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I'm 13 and I think I'm pregnant. How do I tell my Mum?
I'm a 13 year old girl and my friend, Max, invited me to a sleepover party in Sydney with another friend, Lucas. Us three slept in a separate room to his parents and where mucking around. Max slept in my bed cause he wanted to and we kinda half had sex. Lucas had gone to sleep and so yeah. Of course we didn't use protection. I can't get fat, and being serious, so about 2 weeks later (now) when I started to get a little tiny bump and felt quite sickish at times, I began to get worried. I haven't been able to take a pregnancy test so I don't know.
Also if I am pregnant how do I tell my mum?!?
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You need to confirm that you are pregnant.
Since you are 13 i am going to assume this may be tough. Its possible you may have to share this with your mom before you know for sure.
If you are comfortable talking to your mom about other parts of your life hopefully she is open to hearing about this. Its going to be tough on her.
When you start this conversation you can maybe ask her not to yell or get upset at you because you are scared. Even though you ask her not to get upset its going to happen be prepared but hopefully she will remember how afraid you are and start to be there for you.
This is not going to be easy at all but its important for your mom to know and you should not keep this secret for too long.
Good luck to you. Everything will work out!
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Before you do anything you need to make sure you’re pregnant. It takes a bit more than two weeks before a bump would be noticeable.
When you and Lucas had sex was it between the 7th and 21st day of your menstrual cycle. If it wasn't then the chances are good you were in a safe time of the month and you are not pregnant. Try and figure what time of the month it was for you.
If you had sex anytime between those dates it is possible you are pregnant. It depends how close to when you actually ovulated. Three days before and three days after ovulation is the time in which a girl can get pregnant for that is the life cycle of sperm and the egg.
If you had sex with Lucas between the 7th and 21st day of your cycle you need to get a home test kit. I don't know the laws in your country but if you have a friend that is 14 I believe he or she can buy one for you.
Put it in your purse. In the morning when you take your shower carefully unpack the test kit and follow the directions on the package and take the test. Once you have the results plus or minus, put everything back in the package and pack in your purse. It is summer where you are so you are probably not in school. Go to a mall or some shopping area and dispose of the test kit. If you are in school you can dispose of the kit at school. Best place would be the cafeteria.
Now if you are pregnant the best way to tell your mom is not to beat around the bush. Take mom aside from the rest of the family. Sit her down and just tell her straight out; "Mom I'm pregnant.
I don't know your mom so I cannot predict her reaction. She may start yelling, she may start crying. Whatever her reaction let her react to what you have told her. Then after she has calmed herself answer her questions truthfully.
Again I do not know the laws in your country. What I do know is at 13 you are still a minor and you may have to give in to whatever your parent decide regardless of your personal views. Meaning if your parents decide on an abortion you may not have any say since in the eyes of the law you are a minor and your parents are responsible for you.
In short before you do anything is to take a home pregnancy test. If it is negative you may still miss you next period from all the stress you are under at the moment. You could test again if you want. But stress is a major reason a women will miss her period.
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