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12 year old female. Crush on girl in my classes. I am in an LGBT support group cuz I'm lesbian. I know she's Jewish and we're having a potluck at a Jewish community center, she could totally be there! My chinese zodiac (I'm a ram) says I'd meet someone this year, and I KNOW she's the one! Not like the last girl I thought was the one who wasn't. No she isn't my type anyway but this one on the other hand !!!!! What should I do?????
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Enjoy your school life without worrying about all these things. Sexuality and love isn't something to be concerned about at that age.
You'll never get your childhood back so don't be so eager to lose it. Trust me.
Keep those hormones and changes in check by engaging in hobbies like sports or art. There are plenty of things that are more important and fun.
Time runs out. You'll only be a kid once. Make the most of it already and leave all these questions for later.
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If you're going through the beginning of puberty, the hormones will make your sexual desires start to flow. Some are sure at this age. And others change their minds as they experience more over the years. So go for what you are interested in now. But do not exclude the possibility that you may be bi, or straight. Many bi women have families, only are attracted to one man but otherwise dont like men and are really into women with husbands who support them having female lovers. Right now tho, you are 12 and have a lot of years of exploring ahead. Just take a day at a time. There is no time log in which a person must experience such things. For now, it is safer to explore sex with a girl as you can't get pregnant and often girls do that a few times just to see what its like and move on to other things, or boys.
When you say 'shes the one' I think of that phrase as meaning the one person you end up in relationship with for life. HS sweethearts are possible but very rare. It is even more rare for a 12 yr old to meet the person they will be with for life. While you may have those intensions, and you feel grown up and mature, it is your body that is becoming mature, long before a final part of the brain in teens. The pre frontal cortex for example doesnt complete growing and becoming capable of the most mature decisions until our mid 20's roughly. Plus a person grows in knowledge and their likes and beliefs, and goals and such change a lot from ages 10-12 as compared to graduating HS. Even at 18, there is still tons of changes to a person going through their early twenties so that by mid to late 20s they are a totally different person so who may have been a good match at age 12 is no longer so later in life. At your age, teens go through many relationship before finding 'the one' for them for life. Keep in mind some people comes into your life for a reason, for a season or for life. So this gal may be meant to be in your life for just a short season but that is still good. Learn what you can in each relationship and never settle for less or go backwards. Always have the goal that each relationship will be a step b3tter than the last improving based on the troubles you learned from in the last.
Now as to what to do, become a friend first. The best sexual relationships have a base of being best friends first, otherwise, its likely to not work or fall apart quickly. So befriend her first, see if you even have any things in common. Once you're both on a very close basis as friends and can talk about anything, ask questions surrounding sexuality mixed in with other questions about her likes in food, favorite movies, type of humor, current events in the world and what she feels her sexuality to be. If she says she is straight, dont go there. Remain friends if you can but dont tell her of your crush. If she says shes' not sure yet or shes lesbian, then its okay to let her know you have a crush on her. There is no way of convincing a person to be with you if they are not the same sexually.
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Lesbian, for God sake how can u get this idea at such young age. I am shocked. You need to stop reading these horoscopes immediately and think about bringing some positive meaning to your life, I am sorry but lemme say again I am shocked.
Being Lesbian is not something you should be proud of. You are too young to follow these tracks.
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