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He Cheated?
I have been dating a guy since they very begining of September all intentions on getting married. We have had rough patches. example: my son and i were sleeping, his friend and him were in the other room had taking cold pills doing air guster and drinking. he was being a jerk telling me to get out of the house etc. i stayed. it was like 3 am. My sons father keep texting me and i keep telling me to leave me alone (i know from the past that if you tell him what he wants to hear he leaves you alone) so i told him that i missed him in a sacastic way. my ex got mad.. there has been this number calling my boyfriends phone i asked him about it he told me it was leon.. leon was over and the number started calling i asked him about it he goes oh its an old buddy who smokes pot so i didnt tell you because youd get mad. a week ago i had a guy feeling something wasnt right. i looked at his phone which i never do. nd there was text messages saying i miss you and i can not wait to see you. and mwahh.. they had plans for last sunday. she didnt know he was dating me or even living with me i moved out the next morning. he keeps telling me how sorry he is how much he loves me and he wants me back that im the only girl he wants. he told me he did it because he got scared about getting married and she was supose to just be a friend but she told him everything that he wanted to hear. and he wants to work it out with me hell give up drugs and drinking. take his phone away till i trust him again. i feel like i love him but i also feel he wants someone to help with bills. he doesnt have a car so hes stuck at home besides work. i dont know if i can trust him last time i seen him i couldnt even look him in the eyes the same. but hes telling me what i want to hear because i want him back but i like being single.. i just need some advice please.
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I don't think that the two of you are anywhere near ready to be married. If you already know that he cheated...which you do, he isn't worth your time. Lots of guys use the excuse that they were scared because they think that it makes them look better because fear indicates vulnerability. Please do not fall for that. More than likely he is someone totally different when you are around. Also, more importantly if this guy is into different types of drugs and getting high why on earth would you subject your son to this type of behavior. You are a parent, so your decisions need to run a lot deeper than if he's cheating on you or using you for help with bills. The choices you make in men and who you decide to have around your son now will affect his future. This guy does not sound right and he has problems of his own that he needs to work out. Your first priority should be your child, you can't raise the guy you were dating. My advice is to leave him alone and move on. He's a cheater with a drug habbit. He really doesn't sound like someone who can add great things to your life. I feel that you can do better as long as you maintain your standards. Don't make your son or yourself pay the price for a weak decision....move on.
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a cheater is always going to be a cheater..ofcourse hes going to tell you the things you want to hear because he may have done it before to someone else or knows how to play the game..some times guys just cant stop the cheating and what if another girl comes along and tells him all this sweet stuff and tells him what he wants to hear what happens then?your better than that he was sleeping around and sneaking behing you back and lying to your face while telling you he loves you..thats all im going to say the choice is up to you and i no its easier said than done but you need to let him go theres plenty more guys that dont drink and do all that nonsense out there and can treat you just as right
he hadnt cheatd yet but he had all intentions to cheat..and would of cheated if he hadnt of been caught.he may still have it in him to cheat sweety i no u want to try and bring out the good in this but there is no good not any more u can do soo much better xox
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