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i dont even know what im feeling
girl, grade 8
so...i have a classmate lets call her S. i have another closer friend lets call her T. and T always teases me about the crush i had in grade 7. well not really teasing but just when hes around (lets call her M), T will like point at him or something to make it obvious that i like him. so recently T told S that i like M and i was denying it of course. to be honest, i still kinda like M but im just afraid of admitting because im pretty sure he doesnt like me back and i dont want to have tht awkward feeling when hes around. but well thanks to T, S told M i like him and M told me he knows that i like him. at first i was like who?? because i really had no idea but then i guessed it was S, and S messaged me, telling me that she told him that i like him. to me, i kinda know its her and i dont want to be mad at S so i just shrugged it off.
now theres 2 problems:
1) should i still be friends with S? do you guys think its worth it? i mean she apologised but i think it will be awkward at school.
2) i sent M a message saying "is it S that told you i like you" and he just seen it but didnt reply. although i denied to S earlier that i used to like M, i still kinda do. i want M to chat with me because i think i still like him but i just dont want to confront it. should i start the conversation or wait for his answer that i already know?
3) since i still like him but i lied to S that i dont, do u think i should tell S the truth? all i want is M to chat with me again.
thank you for reading this long rant<3
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1. You should still be friends with that person but dial it down a bit. Don't be as close.
2. Do not start the conversation if he didn't reply to the last message because it seems to him that you might be desperate. Guys like to dominate girls. Act like you don't really care about him and that might weaken his dominance over you and he might even start the conversation first.
3. This part is really up to you. If you don't want to let anyone know then don't. But, if you like him, let S know. But then again, S already knew and blabbed about it. Do you really want to be embarrassed in front of your crush again?
Thank you for your time. I really hope this helped you.
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Even though she shouldn't have broken your confidence, it sounds like S was just being a good friend and trying to help you get your guy! Give M a little time to see if he responds to you.I hate to put this out there so bluntly but if a guy likes you(even an 8th grade guy)he will usually try to make sure you know...I am guessing maybe M just likes you as a friend right now and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Move on to other guys. Maybe once M sees that you are attracted to other guys besides him he might start to look at things a little differently...yeah, it's a guy thing! They always want the girl that's a little hard to get...
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So sorry you are going through this!
You are probably feeling embarrassed and betrayed which is totally normal!
1 - S did apologize so unless this is something that they do all the time I would accept and move on. You can forgive but unfortunately you probably won't forget and its not such a bad thing sometimes its good to remember the type of person you are dealing with.
2 - Boys ugh!!! so difficult! He didn't reply and that probably hurt a little. I think you should let that go. He is probably feeling a little embarrassed to and possibly a little flattered. time will tell.
even though it will be hard just try to act normal around him. In time things will get easier. Its his turn now. He knows you like him lets see what he does with it.
3 - The truth is always best. You can explain to S that you were upset and you didnt want M to know. and apologize,
Keep in mind people make mistakes and unless your friend or friends are constantly trying to make you feel bad about yourself its ok to let some things slide if they are willing to admit they were wrong and apologize.
Good luck! and concentrate on feeling good about yourself! have a great day!
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