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Dealing with unsupportive dad
I'm 17 female and for the past half year or so I've been a health nut. I plan on taking a course in health and fitness science in college. I guess this is kinda a two in one question sort of. Anyway, first off, my dad has been getting on my nerves. He's been pressuring me to eat junk food when I don't want it and claims he still "supports" me. I'm actually wanting to make health and fitness my life and all he's ever done is tear me down "claiming" otherwise. I even sat down and had a talk with him asking for him to stop trying to pressure me and he said he would stop. but did he? No. In fact I think he's gone worse with it. I want to know how to deal with him because he's been making me real mad. If I have a extreme craving and can't make a healthy substitute I get something but I'm not gonna just make myself eat something unhealthy when I don't even want it. Plus, just about every kind of sickness runs in my family and I would like to be the first one to be healthy. So please a little advice on that. And I would also like some advice on how to get a head start with health and fitness science because my mom said I would have to work real hard because it would be hard. So maybe some sites or something to be helpful please? Thank you all for your help!
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Since you've talked nicely to him, he promised to stop treating you this way but hasn't, it might be time to ask another adult to step in and help. Talk to your Mom about the issue and see if she can talk to Dad to lay it off regarding you. If not, he may be more likely to listen to a sibling or his parents advice concerning you...provided these other adults are more likely to be supportive of you. So try your paternal grandparents or your aunts or uncles, His sis & bro's.
If like one of my daughters, you prefer mostly the more expensive food products that can be found in health food stores, thats fine but i highly doubt Dad will see the reason to buy any preferred foods he wouldn't eat anyways. Generally if a parent is feeding their kids a balanced diet, even if not what you prefer, by law they have that right. If he's not offering healthy meals at all and only chips, cookies, icecream for meals, then you may want to have a talk with a school counselor and see what options you have as that isn't okay . If you want specialty foods, I would suggest getting a job, even a few hours will help, earn money to spend on the foods you want to eat and those not ready to eat, you prepare/cook them yourself also.
I don't know what kinds of sickness runs in your family. Some things can be inherited. But if some includes mental disabilities/diagnosed or not, you may have the tendency too. However alot can be done on ones own against anxieties or depression if thats the case. For that I suggest reading When Panic Attacks by David D. Burns. It was at my library but can be ordered in bookstores...another good reason to have some of your own money and if working isn't possible, ask grandparents to help out. Also excerise is just as important as nutrition so do what you can without rubbing it in the faces of family who dont exercise. In your room try doing yoga from a book, a rented DVD. Jogging or even walking or biking is a good way to get exercise. Check if school offers any yoga or aerobic dance, my daughter took her first yoga and aerobic dance in HS. Again, for head start to a fitness science degree, I'd ask the school counselor what you can be doing right now and have them check into that for you. Its less than a year til you graduate and some time soon you'll also be 18 and considered an adult, able to make your own decisions. Academic counselors are very much into guiding teens who are about to graduate as to what they can be doing to benefit their goal.
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Dear, your dad is the only dad I know so far who is pushing his daughter to eat junk food on the contrary parents push kids to eat more veg. However, important part is to find out why he is doing so. One reason I can think of is you may be skiny and if thts the case your dad might be wishing to get some extra fats on you to look healthy. If thats not the case then find the reason why he wants you to have it there must be a reason behind it and I am sure The reason won't be To get you sick or killed.
As far as part two of your question is concerned google 'mooc' and get registered online for the course of your choice scrolling through mooc list of courses.
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