Hmm.. I decided to give a bit more detail. I live in the usa, and enjoy having fun. Swimming, dancing, shopping, working.. It's all good fun.. My mother says I have probablems, because I want to save the world.. Now I know, I can't.. But I do know us people who at least put some effort into help someone, makes some what a difference. It may not seem like it, but if you've seen Police Academy, with the apple that was thrown out the window, and started the riot!! Well then, no one knows how these things get started!
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first of all i have a boyfriend hes aamazing and ive been with him for almost a year but i think of him now as more of a brotherly figure and my best friend then a boy friend. it actally kind of grosses me out when we do stuff now. and now ive met this guy who i am very attracted to and who i want to be with and i have actually talked to him about the pickle that i'm in and he wants me too.
please give me advice on how to break up with the boy who loves me and still be friends. (link)
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This is a very complicated situation..
You should let him down easy though.. Some how, like perhaps when you're not surrounded by a bunch of people but not exactly alone, maybe at dinner some night or lunch.. Explain to him carefully that for some reason you've fallin out of love with him, but you still love him.. Just not like you did in the beginning.. Also explain to him it's not his fault, it's just the way the cookie crumbled for you. You will always want to be friends, and want him in your life.. But you'd like to seperate and date other people.
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is it possible for two people to be together in the future if they see eachother once a month now? (link)
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Of course, if there is enough love, commitment.. Friendship even. It's all about how the two of them feel about each other.
But of course there is always a possibility about such a thing.
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ok so before me and my ex dated we were best friends. i mean i would cry to him about other guys and crap. we broke up back in december after 7 months. and like we still hooked up for a while but then we cut it off. and we were just like lets be friends. we tried to make it like before but it wasn't perfect but i was ok with it. but now he got mad for some stupid reason and won't talk to me. and i NEED him in my life. i tried talking to him but he said don't. and i don't know what to do. cause i have 2 classes and lunch with him so its hard to ignore him. and its so difficult cause i feel like i have no one to go too.
so, what could i do to cope with this all? or get us to be friends again? (link)
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Hmm.. he's mad and you don't know?
Perhaps write him a letter explaing how you feel.
He may write back once he's read the words you pour out of your heart. He's probable finally starting to hurt, knowing that what was once had can never be again..
Men are just as confusing and emotional as women, but they end up showing there emotions differently, especially through anger!
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Well, I have friends at school, though I'm not totally sure who's real & who's fake. I'm very shy and don't make friends easily. I've gone from group-to-group a lot this year and have lost touch with the people I knew had my back. I felt like a 6th wheel sometimes and was bored with them, but I knew they were real. I started hanging around another group, of whom I was only comfortable & really friends with one girl. But, now, the rest of that group is nice one day, then act like they don't know me the next. Finally, the group I sit with now isn't much better. Two of the girls in that group are from the first group I mentioned. One of those girls is switching schools next year...she's also the one I'm closest to. The girls in this group do things on the weekends that I have no knowledge of. They plan things at the table when I'm sitting there and they don't even look my way while they're doing this, so they don't invite me. Then, later in the day, they have the nerve to ask me what I'm doing this weekend. When I saw 'nothing,' they just say 'oh.' So, as you can imagine, I have no contact with the opposite sex. I have a weight problem, but I'm losing weight (50 lbs and counting), so confidence is an iddue. And, lastly, associating/connecting with people is the hardest thing for me to do. I have a hard time laughing at things that I normally find funny because I'm a wreck on the inside. I've dissected this situation & my own mental state along with it multiple times. I just don't know what to do. Sorry for being a black cloud. Any advice...please?
I posted this publicly, but you're the only legit-looking colomnist on the most recently updated list. So I'm assuming you know your stuff.
Thanks. (link)
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Not to be crude, you sound like the oppisite of me some what...
I too have a weight issue, which is you know normal sometimes, it's good you're trying to lose weight keep at it!
Now.. the whole.. lost and kind of feeling like an outcast in groups.. is .. some what normal.
I'd have to know some more about you I think to help, I mean you seem like someone who shouldn't settle for a group of people who don't invite you, and if you do.. Well then I think it's time to put your foot down and become more direct. Don't let them push you around, there not better then you or anything. I mean ask if you can come along next time they make plans and such!! : ) I know it's hard, because becoming more direct and close could make you open up.. It sounds like that may scare you. Also oppisite sex?! Pfft take your time there, high school boys can be a little weird anyways. Right? Lol
I think maybe you could use someone to talk to some more on this subject and stuff so if you want be my guest, I have Msn or myspace.. : )
msn - psycologist2be@hotmail.com
myspace - www.myspace.com/666_wolfbitch_howlzzz
My name is Ashlee.. : ) I'd love to do anything I can.
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In every girl's life she has a first love. A guy who will always have a profound impact in her life. I met my first love during the summer of 2008.
On July 23rd 0f 2008, I left for MEPS. I was getting ready to enlist in the Army Reserves. A guy caught my eye, I brushed him off, he wasn't my type anyway. Besides he looked like he was 25, he probably has a wife and kids, I thought to myself.
The next day I had physicals, that was the first time that I started realizing that military men found me to be attractive. Matt, an 18 year old guy, approached me. I thought that he was really cute and he was a great sweet talker, he was the player type and he was just trying to get laid. I could tell but I wasn't really looking for love, either.
After my physicals, I headed to MEPS Hall to wait for one of the recruiters to pick me up and drive me home. At MEPS, I started talking to T, who was talking to J. J and I started talking and the chemistry between us was amazing,
I thought that he was a really great guy and wanted to be friends with him. He thought that I was absolutely crazy and wanted to know what drugs I was taking.
M joined us in MEPS, but went to play games with his friend, a fellow marine, G. So, I spent time talking with J. J was pretty great, he was teasing me, and he made me smile. It was obvious that he really liked me and I could tell, but I only viewed him as a friend. He started talking about suicide, he was going to kill himself in three days, I really didn't want him to do that so I asked him what I could do to prevent him from killing himself. He told me that if I kissed him, that would be really great.
J gave me his number, I really wanted to hang out with him. He seemed like he would be a really cool guy and I wanted a friend like that. I could tell that he was really depressed, he was hurt over his grandmother's death, she had died 9 years ago and had a memorial tattoo to prove that. I wanted a memorial tattoo for my grandfather, who died when I was 11.
I was kind of nervous about calling people at this point, I wasn't one to talk on the phone with anyone that much at all. So I finally called Joe two weeks later, I was crying over Matt who didn't remember me, which really hurt me. What was I expecting? I don't know.
“Hey, whose this?” J said.
“Hey, this is K, I don't know if you remember me.”
“K, yes I do.”
I was crying, I think that J might have asked me what was wrong, but I don't remember.
“M doesn't remember me. Is there something wrong with me? Why does every guy do this to me? Am I ugly or something?”
“No, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you.” He started talking to me about Matt, said that maybe Matt was mad at me that I hadn't called him.
I cried for a little bit, and I asked him what was new with him.
“Well, I have a girlfriend now.”
“Really? Is she pretty.”
“Yes.” Somehow he mentioned to me that she was 25 and had a 2 year old kid, that didn't sound like a good match for him, he was only 18.
We did not talk for a little while after that. I wanted to ask him to hang out, but I was still nervous about calling people. I had a phobia of phones. Joe brought that phobia out of me, he would always call me all the time and we could talk for hours, the chemistry was that great. One day, Joe told me, “We've been talking for an hour, we could definitely date.” We were practically addicted to each other, he always made me happy and I always made him happy. He eventually broke his engagement with his ex-fiancee.
One day, he told me that he was in love with me. “K, I've been meaning to say this since the first day I met you. But I've been too nervous to, I uh-”
I was a little bit nervous to say I love you, I didn't think that I loved him. Maybe I really, really liked him, but I didn't think that I loved him yet. No, I didn't think that I loved him until he finally slept with another girl, or well I thought that he had slept with another girl. We were both horny and I was kind of jealous, because I always thought that it was something that we would do together. I didn't think that I had any reason to be jealous or angry, he wasn't my boyfriend yet and that was my fault, he knew that I liked him at that point but we were going to wait until January when he was supposed to get out of basic training for our relationship to begin.
The night of September 9th, he called me. I told him that I was hurt that he had slept with another girl. He told me that he was sorry, and I told him that I loved him. He said that I already knew how he felt, and asked me if I wanted to go serious with him. I said yes, we both agreed that we weren't going to sleep with other people. I could make him horny just by talking to him, just the sound of my voice.
While he was in basic training, things were amazing. I mean seriously amazing, he wasn't only my boyfriend but my best friend. He would write me sweet and adorable letters, he wanted to marry me because apparently I was an amazing girlfriend as far as he was concerned, and I he was an amazing boyfriend. It was obvious that he was in love with me.
He called me on December 16th and 17th, telling me that he was going to come home from basic training. He really didn't have long to talk to me, because he had other stuff to do, but I thought that, that was adorable. He had gotten injured and he was coming home on December 18th.
We talked later on in December, he told me that he wanted to see me. I wanted to see him too, I asked my parents when I could see him. He was supposed to go to our family Christmas party, the night after the party when I got back home he told me that he was sorry, but he overslept. I said that, that was okay, I didn't think that, that there was anything up with that. He was probably really tired.
Then on December 24th, he told me that he had done a lot of thinking about this and thought that he wasn't mentally stable, wanted to help himself, he had tired to kill himself previously, so that way his mom could have money. I knew that it was difficult for him, he was the oldest of three kids and didn't really know where his life was going, he didn't want to be in the army anymore because he didn't like it. He dumped me, telling me that it had nothing to do with his feelings for me.
I said okay, it hurt and I didn't want him to stay broken up with him, so we got back together. We got back together for a couple of days, I thought we were fine on the 27th and the 28th, but soon after that we weren't. He told me that he wanted to be alone and to leave him alone. I didn't, I kept on chasing him, because I wanted to hold onto him. He had promised me that he would never let me go in basic training, and it hurt me a lot. I wasn't aware of his intimacy/closeness issues, I thought that he was just doing this because he wasn't feeling well.
I wrote him a letter in January, and he responded back to it saying that he wanted to get back together. A week later, I broke up with him because he started acting like a jack ass. Sure, he was an amazing boyfriend and was doing a lot of amazing things for me, but one night he treated me like shit saying that he was no longer sugar coating things. Apparently, he had cheated on me and he had more feelings for the girl than he did for me, he was confused and didn't know what to do. I dumped him, he acted like it was what he wanted, he told me that he wasn't happy in a relationship. I told him, “Don't ever say that you love me again.”
He continued to push me away, I would tell him that when he started acting like a real man, and wasn't going to walk all over me to contact me. I finally went, when he mentioned that he had a new girlfriend that Tuesday, and that we had too many problems and didn't want to get back together. Our problems were fighting, we had only had one fight as a couple, C, who I later found out didn't exist, and a lot of other little things. He wanted me to get the fuck out of his life, apparently, because his new girlfriend didn't want him to talk to any girls. He told me that she was the only one for him and all this stuff. He had liked her for two years, which was weird considering that before he had told me that I was his one and only, the most beautiful girl that he knew, and all this stuff.
On Valentines day, he sent me a really romantic gift. It was a bottle full of rose petals with a poem inside. It was really sweet, I text him to say thank you, and that I wanted to talk to him. He called me later on so that we could talk, and I told him that I wanted him to stop lying to me, that I could forgive him for C. He was surprised, and he told me that, that poem was how he felt about me. It was actually weird for him to send me a gift like that considering that he apparently had a girlfriend at the time, and all this stuff. For awhile, he wouldn't let me dump him, he didn't want me to leave him. We talked about C, he told me that he wanted her until he found out that she had AIDS, but before that he had given me another story telling me that he was over her from day one of their relationship and wanted me back. To be honest, he probably was hiding closeness/intimacy issues for a really long time, but thought that by lying to me he could cover it up. He basically wants to give off the tough strong guy persona, I think, but it isn't work for him.
The day before he got back from basic training, he called me just because his step dad said that I was looking for him. My mom said that it seemed like he had lost track of time. I called him, when I got back home from school and we talked for awhile. He told me that he really wanted to see me, and have sex with me on my birthday, I wanted to give him my first time.
The day after that, he pushed me away. We got into a fight about sex, sex in a relationship hadn't been an issue to him previously at all. He told me that he wasn't going to go 4 months without sex. And made up an excuse about the reason why I couldn't go down to see him for my birthday. The night before he had told my mom and myself that he really wanted to see me.
I could tell that this C story was really fishy, because the story was constantly changing and he was apparently losing it to a girl that had AIDs. When we first got together, I said that I would never hide anything from him and he would never hide anything from me. He asked me if I had an STD or anything, I said no. And apparently ,he wasn't even talking to her, he had even bad-mouthed her. And Sam, the other girl that he had supposedly hooked up with, was like a little sister to him which I honestly do believe.
Honestly, looking at it, it's very apparent that he has intimacy/closeness issues, yet he loves me. Which he's finally admitted to me, although he hasn't admitted to loving me yet, although I think that he still does. Just based on his behavior, he'll me to get out of his life but he's going through a really hard time right now, he just got discharged from the service and feels like he has nothing. And, I'm confused with how to break down those walls when all he wants to do is hide from me. He doesn't want me to even talk to him. Which is honestly weird, considering that I did nothing to him. Someone told me that I'm clingy, yet I don't think so, I did text him a couple of days in a row because I thought that he was coming home from basic training (he had left me text messages), and I left 4-6 messages on his myspace over the course of a month just because I missed him and wanted to talk to him. I think that he's struggling with his fear of getting close to me, and his feelings for me, and I really don't know what do, unless he admits that to me.
So, basically I'm confused. What do I do? I want to be a part of his life, I want him to be a part of my life, because I know that we have the potential to have something great. He even always comes back to me, and says that I'm the perfect girl for him, that he loves me and has always wanted to be with me. Although, this all was when he was in basic training and we live an hour and 54 minutes away from eachother.
Why can't he just get over these issues? Is it asking too much to say that I want a real relationship with the person that I love, and who I believe loves me? And, I know that our love story probably sounds ridiculous. People say that it sounds like he enjoys hurting me, I don't think so.
It hurts, though, because all we might be is just a bunch of plans that will never actually happen. He's invited me to move with him a couple of times, but he'll back away as soon as we start getting close. We'll fight about things that probably don't even matter to him. He's even said that he wanted to go to my senior prom with me, that he was actually looking forward to going to my senior prom and seeing me in and then out of my dress (I should probably add that he's 19 and we've talked about sex). When he was in basic training, he was actually going to pay for me to go down there for family day.
Is it ridiculous for me to say that I love him? And does it sound like he's just playing games, or like I'm right? I'd like to think that I'm right, but I really don't know. If it means anything he's wasted 7 (since July 24th - March 27th) months of his life on me if this is all just a game. What does it sound like to you?
I've heard that it's common for someone with depression to pull away from someone when they're having a hard time. And in January he was having a hard time with having bad dreams, his dreams have a tendency of coming true, he had developed a bleeding ulcer and was in alot of pain. And in December, he had gone broke.
He's not using foul language towards me, he just wants me to leave him alone and get out of his life. Which could just mean that he doesn't want to be happy and that it has nothing to do with me, right? Please don't tell me that he's playing games :-(. (link)
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This is quite a complicated relationship you have with this Joe guy.
He sounds pretty firm on his descion about not wanting you in his life. I know it hurts to think about it, but maybe it's time to let him slip out of your life.. Time to move on for awhile. If he wants you bad enough, like you feel he does, he'll come back k.
Maybe he is lost and confusied.. Maybe he's unsure of what to do, how to act.. But apperently he can't use your help, no offence. He has got to work this out on his own.
The reasons for his departure of your life, may be unknown, but don't let it eat at you. There may not be a reason, there may be a reason.. You don't need to dwell on this factor.
Just give him time, maybe he'll come back.
You're apperently young, it's time you take a chance to meet other people... See if anything else in this world of ours catches your eyes!
: ) Let me know if this helps in anyway...
~Hotsauce~
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Okay, so at the beginning of this school year I said something pretty nasty. It was referring to a boy who died of a drug overdose, and how his friend was gonna end up the same way if he didn't stop. I know, it was totally uncalled for and I really, really, really regret it. The thing is, I don't know how to apologize to the friend of the deceased boy. Its a couple of friends, actually. They happen to be the most popular guys at my high school, so I'm kinda intimidated. Now I feel like they all hate me along with the rest of the drama club.
When they found out what I said, it was obvious they were upset. One of the boys called me, and wanted to talk to me about the comment I made and try to clear the air about it all. I agreed to see him the next day in school and thought that was mature of him, but he never approached me in school the next day like he said he would.
I'm not really sure if they are starting to harass me or not. They've done a few things, such as logging onto my school account and leaving a false love letter from one of them. And on a field trip, they tapped my cell phone number to the back of the bus and made a sign that said to "call for a good time" and obviously we know what that means. I got a few inappropriate phone calls....
I was actually writing an apology letter to them all the other day, because I wanna be on good terms. I'd like to try to be friends, because they are actually nice, outgoing people. But when you get on their bad side, it isn't always pretty.
What should I do? Should I still apologize, or just ignore it all? If so, how should I approach them? Thanks in advance. [16/f] (link)
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You should probable appologize. I suggest you just go up to them one day, perhaps at lunch?! Just sit down and if they get up, ask them to please not to. Just explain to them, that it had been a comment you'd made at the beginning of the year and you're very sorry you really didn't mean it. Perhaps lie a little, say maybe you'd had a family member die from a drug OD. I know lieing is bad, but it helps in cases like this. Should be more careful what you say about people.
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So me and this guy have only been dating for a little while and well me and him started to make-out last night and I told him I wanted to take things slow. I don't like to just jump into things you know? Thats not who I am. But he kept pushing and pushing to have sex and I kept telling him no. Well he just started kissing me again and I thought he understood that I wasn't going to have sex but then before I knew it he was pulling my pants off and started having sex with me even though I told him no. I didn't know what to do. I pretty much just shut down.... I feel completely horrible now. After that happened last night I can't stop thinking about what happened and I don't know what to think or what to do. I feel completely used and ashamed..... I don't know what to do now. I feel like it's my fault. (link)
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First you dump him, and if you really want turn him in. -shrugs- It's pretty much rape, because you said no, and he kept going and pretty much took charge.
Don't feel ashamed, feel stupid. You shouldn't have shut down, you should have pushed the bastard off of you and kicked his ass. I don't care how small or big you are. A man like that deserves to be fucked up (more then he already is ^.^). You should never let any man or anyone take advantage of you EVER.
Hear me WOMAN Hear me ROAR. Just beat the hell out of him, don't let him/them do it just because you feel it would be mean to stop them Or whatever. Don't be stupid, if you can't handle situations like that, don't even let the whole making out scene begin. I'm sorry to say feel stupid, but you don't seem stupid, be smart.
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This is kinda long,I know.
I have been very good friends with a boy(let's name him D) and a girl(let's name her M).
Now,about M:
She was my good friend since kindergarten. She's the same age as me,we got along pretty well,always had things to talk about,etc.Recently,she got a bf(let's name him E) and he's bad news.Me and my other guy friend don't like him at all.In fact,I haven't heard a single good thing about him.Not only that,but she started avoiding me and that other guy,and even came up to us and told us to stay away from them,and she gave me a death glare.I tried to tell her he'll really hurt her-he's a player,exactly like my ex,and I don't want her to go through the hell I've been through when he leaves her for no good reason,but no,she wouldn't listen.She thinks I am jealous!If I was,I would've been with him any time I wanted and she wouldn't be able to do anything about it.Could she be afraid that he'll start crushing on me?Before I even told her all of these,she was ignoring me and running away from me whenever he was around.
Now,here's the case with D:
I met him in 5th grade,we were really good friends,then in 7th grade he moved away and I haven't seen him for a year.A week ago,there was a competition in English,where we met,and after the test,we talked and had fun,then out of the blue he kissed me on the cheek and I did the same.I had a strange feeling-I used to have a little crush on him,but nothing happened.Later I had a few boyfriends etc.We were texting next day and I teased him about how soft his lips were and he said "I think you're saying that because you like me" I said "kinda" and we both laughed.That's the problem:for no good reason,he started ignoring me.He doesn't text me,he's never online,and when he is he never talks to me,I have to send him about 50 msgs before he replies to 1...I haven't argued with him so I really don't know what to do.Any advice will be appreciated. (link)
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Okay even though this girl is a good friend of yours and you want to protect her from this ignorant ass.. You have to let her live and learn, if she can't believe you that is her problem. This girl apperently is in denial about believing that her boyfriend could be such an ignorant. But just let her go, she'll see his true colors soon enough, and when she comes crying to you just let her cry on your shoulder then tell her you told her so. I mean it's not the nicest thing, but you did warn her. She's just got to trust you.
Now, this guy you like that doesn't text back.. Yeah.. No. Let him go, if it takes fifty text messages just to get him to text back let him go he's deffently not worth it. You need someone who will at least text back at the first message don't you think? Deserve better, yeah? Mhm. Plus, with texting that much you make yourself seem desperate, no matter how much you may like a man, don't make yourself look despeate. They will use you and throw you away.
Key: Ignore the man, a man always wants what he can't have. xD
Enjoy being young, have fun. Buh Bye. =D
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Dude, if your friend is blaming you, then let her. Just let her be. That girl needs to understand you were only protecting her. If you were the kind of friend she is probable thinking you are, you'd already have your tounge down her ex boyfriends throat and stuff. She just needs to grow up, and see that you are a real friend. Until then let her wallow in her anger.
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im 14 and so are my 2 good friends
well one of them is my BEST friend and one of them is my REALLY good friend
my really good friend is a boy
and my best friend is a girl
they used to be togehter but now they arent anymore,
and they pretty much hate eachtoher now.
Nontheless,
whenever i hang out with one of them, the other gets mad aor angry,
my best friend which is a girl is really sensitive in like everything and i tell her that i like em both and that im not chosin sides because thyre both my good friends,
whenever my best friend sees me hanging out with the boy shes always like being mean going he cant steal u away infront of him nd stuf nd its gettin embarassin,
i told her before to stop doing that you know, cause its wrong, but she never seems to listen,she hates his guts, and im sure the feelin in mutual between em
what do ido?!!?
i dont want anyone gettin mad at me
im not a mean person
and i love everyone. -.-
thanks in advance
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Sometimes you have to be mean. You have to explain to both of them that just because they decided to date and ruin a friendship doesn't mean that they can use you as pickle in the middle. As like I want you he/she can't have you. That is ridiculose and they know it as well as you. You just need to get them to understand you're not going to stop being friends with either one of them, and if they don't like it then it's there own loss. You're all fourteen, tell them to stop being childish and immature and grow up! xD As I said you have to be mean sometimes, no matter how much of a hippy you are!
Good Luck =D
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ok so I've liked this guy since last year and well one of my friends had a bf and they broke up. Well she's been talkin 2 the guy I like a lot and well the other day she came up to me and said "this has been buggin me because 7 people have said that the guy I like likes her. It's really annoying cause when ever he walks by us or whatever she's like O my gosh o my gosh and I get so mad. Now I have another friend that Iz really good friends with him and she said she does not think he likes her cause he would of told her and he's just not dating type yet. So my question is how do I avoid her saying oh my gosh he's soo cute and freaking out and stuff . By the way she still text her old bf and she really just needs to pick one. Sometimes I look at him in
science class and I catch him staring at me but idk I really like him ALOT help plzz.. Thx (link)
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This is apperently not a good friend. Duh!! So let her be, she can do whatever she is doing. If you like this guy, just tell him. xD I mean come on, he probable doesn't like her, she sounds kind of snobby blonde and dumb! =D So tell the guy yah like him, and after you get him rub it in the bitches face!!!!
People like her don't deserve friends like you, and guys probable like that. Yah know?!
Well anyways good luck! Get dat guy xD...
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Hi i'm 15 and a girl. you see when i was 13 i met this guy and really fell hard but i never told him how i felt and eventually i got into a different relationship and moved on and he started dating a friend of mine and we got close as friends. Recently his relationship ended like HARD it really hit him. you know how first break ups are and she wouldnt just leave him she'd still flirt and send mixed messages. I stopped being her friend and spent all my time helping him and such. these past two days he told me he was depressed and really just wanted to do something physical with anyone really to possibly distract him. He asked me first if i wanted to just basically make out and such without the relationship part. but you see i'm in a relationship now with another guy so i kinda said no. However now i cant stop staring at him and just wondering what it would be like to kiss him just once and etc. Today we were waiting outside an office to get some forms signed and he was really flirting. he stepped on my shoes one on top of the other and i was like 'stop i'll fall' all giggly and he was like 'not if i catch you.' and he put his arms around me and gently tried to knock me back and he was so close my heart was racing so hard. and now i've like not been attrated to my current boyfriend at all but i would hate to hurt him cause he tried so long and hard to get me and i just dont know what to do....help (link)
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Hmm if you feel like you are having sexual or any type of feelings for this guy friend, and our afraid to hurt your boyfriend.. Don't you think if you slip up with this friend, and your boyfriend finds out that it'll hurt more?!
Or even if you don't perhaps slip up, but you begin to pay less attention to him, it'll make him feel bad. So, considering your young, and you apperently don't see yourself spending the rest of your life with this boyfriend, just let him know you want to take some time apart, and play witht he friend! You're only young once, enjoy it!! OH AND USE PROTECTION! =D
Have fun!
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Well I like this guy from my school who's my friend and it's very possible he might like me back but I'm not totally sure just yet. There are a lot of signs that he does but I want to see if this one thing he did today in particular could be a sign. Last Thursday he kindof switched to the desk behind me in one of our classes permanently which i also think is a sign but that a whole other story. So today in class we were taking notes and in the middle of the period I realized he'd rested his leg on the side of my chair, where like his foot was resting on the metal bar but the rest of his leg was pretty close to me (i mean it kindof had to be close because his leg was like diagnol and whatever but yeah you get it haha, sorry I'm very detailed). I mean he also did the same thing with the chair in front of him in a different class but no one was sitting in it, and I haven't really seen him do it to anyone else but idk. But I would assume that someone would only do that if they were comfortable with the person sitting in that seat, and he did keep it there the whole second half of the period. So could this be a sign that he likes me or a way of flirting? (link)
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I don't believe it's a sign of flirtation or anything of that, you said that perhaps he'd have to be comfortable with you to do it. Well, perhaps he does feel comfortable enough to do it. Or he could just do it because he wanted to.. But yeah he probable does like you and feels comfortable around you enough to be comfy. ^_^
Deffently flirt with him. =D but play hard to get a little.. xD
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Okay! So there is this guy in my class named Mark whose 13/m and I’m 13/f, and he is so hot and funny and cute and sensitive and MY TYPE!!!!!! It’s hard to talk to him because he's always surrounded by all hid friends (boys and girls.) He has the most BEATUIFUL eyelashes in the world. And when I was at his birthday on 12-19-09 I hugged him good-bye... from the side. If his mom wasn’t in the room watching my every move I would have hugged him from the front and possibly pecked him on his cheek..... if only. The worst part is that I’m not what you would call "slim, skinny, anorexic, Paris Hilton" I’m what you would call "fat, chubby, big" and what’s even worse is that I’m the TALLEST IN MY ENTIRE GRADE!!!!!! Please help me, cause I really like him and want to know if we could really have a chance with each other.
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You're only young once. So, yeah.. Just tell Mark... Be casual, and do it not infront of alot of people. Ask him if he'd like to be more then just friends. Don't be so safe. You need to jump on it! =D You may never have the chance to ask him again. o.o So ask him... Be strong woman!! =D
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Okay! So the guy I am dreaming about is an ex, someone I haven't seen or talked to in atleast 4 years. I was 16 when I met him, and he was my first love and all that crapt. And for years I was in love with him. It took time to finally realize that life isn't a fairy tale. Anyways About 2.5 years ago, I met someone and been with him since then and I love him more than anything but yet I keep having dreams about my ex. All I ever wanted was to just forget him but I just can't. Its always dreams of being reunited with him, and at first he is hurting me emotionally and then he comes to tell me he never stopped loving me. The recently dream I had was a few days ago, and I was pranking him for some odd reason, and his mom who is now passed on thought I was his wife, who apparently beaten him and he was on his death bed. Well, I went to see him and at first he was rude to me, and then we started hanging out and spending as much time as possible before he died. I was with my boyfriend still and we had a daughter but he kept disappearing and well the baby disappeared once and didnt see her again...and that is odd cause I want a baby really bad. Finally my boyfriend had enough and gave me a decision and I found it very hard to make and when they finally had his funeral I wasnt allowed to go. It was weird in all but I sometimes think these dreams mean something. Part of me will always love him but I am with the guy I want to spend my life with but I feel like Im cheating cause I keep having these dreams, and sometimes they are very passionate. I remember when my boyfriend gave me a choice me and the ex accidently made love and the day of his funeral i knew I was with child. Its all so weird, but thats pretty much it. And is there any way to make sure you stop dreaming about a person??? Help me please. (link)
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I don't think it's possible to stop dreaming of people or things in particuler. Normally there is meaning behind dreams. You should try a dream site, there they have ideas of what things mean in particuler. I believe dreaming of a baby means new life. -shrugs- Maybe that means soon you will get pregnate.. or someone you know will or something. Other wise I'm not to sure about you dreaming of an ex, perhaps it means that he may come into your life soon.. Or something of that .. Never really know.
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me and my x have been on and off for 2 years. we were friends with benefits at points and now i made it clear i just want to be friends and nothing more. i feel like i am never his top priority as a friend though. he always ditches me for other people and blows me off and i pretty much feel like he uses me or tries to. he also gets angry a lot. i don't know what to do it makes me so upset b ut i know hes not a great person (link)
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If you know he's not a great person, then just drop him peirod. Or try and do what he does to you. Ditch him or blow him off. I mean unless he's the one who never makes plans with you. o.o.
Look men normaly don't have female friends, I mean because all they want out of them normally is sex. If you don't believe me there is The Ladder Theory. Ever heard of it? http://www.laddertheory.com/
Now you may take it as a joke, but I mean if yah really read it, it's right. So drop with him, or keep the benifits drop the friendship. Use him to fuck and do whatever makes you feel good. Unless you get to emotionally attached, then just drop him peiord. You can always do better. =D
Good Luck.
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hello =] okay do you know how old you have to be to purchase like hydroxycut pills or the water packets ? or a brand like that ? and how effective it is ? (link)
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Yeah you have to be 18 or older I believe.
They probable work well, as long as you eat right and excercise regularly on them.
I do not know if they work really though never used anything like it.
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Okay, so first in gym class I'm the only freshman in power volleyball, cause typically its a class that only upperclassmen get into, but im one of the few freshman on JV (no freshie team) so i convinced the gym teacher to let me do it. So on the first couple days there was this guy who was acting like a dick to me. like he'd become one of the team captains who picks people, and he'd say he was gonna pick me but never did.. and liked he'd be like motioning for me to come and then i'd start walking and he'd be like "not yet" and then by that point people had already picked like 5 people on their team so the teacher divides the rest.. so he never picked me for 2 days and I'm like.. and the 2nd time I fell for the thing again and like some other kids chuckled.. is this just cause im one of the 5 girls in this class and im the only freshman? and then like now.. a few weeks later that guy is like saying hi to me in the hallways and stuff and its awkward cause its like.. is he making fun of me? i mean in 6th grade i was gullible so like once i fell for it when some guy was like "i love you" and he was just kidding cause nobody had like done something like that to me before.
once someone does something like this.. i dont trust their true intentions of when they talk to me. i dont want to be made a fool of again like back then so i guess its like my natural reaction to situations like that.. to put a border up. or was he just messing with me and actually wants to be my friend? hes like a sophomore i think but hes pretty popular.. should i just let it go or not trust him cause of that? cause like if i think he just maybe wants to be friends and i act friendly when hes really making fun of me.. i'd hate that. how to tell btw if this isnt enough info?
& another time, actually today, this one girl in my class was like saying she saw this info about me on some site.. like my nicknames.. even ones some of my good friends know. she said she saw it on a website her friend showed her and im like.. what the heck cause she was like it was on a dance or volleyball site and i never posted something like that on a site like that. like today i went looking for where this info could be.. but i cant even find it! when i type my name on google nothing shows up. but she said she wasnt a stalker or anything and i dont think she is but thats just creepy.. and idk if she's making fun of me too sometimes.
ughhhh i honestly wish i could read minds to know peoples true intentions. that would make life so much easier and i'd be able to kid around with certain things easier. like i take certain things seriously and hold grudges a bit and thats annoying but like i said before like i dont want to be made a fool of or something. idkkkk i need help. btw sorry this is mucho long (link)
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Shouldn't take to much serious. You're young enjoy life, joke alot play alot.. Also why do you care what other people think? There all just a bunch of hooligans Lol. Look be friendly to all till you are completly positive there fucking stabbing you in the back. Teenagers are the worst people. So just take stuff slow, sniff situations out well.
The guy who said hi to you in the hall way and you feel is picking at you (maybe), probable isn't he probable likes you. I'd just be friendly.. Maybe question him away from other people..
The girl who found out something about you, that you have no idea about, just ask her where she saw it and ask for the exact website, get her to write it down or email it to you.. So you can check it out, and find out how perhaps it got there. :x
Don't take stuff to serious, and enjoy life you're young dumb and full of cum.. Jk
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ahh so theres this new kid and i thought he was really cute so i had my friend tell him and he sed he didnt want a gf but hed talk to me so he talked to me and we had only shared a few words but later (though i told my friend not to) she told her friend who is friends with him tht i thought he was cute and the kid i liked sed he wasnt intereseted and didnt want a girlfriend .... so i was bummed or w.e but i was like w.e thats his loss but now yesterday he added me on myspace (after rejecting my friend request months ago) and now he commented my picture saying cute pic and today he smiled at me in the hall....shuld i comment back? is he interested? i am so confused please help. (link)
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-clears throat- Deffently comment back girl, he probable didn't want to look vulnrable infront of his friends or something. He's probable interested, and confusied or scared, maybe he's never had a girlfriend. :) Deffetly give him a second chance.
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Sorry to be so blunt about it, but its beginning to piss me off. We've been dating now for over 8 months, and she seems incapable of completing the smallest tasks (like operating the ice maker on a fridge for instance) or even dealing with the smallest insignificant issues that come across the average person in everyday life. She cries all the time, and whenever i'm anywhere near her friends (whom are also my friends) she gets EXTREMELY jealous and basically pisses me off. I've never yelled at her, and i've been nothing but the kindest, sweetest boyfriend i can be, but sometimes i feel like our relationship is going nowhere, and i honestly can't see us even making it to valentines day :(
Am i crazy, or are there girls out there that are emotionally stable and don't feel like they need to make me feel that i'm prince charming every time i put ice in my glass? I just wish sometimes that i was with a girl that was a little more outgoing and less clingy. One that can just "hang out" without having to figure out what we're gonna do before coming over.
By the way. What she lacks in emotional stability, she makes up for in physical intimacy, and i feel trapped. We haven't had sex yet, and i know we both would be okay with it if we could ind somewhere other than the top of a parking garage to let it happen... but now, i'm almost afraid to be any more intimate with her than i already am, because i don't want to hurt her so badly if we break up. (link)
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There are women like this threw out the universe. Why there is such a type of woman is beyond me. :x You could try to just tell her she needs to become more indepedent, or she'll lose you. Just give her time to grow up or say buhbye type of situation.
It's stupid that the poor girl thinks you're Prince Charming for ice! At least I think so, anyways perhaps brake it to her easily. :\ We all don't want to be inlove and miserable, it'll lead to bad things.
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Ok, so 16m
What are some ways to get a girl to like you?
And what are some ways to see if a girl is in to you? (link)
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Be yourself. Which is hopefully a polite young gentlemen. Girls will like you if there attracted to you in someway. If you want to find out if a girl likes you, just ask her out to hang out/do something sometime, Out of school. Like you'll know if she likes you by the way she treats you, and acts towards you.
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