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Did i cross a line?
I lovee my current girlfriend soo much! SHe has been gone for 10 days on vacation with her parents to Canada. Last night I had two friends over. One is an ex who I am still good friends with. The history on us? It was a short 1 month thing. The classic friends giving the 'somethin more than friends' thing a try that didnt go well.
Well me and her were laying on my bed and my friend was next to us. Her body was not close to mine..but i was resting my head close to her and my hand was on her shoulder. I was extremely tired about to fall asleep. Is this cheating in some way to you? I mean i have other friends that are girls who will rest their head on my stomach while playing video games..and it is absolultey nothin romantic about it because we are strictly friends and both have different love interests and 'types.'
My ex thinks it was nothin..but should i tell my gf about this? If she ever found out she would flip out because she is extremely sensitive on the topic of me and my ex. She finds it odd we hang out because we are exes. *keep in mind its not like i hang out alonnne with this girl* I have a big group of friends kind of and we hang out together kind of thing.
well..do i have anything to feel guilty about?
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You seem really nice but it seems like it's nothing so if I was you I wouldn't even tell her she will get mad and stressed out over nothing just pretend like nothing happened.& don't feel guilty.
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If I wear your girlfriend I would want to know. I think you should tell her. Explain there was nothing ment by this and you weren't alone someone else was there. Tell your girlfriend you didn't want to hide this from her because then it would seem like you should be guilty like you did something wrong. I don't think you need to feel guilty but you shouldn't hide it. It will haunt you then. It wasn't cheating tho.
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If it was nothing then I wouldn't say anything.
Why possibly hurt her over nothing.
Now, if you are feeling guilt about it...maybe you are denying some feelings of your own?
Something to think about. :)
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You really didn't do anything wrong.. You should tell your girlfriend before someone else tells her just in case she will start thinking you lied and cheated on her..hope I helped
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klc23
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I would tell your current girlfriend.
If she finds out from someone else, it will be a differnt story, and she'll be upset that she didn't hear it from you.
Also, explain to her that it wasn't romantic.
If she ever does anything like this, you can't care, though. Otherwise you're hypocritical.
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hey, thats not cheating. dont feel guilty cause theres nothing to feel guilty about. i would tell her that you hung out with that girl and other friends at the same time. i wouldnt mention that you layed her head near her or w/e you did. because its not important. if she finds out explain it to her. cait♥
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That definately isn't cheating, so don't feel guilty. You're just good friends with your ex, and you don't have any relationship besides friendship with her at all whatsoever. If your girlfriend would get mad if you did this, simply don't tell her. What happened happened, and you can't go back in time to fix what you did, not that it was bad or anything. If you feel guilty about what you did, then don't do it again. If you feel like it's cheating, don't get too close to your ex. Just imagine that your girlfriend is there. What would you do if she was? Would you still get close to your ex? I'm glad that you thought about your girlfriend before going further, and that you were concerned enough to ask a question about it on this site. That's definately good boyfriend material.
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No, of course not. You didn't cheat, not in action and not in thought. No need to confess something to your girlfriend when you did nothing wrong, especially if it will only upset her.
Confessing this non-cheating event will do nothing but feed into your girlfriend's insecurities and make both of you miserable over something that didn't happen anywhere but in your imaginations.
The real problem here is that your girlfriend seems to think that your behavior is inappropriate. Have you made it clear to her you disagree? Do you plan on changing the way you deal with female friends because of her feelings? You should be able to talk with her on what you think is okay, not with your ex specifically, but with all the other female people in your life. There might need to be some compromise, but in the end she's going to have to have some faith in you.
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Hi
I think the fact that you are asking this question...gives you your answer.
I don't think you "cheated" on your girlfriend, but the fact that you knows she would disapprove and be upset, means you did something wrong.
Whether or not you tell her is up to you...was it an isolated incident? Sometimes a little white lie is ok.
I think you need to ask yourself one more question. Do you have feelings for your ex-girlfriend? I think you still do. If you didn't, you wouldn't have thought twice about it...just like with your other friends. It's bugging you, because in your heart, you were feeling something more than friendship..even if it was just at that moment.
Always remember to do what's right for you. Take care.
Brenda
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no i dont think u have to feel quilty! i mean it was just friendshiply right? well yeah but i wouldnt tell your gf about that whole situation i think she would be jealous so just act like it never happend!
good luck =)
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I'ts probably best to just be honest and tell your girlfriend about it. Because, if she finds out from anyone but you she'll be twice as mad as she would be if you told her. Just be sure to make it clear to your girlfriend that you were with other people and that you only have feeling for her. Good luck!
♥ Lydia
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