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hey my name is Joanna. I've been through a lot and I can probably relate to a lot of the things you need help with. I hope you can trust me. Even, if you just want to talk to someone then you can e-mail me or instant message me. I hope I can help you with anything you need help with or if you just need a friend.
I love giving advice. A little about me well i like music, i love music actually.I write my own songs. I also write poetry and books. I am a huge photography lover and i take photography classes. I am a Christian. I have a lot of friends who i give advice to and it always seems to help them so i hope it helps you too.




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Also, for people giving advice, don't tell people what they want to hear just to get higher ratings. They asked for your help and opinion so be honest no matter what!

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ill rate 5's - sry if this is long.

ok so .. i am not the skinniest person in the world but i am on this diet and i am loosing weight. i've already lost 10 pounds and im continuing so by summer i should be able to look good in a bathing suit.

heres my problem. last summer i wasnt really comfortable in my bathing suit. i only wore a bikini becuase everyone else did and i thought people would idk if i didnt so its hard to explain.. so ithink my friends talked about mebehind my back and stuff wehn i wore one because they are like skinny as anything and theyve never had problems with weight.

i dontknow what to do.. i mean i know i am trying to get skinny by summer so i will look good. but why would my friends do this? andhow do i talk to them about it beca use i dont want to just be like so you think i look bad in a bathing suit...

ill rate fvies thanks soo omuch

well..i always question whether i look good in something or not..i never wear skirts because i hate my legs but my friend kept telling me i look good in it..so i wore it and i got a lot of compliments..basically what i'm trying to say is listen to your friends..if they really care about you they won't let you wear something that you look bad in..plus if they're gonna hang out with you then they won't want you to look bad..lol..so you should talk to them and ask them..."do you think i look bad in this bathing suit?"..it's good that your working to lose weight though..i don't know how much you way but if your losing weight i'm sure you'll look good..hope i helped...bye

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Well, my ex boyfriend broke up with me a month ago and we were in love and we still like eachother ALOT but he has another girlfriend and i like this guy (Adam) but i feel like i am cheating on Ryan(my ex) because i like Adam but i still spend alot of time with Ryan and hang out with him and we act like we're going out but he has a girlfriend i like this guy named Adam but i dont know i feel like i am cheating on Ryan what should i do even though we're not going out!! I rate high!

Ryan has a girlfriends, so you should definetly be able to have a boyfriend, or at least like another guy. It's not cheating. If it really bothers you then think about who you like more, and try to steer clear of the other one. but i think it's fine to like Adam.

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How do you get over it besides popping the pills?

I have a lot of experience with this. I saw a counselor for 5 months. I'm actually still seeing one, but i'm hoping to be done soon. The pills work for a while, but honestly when i took them for a lttle i still felt empty. Talk to your friends. That's how i got out of depression. Counseling doesn't help very much. It actually made it worse at times. I think you should talk to your closest friends. They should be able to help, or you can talk to me. My screen name is lostand4gottenxz and my e-mail is wannabenormal14@yahoo.com ..I hope things get better. Bye

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I just auditioned for my school talent show and I think I did really bad. I sang (Un Moto di Gioia) because my friends said I should. I have a terrible case of stage fright, and I thought this audition might help me get over it. I mean, some of the girls on the audition panel were laughing (which is very rude, but that's not the point). I am so embarassed, I don't think I'll ever show my face again. I dropped out of the show, of course. I'm questioning my talents as a singer right now. I have been singing for 6 years. I am very trained as a singer, was admitted into an Advanced Choir at an early age, but still...I think people think I'm a bad singer and don't want to tell me. Does anyone know what I mean?

wow..i know exactly what you mean..the exact same thing is happening with me..i just have one thing t ask..do you love to sing??..if you do that's all that matters..who cares what other people think..if you made it into an advanced chior than your probably have an amazing voice..those girls were probably only laughing cause they were jealous and thye wanted to make themselves seem cooler..if you love to sing then sing..hope i helped

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okay, this is really hard to explain. but whenever I log onto MY account on the computer (not my mom's or dad's) the fonts are smaller on many websites. Like, on myspace, the bulletins are font size 1 intead of 2, and yahoo mail has smaller links. My account did the same thing awhile back, only it made fonts bigger.

Fonts are also showing up incorrectly on Microsoft Word.. but not IM.

SO If anyone knows what the issue is here and maybe explain it to me? My computer is virus free. thanks.

...I rate high & leave comments ♥

i don't know why it's doing that..but it does it to me sometimes..go to the toolbar at the top of your computer and go to view..then text size..then select a bogger size..hope it works..bye bye

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i have NO clue what to get my b/f for v-day.. he likes skateboarding and hes doing something really really big for me so i want to do/get something nice for him

any suggestions?

heyy..i think you should get him a blank board..it's a skateboard but with no desgins or anything and it's not as expensive as other skateboards...then you should decorate it..and make a card to go with it..hope i helped

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Ohk i have a serious question.
And sorry its going to be kinda of long but i would really appreciate if you guys took the time to read this.

i Just watched True life the one about obessive Compulsive disorder. Well alot of the Things those People were doing kinda reminded myself of me. Like not what they would do like count and retouch things because it didnt feel right but heres some things i do.

Thourgh Out the day i make sure all the doors are locked all of them- i dont know why it just bothers me

-Before i go to bed i make sure the doors are locked and the closet on the first floor. When i go in my bedroom i check my closet and make sure my window is locked. Like two days ago i had to make sure my door was locked because i heard something out in the kitchen.

Im afraid of someone coming into my house and taking me. I watch alot of law and order and Csi.
But i dont think that would have any thing to do with it.

-im terrified of needles. When i go to get blood drawn or shots. I start to cry.
-When i see needles on the tv i have to cover my eyes or look the other way. My mom is diabetic and she has to use insulin with the needles i looking at her while she does it.

When i was little i had this dream of me and my friend getting kidnapped by a doctor and he shoved needles in us and i died.

-i Cant throw-up if i do by getting sick or something i won't eat nothing for like the next three days.
-At school with my lockers ill lock them and then check 5-6 times to make sure theres no way anyone can open the locker - I have had my purse stolen from me and my locker broke into before like 3 years ago.
-At work I have to sign off the register everytime i walk away form it. I constantly walk to make sure im off.

I dont really know if this could be ocd. or its just being a strange person. Im 17/f

it could be ocd..i don't think it is..my sister throws up at the sight of needles and then won't eat the rest of the day because she threw up..but she doesn't have ocd..i saw that episode of true-life and i thought the same thing..but i don't think u have ocd..but i'm not a doctor...if you really think you do then go see a doctor..hope i helped

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OK so to get rid of stretch marks, whats that stuff called? And whats the brand, and where can i get it? Thanks in advance

cocoa butter works really well..you can get it basically anywhere

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i weigh about 150 pounds and i want to weigh about 120 or 110 by the summer so i can wear cute bathingsuits and stuff. how can i do this. i play basketball and softball and for softball we have winter workouts and we run alot. but what else can i do , my problem areas are my butt,stomach,arms, and thighs. please help ill rate 5's!!!

hmm..i'll tell you my workout routine that works for me..i do 20 minutes on treadmill then i do 100 jumping jacks..then i do 50 cunches..then i run up and down the stairs 20 times..if that's to much then you can do less...but it works for me..and here's one of the most imporant things you need to know NEVER SKIP BREAKFAST!!!!..trust me it really is the most important meal of the day..drink a lot of water..and don't eat right after practice or workouts...try to aviod snacking but it you have to them have a paice of fruit..i have a really slow metabolism so i have to workout and watch what i eat and this works for me..i hope it works for you too..bye bye

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The kid I love that i went out with a few times and another boy i went out with hung out last night. The other boy is a complete a**hole and i hate him. He's an extremeeee jerk. The other boy im not with but i love, im just afraid that he'll turn into the other boy. I htink they smoke and drank last night because the other oy wanted to. I'm just afraid the kid i love is gonna change into the other boy. Why do you think I'm feeling like this and should I be this upset and worried about it? I feel like crying :/

it's great to be worried because it shows how much you care about him...you should talk to the boy that you love and tell him that you don't want to see him go down the wrong path..hope i helped

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Hi there
iv gotten myself in quite a bind. Iv never been so confused before..well here it goes.
Im 16 years old and live in toronto, now i have this family friend whom iv known for 10-12 years, we recently became reaquainted in May; since than wev talked alot, wev seen eachother at various occassions, at these occasions we always hang out or dance together...he says sweet things to me, and hes just a great guy.
Just after christmas he asked me to go see a movie with him, he said him his sister and her bf were going to see a movie and he wanted to knw if i wanted to come, (i accpeted of course) so he came and picked me up and we all ended up spliting up and we had a great time. So than we went to the same new years party together, at this new years party his family seemed very intrested in me;like always smiling at me etc. He asked me to dance a few times and we did,but at one point i was dancing with another guy and he was staring alot, but we overall had a blast together (i also ended up taking him home). Wev talked a bit after that. Hes a great guy but the only problem is hes 20, and he goes to skool in london (which is about 2.5 hours away). so i guess im in denial! like why wud he be intrested in me?! but i like him soo much and i just dont wanna make a fool out of myself and i dont wanna get hurt! so does he like me? is he intrested? wat shud i do?
HELP!!!!

age doesn't matter at all..my 15 year old friend is engaged to her 21 year old boyfriend..and 2.5 hours isn't that bad..since he's 20 i'm guessing he can drive so i'm sure you'll see him on the weekends and in the summer..hope i helped

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Well ... me and my bf have been together for sometime now. Actually about 4 months. The thing is though it seems longer. When we're apart for like just the weekend, i feel like i shouldn't miss him the way I do. I'm trying to figure out if I should be falling for him as hard as i am. Don't get me wrong I love him to death and i want to be w/ him for as long as we can last. I just feel like we might be rushing into stuff way to fast. He's who i lost my virginity to and i wanted to with him. But was it too soon? I need help, is 4 months okay to be thinking I couldn't live w/o my baby? Or am i just wayyy to attached? Plus Im only 15 w/ a 16 yr old bf.

well it's awesome that you found seomone that you love so much...but i think your getting just a bit to attached to soon..but it's normal..just be careful

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Me and my boyfriend had sex 4 or 5 days ago, he didn't cum but wen he pulled out to check if everything was ok the condom was broken. Im worried that i may be pregnant due to pre-ejaculation, even though we don't think he ejaculated at all. There was a white liquid in the condom and i am debating on what it was, lubrication or pre-ejaculation??....I have no symptoms and was due yesterday. My period isnt regular but has only been REALLY late once. What do you think I should do? Are we over reacting? PLEASE REPLY IM WORRIED!!!!!

if your period was only due yesterday then don't worry about it..mine is late sometimes too..if your period doesn't come in the next week then get a pregnancy test just to be safe..but i don't think you have anything to worry about.

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I don't really know if this is considered "love life" or "friendship" cause it's kind of both. Anyways, I'm a senior in high school, and I'm not really one to go out and get guys attention, or talk about them all that often. I mean I certainly think about them as often as the next girl. But anyways, one of my friends is totally boy crazy, she's into about every guy she meets, but the guys never really like her. Maybe it's because she's so obsessive? Anyway, i always get stuck with all the guys liking me. Not that it's a bad thing, but just i always have to hurt them when i tell them how i feel because often times the feelings aren't mutual. Anyways through this my friend becomes really close with all the guys since they have something to talk about. I don't know if i'm jealous or what, i guess it just kind of hurts that i lose all of my friends to this. Any suggestions on what i can do to maybe change this?

talk to your friend..if she really is your friend then she'll understand how you feel

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okay i really like this guy like Alot and we were talking durin the summer but kinda stopped cause we go to differnt schools and all so it wasnt working and now i still have feelings for him and all but we agreed to atleast wait till we can drive which is in a month or so but how will i know if he still likes me or wants to still make it work? i dont want to come out and be like do you still like me cause im not that forward with people but what are some ways i could tell him with out making it obvious

Ask him if he's dating anyone. If he says no then say me neither. He should get the hint.

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my bf is wonderful. I care for him alot...i don't know about love..but i care for him alot. The thing is, whenever I am with him, like at the movies, or at zoo lights, i love it when we just cuddle. I feel so safe when he has his arms around me and i just sleep on him, or just relax on him. I am not really that much into kissing. His best friend is my guy friend and when i talk to him on the phone, he says that my bf tells him that he likes me alot alot but he wants to kiss me more. So i went to the movies with him yesterday and we saw King Kong. It was like 3 hours. For the first two hours we just cuddled. I couldn't bring myself to kiss him for some reason. I kept on getting texts from my guy friend saying kiss him now, do it now..so i made out with him for like 10 seconds, then i went back to cuddling. is it so wrong to just want to cuddle? i don't understand what is wrong with me, why can't i bring myself to make out with him for a long time?

there's nothing wrong with not wanting to make out. I have a lot of friends who don't really like kissing. That's ok. Just tell your boyfriend. He'll understand.

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I have pimples here and there. I have tried like almost everything. Proactive doesn’t work for me so don’t say that! Pulse half of you just say it because everyone else says it works because you just want a good rating. I need any home remedies or anything I can buy. I have oily skin btw if this helps! Plz what can I do??

i'm not exactly sure what you should use. You should ask a dermatologist. I have really oily skin too. I use this thing called acne-free. Proactive doesn't work for me either but this does. You can find it in wal-mart. Also don't keep changing soaps or facial cleansers cause that actually makes you break out more. Find one thing that works for you and stick to it. Hope i helped.

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hi im 18/f and i dont have a boyfriend at the moment...its been almost a year...and i was wondering if anyone knew any ways of getting...pleasured...alone(preferably in the shower) please no descriminating comments--im desperate!

thanks.

go to www.mymasturbation.com

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How do you put more than 8 people in your top 8? I've saw people do it before but i just dont know the code or how to do it. THANK YOUUU!

i have a top 17..i don't know what to go on exactly but you can go on my site and on the very top left corner is says make a custon friends space..just click that my site is www.myspace.com/what_do_u_care

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ok so my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year and i love him sooo much. lets just say were really serious. but hes really moody, and im sure alot of guys are but sometimes he gets extreme. sometimes he gets so mad and tosses me around.. and when i try to hug him he gets really mad, and tells me to slapp him really hard.. like he wants me to hurt him. but of course i dont want. after he goes through his little phase he starts cryin and feels super bad. its only happened twice & very recent. but i get really scared. what should i do? part of me thinks hes bipolar, but i love him so much and i know he loves me to. wat should i do? im sorry this is so long but i really need help with it thank you soo much!

well i think you should try to talk to him about it. If that doesn't work then you should definetly tell someone. Try to get him some help. He could be bipolar and if he is than he needs help. I hope i helped.

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