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boys/bus drivers looking at me
how do I talk to a boy or bus driver who keeps looking at me like every 4 minutes? I don't know what to do about this especially the bus driver
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Any boy riding the bus whom you want to talk to cus you want to get to know him is going to be in your age range. Your generation is forgetting how to hold face to face convo's because of relying on texting too much. Start watching older people to see how they talk to others for example. You did not state it bothers you. In fact, many a teen girl like the looking only by a guy because it verifys to her that she is definately attractive as a female and boosts self confidence. Looking isn't a crime as has been stated. Staring often and for long amounts of time isn't a crime either but it can be considered bad manners and rude. If this only happens on the bus with some boy and never inside school, why not satisfy your curiosity and ask him some questions. If you dont know each others names, start with that. An example might be, "Hi, I'm Anne. I couldn't help but notice you watching me closely, staring while I ride the bus. So its made me curious. Am I sitting in a seat you'd prefer to sit in, or are you wanting to become friends and talk? If its something else or you'd rather not say, I hope you'd try to not stare so much as its quite unnerving to me and I can feel it even if I am not looking to see if you're doing it. He knows you're open to talking, you're friendly but you've also given him a wake up regarding his manners and how its affecting you.
Any bus driver is going to be at least a graduate of high school or older. Typically, college students and older people. This means if you are interested in the bus driver because you feel attracted to him, don't go there girl. No wise male 18 or older is going to try to befriend at the least or even flirt or date a younger girl as that will land them in jail. If a male is willing to go after you, he is to be considered Very dangerous. But until a male sexually harasses you,, there is nothing to complain about and if looking were considered sexual harassment, then only blind men could not be prosecuted because all men will look at females if they like what they see, no matter if married or not, young or old, etc... And for that matter, women do look at guys too, married or not, young or old, because of our sexual wiring, we will respond to either wanting to look at the same sex or the opposite sex and that is not a crime.
As far as manners go, you do not have any duty to talk to a person simply because they stare at you. While I rode school busses, the drivers were usually college age. And I never knew a driver to attempt to talk to any students unless it was to warn them to sit back down or behave. No personal talk. In fact, I was in a youth group at church and noticed one day that my driver wore a cross so I asked if he was a Christian and he said he was, going to a certain Christian Bible institute in my area. In happened to be the same one an interm college guy from the same school was working with my youth group so I asked if he knew him. Learned his name and greeted him by name whend boarding the bus, otherwise I didn't try to befriend him and he didn't with me. Its okay to talk to a person and acknowledge their presence, especially if you see them daily as boarding the bus and if it feels awkward to you to say nothing. Say Hi at the least and smile or get the persons name, greet them by name and leave it at that. If you didn't word your question right and this was not your issue at all, please reword and repost.
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Myself, I'm not sure whether you mean how do you talk to them to to get them to stop, or how do you progress it further than looks, and get a conversation going? If the looks are unwanted, then ignoring them is the best bet. Since a guy won't tend to keep looking at a woman who doesn't respond in the slightest (with even a smile or look back) indefinitely. Even the thickest-skinned will realise "Oh well....ain't gonna happen" and give up. Don't look down in a shy way, then peek back to see if he's still looking. Very deliberately do something else. Check your phone for messages or emails, or just pretend to. Make like you're answering. Fake a call, and answer "Bye...love you" as though it's to your boyfriend? Just cross the road, or gaze out the window with fake interest in something (anything!) outside in the bus situation? You get what I mean? look neither concerned, interested or bothered. Like you hadn't really noticed at all, in fact. If it's the other way, well any reponse will be seized if he likes you and he's looking to see if you like him. Really! Loads of people worry about what to say, but if the other person is interested it doesn't matter a damn what you say. Even just a returned smile and an eye-contact held for a little longer will hit a spot which he'll want to, and try to develop. Even a dumbass comment like "Hi...err...nice bus!" will make his face a picture of happiness mate!
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I disagree if they're just looking or staring at you then they're not doing anything wrong.
You've not said your age but I'm guessing you're below 18. Teenage boys will look at girls I'm afraid!
As for the bus driver idk maybe it's not just you he looks at. Bus just because he's looking at you doesn't mean he likes you or that he's doing anything wrong.
With the boy ask his friends why he appears to be checking you out.
With the bus driver ignore it.Any suggestion to them that you think they have 'intentions' can be crushing and embarrassing. Of course if he does act in a sexual way tell an adult.
But IMO no need to go speak to someone just yet. Boys will be boys.
Are you sure you didn't post this because you want someone to say they probably like you? Because you were obviously looking at them or paying attention to them in your peripheral vision to notice they looked at you in the first place. Seen it alot on here!
In three words my advice would be: Just ignore it
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If this makes you uncomfortable , you should mention this to your parent or a teacher.
If you are referring to a boy your age it could be a number of things. Hard to answer that.
The Bus driver..kinda the same situation. i would definitely mention it to a parent or teacher in my opinion
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