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Romantic date but sister wants to come
My sister has had a tough time recently. She got sacked but not through fault of her own. She doesn't have friends to go out with so she suggested we see the fireworks tomorrow night (every year Nov 5th here in England ) because she finishes her job then.
However my boyfriend whom I've not seen in weeks is coming to see me and we're planning to see the fireworks.
Neither knows the other wants to come. They get on to a point but I'd rather it be me and my boyfriend on a romantic date. However I really don't want to upset my sister as she has no one else because she doesn't make as much effort with ppl. We're twins incidentally.
What should I do? What I want or support my sis ?
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sit your sister down tell her she has to respect that you want date nites wit your boyfriend , and make a plan to have sister day together just you and your sister . twins shouldnt be together all the time , but sometimes , show your sister you will spend time with her soon.
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I know this answer is a little late, sorry for that. You need to tell your sister this and you need to tell her that she needs to make an effort to make friends. You can not carry her through life but you can show her how to carry herself. Explain to her that you need time with your boyfriend alone and that she should back off. Remember, it's not what you say, it's how you say it.
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bring your sis!! she really needs you now.
your boyfriend should understand and you can always be alone with him. Just explain to both of them and go from there .
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Your twins so there could be a solution you have not looked at. that might allow for the best of both worlds for you.
You of course invite your sister along because I'm sure losing her job is going to cause her to be at a low point, especially on her last day. Since your boyfriend does know her and his friends may know you the fact that you are twins might make it easier for him to fix up a blind date for her.
Explain to your boyfriend her problem and ask him to try and a buddy to be her date for the evening.
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Definitely, be a sport and invite sis along. There's only one fireworks night a year and since you point out she's a bit 'off' socialising at the moment then it's extra-nice to include her IN! She's a twin too, I see? Even more reason. Think about it, she was your sis long before you met your boyfriend. And (though obviously, I hope he is the one, and makes you happy.. for always maybe?) she might actually be your sis after he's gone? Not every boyfriend comes up to the mark mate! Sis is definitely for always. And there's not actually any competition or rivalry is there? We don't have a twin sister or a boyfriend, they can exist together. Losing a job (even if it's not your fault, or even if you weren't particularly fond of it anyway) isn't a great time or a great place to be. Family is family. Some times they drive you mad, sometimes you could cheerfully murder a sibling, but at the end of the day, if it came right down to it, you'd probably do anything for each other, right? Blood's thicker than water. Show some solidarity, in a genuine, warm and very tangible way!
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Support your sis you ll get enough time for romantic date.
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