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im so sick of hearing this
I'm tired of men telling me im too good for them.....how is someone too good for someone? i have a level head, i stopped partying at 25, im 31 now..... i have no kids, a good job and im still single....wth...what do men want?
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The real question is what do you want?
Be the best version of yourself!! There is nothing more attractive than a person who knows who they are. Have fun and take a chance! Go on dates you never know. Sometimes we tend to go for people that are not good for us and the person you end up falling for is someone or a type you would least expect.
Lastly stop looking . Work on you, enjoy life and feel really good about where you are right now in your life. Things will fall into place.
Good luck to you!!
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This may sound a bit crude but this may be what you are asking about. There really is not enough information to go by here.
Men at your age should be looking to settle down and start applying themselves to a career. Many are looking for a strong independent women. One who can be eye candy for the office parties who can flirt with the bosses but will also be a whore in their bedroom. They want a women they can bring home to mom who is someone mom approves of as a wife and mother to future grandchildren.
Frankly they are looking for a custom fit in an off the rack world. On the other hand a women your age is listening to her biological clock ticking. When she finds a man that fits the image she is looking for she is too quick to start planning the wedding. That or she finds someone that almost fits her image that she can love but he needs some rework. In this case she starts to rework him to fit what she wants in a man.
Not knowing you or knowing the type of men you are dating I can only point out what I know about today's men and women. My own son has been someone who is looking for that custom fit in an of the rack world. I finally convinced him to try one of the dating sites. After the third try it looks like I have a daughter in-law in the near future.
My suggestion is to try a dating site like Match.com. Besides my son, and I do not know which site he used, I know several of his friends and co-workers who have found their matches through these sites. You may also as you get to list what your are looking for and pre qualify those looking for someone like you.
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It may be that the men you are meeting aren't ready to settle down and commit to one lady. Although at 31 or older for a guy, this is the time they generally become ready for that. I happen to come across as a Miss Goody two shoes, someone guys feel they can't be themselves around. So it may just be your appearance and how you carry yourself that sends off a message that you are a prim and proper young lady and no occasional swearing, or sharing of their opinion or views, that you might not be lusty in the bedroom, and that you dont like partying or drinking.
What I suspect is that men think you may be too tame and no fun. Appearances can be deceiving and yet, men want a women who can be the prim and proper lady in public when the need fits but very adventurous in the bedroom. Basically, a gal who looks like an angel but is a very sexual sensual creature behind closed doors.
I dont know how you are finding these men. Perhaps a different plan is needed in finding Mr. Right. I used a dating site at age 50 to find my 2nd husband. I would have been content with a long term boyfriend too but i did make a list of what my needs and must haves are for a man. I was very specific. I told guys in detail who I was with my strengths and weaknesses up front, and also included a list of what i was looking for in a guy. This is much like having an objective when you go shopping for clothes. You need new bra or a new dress to attend a wedding and you will have criteria in mind as to what you want. Well, it needs to be the same for a guy. Just as a salesclerk cant sell you on an item you dont like, you are going to be picky about who you get as a guy. When you list the criteria a guy must be able to meet in order for you to be willing to get to know them better to even decide if there is chemistry or not to take him on as your new sweetheart, then it becomes a 'sellers market' as in housing sales, not a buyers market. You are selling yourself as all of us do in job interviews only for a mate. If you wait for a guy to decide you are right for him, it can take lots longer. You narrow down things by not making yourself easily available or 'desperate' enough to settle for less just to get a guy. That is not a winning move on anyones part. Subtly what happens when the guys are put in the position of having to 'apply' for the position of being your 'partner' is that you come across as very self assured, not a door mat, and having lots of self confidence. Self confidence is very attractive to men and tests have shown that when given a choice between average looks with self confidence, or the bombshell with no self confidence, mature men will always go for the self confident woman because they find that sexier. If you'd like to hear more about making a criteria list ahead of time whether to share with a guy the first time you meet him in public or to use in a dating site, let me know and I've give as many pointers as you need.
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