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12 year old girl. I have been diagnosed with synethesia. I associate numbers, letters, sounds, and names and tastes with colors. I also can taste colors and numbers & letters have personalities for me. Along with mirror touch, it explains why whenever someone got hit in the head or something I felt a sensation I can't ignore. It's always been that way I just never knew it was a nuerological condition, or even that it was something out of the ordinary until I had causually brought up the color of three to my mom who was supprised and my family was all "wait numbers have what." And when I said something tastes like purple to a friend she's like "uhhhh since when do colors have tastes?" And everyone was genuinly confused and I'm just like "what do you MEAN you can't see it?" And I wanna know if any other synethesites have the same experience where if you meditate you can see the colors, tastes, or whatever sense more vivedly? I'm an assosiator but sometimes I can project if I meditate for more than ten minutes. Anyone else? (link)
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I also cannot relate, but dragonflymagic's suggestions in connecting with other people who have synesthesia are probably your best way to go.
If you enjoy reading, there is a good book (fiction, written for like 10-15 year olds) about a girl with synesthesia who, like you, discovers that it is out of the ordinary through an accidental mention of a number/letter having colour. It is a very interesting read; I personally have read it 2 or 3 times. The title of the books is "A Mango-Shaped Space." It is by Wendy Mass.
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I am currently in a situation where I have to with my family for a few weeks and it's hard for me because I can't stand being around them. I need to block out their sound with headphones or else I go absolutely nuts and my anxiety level hits the roof. Finally I've found something that calms me and gets me out of my head: Netflix. As soon as an absolute miracle like this comes in to my life I have to give it up because the internet doesn't work in my room, which is my only place to be alone. What are alternatives to using the Internet, that will get me out of my head, give my mind something structured to focus on and is easy? (link)
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some ideas for activities you can do in your room:
Brain games. Not anything too complicated, but you could try something like sudoku, logic puzzles or crossword puzzles. I do this sometimes when I need to focus my mind on something other than what is going on around me.
Reading books. I don't know what your feeling is on reading, but I find it incredibly relaxing, and every book transports you to a different world, which is great to get you out of your head.
To block out sound, I suggest listening to the radio or CDs, or music on an iPod or phone or something....generally music can help with getting me out of my head, or I use it as background noise when I am reading or doing other stuff.
You could try drawing, or if you're not good at drawing, you could doodle or get one of those adult colouring books that are popular right now.
I hope this helps...
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Hi i'm 16 years old and i am from the Philippines but i live in Holland. I really like this boy and i want to ask if i should confess to him. I like him for about 5 years and i just can't my hide my feelings anymore it's like mmy heart is going to explode. I can't talk to him privately because he is always with his friends. Please gelp me!!! (Sorry fpr my bad English) (link)
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I'm just going to start by saying I have been in the exact same position.
My suggestion would be to start by trying to get to know him (or by letting him get to know you...) as friends first. Once you have hung out as friends for a while, probably in group settings, as this is most natural, then maybe you should ease your way into a conversation in which you can bring up your feelings.
As Dragonflymagic said, it may be rather overwhelming for him if you just go up to him and tell him that you like him. It would be better to give him a chance to get to know you a little better first.
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Could we just have a moment and give thanks, and show our appreciation to Dragonflymagic for always stopping just to answer our questions. This thread would be dedicated just for her. So come on and say your thank you's! :D (link)
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Yes!
I really appreciate Dragonflymagic and all the answers she gives. She is so sincere and knowledgeable. Thanks so much!
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I never had a boyfriend in my life and time goes by fast..... How do I get a boyfriend? ......... (link)
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I'm guessing you are in high school, so that's how I will answer this question.
First of all, you need to consider why you really want a boyfriend, and what purpose a boyfriend would serve. I am 17 and have never dated, but I have experience with other people. I know that for myself, I want to date someone who will support me, care about me, and listen to me. In my school there are few boys like this, therefore I have never dated. Just consider this for a moment. There is nothing wrong with wanting a boyfriend just as someone to hang out with, but if you want a boyfriend just to fit in, maybe that's not enough of a reason.
No matter what your reason, there are a number of ways to acquire a boyfriend.
Most likely there is someone out there who catches your eye, or maybe multiple someones who you think maybe could be boyfriend material. Once you have someone in mind, you can go about this two ways. The first way would be to flirt with him a little for a while, then just straight out ask him out (make sure he is single first...). If you don't want to be so bold, I would suggest flirting with him. Make eye contact briefly when you see him, say hi, try to make conversation if opportunity arises, do your best to get closer to him, like if you're at a party, move across the room to be closer. Laugh at his jokes, respond when he talks to you. To step it up a little, compliment him, joke with him, add in a little casual physical touch like high fives, playfully hitting him on the arm when you make a point, or stuff like that. If you need pointers, I have attached a link to the wikihow on how to flirt.
http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt
Hopefully this helps!
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I have never had a real argument with my best friend, and I've been friends with her for more than 12 years. People say that if you don't argue with your best friend, it means you don't have a great relationship. Is that true?
Oh, and to clarify, by "real" argument I mean about anything important. We mostly only argue about silly things like the price of cheese or who will pick the game(neither of us ever wants to choose...its always like "you pick" "No you pick")
Anyways, yeah, does that mean that we aren't actually that great of friends? where did that advice come from anyways? (link)
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That saying is not true. You sound like you have a great relationship. Don't worry about it, obviously if your friendship has lasted this long, you are really great friends.
The idea that if you never argue, you don't have a great relationship is true in situations where one person is always in control. In a situation like this, there would never be any arguments because the second person would always just submit to the other. From your explanation, it is clear that this is not the way your relationship works.
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my job has a potluck coming up next week and i have a coworker who is a vegetarian.....should i accomadate her or make what i want with chicken stock/chicken meat etc.....i eat whatever i want along with everyone else....what should i do? thanks (link)
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If you have a particular recipe in mind that you would really like to make, and this recipe includes meat, don't hesitate to make it. There will probably be other things that she can eat.
If however, you don't have anything in particular that you are dying to make, why not come up with something that she would be able to eat? It is a simple act of thoughtfulness, and that way she will have at least one more choice. There are a ton of things that you could bring that don't include meat.
It sucks to go to a potluck and, because of diet restrictions, only be able to eat like one or two things.
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This past weekend I was on a school trip with my best friend.
One night at dinner, she was sitting across from me when she received a text. I noticed that it was really long and made a joke about it, then went back to my food.
A couple moments later, she was sitting beside me, hugging me, with her head on my shoulder, and holding out her phone.
I read the text. It turned out her grandfather had just died of a heart attack.
This is in the past now, but I am just curious, what would have been the best thing to do? (link)
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Thanks Teen2TeenHelp, that's really reassuring. However, rethinking things, what I really want to know is, what could I have done for her? What should I have said or done?
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