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Last Update: December 8, 2015
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Now I'd like to start off that I have depression, for a few years now, I am 17/female. I don't know how this plays into this well enough or has little.
Anyways, for thepast month my depression has gotten hard on me, all the whileI've slowly detached myself from my boyfriend, and with trying to converse with him during those weeks has made him irritated from my lethargy and dealing with me, and soon I called myself off from him and became distant to him. My feelings just started to fade, feelings for him and also I couldn't very well identify my own emotions. It's gotten worse between us and before any of this problem I had made a new (male) friend. I had no intentions to have feelings for him but now they're starting to form little by little. It's all a bit too confusing. Now getting out of the hard hit of depression I had gotten now I'm trying to work it out, but I feel like I'm rejecting a bunch of things out of fear of what'll happen. My boyfriend is sweet, caring, and I'm completely comfortable with but then, sometimes he is just so messy and disrespectful to his parents, embarrassing and boring at times. And then with this other guy, through out my worst days, has managed to make me laugh, talking almost non-stop. While my boyfriend has made me feel pushed away, like what went on inside didn't matter, now all I can explain is "I don't know what's going on inside, I'm sorry" and its tearing me apart if its just depression dampening my emotions or if its legitimate, any of them. Thank you if you read all of this. (link)
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Dear, to get out of this confused state of mind you need to move on. You must admire the person who looked after you in times of agony pain and distress. You must have heard "a friend in need is a friend indeed". As far as you were under a state of depression your new friend held your hand supported you and kept you alive to move on in life. I truly admire him and I have special respect for him. If I was at your place I would never loose such a person at any cost. You are lucky. I feel that he will become the key in solving your depression issues. Don't be alarmed cuz every human being undergoes such state at some stage of life, its common. Lots of best wishes to you and your new relationship with your new fiend simply forget the past. Tc. I would be glad to know if this helped you in anyway. Thanks.
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I can't stand my life anymore I'm so depressed. I feel like my family hates me and everyone else hates me I just don't feel loved at all. Because of this I I ran away from home but then got caught and I'm annoyed about that because I just wanted to get away from my life and start over but now im back to where I started.. Me and this guy we were so close to dating but then suddenly he just friend zoned me and it really hurt my feelings coz he made me feel special and good about my self and was the only thing that made me happy in my life now I have nothing , I havnt gone a night with out crying my self to sleep somtimes I feel like I'm better of dead but I'm scared of death so I could t do that
How can I make my self happy (link)
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Dear sweet angel, being human is enough to make one happy but in your case you simply need to ignore every bad thing in your life and try to find the good things. You can never thank God enough for making you a perfect human I.e no abnormalities.
Don't ever think to end life its the best gift ever. You are still special and someone will definitely come in future to tell you this. Don't just rely on one guy. It's not the end of world.
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so in the few last episodes of the first season when Mary Margret was in Jail, what did she do about her teaching career, did she get a sub or something?
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Hahahaha by the way a great question. The script writer did miss to explain this part but don't worry its just a fairytale and she was not a real school teacher.
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I've been going through a recent complicated break-up. The thing is I kinda rejected him because I want to get my life back together first before being in a committed relationship. I wasn't able to offer my heart back in return to this guy who loved me so purely because I got scared that the moment I say 'yes' we'd be in a really serious relationship. And the thought of being in a serious relationship scared me. I got scared and I made a stupid mistake by talking to it with another guy friend. And it almost felt like I cheated on him, he felt like I cheated. And now he's not in love with me anymore and that it's impossible for us to be together again. Which hurt so bad.
I know all of that's kinda convoluted, but long story short, I'm hurt because I hurt the one guy who's never done anything but love me so purely and see the best in me by being a stupid and weak girl. What if he's the one for me, what if I blew the chance to be with my soulmate? What if I never meet anyone who will love me as much as he did? I can't get over the pain and the loneliness no matter what I do.
I know I've made a mistake too. But I'm not aiming to get back together with him, because he's already said it's impossible. Now he just wants to be friends with me because he knows we're really close and he doesn't want to lose that and he said that I don't deserve to be abandoned completely. What should I do to get over him and forgive myself? I'm really sorry it was really long. Thank you to anyone who will help. (link)
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Keep it clear. You have to get over it and by that I mean if you continue to stay with him you will never be able to get over it. So I suggest you ask him once again if he can rethink about his decision however if answer remains the same you better look forward to a new and different life without him.
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Years ago when I was around the age of 13 going on 14, I was friends with this guy (he was 17). We both had a group of mutual friends, so we camped out one night. Me and him were in the same side of the tent, and he started kissing me, which I was okay with, and we did other stuff, which I was also okay with. Then he asked me if I was a virgin and, of course, I said yes because I was, and I wanted it to stay that way! I told him that I was, and he said ''we won't have sex then'' and I said ''okay''. A few seconds later he put it in anyway, and I had no idea what to do. It took me a while to realise what was happening (I was a virgin, I didn't know what sex felt like!), and when I did I started panicking, I had no idea what to do, I thought it was too late to tell him to stop. So we ended up having sex, and when we eventually finished, I cried myself to sleep, and the next day I rushed home as quick as possible, not telling anyone. And the very next day I felt so ashamed of myself that I did it again, I slept with him, again. I've been beating myself up about it and I take my virginity very seriously, before then I had a purity ring! I started to feel very depressed after that, and I tried to kill myself. Every time I think about it I cringe, panic and cry. How do I stop thinking about it? Did I lose my virginity to him or was he taking advantage of me? Please help!! (link)
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Hard to digest but its clear that you have lost it and then you went back the next day again so I wont call it a rape.
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12 year old female. Crush on girl in my classes. I am in an LGBT support group cuz I'm lesbian. I know she's Jewish and we're having a potluck at a Jewish community center, she could totally be there! My chinese zodiac (I'm a ram) says I'd meet someone this year, and I KNOW she's the one! Not like the last girl I thought was the one who wasn't. No she isn't my type anyway but this one on the other hand !!!!! What should I do????? (link)
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Lesbian, for God sake how can u get this idea at such young age. I am shocked. You need to stop reading these horoscopes immediately and think about bringing some positive meaning to your life, I am sorry but lemme say again I am shocked.
Being Lesbian is not something you should be proud of. You are too young to follow these tracks.
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I always research my dreams as I am a big believer that there's reasons and meanings behind them. However, I keep having dreams of my ex boyfriend, it's most likely my subconscious mind because I do miss him, but the dreams are really odd. Not only is he in my dreams, but they are so weird. I have had 2 dreams of where I have seen a picture of him with another girl but the pictures are blurry so I can't make out who she is but then last night I had a dream of seeing a photo of him, his auntie and his dad, they all looked the same apart from him, he was old with a gray, stubbly beard. I've searched all over the Internet but I can't get an answer, can anyone interpret this? (link)
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One thing I know as far as dreams are concerned. Prophet yousaf (Joseph)PBUH had the miracle of dreams interpretation. He said never make up a fake dream and never tell your dream to anyone because if they predict it wrong then thats what the result will come out to be. So whenever you dream always say, it was a good dream first. Do not ask people to interpret for you and whatever interpretation they would give it would end up like that even if the real meaning of your dream was different. Wish you good luck and you had a good dream may it result good for you. Do also read the story of Prophet Joseph while he was in jail. You will get it on google.
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While my boyfriend is eating me out, my legs and my arms and everything go tingly and I cant control my body and I want to close my legs. Am I about to orgasm or what? Why does it make me want to close my legs? (link)
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Yup its pretty much what you thinking. As in some cases girls reach a climax while getting their butt muscles tight and bringing legs close is one of the way to tighten you butt muscles. Some girls do point their toes as well or by pressing their pelvis slightly up. All that matters is how you tighten up your butt muscles and you might be finding it easy by bringing legs together. Its a sign that you are about to orgasm.
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Hi there! Ok so I'm planning on making a YouTube account, and I need a creative, unique username. IT HAS TO BE UNIQUE! One of a kind. Because I would like to make Instagram, Twitter, etc. With the same username. I'm having a huge creative block right now and I really need someone else's opinion. I suppose it could include my first name if you want. It's Aislin. But if you can, keep my name out. Some examples of YouTubers with great names are Danisnotonfire, Amazingphil, catrific, etc. (Btw definitely check out their YouTubes, they're awesome!) lol I'm such Phan trash. Thank you in advance! (link)
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Aislinden
Catchme
Wildfire
Hit it as hitit ppl might read it as hi tit lolz
AL
Antibiotic
Chillex
Funfactor
Furious
evilEmpire
Funtastic
Ultraclassy
Lucrative
Myrules
Edge
Volcanic
Dailydose
Touch me not
Thunderbird
I hope this will open up.your brain a little
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I just wanted to thank you for being kind and replying to my little brother .if he'd would of read what you wrote I know he would of be typing this himself thanking you ,his question on this site explains so much in so many unanswered questions,once again thank you for the kindness
"taking my own life"
RIP (link)
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I dont believe it. Did he really commit suicide?
Omg and you got enough time to thank people here. Great dude. Surprisingly, its kind of hard to believe but if you saying so then may his soul rest in peace.
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Me and my ex bf hav been hanging out for a year and 6 months now bt then recently he just stoppd speaking to me things arent the same like they use to be ths week iv been texting him almost everyday i even phoned him once but he dont reply to my text and he didnt pick up his phone..a few weeks ago when i saw him he told me he likes being around me he just dont like how clingy iv gotten im not clingy and i dnt mean to be im just worried about him cz its been a week and i havent heard from him,hs never been so quiet before..he is online sometimes bu he dont chat to me nli when its important..did i push him away cause iv been bombarding him with texts almst everyday asking whys he so quiet if his alive and ok bt he just dont respond...am i clingy thats why he dont reply..what do i do..iv decided to back off and just give him space and see if he will show up agan or not..do you think he will show and talk to me again..im really concerned bt i dont want to annoy him and seem clingy..did i push him away...sometimes he would just randomly text me out of the blue but now i dont know,i feel like something is wrong and here i am sendn him text msgs constantly..he told me a few weeks ago his not keen on people anymore and he dont like people needing him in his me time and hs not keen on clingy..i tld hm it felt like it was the last time im ever gna see him and he told me no he dont think so unles its what i want so i said no i dnt want our friendship and stuf to end so he said it wont happen hes just been full of shit lately..but know it feels like all i ever do is be annoying and clingy and overthinking things it feels like im pushing hm away and that il never hear from him again or even see him..what do i do please..iv decided to stop textn him and just bck off and giv him space..mayb or mayb not he will show up.do u thnk he will?? (link)
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If you guys have had sex already then chances of him coming back are grim (less likely) however if you haven't then give him space and he might come back looking for you additionally if he does come back, do not cling on to him give him his free space and let him be the one clinging on you.
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I've come to this because. The pain is greater then what's causing it ,I just WAnt some happiness not what she is doing. To me fuck it I got 12 hours before. I start the next chapter. Sorry. I just had to vent see u on the other side (link)
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I wud like to tell u tht even in my life there were so many occasions where I wanted life to end but believe me ryt now when I look back I feel really lucky I dint do any stupidity. Forgive me to call it a stupid act. Time is the best healer and trust me once you are going to grow past this stage you will be calling these thoughts you have right now stupid too.
Its so easy to end life and someday everyone has to taste it one way or the other but let it come to you naturally.
Hope you will use yourself to be more productive to others and help people like yourself to fight against the odds rather than simply quiting. Bottom line Live for Others.
I would love to talk to you in future as well. You can contact me on my email id. catchafridi112@gmail.com
Wish you best of luck and best wishes.
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My sister has had a tough time recently. She got sacked but not through fault of her own. She doesn't have friends to go out with so she suggested we see the fireworks tomorrow night (every year Nov 5th here in England ) because she finishes her job then.
However my boyfriend whom I've not seen in weeks is coming to see me and we're planning to see the fireworks.
Neither knows the other wants to come. They get on to a point but I'd rather it be me and my boyfriend on a romantic date. However I really don't want to upset my sister as she has no one else because she doesn't make as much effort with ppl. We're twins incidentally.
What should I do? What I want or support my sis ? (link)
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Support your sis you ll get enough time for romantic date.
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I have a date Thursday with a guyi have been dating for 2 years he wants to have sex but I don't know how to yell him I can't because I am on my period (link)
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Just tell him you have been together since two years and still you cant tell him this its but a natural thing so he won't make a big deal out of it. The best thing you can do is not to have sex before wedding if you can. Think over it as 80% girls have 1st sex with guys but dont end up getting married with the same guy.
the data on period sex and STD risk isn't all that clear. While self-reported data does suggest that period sex is associated with an increased risk of STDs, more rigorous studies have not found as clear-cut results. Although I'm not convinced that anyone is ever going to put the time and effort into doing the research, it might well turn out that the association between STDs and period sex is more about the type of people who have sex during menstruation than the absolute risk of having sex while a woman is bleeding.
That said, if you're going to have sex during menstruation, it's certainly not safer than doing so during other times of your menstrual cycle, and so it's still a good idea to use condoms and take other safer sex precautions such as using appropriate lubrication... not to mention precautions to keep from getting blood stains on your mattress. Those things are crazy expensive to clean
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I just don't want anybody to move here... now if you are coming from a 3rd world country and come to America for better opportunities then I TOTALLY accept that, but I'm talking about all the freaky freakaloo's from Europe or British land or whatever who come here because they want to "be cool" and "become American". No!! you can't "become" America. You either are or you aren't.
Just don't move here! Why do I feel like this? Just hate Europe and everything not American.. (link)
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Haha read some history. America belonged to the red indians the real Americans (Natives) . British who fled from Britain because of n number of reasons came to America and were welcomed by the Red Indians but as its always the case with brits they started killing the red indians eventually killed them all and occupied their land and started to call themselve Americans.
So actually, the real Americans are long dead and the America now is basically brit breeds to start with but its a country filled with mix breeds.
Read some history and stop claiming America to be yours and stop hating people for nothing but Behold thats what your forefathers (brits) did with the native Americans so it rings an alarm here.
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I'm 17 female and for the past half year or so I've been a health nut. I plan on taking a course in health and fitness science in college. I guess this is kinda a two in one question sort of. Anyway, first off, my dad has been getting on my nerves. He's been pressuring me to eat junk food when I don't want it and claims he still "supports" me. I'm actually wanting to make health and fitness my life and all he's ever done is tear me down "claiming" otherwise. I even sat down and had a talk with him asking for him to stop trying to pressure me and he said he would stop. but did he? No. In fact I think he's gone worse with it. I want to know how to deal with him because he's been making me real mad. If I have a extreme craving and can't make a healthy substitute I get something but I'm not gonna just make myself eat something unhealthy when I don't even want it. Plus, just about every kind of sickness runs in my family and I would like to be the first one to be healthy. So please a little advice on that. And I would also like some advice on how to get a head start with health and fitness science because my mom said I would have to work real hard because it would be hard. So maybe some sites or something to be helpful please? Thank you all for your help! (link)
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Dear, your dad is the only dad I know so far who is pushing his daughter to eat junk food on the contrary parents push kids to eat more veg. However, important part is to find out why he is doing so. One reason I can think of is you may be skiny and if thts the case your dad might be wishing to get some extra fats on you to look healthy. If thats not the case then find the reason why he wants you to have it there must be a reason behind it and I am sure The reason won't be To get you sick or killed.
As far as part two of your question is concerned google 'mooc' and get registered online for the course of your choice scrolling through mooc list of courses.
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I'm in college and my dad does not pay one dime for my education, or anything else I need for that matter. My mom currently pays for everything and next semester, I want to get a job at school which will give me free tuition. If I do that, then I'll be taking care of my own tuition.
My dad, though, is C-R-A-Z-Y overly controlling and he's also got severe anger issues and is very intimidating. It's hard stand up to him or to tell him no to anything because honestly, he scares the s#!? out of me. He used to be physically abusive towards my mom which is one of the reasons they're not together anymore.
Usually when he gives me an order that I don't want to follow, I don't say no, I just listen to it and then do what I want to. However, he's taking his hovering over my life to a whole new level. He's been talking about actually driving down and COMING WITH ME to registration next semester to make sure I'm taking the classes HE wants me to take. I cannot let that happen.
He wants me to take a bunch of classes that I don't want to take. I'm a girl and he wants me to take weight lifting. I used to lift weights often in the past, but stopped because my muscles were getting too big. I didn't realize how fast muscles grow. I still lift weights once in a while to keep the muscle I have from turning to jello, but I don't want them getting any bigger. I have nothing against exercise, but not weight lifting as a class. It's MY body and I have a right not to do anything to it that I don't want to, especially something that I can't undo. I'd have those muscles for the rest of my life, they'd make me self conscious and paranoid that people thought I was a freak, and I'd have to maintain the muscle for the rest of my life or it'd turn to fat. There are other classes he wants me to take that I don't want to. Weight lifting is just an example.
He also wants me to take all kinds of classes that I don't need to get my degree. The problems with that are that it'd take forever and it'd be ridiculously expensive. I go to a private, Christian university and the tuition is crazy. ONE class there costs about a much as an entire semester of classes at my sister's university. I can't afford to just take classes for the heck of it. I'm racking up enough student loans as it is. I don't want to rack up a ton more taking classes just to be able to say that I took them and that I'm making myself more well rounded. It's irritating that HE'S not the one paying my tuition, HE'S not the one who'll have to pay off the student loans, yet he thinks HE can make me take classes that I don't want or need to take.
If I asked him to help with my tuition, he wouldn't. If I explained that if he doesn't pay a dime for my tuition, rent, food, or absolutely anything else, then he doesn't have a right to control my decisions, he'd disagree. He doesn't really get that if you don't pay for something, it's not yours. He is determined to control my decisions including what classes I take and I'm determined not to let him, but I don't know how.
What am I gonna do to keep my very scary, intimidating, ill tempered father with a history of physical abuse from controlling my decisions? What do I do if he shows up at my school for registration? My mom says I can register online, but what if I can't? And what do I say when I let him know that I registered online and didn't sign up for the classes he wanted me to take? How do I grow a spine and stand up to him once and for all? (link)
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Dear you waited too long before reacting against actions of your father and I understand it as its all because of fear. So its going to be tough at this stage. I can bet that he will not let you go alone for registration, he will be there and he will ensure that you join classes according to his wish.
I can think of two ways to solve this problem.
1. There wud be someone in this whole world your father respects, find that person and ask him / her to convince your father or do it yourself but only if some adult is in the house for your safety. Your arguments are quite strong you just need to put it up to your dad.
2. Talk to the the university and tell them the complete story and request them to re-do your registration according to your will the next day after your father has left doing his bit.
I would advise to be safe and do not engage with your dad when you are alone.
best wishes to you.
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So me and my ex brokeup 3 months ago and a month ago we stated talking all over again and say we love each other. but we talk like every other day so in these days thet we don't talk I feel unhappy, because all I do is waiting for him, to text me or call me. and when he does text me or call me,all we do is argue. a week ago I even thought about things that I shouldn't think anymore I was that Depressed.I told him that the best thing to do is that I'll text him so I wouldn't have to wait on him all day to text me, And he didn't text me back,and since then i haven't texted him and I feel so much happier and I'm getting back to the happy and fun person I was.what should I do because I have feelings for him but I don't think it's love. I know that he will call me soon and I don't know what to tell him help please (link)
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All I can say is that you should make up your mind. You brokeup earlier and still all you do is argue. My dear, you told him that you will text him so you wouldn't have to wait on him all day and then you texted him. His reply is still awaited.
Can you calculate your importance in his life by looking at this scenario. You need to understand the happy feelings you have now and follow them. They are guiding you towards the right track.
Long story short, its always good to find a person who loves you rather than a person you love.
Good luck. I wish you remain happy the way you are right now and I hope you know what's bringing you this happiness.
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What is four play? (link)
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It actually is foreplay not four play.
And it means any sexual activities that precedes intercourse.
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Hi Im Jay and Im 15 and my boyfriend who's 17 is forcing me to send him nudes. I told him about 5 times that im not comfortable with putting myself out there like that but he says he doesn't care and that i should do it for him and if i don't I'll regret it big time. I hate how he gets mad at me if I don't do something he wants, and I'm scared of not doing it cuz he'll get mad and hurt me. I just really don't want to send him nudes and idk what to do he won't take no for an answer. I need advice please help. (link)
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He asks for nude pix and you have told him 5 times that you are not comfortable but its not clear whether you fulfill his demand and inforom him that you uncomfortable or you haven't sent any pic and is telling him that you are uncomfortable.
The only way he can threat you while making you regret big time is if he has your nude pix and he decides to post your pix on internet (porn sites) or his friends group. Apart from this he can hardly harm you.
If you haven't fulfilled his demand than leave him tactfully. How can you do that. Letme know if you interested in knowing some tacts.
Before I can help you to get rid of him I need to clearify if you have already sent pix or not.
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