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I don't know how to apologize, or if I should
Okay, so at the beginning of this school year I said something pretty nasty. It was referring to a boy who died of a drug overdose, and how his friend was gonna end up the same way if he didn't stop. I know, it was totally uncalled for and I really, really, really regret it. The thing is, I don't know how to apologize to the friend of the deceased boy. Its a couple of friends, actually. They happen to be the most popular guys at my high school, so I'm kinda intimidated. Now I feel like they all hate me along with the rest of the drama club.
When they found out what I said, it was obvious they were upset. One of the boys called me, and wanted to talk to me about the comment I made and try to clear the air about it all. I agreed to see him the next day in school and thought that was mature of him, but he never approached me in school the next day like he said he would.
I'm not really sure if they are starting to harass me or not. They've done a few things, such as logging onto my school account and leaving a false love letter from one of them. And on a field trip, they tapped my cell phone number to the back of the bus and made a sign that said to "call for a good time" and obviously we know what that means. I got a few inappropriate phone calls....
I was actually writing an apology letter to them all the other day, because I wanna be on good terms. I'd like to try to be friends, because they are actually nice, outgoing people. But when you get on their bad side, it isn't always pretty.
What should I do? Should I still apologize, or just ignore it all? If so, how should I approach them? Thanks in advance. [16/f]
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you should probably talk to one guy at a time to make it more personal. i think the first one would be the one who was making somewhat of an effort before. i would apologize for what i said and that it was totally disrespectful to the deceased. but hte only reason you said it was because you cared. and you don't like drug use, and she was hoping that was an awakening to them. if you can get him to forgive you then hopefully he'll put in a good word for you but you should still talk to the rest of the guys.
hope everything works out.
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Hello, I am thinking if you put anything in writing it will be picked apart and used against you, so no don't write a letter. Call the boy back that called you, and tell him you've been thinking about the meeting that never happened. Then explain your side of the story, when bad things happen people don't always know what to say, explain that you chould have chosen your words more carefully, but I wouldn't necessarily apologize, that makes you look 'guilty' Perhaps you were only saying it out of concern because you were so distraught over the boys death, it might have made an impact on you on how dangerous drugs are, and overall the other boys are probably thinking the same thing. Once you explain in mature terms, then drop it and let it go. If they continue to bother you make sure you report it to the authorites.
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You should probable appologize. I suggest you just go up to them one day, perhaps at lunch?! Just sit down and if they get up, ask them to please not to. Just explain to them, that it had been a comment you'd made at the beginning of the year and you're very sorry you really didn't mean it. Perhaps lie a little, say maybe you'd had a family member die from a drug OD. I know lieing is bad, but it helps in cases like this. Should be more careful what you say about people.
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