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Q: I am going to the beach and I was wondering what some cute but quick hairstyls would be can anyone help?

pig tails - two braids - or one braid - hair half up - hair half up in a bun - a loose bun - take two peices of hair twist it and tie it in the back - clip your hair up.

Q: so a guy from work (we are just friends) asked me to the movies tonight and i talked to my stepmom and she automatically said no because hes too old for me and she doesnt know anything about him, and i told her she could meet him and everything
im going to be 17 in september hes turning 19 tomaro...whats wrong with that?
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Parents are so odd. I dont kno how to answer this question because Im in the same situation only he is 19 and im fifteen. the best thing you can do I guess is just try talking to your mom tell her that he is only 2 years older and she can meet him. Maybe have him come over your house to hang out someday so she can feel comfterble with him and then go out to the movies? thats all i kno but
if you want to talk just give me yur IM or email or something and ill try to help more!

Q: So, I was talking with this guy and I'm 15 and he's 16. We were planning on doing it because, I thought, we were basiclly dating. Today, I found out he had a myspace and apparently he has a girlfriend he never told me about or mentioned. I saw the comments she left him saying how much she loves him and then his replys and they were from today. I know this means he's basiclly an ass and I shouldn't be with him or care for him anymore but I really hurt. Should I just not answer his calls and have nothing to do with him anymore or should I confront him or what should I do? Should I tell his girlfriend that he was planning on having sex with me? (I've never talked to her before) Someone please help me before I lose my mind.

yu should ignore his calls dont ever talk to him again no one deserves to go through something like that. Some guys are very imature. I say yu tell his gf about it also.

Q: i was rapped--twice.and i was telling my cousin about it (online) and her sn is sord of like this perverted (but we were cool) kids sn..and i ACCIDENTALY IMed him insted of my cousin..so he knows all about my rape. he now hates me..and i tried talkin to him but hes being rude and wont talk to me and if he does its an insult. then he IMed me and was like,"im ganna tell everyone" and went on his away message and it said " (my name) GOT RAPED!"im soo upset..my friend offered for her bf to beat him up..but hes not answering his phone or anything.. (2 people know about the rape)..WHAT SHOULD I DO??!!
anything will help at this point

love always and forever
sam

I kno this probly isnt the best answer but id have yur friends bf beat the shit outa of him. Sweetie I was raped to and if anyone is going to mock that yu were raped then they deserve to get the shit kicked out of them. Its not right. people did it to me and they got what they diserved

Q: I have applesauce for AIM but if you see a font color that you really like from someone else's profile, how can you copy the exact same color so it's your default color. And I'm not talking about a color that looks like it, I mean the exact color.

Im sorry sweetie I dont kno.

Q: well im going out with this guy.
and i have been wanting to DATE him for about 2 years now. and now that i have him ;; im kinda bored b.c when i was wanting him. i always had somthing to do. and now that i have him i feel like there nothing else to want so what can i do now.
the relationship is amazing its just.. you know werid b.c i got everything i wanted and i feel like theres. nothing else to want. and now i dont know what i should do?

ouh my gosh your just like me. I always give up when I get what I want. Honestly sweetie if you wanted him for this long there must be reasons why. Do fun things with him cuddle with him be sweet with him do romantic things. You guys will build a relationship and you will WANT him for ever. You do have something to want. You should want your relationship to last. Just keep thiings interesting doing different things adventuros things or just hang out and watch a movie.

Q: mainly for guys

Last monday my friend wrote "i love you" in german on my assignment book. (when i got to my next class i had another friend translate it) so the next day i wrote a letter asking him if he really felt that way cause he likes to play jokes on me. and he said yes and asked me out. i told him i'd give him an anwser tomorrow (which is tomorrow) i am gonna say no cause no offense hes not my boyfriend type and kind of ugly. how do i tell him no with out recking our friendship? i want guys advice cause i want to know the least hurtfull way to do it. thanks, i'll give 5's

Guys are sometimes weird in this way. I think that if you just tell him you dont feel like having a relationship right now that he will understand and just move on. Just be nice and continue being regular friends like him. Eventualy he will just go back to acting like friends to.

Q: my friend asked the guy i like to go w/ me to this thing and yesterday she was like did u talk to her he said no and then she asked him if he was gonna go and he said i had to ask him myself my thing is tho im soooooooo shy and i kno i can ask but im scared! not necessarily of rejection just scared in general of whats gonna happen cuz im a really cautious person and you know how they say throw caution to the wind? well not that easy for me is it ok to be scared? im so stressed over this i dont know waht to do please help!

sweetie he said that yu have to ask him first
which means hes basicly waiting for yu to just
ask him! so all yu reall yhave to do is just ask
and he wont say no because he already basicly
said if yu ask hes going! so dont sweat it ask and then go to this thing with him! it should be fun and maybe yu guys will hit it off really well and something could happen!

Q: hi my name is julie and this guy at my school grabs my ass every once in a while. do u think that is ok? he is kinda hott!!! do u think that is a sign of him liking me? cause i actually kinda like it when he does that is it ok or is that harrassment even though i like it?
julie

If yu like it then I guess let him do it but. I dont think he actualy like likes yu. Last year I would have thought the guy liked me if he grabbed my ass but now I know that they are grabbing it because they have a physical and sexual attraction to you but nothing else. If there was something else he would respect you and not do that.

Q: ok i know i have wrote to ya'll before about me being worried about my period but now im really worried. i have only gotten my period once because i am 13 and it first started in the last week of October. i bled for 2 & 1/2 days. now it is the 2nd week of march and i havent seen it sinse october. is something wrong with me. my friends say that i shouldnt worry about it because it will be eregular but it had been almost 5 MONTHS! no im not pregnant because i havent had sex but the day that i did get it i was masturbating but i know i didnt pop my cherry because i bled for 2 and 1/2 days. do you think i cut myself or something? anyway please help if your can and dont give stupid answers!
i rate high for good answers!

it doesnt start being normal until youve had it about five times

also were you sexualy active before this?
did you have sex nd that day start bleeding or the nest day?
if so that could also be why

Q: Im thirteen years old and I have this guy that asked me out a couple days ago. He good looking to me and hes like kinda big but not really fat. I said yes but alot of kids think im weird for liking him. Anyone have any advice what to say to him?

theres only one sentence that NEEDs to be said

FUck what people think. what do YOUU think and feel?

If you like him YOU stay with him its you and him no you both and the world..

its your relationship your feelings .. dont let peopel feel for you

Loves

Q: ive had my period for a year now. is it normal that im getting it every 2 weeks? please help! im kind of scared < 3

no its not normal.. go to your doctors they will most likely put you on a medicine to make it come less often. my sister was having the same problem.. i was to but it just went away for me. it might not for you

good luck!

Q: approximately a month ago my Boyfriend and I were foolin around and while we've never had sex we got a little carried away... to sum it all up he ended up cumming on my butt- we tried to clean it off as soon as possible but technically it is possible that some could have slid down to my vagina... does anyone think that I might get pregnant- I was off my birth control and havent had my period for two months (always been screwed up without my birth control) but he never penetrated me- what do you think?

It is very possible. Actualy I am having to do with a pregnancy scare right now also. I suggest you either tell your nurse and she might be able to pregnency test you in school and it can be confidential or if you have a pland parent hood around you go there. it is ALL confidential so no one will know not even your parents

Q: I just started dating this guy a little while ago, and I like him, but it's so hard to talk to him. He's really sweet and I really do like him, but we can't ever have a conversation without awkward silences. Should I continue to go out with him and hope things get better, or should I just break up with him? Thanks.

WEll if you really like him then sweetie you should deff. stick with him! Think before you go out things that you could talk about that he would be intrested in as well as you. Tell yourself you WONT let there be any aquward silences while you are with him.. TEll yourself over and over and when ever there is quiet keep the conversation going!

If you try it will work and you guys will get closer and sooner or later it will come naturaly..

Hope i helped

Q: I have been with my boyfriend with my boyfriend since, but I broke up with him like 2 days ago. I still love him! He cheated on me, but
I think that was my fault. I really miss him, but friends told me to just ignore him. I don't want to! I want to go out with him....what should i do?

first off hun if a guy cheats on you it is NOT your fault.. and if you go back to him that is just saying to him he can do it agin! I would really hate to see you get hurt because of a guy! I really think you should greatly concider finding a better guy that will not cheat on you. TRY HARD because Ive been there and I always just went to a guy that was WORSE!

good luck hun

Q: Well this is my first time babysitting by myself w/ younger kids. I have done a little 6 year old with my friend, but now i have a 2 year old girl and a 4 year old boy. Im sorta nervous b/c i just saw when a stranger calls! lol. So my question is: is there anything i need to know before i go? How much to charge, emergencies, cautions, questions to ask the parents? ill rate! thanks so much!

Questions to ask parents -
1) there bed time. 2) if they take medicane. 3) if they are alergic to anything. 4)what foods can they eat. 5) are they aloud to watch tv.

if you know anymore questions you should ask them then ask them.

When I first started babysitting I would get nervous and not know what fun things to do with them. The key thing you HAVE to remember when babysitting is to be outgoing and not like quiet and depressed. Let them have fun, have fun with them, and all that jazz.

911 is the most important help number..

GOOD LUCK!

Q: theres this dance at schoo and these two girls who like me im afraid are going to ask me to dance with them.i really rather wouldnt dance with them but i want to go to the dance. any advice to help me avoid them?

Just simply say "i dont feel like dancing but thanks" or something like that.. it shouldnt hurt them unless they are dramatic

Q: what are those like, bumps, on the inner "lips" of your vagina, is there something wrong? is it normal? should i see a doctor? ive had them as long as i can remember, but im still not sure...

well I dont think I have those so I think you should either ask your nurse about it or go see your doctor and tell them of your concerns

Q: Okay, yesterday I found out that if I don't get a siciatrist (sp?) to see me by next week, then I will have to live with somebody else. I mean that is totally impossible for me and I know that my mom wont let that happen. I have anxiety and if I have to leave her then I will just die! But I know she wont let that happen to me, so I'm not very worried. But my mom is having a nervous breakdown! She is just lying in her bed crying and she says that she is sick and she is like freezing, she has like 3 covers over her and she is still shivering.
I am just really upset for her, so does anyone have any ideas on something I can do to help her? Maybe make her feel better?
Thank you so much!

make some hot chocolate turn on a movie and just lay down with her.. tell her everything is ok hold her and tell her you love her! Hold her so your body heat goes on her and so she also knows you will always be by her side and her yours..

Tell her about how much you love her and everything she has done for you!

i think this will help her stop crying and make you feel better also.

Good luck I pray for you and your mother

Q: where can i find a cheap computer desk

Do you have a salvation army, or a good will near your house?

That is always a good place to look!

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I'm 17 years old and in the few years i've lived upon this earth I have been throug many and most things that are possible to happen. I wish to ilve my life helping others, this truly brings me happiness. Feel free to ask whatever you wish and ill do my best to satisfy yu with a decent answer.