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I think there's an issue.
Hey guys, I'm twenty one and my boyfriend of about six months is twenty three. My question is involving him ejaculating way too soon, as of late. I say as of late and my naming my question what I did because this hasn't been an issue the entire time we've been together. It happened for the first time about two weeks ago when we had sex for the first time in about three weeks (I told him I wanted to go on the pill before we did again, hence the three week wait); a few days after, I got my period so we didn't do anything for the next week. It happened for the second time last night, the day after I finished my period. He said he thinks it's because he's nervous about it happening now, so that's what he thinks about and then it happens.
I guess I'm just wondering what the issue could be since it hasn't been the entire time that we've been dating. I guess it could be because we haven't done much for a while since I wanted to get on the pill and then I got my period, maybe he got excited when we did do something again.
He gets embarrassed about it and he apologizes profusely when it happens and I'm not mad about it or get angry at him for it but if we can get over it and try to fix it so it doesn't happen again, that would be great so any advice or input is appreciated!
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I would have to say that subconsciously there may have been some thoughts in his mind that led to this. If you had no birth control before and chances were greater of having a child and not ready to have one, then getting on birth control should have had the opposite effect to free both of you up sexually to be able to enjoy more. H
e wasn't hoping to start a family right away, was he? Its the only reason I can think of why he might have this physical reaction, or afraid that after birth control, when finally ready, that it would affect your ability to have kids, which is not true.
Luckily there are exercises that can be done to stop premature ejaculation. Here is a site on line.
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He'll have to do most the work but at one point you can help be part of one method. It will take time so no instant result but if you keep at it, eventually he will have great control over it. Sex is enhanced because women can often go on to have many orgasms if her man can delay when he lets himself go, and do so only when he feels you've had plenty of time to enjoy. He's lucky to have a wonderful understanding support gal like you.
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