Not to discourage talking to your mom, but if your parents aren't close enough for you to talk to about these things, do what I did and DON'T TELL THEM. My parents never knew if I had a boyfriend or not. Oh, they knew I had several male friends, but which one I was diddling under the bleachers was my little secret.

The acrylics idea mentioned by another columnist is a very good one! I would recommend looking at the underlying problem. You obviously have a nervous habit and you need to do two things. The first thing you need to do is find a better way to stimulate yourself, like chewing gum. The second thing is to find out why you feel this nervous fidgety habit anyway. Is there something in your life that is causing you undue stress? Might you have a nervous disorder? You may want to talk to a doctor or your school nurse about this.

She's fishing for compliments and reaffirmation. If you give it to her, she can't take it graciously because she has some emotional issues. This girl really just needs some love, friendship and support. Be the bigger person and help her a little. The next time she says she's fat, tell her that if she says it again, you'll beat the crap out of her for insulting your friend, even if she IS that friend. That ought to make her realize both that she's annoying you, and that you're her friend.

I'm not a guy, but I'm a big girl. Lemme tell you, I found plenty of boyfriends in High School. It has nothing to do with your weight and everything to do with how you present yourself. Stand up straight, put your shoulders back, wear whatever you damn well feel like wearing, don't think about how you look, and be assertive! You see a boy you like, GRAB HIM! That's all there is to it. Most guys your age are pissing and moaning(though not as vocally as women) about their zits, muscles, apparatuses :), you name it! Believe me, only the jerks are noticing if you are a little chunky. Many, many guys like a healthy, curvy, sexy woman.

Red hair tends to be a fetish. When boys are younger, they tend to not really appreciate it. Once your friend turns 16 or so, she's going to find herself being fallen all over by red head enthusiasts. As a matter of fact, there are entire porn sites dedicated to the love of red heads. It's more likely that she just needs a bit more confidence to reel the boys in than it is that she needs a new colour.

Hey, can I borrow your pencil, is always a good line to start talking. Or, you can ask him what the homework was, even if you already have the assignment, and then write it down and try to continue the conversation. I know you're shy, but if you can ask him if he wants to hang out some time, that's the best approach. You could also always do what I did when I was younger and shy; I wrote a letter and then fled into the darkest cave to hide and wait for his response, lol.

Start talking about how much you have the hots for some other guy. I know it's silly, but if you can pull it off, it will send a very clear signal that you are not interested in him. Discuss what you like about the other guy, and make sure they are things completely opposite of this one. If that doesn't help, or if he just tries to change to impress you, you need to just be upfront with him. Tell him you'd appreciate him not stalking you anymore.

Guys at that age are just experimenting for the most part, and if you confess your undying love for him, he will flip out and flee. Rather than that, if you just want some more fun time with him, get him alone and tell him you enjoyed yourself last summer and wanna give it another whirl. I think that if you just remain friends with benefits, it will become something more when he is mature enough to want commitment. By his flirting actions, he just doesn't sound ready for that yet.

Take up a new hobbie, like chewing gum, and TRY very hard to leave your poor head alone. In the meantime, rub some medicine on those scabs. Don't use peroxide, it will bleach your hair.

That is the mmost ridiculous thing I ever heard. Please don't take offense, but that friend of yours is a dipshit. Cutting your hair back will actually make it HARDER for you to get pubic lice. The only way to get pubic lice is by your genitals coming in contact with them. You would either need to have sex with a person who has them, borrow undies or a swimsuit from a friend that has them, or dip your nuts in a jar of them. Tell your friend he's retarded and that chicks dig trimmed pubes because it makes your schlong look LONGER when the hair is cut back.

A lot of people, especially at your age, will be nice face to face but be little bitches once you get into a group setting. She has some issues, she wants desperately to be "cool" and she's using you as her stepping stone to being popular. Seriously, I would just ask her if she'd like the crap kicked out of her. Either that or just tell her to F*** OFF next time she opens her trap. I don't like to encourage fighting, but in high school you need to let them know you're tough and make them fear you if you're going to be left alone. Read some of my previous advice for stories about me setting some little hooches straight. If you really insist on being nice, then just ignore her or ask her why she thinks she has to impress everybody. That might set her off balance a bit.

Ok, here are the true, scientific facts: About 2 weeks before every period, basically right in between cycles, you ovulate (release an egg from your ovaries.) Eggyolkenema is actually ALMOST right. It's not a month before, though, it's usually 2 weeks. Women are all different, however, and some ovulate 3 weeks or 1 week before their period. If the egg is fertilized by sperms, it will implant into the endometrium that lines the inside of your uterus. Therefor, if you happen to have sex the first time you ever ovulate, prior to your first period, you could get pregnant. If the egg is unfertilized, it will not implant and your uterus will begin to contract, your cervix (opening out of your uterus into the vagina) will open and you will expell the endometrium. This is your period. When you first get it, don't be alarmed if it is brown or pink, not just red, or if there are chunky things in it. It isn't actually blood, but a lining made of blood to nourish babies. I hope that helps. Be safe and see a doctor if you don't start menstruating by 16.

Do you live in America? If so, you should be able to get social security for your siblings, and possibly welfare. You are all also eligible for medicare and financial aid for school. I don't like to encourage people to "mooch" off the system, as some call it, but your situation is what social programs are designed for. You need to stop working so much, accept some aid, and get to college. Also, learn from this that when you have children of your own one day, it is extremely important that you have life insurance so they never have to struggle. It's very hard for you now, but know that what you are doing is a beautiful thing, and the sacrifice you are making for your family is one that your siblings will always remember.

I'm guessing you are a teenager. I know it's small comfort, but the right person for you is definetely out there, you just aren't going to find him yet. Believe me, most high school relationships are doomed. You're better off just experimenting with relationships and having fun now and worrying about serious love after school is over.

Instead of crimping, try several small braids while it's wet and running some gel through it before braiding it up. Then just curl the ends where the band was and DON'T BRUSH it. When you crimp or braid, brushing makes it frizz. You just need to run your fingers through gently to get any knots out. If it gets bad somehow, get a light mister spray bottle and spray it with a small, fine mist to settle it. DO NOT brush it while wet or you will lose all the crimp.

Those little strips don't clear up colds. They just help keep your nasal passages open to prevent snoring, help with drainage, etc. If you really want to try them, the ones my dad uses are called Breath Easy and you can find them in the grocery store near bandaids.

Loreal makes a Curl Vive shampoo that works well on the curly haired children I have cared for in my work as a nurse. I also recommend any products by Paul Mitchel. They are just AWESOME and they don't animal test. You can find them in salons, as it is an expensive but worthwhile investment.

The best models are very thin but still well muscled. You need to work your butt off. No amount of dieting will get you that thin. Build muscle and run, run, run. That's the best way to be very slender, and the healthiest.

I caution you against these fad diets like Atkins. They are beginning to associate it with a possibility of heart disease and high cholesterol. I recommend using the oldest diet plan in the book: burning more calories than you consume. You need to make sure you are getting your heart rate up for 30 minutes at least 3 times a week. If you are working out more than this, you don't need to cut your calories very much. Most doctors recommend a 1500 calorie a day diet if you aren't working out very much. This isn't too restrictive, and should help you lose about 2-4 lbs a week, which is ideal. Losing weight too quickly makes it easier to gain back because your body thinks it's starving and your metabolism is ruined. Slow weight loss tends to last the longest. Good luck!

Try waxing instead. It takes a little longer, but it lasts for weeks and it prevents that nasty arm stubble from coming in. The hair will grow back at different intervels. Honestly, I would just tell people to kiss my ass and not do anything about it, but that's just me. If you want hair removal, waxing is good. A depilitory like Nair would work well too, but it's effects last only a few days and it can get expensive.

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