about

Ookay, so let's start. The name's Lydia. I'm 14 but a lot of people think that I'm a whole lot older? I'm a freshman in highschool. I loove giving advice and the idea of helping people. So, feel free to ask me absolutely any questions you may have, I can probably answer most of them.



I don't get embarresed easily and I really don't care what you think about me. So feel free to say whatever you want to me. I won't care at all.



Music, my friends, my family, and photography make up my life. End of story.


I hatehatehate labels. I think that they're just a cheap, stupid way of giving bitchy, annoying people a reason not to talk to a person and get to know someone. I will NEVER label anyone.



Feel free to IM me anyytime. My screen name is lydiadance09, yeahh i know it's wicked gay. I'm usually on. But I would prefer if you ask me there, just because I usually have a lot of conversations going and it gets a little chaotic.



ask away, loves. ♥

advice

i REALLY want to die my hair dark brown. Right now its a dirty blondish . The only problem is my mom wont let me . I have tried convincing her but she says im 14 and i dont need to at my age.But I really want to . Is there anyone who ran into this problem when they were about my age and whatd they do to convince there parents to let them die it . Or does anyone have any ideas of what i could say to convince her . Thanks && ill rate high for anything that will help. !

you should introduce the idea of using a temporary dye. most wash out between 8 and 10 shampoos. i tried this with my mom and using temporary dye is what convinced her to let me dye my hair
♥ Lydia

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Is it possible to block a call from a Verizon Wireless cell phone?

If you mean blocking the number so they can't call then try calling Verizon. If you mean blocking your number so it shows up as a private number on the second party's phone, then press *67, then dial the number.
♥ Lydia

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I read about a type of crunch called the Jackknife. * You put your hands be hand your heads and your legs straight out then bring you body up and your legs/knees to your face * and I read that this is a brutal but very effective excersise and it really helped several girls get that washboard stomach. Has anyone else ever done these and what type of results did you get?

These style of chrunches work great if you want great results, and fast too! But, they can put strain on your back and neck. Good luck with your chrunches!
♥ Lydia

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ok well i am getting tired of my hair style..and im thinking of cutting it into a cute style..i want it like a lil above my shoulders. does anyone know any websites that show cute hair styles?? if so thanks!

you should buy this magazine- Sophisticates Hair Style Guide. It has litterally hundreds of styles in every issue. Here's their website (Again, the magazine has tons of more styles)--http://www.sophisticateshairstyleguide.com/

Hope that helps you!
♥ Lydia

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My best friend, we can call her H, just told me she was bi, and now has a girlfriend. Now don't get me wrong, i have no problem with her being bi, it's just i'm soo weirded out, because 2 months ago, she was grossed out about people being Bi, and said she'd never be it. Now yesterday she was confused if she was bi or not, and today shes "sure" she is and she has a girlfriend.

I'm just so weirded out by it, and i don't know why.

Any ideas what could be my problem, it's kind of sad i don't even know what i'm feeling, maybe this situation was the same with someone else? if so, please help. Thanks.

Your friend is going through a very akward time in her life. She's confused, and trying to find herself. Right now, what she needs is support. As best friends, you should always support eachother, no matter what.
It's very understandable for you to be weirded out by your bestfriend being bi. You're going through a major change right now. In a matter of time, you will get used to your friend being bi. If you want to talk about this more feel free to ask me another question or IM me.
♥ Lydia

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ok i have this friend named Gen.i've been friends with her for about 4 years. we use to do everything together because my parents were literlly gone or to busy for me. anyways, she says i get angry over everything. i let her read a poem of mine and she said " i dont like it." i got upset but didnt say anything then shes like" you always told me to give truthfull anwsers" i then ignored her afraid to say something i'd regret. then today i was in a hurry, i got my lunch and she was standing their and because my hands were full i asked her to sign me out so i could finish a project. she said "no" i asked "why?" she said it wasnt her job. and when ever i ask a question she ignores me, but she says she didnt hear me. and the worst part was that i told her i found a website called www.castingcall.com. i could fill out a sheet and maybe get a small acting job in detroit. she said it wont work. the only reason i wanted to do it is because i love to act and she got a role in the school play and got stuck being a student director. and while were working on the play she talks to another girl instead of me when i have nobody to talk to. and worst of all her sister says rude things to me a lot and she doesnt say anything. i am sorry this is VERY long but i dont know what to do. i like her shes like a family member but in the past year i dont even what to talk to her. and i go to her house every morning . what should i do, thank you for reading please help

You should have a serious conversation about all of this with her. Tell your side of the story and let her know where you're coming from and then let her tell hers.
Sometimes, when you spend this much time with a person you just need to take a break from eachother for a week or so.
This happened with my bestfriend and I. We took a break and now we get along just like we used to! I hope that helps you.
♥ Lydia

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okay so im 13/f and i have a problem. im seriously BUTTLESSS. and i mean it. abercrombie and hollister jeans like are all saggy on me...

and no i dont wanna STUFFF my butt haha but what are some foods or something that will make it bigger...

i already have big boobs. just no butt...and its not for the guys or for my appearance.. its for me.. and im not trying to make this funny..

just it kinda is.

thanks in advance for having the guts to answer this. =]

There is no certain food that is guarenteed to make your butt bigger. Everybody's body works differently and distrubutes body fat differently. Instead, try some exercises that will tone your butt muscles, that should make it bigger.
♥ Lydia

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I lovee my current girlfriend soo much! SHe has been gone for 10 days on vacation with her parents to Canada. Last night I had two friends over. One is an ex who I am still good friends with. The history on us? It was a short 1 month thing. The classic friends giving the 'somethin more than friends' thing a try that didnt go well.
Well me and her were laying on my bed and my friend was next to us. Her body was not close to mine..but i was resting my head close to her and my hand was on her shoulder. I was extremely tired about to fall asleep. Is this cheating in some way to you? I mean i have other friends that are girls who will rest their head on my stomach while playing video games..and it is absolultey nothin romantic about it because we are strictly friends and both have different love interests and 'types.'
My ex thinks it was nothin..but should i tell my gf about this? If she ever found out she would flip out because she is extremely sensitive on the topic of me and my ex. She finds it odd we hang out because we are exes. *keep in mind its not like i hang out alonnne with this girl* I have a big group of friends kind of and we hang out together kind of thing.

well..do i have anything to feel guilty about?

I'ts probably best to just be honest and tell your girlfriend about it. Because, if she finds out from anyone but you she'll be twice as mad as she would be if you told her. Just be sure to make it clear to your girlfriend that you were with other people and that you only have feeling for her. Good luck!
♥ Lydia

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I've benn trying to find a girlfreind for ever and when I'm almost sure that the girl I'm trying to get involved in a relationship backs out. most girls i know and treid to get a relationship with only see me as a realy good friend. why? what am i doing wrong?
Help me please...
I'm 17 and never had a girlfreind before!

I'ts all in your approach. Just try to branch out, talk to more girls, and flirt with them! I guarentee you thats all that you need. Good luck ♥

Lydia

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well currently it's spring break && im feeling like its summer all over again. I'm not an only child, i have two older sisters who have lives an hour away from my house. I live with my mom and her boyfriend and my dad and his girlfriend live like 20 minutes away. ALL during summer, i'm home alone. A lot of people take advantage of the fact that their mom stays home or that they have sibling to live with. At least they have somehting to do, I'm home alone all summer long from 7-5 :(. I feel like its summer and this is one of the reasons i DONT like summer, im bored and lonely, which makes me sad and i get sad alot and i hate being sad, HELP.

I have a very similar situation. I'm also home by myself all day, for the whole day. Try to contact a bunch of different friends and make plans for the week. That way you wont be home alone nearly as often and you wont be bored.
♥ Lydia

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i have known my friend for 12 years now and we do everything together,she has recently got a boyfriend and is completely leaving me out. im always with her cos i have had trouble at school so shes my only real friend there,i feel completely alone.
Shes ok somedays but other days she will plan to meet me at lunch and then never turn up,its really upsetting me and i dont know what to do! nicole jane, 13

if your friend is ditching you for her boyfriend you need to talk to her. just sit her down and tell her how your friendship is very important to you and it hurts you when she doesnt show up for your plans...if shes a true friend then she will realize that friends are forever and boyfriends come and go. hope that helps!
♥ Lydia

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i just got some wedges. the kind with the ribbon that you tie up the leg. i was just wondering, should the bow (after you tie it) go in the front or back of your leg? thanks.

i have a few pairs of tie-up-wedges. i think that it looks the best if the bows in the front.
♥ Lydia

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Ok, theres this boy in my 4-H class, and he is sooooooooo cute, and funny, and seems nice, but I just cant talk to him! Please help me out, tell me, what should I say? Please answer!

try to find out something that your have in common and then just go for it! or, you could try using a classic conversation starter. if you see him after class say-umm i need to make a call and i dont have my phone one me, can i use yours? i hope that helps!
♥ Lydia

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OK so there is this guy and he's really sweet and nice and funny and cute. But, he's like too mice and too funny. Well, the other night we were texting and he was like you are the only girl for me and you are so perfect for me. He was like I miss you sooo much and then he wrote LYL (love ya lots). Yes I like him, but we aren't even going out! And there is this dance at his school and he has to bring a date and he wants to bring me! That's just so not my style. I am more of those crazy, wild, hyper, love to havea good time girls. How can I make him see that? How can I make him see that it freaks me out when he says that? And how can I get out of going to that dance?? Thanks in advanced!

maybe you should just call the guy and tell him that helping a guy ditch a girl isnt your style and that hes moving a little bit too fast. hopefully if you just ask him to slow it down he will respect your feelings. =]
♥ Lydia

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Ok i was wondering does jergens natural glow work good...im gonna use it but im scared that i will turn orange. i was just wondering like how much you apply and does it give directions in the box..?
i kno i sound stupid but this is my first time trying a tanning product
thanks

i use jergens natural glow and it works great! just be sure to buy the one that was designed for your natural skin tone and make sure that your rub it in very well.
♥ Lydia

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Does anyone know why my cat hates me? She is a seven year old main coon. Everytime I pick her up she gets really mad and doesnt stop meowing very loud. Is this normal for a main coon? Or should I be holding her differently? I hold her on my hip, like a baby, but that is just the way Ive been holding her for all of her life, and it does not seem like it would be uncomfortable to her. But sometimes she will come up to me and rub against me but the minute I put my hand out to pet her she like hisses at me. Does she just not want to be loved?!?

i had a main coon cat at one point and it was exactly like that. it might be that your not holding her right, or she just might not like to be held. remember, animals have personalities just like humans.

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HELP!!!! i have horrible sunburn what do i do to make me feel beter i can't move i have been crying all day cause it hurts so bad i can't put clouths on unless i scream help me plez thanx

I usually think that it helps to take a nice cool bath. and, when i get sunburn i buy maximum strength cool aloe I.C.E.*. (it comes in a blue bottle and the background is sparkly) it works great on the most severe sunburn!
♥ Lydia

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Okay so I am 14/f and will be graduating from 8th grade this year. The only thing is i do not want to go to my graduation because i dont want to have to walk infront of all the people, this is because I have Cerebral Palsy. It is a disorder that cause tight hamstings and makes me walk ver different from others. I am very self consious of this. I want to be a part of graduation but walking on stage and down an aisile(sp?) really acres me. I know that other should not judge me but. I just really dont know what to do any advice would help.I also have a big problem with stage fright and public things such as this ..if that means anything.

I know that its hard for you to overcome something like this. but, im sure your classmates will have a great deal of respect for you if you do decide to walk. i have stage fright too and i hate public speaking but im learning to get over it by subjecting myself to it. i hope that helps =]
♥ Lydia

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I used way to many minutes on my cell phone. 40 minutes with my boyfriend, 18 minutes with this kid whos like, inlove with me (that manages to keep a conversation going) + the little 3-6 minutes calls.

I don't know if I'm going over or not. But I just don't want to get my phone taken away. I'm only going to tell my home# to boyfriend.

Okay, so got anyideas on how I can lay off my minutes?

depending on your carrier, you can check how many minutes youve used online. but instead of using your cell phone, have people call your home phone or, with your boyfriend, plan to meet up with him to have a face-to-face conversation

♥ Lydia

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hey, i used to be the former leader of my clique at school. then for some reason the people that i used to lead became retarded and started acting dumb. so i have a new group of people now, but everyone is pretty much individuals. like i wouldnt be able to boss them around. basically they wouldnt let me lead them. what should i do.

being able to boss people around isnt the key to a good friendship. the people in your new group want to think for themselves, which is a very good quality. just be their friend. all make decisions together.

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