interesting and have a greater IQ than their shoe size.

sorry its not really a question..
so here is the real one:
why is it guys think so differently?
im sure that there is at least ONE guy who thinks in greater detail, right?

Guys who are good looking themselves definitely aren't going to want a girl who is just average. The girl might not see themself as average but if you aint attractive to the guy or any other guy then the person wont want you. If the guy is not all that good looking then most likely he will have sense not to go for only really good looking girls because they probably wont want him. But all guys want a hott dreamy girl thats like in the magazines. And all girls want that perfect dreamy guy. But your not always going to find that and people need to realize a persons beauty within. But hey its the 21st century.. thats gunna be hard. But all i can say is look for a good guy.

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