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I'm tired of men telling me im too good for them.....how is someone too good for someone? i have a level head, i stopped partying at 25, im 31 now..... i have no kids, a good job and im still single....wth...what do men want? (link)
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The real question is what do you want?
Be the best version of yourself!! There is nothing more attractive than a person who knows who they are. Have fun and take a chance! Go on dates you never know. Sometimes we tend to go for people that are not good for us and the person you end up falling for is someone or a type you would least expect.
Lastly stop looking . Work on you, enjoy life and feel really good about where you are right now in your life. Things will fall into place.
Good luck to you!!
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I'm a 16 y/o born female..
I did have a self label of bisexual, and gender fluid. Now, I'm just... Q. (Questioning)
I am more attracted to girls than guys. If I see an attractive guy walking down the street, of course I'll think, "Wow, he's pretty cute!" Same thing with a girl.
However, I am NOT sexually attracted to men. I cannot imagine myself having any sort of sexual relations with a man.. but with a girl, I can.
For the future... well even now.
I can see myself as more of a man. My height is kind of holding me back. I'm 5' 7" ish, and I see guys who are 6' and taller.
I prefer dressing as a guy, and it kind of upsets me when I'm out with my mom wherever, and a person says, "Can I help you two ladies with anything?"
I try making my voice deeper, and I wear a binder from GC2B. I've been thinking about having top surgery.. and maybe even taking Testosterone.
I just want to feel comfortable in my own skin.
What does this make me??
Does this make me transgender?
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It is possible however it seems like it's going to take some more time for you to figure things out.
Try to find some support groups online. Facebook may have some you could always crest an anonymous profile and join so you can hear about the journey of a Transgender person to see if you can relate.
Good luck to you!
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I've been going to public school since kindergarten (I'm in eighth grade now), and honestly, I'm frustrated by how little we actually learn at school in comparison to the amount of "busy-work" we do. I only have a few classes where I actually feel as if I'm learning anything - the rest are seemingly pointless. Would homeschooling be a good option? And if so, are there any online learning programs you would recommend? Also, is it a good idea to start in the middle of the school year or should I wait until next year (ninth grade)? Thank you!! (link)
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Sounds like you are not being challenged enough in school.
Maybe you can speak to your parents and have a conference with a counselor . It's possible you can take some test to determine where you need to be. A lot of schools have classes that will challenge you more if not possibly a new school.
Homeschool from what I know has to follow a particular curriculum so you may be learning the same things although I am not 100% sure.
The best advice I can give you is to talk to your parents and speak to your teachers at school about testing your aptitude.
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Hii.. :) I have problem with myself.I dont love myself.I have lowsel estem.I wouldnt say im fat and i wouldnr say im think i would say im chubby(actually im 157cm and i have 50 kg). There are days when i think i look so good but then they are days when i dont even want to look at the mirror.Everybody expects from you to be perfect all the time any time.Its not imposible.I love fashion and dressing up and its my passion and i love reading..So i read a lot about that you cant love anyone else if you first dont love yourself and stuff like that.But then when i get my confidence there's society.Looking at girls who are famous and have money just by being pretty while i study all day and am still affraid about my future. Sometimes i want just to stop with everything,i want to seee how it feels to be famous,popular or being in centar of attention.I want to rest a littlebit from my rough days.I look at some girls in my school going around and comenting about who's what wearing and their hair. Why is that so much importat look at youself.Why gosssiping? Why? Mind your own buissnes...So in this world i feel like just one not important stranger. I feel like ill never find someone who trully loves me because who am i andnot because of my looks.Ofcours you first see look but i rather be with someone who is not that pretty but you can talk to..I am going from one thing to another. But my main goal is to get confidence and i dont know how.There is always something bringing me down,some voice telling me im not good enough.I ahte my height i may grown more bc im in my teenage years but i wouldnt be that much of a change. I may grow 3/4 cm and nothing more(Im now higher that my mum so i dont think ill grow more) and i hate my body. I have lots of pimples while my friends still dont have or have but just a little.everytime i try to lose weight nothing happend and i find myself always quiting after failures and failures..while other girls which are just bones and skin are like im too fat look at me and blah blah blah and then eveyone is like no you are perfect and blah blah blah.. I dont know what to do? Do you have any advice? :) ♥
Thank you? :) (link)
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First off you are normal!
I think all girls/women go through this at different times in their life.
You are young and you have to worry about other girls around you judging and whats hot and whats not.
Believe it or not your friends are probably going through it too! people dont always share. They put off that they are so confident and secure when in fact they are not.
for your skin.. try an over the counter facial cleanser and products that target pimples.
also sometimes pimples are triggered by eating sugars so try and cut back on that.
as far as your weight.. concentrate on eating healthy! its not easy and sometimes we crave bad things and when you dont beat yourself up over it! have your moment and get back on track!
once you start taking care of your nutrition, the unwanted weight will come off and in case it doesnt all fall off you are healthy and thats the most important thing!!
Ignore the celebs and the people in the magazines lots of times its all fake!! lately celebrities have been sharing the real photos and they wear a TON of makeup! they cover their flaws.
and work on loving yourself. Look in the mirror and say i love you!.
It may feel weird and it may make you feel emotional at first but it will get better. and just know that you are worth it! you wouldnt be here if you werent! xx
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While my boyfriend is eating me out, my legs and my arms and everything go tingly and I cant control my body and I want to close my legs. Am I about to orgasm or what? Why does it make me want to close my legs? (link)
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Its quite possible thats what you are experiencing or you are about to. Its a feeling that builds up and then you feel a sense of relief. The feeling of wanting to close your legs, well sometimes when something is too good its almost too much for us to handle. You can ask him to take it a little easy when that starts to happen and navigate from there.
Its hard to say for sure but its one of those things that you will know for sure when it happens.
Hope this helps!
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I'm a 13 year old girl and my friend, Max, invited me to a sleepover party in Sydney with another friend, Lucas. Us three slept in a separate room to his parents and where mucking around. Max slept in my bed cause he wanted to and we kinda half had sex. Lucas had gone to sleep and so yeah. Of course we didn't use protection. I can't get fat, and being serious, so about 2 weeks later (now) when I started to get a little tiny bump and felt quite sickish at times, I began to get worried. I haven't been able to take a pregnancy test so I don't know.
Also if I am pregnant how do I tell my mum?!? (link)
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You need to confirm that you are pregnant.
Since you are 13 i am going to assume this may be tough. Its possible you may have to share this with your mom before you know for sure.
If you are comfortable talking to your mom about other parts of your life hopefully she is open to hearing about this. Its going to be tough on her.
When you start this conversation you can maybe ask her not to yell or get upset at you because you are scared. Even though you ask her not to get upset its going to happen be prepared but hopefully she will remember how afraid you are and start to be there for you.
This is not going to be easy at all but its important for your mom to know and you should not keep this secret for too long.
Good luck to you. Everything will work out!
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Ok, all my life, I've been praised of how well I can do essays and novels. When I speak, people always listen and they believe whatever I say. Now here's the problem, I was bored and researched on ISIS, and I found out (from reliable sources) stuff that could really scare the crap out of the reader. Now I was really anxious so I posted my thoughts online and left a message ("I'd really appreciate an intellectual conversation on the matter"), after that everyone left me messages saying they're afraid and asking if they should be. Now this is really shocking for me, I knew people actually read what I write, but damn, I'm 16 and this crowd is killing me. Should I delete the post? I'm hesitating because of some insecurity building up inside me. Please help (link)
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Something tells me you are leaning towards taking it down.
I think if you feel fully confident and you can own it then leave it up. However if its too much for you take it down. You can always post a follow up in response to you removing the post. There is no win or loose here its what makes you comfortable.
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so ive been looking to the universe for this desire. ive been visualizing it the same way so many people have said to which is in first person. i feel insanely connected to this desire.
if i feel like i truely already have it and i feel so truely happy about having it physically in my life....... does that mean its manifesting???? (link)
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If you are feeling that way you are doing great! i cant say for sure but this is the key to manifesting. Dont forget to be grateful and keep that feeling going and never give up! your manifestation will come when its the best time for you to receive :)
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I just don't want anybody to move here... now if you are coming from a 3rd world country and come to America for better opportunities then I TOTALLY accept that, but I'm talking about all the freaky freakaloo's from Europe or British land or whatever who come here because they want to "be cool" and "become American". No!! you can't "become" America. You either are or you aren't.
Just don't move here! Why do I feel like this? Just hate Europe and everything not American.. (link)
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Its good that you are being honest with your feelings even if this isnt the best feeling to have.
Maybe you have had some bad experiences with people that are not American? Maybe the Media?who knows..
try and realize that regardless of our backgrounds we are all one.
Maybe there are lots of European people coming here thinking its cool to be
American like you said....but guess what? There are Americans in Europe doing the same thing!
I think in general there are people that are comfortable with their surroundings and there are people that want more or need a change.
Everyone from ever where goes anywhere they want.
So try and open your mind a little bit.
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I'm 16 years old, genderqueer (closeted).
This is a long story. Sorry.
About a year ago, I became friends with S, the concertmaster of my youth orchestra, and until ten days ago, we were gradually becoming closer. It has been a long and traumatic year for our group of friends, and that has made me seek emotional refuge in friendship more than I might usually. The simplest way to explain this trauma is to say that in May, one of our closest mutual friends died by suicide. (This friend, to whom I'll refer as B, was my stand partner in our youth orchestra.) And so it's been confusing and chaotic and terrifying already.
I realized in April that I had a crush on S, and for a long time I was pretty sure he was attracted to me too. In September, the youth orchestra season started up again, and it was really difficult to go back, as it was the first time we all were together in rehearsals since B died. My main coping method was talking to friends, particularly S. We tried to forget everything; S and I flirted a lot and were generally frivolous teenagers.
As time has gone on, things haven't become easy, but it has become easier to talk about it. S and I started talking about more serious things, like grief and music and our insecurities. I kind of tried to ask him out on Oct. 17, but it was way too public of a setting and thus ended really awkwardly. The weekend of Oct. 25, our orchestra had a run-out concert in another city, and on the bus, we sat together and talked the entire time. Since then, he hasn't talked to me once. I think I've scared him away by being so clingy; I think I've become too open too fast. Even worse, I get kind of nervous when we talk, and so I end up talking way too much and dominating the conversation. I feel bad and don't want this to be the end.
I want to stay friends with S for so many reasons. For one, I really like and respect him as a person and as a friend. It would be hard for me if our friendship was ruined simply because it would be a big loss, considering how good of friends we have been. We’ve known each other for a long time; it’s just that we were never close before a year ago. By “a long time” I mean three years, which doesn’t sound that long, especially considering that I’m a kid. However, our orchestra is a very tight-knit community, and you get to know people well without ever seeing them outside of the orchestra. The music business is really, really small, and everyone knows everybody. (For instance, the professional musicians who are now our teachers all know each other because they were in this same youth orchestra in high school!) Thus, it would be immensely alienating for me to lose my relationship with him. Lastly, it would be hard for me to cope, especially in addition to the grief with which I am already coping. I don’t want to lose any more of my best friends.
I’m going to see S tomorrow, at rehearsal. It’s actually a rehearsal for the beginning orchestra — we both volunteer. Since I’m already helping out, he doesn’t technically need to be there, and has been coming of his own volition. I have a few thoughts as to what I should do from here on out:
1. I could ask him tomorrow if I’ve made him uncomfortable, and apologize.
2. I could give him some space and not talk to him until he approaches me.
3. I could give him some space for a while (another week or two), then try to resolve things between us.
What do you think I should do?
Thank you, and sorry this was so long. (link)
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First of all do not refer to yourself as queer!
I understand why you said that but it has a negative tone and there is NOTHING wrong with being gay.
Own it! even if you are in the closet. There will come a time where the closet door will open and you need to be in a good place to handle your new life.
2nd I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Its tough losing friends especially that way. Make sure you take the time to grieve whenever you need to. Thats important.
As far as your friend...
to me it doesnt sound like you can wait. I dont think its a big deal to confront him and apologize. and you can ask him if everything is ok with you guys? and just let him know that you value his friendship and see where it goes from there.
Sometimes too much space makes things even more awkward in my opinion and this can be a quick conversation.
Good luck to you!! and remember to love who you are ! no more being queer ;)
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I am a 14 year old girl and my dad has always loved me a lot but just recently he started to kiss me on my neck and every once and a while on the lips, he also grabs me from behind and kisses me on the back of my neck.
I am not uncomfortable when he does it just makes me feel kind of weird I haven't told him about it and I'm not sure if I should or not I mean is this normal or no? (link)
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You need to tell your Dad that you love him but that you prefer kisses on your cheek.
This is inappropriate. If it doesnt stop and you need to tell your mom when he is not around.
If that does not help you need to mention this to an adult you can trust.
I am hoping and praying that this is not going in the completely inappropriate direction but just in case it is, you need to tell someone. Your mom first
pray that this stops and please dont ignore it.
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Help please I dont know what to do. I'm being blackmailed. I am a 19yr old male and she said she was 20yrs. I sent a nude picture of myself with my face in it to a girl on Kik and she said if I don't pay her money she would post it on Ellen show website and try to have her show it on CNN or something like. And ruin my life. She wants me to pay her $100 and if I do she said she would delete the picture. Im scared that she will post it and ruin my life. I can't tell my family because they would be upset at me and cause more issues. Please someone help me I don't know what to do. (link)
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Television shows are not going to post your photo.
The only place you have to worry about is Social Media. This is not allowed however is could slip through.
If you pay her do you really think she will delete it?
Maybe but maybe not!
Its quite possible she will keep black mailing you.
I would try being nice and maybe message her saying.
Unfortunately I do not have that kind of money.
I am asking that you delete the photo but if you feel that you cannot delete the photo remember this....
You will not ruin my life, in fact you will ruin yours!
People will see my pic laugh, or feel bad for me and move on but they will never forget the mean spirited person that posted the photo. and as you are trying to ruin my life I will let people know who you are and how you tried to black mail me. I will show the proof.
When you do good in life, good will follow you. When you do bad, bad will follow you.
This is what they call Karma and it is very real.
So think twice about "ruining " my life.
I would start to get comfortable with the idea that it may get out. Dont worry it will not ruin your life but Im sure you have learned your lesson.
Hopefully those words will get to her.
If you are spiritual say a prayer.
Hopefully she does not post this around.
Good luck to you!
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I've come to this because. The pain is greater then what's causing it ,I just WAnt some happiness not what she is doing. To me fuck it I got 12 hours before. I start the next chapter. Sorry. I just had to vent see u on the other side (link)
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please dont do this!
Your life is worth more .
How can you let someone be the cause of this? you are more important!!!
You are going to get through this just believe!
someone else is not worth YOU taking your own life.
One day at a time.
Sending you love and light! xx
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...of the Universe?????
Or is there not.......? (link)
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Facebook has alot of groups
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My sister has had a tough time recently. She got sacked but not through fault of her own. She doesn't have friends to go out with so she suggested we see the fireworks tomorrow night (every year Nov 5th here in England ) because she finishes her job then.
However my boyfriend whom I've not seen in weeks is coming to see me and we're planning to see the fireworks.
Neither knows the other wants to come. They get on to a point but I'd rather it be me and my boyfriend on a romantic date. However I really don't want to upset my sister as she has no one else because she doesn't make as much effort with ppl. We're twins incidentally.
What should I do? What I want or support my sis ? (link)
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bring your sis!! she really needs you now.
your boyfriend should understand and you can always be alone with him. Just explain to both of them and go from there .
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I have a date Thursday with a guyi have been dating for 2 years he wants to have sex but I don't know how to yell him I can't because I am on my period (link)
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2 years is a long time and time wise it doesnt seem like a bad time to have sex if you both feel you are ready.
However I cant help but think that maybe you aren't ready if you dont feel comfortable telling him about your cycle? Just a thought.
Its simple tell him its that time of the month. He may get frustrated which is normal but he should understand.
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My girlfriend and I recently broke up last month. Note, this was neither of our fault. Something happened with her depression, and she didn't feel the same about us anymore. So I didn't give up, after the breakup I consisted attempts of getting us back together, which ultimately lead to the exclusion of her life completely. This caused me to have minor depression, and major thoughts of suicide considering I cannot get back with the my one love, the girl who saved my life once before. I'm afraid without her I'm most certainly going to lose control as I have already lost who I once was. Please, this is my only chance. I need help to find a way to get her back. And please don't refer me to any kinds of medical help because I'm not ready to open up to that kind of treatment. I just need my one true love back, without her I can't go on. (link)
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I am so sorry you are going through this!
You are an amazing person for not giving up on your girlfriend however if she has moved on unfortunately you have to move on too.
Lots of times when we are in a relationship we get so consumed by the other person that we forget who we are with out that person.
I believe this is what you are going through .
We all need people but you have to love yourself and realize how important YOU are!
When breakups happen its a great time to find out who you are again and start doing things that you love to do!
This is important before you jump into another relationship.. Even if you are meant to be with your ex girlfriend again.
Here are some things to think about...
Do you want to be with someone that doesnt want to be with you?
If she took you back today...just because its something that YOU wanted.. How long do you think your happiness will last?
You love this girl so much because at one point in time she made you happy. You are not going to be happy for long because she is NOT going to make you happy because she is not going to be good to you.
Its normal to be depressed after a break up so dont expect this to go away immediately.
Just please take some time to work on feeling better.
You will find yourself again and once you are renewed you will attract an amazing partner.
Feel better and get some air! take a walk and enjoy your day! There are so many other things in life that you can focus on. Dont focus too much on the pain you are feeling.
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how do I talk to a boy or bus driver who keeps looking at me like every 4 minutes? I don't know what to do about this especially the bus driver (link)
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If this makes you uncomfortable , you should mention this to your parent or a teacher.
If you are referring to a boy your age it could be a number of things. Hard to answer that.
The Bus driver..kinda the same situation. i would definitely mention it to a parent or teacher in my opinion
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Ive been on the injection for a few months but then went off due to side effects so Iv started using triphasil in april until now november but i want to stop using it cause im not sexualy active anymore and im not planing to be for a long time..how long will it take for my system including my periods to go back to normal and will i be able to have children (link)
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Its best to ask your doctor this question but from my knowledge with Birth Control over all your cycles can start right away or it can take months.
You should be able to have children. Birth Control is not meant to prevent this.
Try to speak to the doctor that gave you the Birth Control if you can but you SHOULD be fine.
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girl, grade 8
so...i have a classmate lets call her S. i have another closer friend lets call her T. and T always teases me about the crush i had in grade 7. well not really teasing but just when hes around (lets call her M), T will like point at him or something to make it obvious that i like him. so recently T told S that i like M and i was denying it of course. to be honest, i still kinda like M but im just afraid of admitting because im pretty sure he doesnt like me back and i dont want to have tht awkward feeling when hes around. but well thanks to T, S told M i like him and M told me he knows that i like him. at first i was like who?? because i really had no idea but then i guessed it was S, and S messaged me, telling me that she told him that i like him. to me, i kinda know its her and i dont want to be mad at S so i just shrugged it off.
now theres 2 problems:
1) should i still be friends with S? do you guys think its worth it? i mean she apologised but i think it will be awkward at school.
2) i sent M a message saying "is it S that told you i like you" and he just seen it but didnt reply. although i denied to S earlier that i used to like M, i still kinda do. i want M to chat with me because i think i still like him but i just dont want to confront it. should i start the conversation or wait for his answer that i already know?
3) since i still like him but i lied to S that i dont, do u think i should tell S the truth? all i want is M to chat with me again.
thank you for reading this long rant (link)
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So sorry you are going through this!
You are probably feeling embarrassed and betrayed which is totally normal!
1 - S did apologize so unless this is something that they do all the time I would accept and move on. You can forgive but unfortunately you probably won't forget and its not such a bad thing sometimes its good to remember the type of person you are dealing with.
2 - Boys ugh!!! so difficult! He didn't reply and that probably hurt a little. I think you should let that go. He is probably feeling a little embarrassed to and possibly a little flattered. time will tell.
even though it will be hard just try to act normal around him. In time things will get easier. Its his turn now. He knows you like him lets see what he does with it.
3 - The truth is always best. You can explain to S that you were upset and you didnt want M to know. and apologize,
Keep in mind people make mistakes and unless your friend or friends are constantly trying to make you feel bad about yourself its ok to let some things slide if they are willing to admit they were wrong and apologize.
Good luck! and concentrate on feeling good about yourself! have a great day!
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