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my friend asked the guy i like to go w/ me to this thing and yesterday she was like did u talk to her he said no and then she asked him if he was gonna go and he said i had to ask him myself my thing is tho im soooooooo shy and i kno i can ask but im scared! not necessarily of rejection just scared in general of whats gonna happen cuz im a really cautious person and you know how they say throw caution to the wind? well not that easy for me is it ok to be scared? im so stressed over this i dont know waht to do please help!
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sweetie he said that yu have to ask him first
which means hes basicly waiting for yu to just
ask him! so all yu reall yhave to do is just ask
and he wont say no because he already basicly
said if yu ask hes going! so dont sweat it ask and then go to this thing with him! it should be fun and maybe yu guys will hit it off really well and something could happen!
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hey, well you dont have to ask him in person! ask him by phone or AIM. that should take awya some of the stress and scared feeling. its perfectly normal to be scared. cait♥
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Ok I know asking a guy to hang with you is thee scariest thing on Earth. So you know he is going to say yes so don't worry to much. Try distracting yourself up to actually asking him. If it is to hard to ask, try a note or text message, not as good as in person but it gets it done and once you do it once it won't seem to scary anymore. Try just thinking in your mind you are just asking him to hang like you would one of your girlfriends, a casual thing. Good luck hope you can do it! (my friend once told me the worst thing that could happen is he says no way i would rather clean a toliet. i know you aren't afraid of what he would say but thinking of something funny sometimes helps.)
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Ok well I know that from experence that asking a guy to go ANYWHERE with you is really HARD and not to mention SCARRY!! Yeah what you need to do is look your best ,and build the cofidence and think about what you are going to say to him before hand. Once you know what is going on SHOOT!! Ask him well I was wondering if you would do something with me?? If he says yes then be happy and jump up and down (not in front of him) lol... but if he says no thanxz then say ok, walk away and act like nothing really ever happened between the two of you. Being rejected takes a toll and makes you wanna cry but keep your kewl and someone will be YOUR prince charming, maybe not now but sometime soon!! Hope I helped!!
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Trust me, I understand what you mean about the whole, "not easy to throw caution to the wind thing". I am really cautious also, and I get stressed out over things like this.
Unfortunately, I can only tell you that sometimes you have to just stop thinking about it so much. Bring it up casually instead of charging right to the point. If he didn't say "no" outright to your friend, that could be a good sign. Maybe he's just nervous and needs to hear it from you that you wanted to know if he would go to the thing.
It's fine to be scared, or nervous over something like this. If you really like him then you may just have to try and get up the courage to ask him out. Otherwise, you may miss the oppurtunity and have to question yourself about what COULD have happened.
I know I'm making it sound easy, but I know it's not. I'm just trying to help you see what could happen if you don't do something now.
If you need to talk, I'll be there.
<3 Maureen
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