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Hey there. I'm a girl, 14, and on the fat side.. lol. I'm not obese, but i am overweight (working on itt!!) And i've only ever had one boyfriend.. when i was in grade 6. People tell me i have a pretty face, but i think i'm just average. I'm also told i'm really sweet, and have an awesome personality.. but it just seems like guys don't look past my weight to get to know me and like me better. I have a lot of guy friends, but no boyfriends, you know? I get in a rut for soo long about not ever being in a relationship, and seeing all my friends with their boyfriends.. SO my question is mostly for the guys.. have you ever dated a fat girl? lol that sounds so rude, but it's the only way i can put it. And what is it that totally unattracts you to them? Why don't you take the time to look past their looks to see their true beauty. please helppp.
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I'm not a guy, but I do have something to say. One of my good friends lost 45 lbs over the summer. She came back to school and all the guys liked her. Although her new body may have played a role, she was sooo much more confident and she felt better about herself. Guys are attracted to that. You may have a great personality, but guys don't see that until they get to know you better. So what if you don't have the perfect body? Be confident! Be really outgoing! Let everyone see that personality right when they first meet you! That way they can judge u on personality! alot of times if ur shy and dont really talk, guys dont think twice the're just like "oh i guess she's shy."
Oh- p.s. there was this guy who liked my friend before she lost weight (lets call him bob.) now when the guys all wanted her she turned them all down bc they only liked her 4 her looks but she knew that bob liked her the whole time so she went out w. bob. remember--- those guys who judge u on looks r'nt nice guys ne ways!
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I'm not a guy, but I'm a big girl. Lemme tell you, I found plenty of boyfriends in High School. It has nothing to do with your weight and everything to do with how you present yourself. Stand up straight, put your shoulders back, wear whatever you damn well feel like wearing, don't think about how you look, and be assertive! You see a boy you like, GRAB HIM! That's all there is to it. Most guys your age are pissing and moaning(though not as vocally as women) about their zits, muscles, apparatuses :), you name it! Believe me, only the jerks are noticing if you are a little chunky. Many, many guys like a healthy, curvy, sexy woman.
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I haven't ever dated a bigger girl, although... I would, if I got to know a girl like that, because to me, I value inner personality, not what someone looks like... it isn't the end of the world if you aren't pretty, just keep being who you are if you have a good personality, and maybe, who knows. Maybe you could work on not being overweight, and you would be pretty on the inside, and out.
Good Luck - QBillion
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You have to understand that in today's society looks are everything. Most guys won't give you a second glance, if you don't look a certain way.
Im sure you have a great personality but most guys don't see that.
Losing weight would be a great asset for you in so many ways:
1. You would get alot more attention from guys ( though im not saying there is anything wrong with being fat, just stating the known facts)
2. You would be alot healthier which would help you prevent diseases
3. You would feel alot better about yourself.
Just remember to stay true to yourself. A guy who doesn't like you for what is "inside" isn't worth your time.
NOTE: A great movie on this topic is SHALLOW HAL, staring Jack Black. It deals with alot of the issues you mentioned above.
Good Luck.
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