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I'm a 13 year old boy and I don't have a girlfriend when mostly everyone does. I like some of the girls at my school do not think they like me as much as I like them. How do I get the girls to like me?
I'm in texas by the way. (link)
The boy I like got me by flirting a lot. Always comfurting me, reconizing my emotions. ALWAYS ALWAYS making me laugh. Hes not the hottest boy but hes got the best personality. He is sweet to those he cares about like me but a jerk to other people. He pokes girls and tickles them a lot. Good luck!


okay well there is this coldstone ice cream place that is coming in town. and i sent in an application and i got a call back saying you have an "audition" on thursday.. well if any of you have worked at coldstone could u tell me what to expect.. or any other advice. thanks! (link)
Well I have never worked there but they are always happy and singing when you give them a tip so maybe walk in singing some song. I am trying to think of a song they song for some reason I think they song the Snow White song HO HO its off to work we go. So that might be a good way in to walk in mumbling the tunes. Hope you get the job! Good Luck!


how do i get my crush to stop crossing my mind every other second, litterally. its distracting me from my social, and school life. i know things wouldnt work out and bla blah but i just need to know HOW TO GET HIM OFF MY MIND??! its taking over my life. thanks. (link)
Try to like surround yourself with friends, and a lot of other activities. Don't let yourself have like free time. When you are doing like something where like you are just doing nothing and you have a lot of time to think, think about other things like mulitpictaion problems. Make up problems in your head complicated ones and try and solve them. Its challenging and distracting and if he does come into your mind just come up with something anything else. If you like a certian tv show think about the hot guy in that show but only for a little while. After a while he will fade away and you will be able to study more easily again. My best friend is going threw this exact same thing right now. Good luck. Don't ever give up maybe he is ment to be on your mind. But good luck.


k, theres this dude and hes like... SUPER hot. But hes making my grades go down cus i can't focus on anything but him. He has a gf and theres only a few weeks left of school, so thats how long i have any chance of getting him cus he problly wont ask me out ova summer break. so ya, wat do i do???

Ex's and Oh's
-brittany (link)
Dear So Hot's Lover,
Keep your hopes up, but study more. Instead of distracting yourself by thinging of him pay attention to your homework and in class. Try going to the library at lunch to help yourself get more done. Also listen to your wonderful amazing smart beautiful talented best person ever friend Kayla. She knows everything, so listen to her. And give her a 5! Have fun lover girl get smart. Love ya!
XOXOXOXO
The wonderful amazing smart beautiful talented best person ever


Hi. I'm not sure if this question should go under this topic or not. But anyways, I'm 13/f and never been kissed. (yeah, I know yall are laughing) I heard that usually on your first kiss that you end up kissing the guys nose/face/ect. anyone have any tips so that won't happen to me? Cause that would be really embarresing. (sorry its such a dumb question) (link)
Just stay calm, and keep ur eyes a little peeked at first so you can see were you are heading to lol. And it isn't a stupid question. And you should be proud not to have kissed yet. It is a good thing, not a bad thing. HONESTLY.
Best Wishes.


I used a tampon yesterday; and after inserting it, I flushed the cardboard applicater. ( The package said to do so) But today, the applicatior is in the toilet, unraveled, unbroken down, and the toiled won't flush. Am I not supposed to flush it? I really don't wanna tell my dad about this, hah but what should I do? (link)
Ya I asked my mom before I did that and she said DO NOT FLUSH IT. So the package lies, you are not supposed to flush it. Just tell your dad, don't risk breaking the toliet mostlikly it just needs to be plunged. Next time wrap it up in toliet paper and throw it away.


i need to eat heathly because i need to lose weight in less than a month, plz help me what should i eat? (link)
It low low low fat foods. Like foods that their daily perenct is very low. The lower amount of fat the lower calories. If you are not putting in extra fat you can burn more fat. My dad did this and lost like 30 pounds in a month. I am doing this. Just watch what you eat. Oh and my dad didn't exercise at all. So add some excersise and you could lose more. But be careful and remember not everything works for everyone. Best of luck to you.


my school does assigned seating for lunch period. somehow, the past two times they've assigned new table groups, i've sat with one of the same girls. the entire time ive had lunch period with her, i've never seen her eat more than an apple, or occasionaly she nibbles on one of those 100 calorie packets. when i've asked her about it, she always said she's already eaten, or she's not hungry. she isn't a skinny girl, and she doesn't seem to be losing any weight. still, this doesn't seem healty. i'm not sure what to do, or if i should do anything at all. please help! (link)
Well she might be on a strict diet. A real one. And the foods she eats are more things that she can only eat at home like it has to be cooked. I think you should leave her be. People with eating disorders don't want people they don't know very well talking to them about it. Or she may just not like eating infront of people. I say leave her alone unless you notice a major weight loss in a short time. Good luck to you and her.



ok so this is part of a im that me and my bf had:

cutisammy:i think we should take somee timee off..
jeffinthe313:nope.
cutisammy:wut do you mean no? you cant just say no
jeffinthe313:i mean if we break up i will kill mi self so no
cutisammy:umm..sorry that you feel that way but uhh i really think we should have a break
jeffinthe313:bitch if you break up with me ill kill u then me..so dont fuckin think twice!
jeffinthe313:r you still breakin up wit me?
cutisammy:i g2g


woah. he like flipped out on me and he never did that before..i dunno what to do and im not goin to the po po (unless i really have to so please dont say that i should!)

ill rate 5s for anything!!

mucho love

oh yeah and my sn is CutiSammy and his is Jeffinthe313..lol just so you know! (link)
I think you should not take this lightly. Him saying he is willing to kill you and himself is not something to shrug at. If you don't want to go to the police because he has a temper problem or jokes a lot then you need to talk to him in a very crowded place. If he continues to be serious, tell your parents let them handle it. They are adults they will be able to look at this situation with a clearer view. Don't take him lightly it could be your life. But definetly do break up with him, after talking to him. Find out if he is serious or not first. Best of luck to you!


Why does it seem like that teenagers do bad stuff like smoking, drinking, drugs, and stuff like that when they get stressed out? (link)
Well from past expirence, I noticed it isn't only because they are stressed. It is peer pressure and wanting to fit in. My best friend did it all to be know. She was a nerd in 6th grade always wanted to be more, 7th grade started letting lose. She then started all of that bad stuff and ever since she can't escape it. She has a reputation and is very well known all around school you say her name and people finish with her last name and a bad comment. In my opinion it is more about fitting in not stress.


I lovee my current girlfriend soo much! SHe has been gone for 10 days on vacation with her parents to Canada. Last night I had two friends over. One is an ex who I am still good friends with. The history on us? It was a short 1 month thing. The classic friends giving the 'somethin more than friends' thing a try that didnt go well.
Well me and her were laying on my bed and my friend was next to us. Her body was not close to mine..but i was resting my head close to her and my hand was on her shoulder. I was extremely tired about to fall asleep. Is this cheating in some way to you? I mean i have other friends that are girls who will rest their head on my stomach while playing video games..and it is absolultey nothin romantic about it because we are strictly friends and both have different love interests and 'types.'
My ex thinks it was nothin..but should i tell my gf about this? If she ever found out she would flip out because she is extremely sensitive on the topic of me and my ex. She finds it odd we hang out because we are exes. *keep in mind its not like i hang out alonnne with this girl* I have a big group of friends kind of and we hang out together kind of thing.

well..do i have anything to feel guilty about? (link)
If I wear your girlfriend I would want to know. I think you should tell her. Explain there was nothing ment by this and you weren't alone someone else was there. Tell your girlfriend you didn't want to hide this from her because then it would seem like you should be guilty like you did something wrong. I don't think you need to feel guilty but you shouldn't hide it. It will haunt you then. It wasn't cheating tho.


i was wondering if anyone has used the veet bladeless razor set and if they have does it work and were u statisfied with it? (link)
I used it and it worked very well for me and tons of friends, only problem is we all got theses really weird patches of red bumps on our legs. They would itch and burn at the same time it was really strange. BUt on the shaving level it was the best product I have tried.


i got this pink green and white tote bag at aeropastale, and i was just wondering if it would look retarted if i used it with clothes that didnt match it. does it matter ? i mean, its just a bag, right?
thanks xo* (link)
Well if I wear you, I am a purse/tote bag fanatic anyways I match everything shoes purses and clothes. I think it matters. So if I wear you I would wear white, skirt and pink top to match the bag. (the bag sounds super cute)


ok im 13/f and one of my friends have been "messing around" lately but i wont have sex with him without a condom. the problem is my mother stil thinks im a virgin. i dont know how to get birth control or condoms without my mom finding out. in the area i live in there is only 2 small gas stations around which both carry condoms but i have a feeling my mom would find out about me buying them, i wouldnt be so worried about her finding out if the guy was 16. i have had sex with him before and ended up missing my period for 2 months! are there any ideas on how to get protection?
please help soon! i rate well! (link)
Tell they guy that you won't go all the way without protection and have him go get it. I know the whole world will tell you this but, my bff has had sex once before and other things, anyways she ended up telling her parents because she got caught smoking and told her dad that her other friend had sex with her boyfriend and then told him about herself. Anyways you having sex hurts everyone around you. I was so upset to find out she did it. I am not trying to stop you I just want to make sure you know even if you are physically ready mentally I don't think you are. Are you ready to have a baby? Are you ready to tell your mom your pregnant? Are you ready to lose this man when he says he will help you raise a child? I know that this is all just a possiblity but it is a big possibilty. BIG. So just be ready. Best of luck to you.


Ok well my boyfriend and I have been going out for a year now. He says that he loves me and wants to be with me forever!! But the problem is is that he is a sweet kind loving boyfriend when nobody is around and when he is with his friends he acts all Mr.Big Shot and treats me like a dog or dirt. I kind of feel like a booty call to other guyes cause thats all that they seem to do, but when I am with him I don't feel that way at ALL!! I don't know and it is starting to bother me. I have had talks with him and he says that he will stop,... but it seems that he never does!! SO SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Ok, my friend had this same problem. Sweet boy, not so sweet around his friends. Sometimes boys have an apperence they have to keep up. But it is not ok for him to treat you this way. Tell him that if he does this again you will not hang out with him and his friends. It isn't fair to you. I hate to say this but if he continues to do this I think you should dump him. You are too good to be treated like a booty call. Best of luck to you.


ok there is my bff fo life friemd jaime and she lieks me and i like her but im not sure what to do cause i havent been in a real relationship in awhile so im nervous.....i also want to remain friends so idk if i should date her.....but i like her shes the best person ive ever met....but i dont want to lose her...wat should i do...? wat should i do/
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Well me and this guy were bffs and we both liked eachother and I waited for him to ask me out, and he never did something always came up, everytime he was about to ask I was upset or something and we just never could get to it. Eventually we gave up and with that our friendship went out the window. For awhile we didn't talk much, now we our back to talking everyday, I think we would have been better going out and breaking up then doing that dance. I say ask her out, once friends always friends. Good luck.


my friend asked the guy i like to go w/ me to this thing and yesterday she was like did u talk to her he said no and then she asked him if he was gonna go and he said i had to ask him myself my thing is tho im soooooooo shy and i kno i can ask but im scared! not necessarily of rejection just scared in general of whats gonna happen cuz im a really cautious person and you know how they say throw caution to the wind? well not that easy for me is it ok to be scared? im so stressed over this i dont know waht to do please help! (link)
Ok I know asking a guy to hang with you is thee scariest thing on Earth. So you know he is going to say yes so don't worry to much. Try distracting yourself up to actually asking him. If it is to hard to ask, try a note or text message, not as good as in person but it gets it done and once you do it once it won't seem to scary anymore. Try just thinking in your mind you are just asking him to hang like you would one of your girlfriends, a casual thing. Good luck hope you can do it! (my friend once told me the worst thing that could happen is he says no way i would rather clean a toliet. i know you aren't afraid of what he would say but thinking of something funny sometimes helps.)


Does anyone know why my cat hates me? She is a seven year old main coon. Everytime I pick her up she gets really mad and doesnt stop meowing very loud. Is this normal for a main coon? Or should I be holding her differently? I hold her on my hip, like a baby, but that is just the way Ive been holding her for all of her life, and it does not seem like it would be uncomfortable to her. But sometimes she will come up to me and rub against me but the minute I put my hand out to pet her she like hisses at me. Does she just not want to be loved?!? (link)
Well, i also have a cat and I have noticed as cats get older they get needier and meanier. My cat reacently passed he was also about 7 and he was very sweet but got mad easily. The way you are holding your cat sounds comfurtable for a baby not a cat. Cats seem to like to feel your heart beating makes them feel safer, try holding her against your chest, also some cats just don't like to be held. Others like to be free and will come and lay on ur lap one minute but when they feel locked in they get upset. Your cat may not like this postion anymore because of her age and her like bones may be like uncomfurtable in this position because they are more brittle. Hope some of this made sense and helped. Good luck with your cat.


this girl i like, i found out she had a boyfriend recently. should i just give up? should i wait maybe they will break up? or should i make a move, maybe she will go for me instead 8*). or should i just be friends and juss in the future maybe it happens it happens. thanks (link)
I wouldn't hope that she would leave him for you because if she does then she will mostlikly be a drifter and just leave you for someone else. Just wait it out, hope for the best that they break up. Good Luck.




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