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Okay ive been hangin out with this sophmore...(im in 8th grade) and i like him and he likes me. well one nite i was really mad and i dont even no where it came from and i told him all he cared about was sex and drugs and hes mas wich he has a rite to be iand i told him i didnt mean it hundreds of time and that i was sorry alot and i really like him and he likes me and what do i do to get him to forgive me or fix it??? Help please..and fast (link)
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YOU DID MEAN IT. DO NOT LIE TO YOURSELF. You certainly did mean it and you wanted him to take notice and get off the drugs. You also meant it when you spoke about sex and presumably the fact you are not going to do it with him again. YOU MEANT IT.
If he is angry that is what happens when you confront someone over this kind of problem. Le thim be angry if it provokes him to seek help you did your job. If it does not forget about it. You need a sober friend and a good friend. Good friends so not allow friends to enter a downward spiral of drugs, booze sex.
Everything else but those topics are his business or someone elses business unless you see a person destroy themselves like he has butt out. There you go. You are not guilty.
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why is it latley i feel bloated like everytime i eat it doesn't matter if it's alot or a little.like today i drank a mountian dew and i felt bloated.it's not my period cause i just had it 2 weeks ago. (link)
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When your body tells you something OBEY. It is quite possible and likely you cannot drink anything with caefine. If you ever feel yucky, with or without heartburn or maybe nausea stop. It is a hint your body cannot handle that kind of food anymore. It happened to me and it caused a real health concern and hospitalization. Very seriously here, you can agrivate Gall Bladder or cause ulcers over years of eating this shit or drinking it as much as you do. Even one pop a day is too much over time.
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Your answer was right on the money. I don't know how that question got through but I have deleted it. And reported it to Dangernerd.
Excellent answer. Keep up the good work.
Oh, and there is a link on the left to file an abuse report. Next time do let us know if you come across anything like this so it can be caught early! Thanks YG (link)
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I was not sure whether to ask you and Dangernerd this question. I am a journalist, movie critic, and someone trained in print, radio, broadcast. While 27-Years-Old I was always a Teen Advice Online or other counsellor during those years. I began writing at 14. Being a non-judgmental adult understanding teens is a gift having to write for them and about them. That's why I came here to help out--no other reason.
I am trying to get together a radio show for teens on Internet radio that allows them to file reports, me to do reviews, have spoken word, artists, poets, songwriters on and teach teens about it unless they are the ones doing it. And dispense advice too but never be preachy using the medium.
All of this was supposed to happen for Powertalkfm.com and called "Reel Views Unplugged" along wiht live chat and powerpoint of art work. It fell through when I had ulcers 3 weeks ago and I had interviwed a ton of well-known guests in advance. Although illegal my partner trashed my demos, interviews, and everything belonging to me the host.
I am now at square one. I was wondering considering you deal with a ton of teens here and in life if you knew what Internet stations they listen to or target at the least. I wish I could find a station that may not be professional but upholds standards and radio law. You would think a ton of people would want to produce this in the field of taking care of teens.
Also, I am going around whiping everyone's behind in here for answering questions to these potential pedophiles asking graphic sex info. If anyone hurts a teen be it online or off I do something about it where I have power journalistic or otherwise. Keep up the work you all do.
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well there is this really hot guy and he likes me but he has a gf since last december and i dont know wut to do cuz i really like him and i want to break them up or shouldnt I????????????? HELP!! (link)
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Breaking them up is selfish and will backfire on you so fast your head will spin and hit the floor. Instead do what wise people do in this situation. Watch and learn and see what does not work in their relationship. Find a way to be his friend and get things out of him naturally. When/if they break up he may just come looking for you.
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ok i had sex on my period, couple of days after and that sunday it was the first time i go on the pill can i get a preganant? and if yes how can i b sure ? is my period going to come is thier any danger for the baby if i keep using the pill ? please help me i need all the info i can get it will realy help me with this agony i have... (link)
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If you used condoms then I would relax. If used right they will protect from pregnancy and everything else. If you did not, bad girl! the consequences can be pretty severe including pregnancy. I would not worry too much if condoms were used. If they were not and you are late then I would worry a lot and get a pregnancy test and think about your options. For now, do not worry until you notice a period is very late and never came.
Using the pill protects and does not harm you. I am not sure why you keep refering to a baby that may not even exist yet or in the future. Will it do something if there wasa pregnancy? That is a good question. I would think probably it would but to find out ask a medical professional.
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well im a fresman in high school and i still haven't gotten mi period! ( i no pretty sad huh?) well anyways im afraid ill get it in school and ill be wearing white pants... what can i do? i don't want any surprsies (link)
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Carry tampons and or pads with you at all times and you will be okay. The white pants thing is sort of a myth everyone plays on as females. It usually does not happen but can. The reason they tell the story is simple to make girls aware of using menstrual products carefully and how to recognize the onset of a period because leaks happen and can wreck clothes. Embarassment and all that are other reasons. Just don't get caught wearing light pants or anything that shows leakage. Good tip when you think about it. I would not be so concerned worrying about it.
Also, you not having a period yet does not mean anything if genetics determine women in your family get it late and blossom late. If very concerned tell your doctor and see if everything is alright.
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wats it mean to masterbate.... and y i sit bad to do it on your period(my friends were talking about it (link)
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If school and your parents never addressed this then talk to them about sexuality and this question. You cannot in here ask questions as per the rules on what or how a sex act is done. The only question is on a period it is not bad to do. How you can not know what something is and contradict yourself in the next line about doing it while menstruating suggests you are an adult looking for sick kicks. I may be wrong and will not flag this question.
Everyone else in here should stop answering it or telling people what it is and how it is done. That gets him/her plus you banned. There's a policy on that and people need to know what they can/cannot say in asking or answering questions on sexuality here.
Would you want some 10-year-old in here reading it, parents outraged, threatening the site. It happened to a ton of advice sites including Teenhelp and Teen Advice Online until they started flagging questions never allowing them to be answered or archived. This is what this site tries to do but needs our help in for reporting abuse, strange, or icky things we know teens may not have written.
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i'm 14f and this guy at my school likes me and i like him too ALOT! but my best friend likes him too but she said she only liked him like a little and everything. and the guy asked me out and he's still waiting for my answer.. so what should i do? (link)
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Well you and I both know either way you are screwed. The answer is always tell the guy straight up "I really like you and would go out with you but it would ruin a life-long friendship with (girl's name) over this. You are free to do what you want but she likes you and I cannot get in the way." Tell him straight up.
Any other choice leads to losing the guy and or worse the friend. Letting him know what is happening will make you a friend out of the guy, and she will be happy. Then as usually happens if they do not have as much in common as you do with him as a friend he will come looking for you for love.
Your mission, let them be together as hard as that is, maybe find someone for now and take notes on their relationship and what does not work for either of them and play up with him what you know but do not betray her. I screwed that up with a guy friend. I have learned from losing the friendship you never FULL ON go after someone's weak side with a couple or you are SCREWED out of friendships with both.
When pissed at either of them for childish behaviour that will come up excuse yourself and go home or to the bathroom for a very good 10 minute stretch or outside. Rather than talk about those issues direct just wait for the cards to fall anyway. I lost my friend from it of 8 years and wanted the girl for myself.
Both dislike me and I have not spoken to them in 6 months--but I do know they are no longer together after she thought and I told her he's abusive and will not change. There are no secrets when it's about a couple no matter what you say to one with the I won't tell BS it's told the minute you leave. Be careful.
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When i was with my guy friend i got happy .... then i got mad at him... then i got really sad..... all at the same time........... why did i do this and wat can i do from stopping it from happening..... does it have something to do with'pms' wat is that bcause thats what he said was the matter????? (link)
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Well, I cannot tell if it is PMS or not. There's actually two or three possible things besides PMS.
PMS comes as you know every time before a period and you can time your watch by it. That's excellent to have that compared to what else it could be.
The second problem just might be depression with feeling like crying for no reason at the drop of the hat and emotionally happy then a wreck at other times. That is treatable with medication as is PMS.
What has me concerned though are the mood swings going up and down and you getting all weepy, then happy, excited and crash back down. That's not normal hun. This is typical of hypo-mania the state before BiPolar full blown disorder. In it you feel this way and it is never dangerous to you unless you of course become manic and delusional which is another story.
You probably will need medication to keep this in check so it does not develop into delusion and BiPolar Disorder. Talk to a doctor really, about all this and get properly diagnosed. If you notice anything like a ton of energy no-stop all the time this is that particular problem. If you also notice being ultra-hyper 24/7 it's a sympton as it energy beyond belief, inability to sleep too and if it's a combination of all of what you told me than it's a BIG medical concern and you have to advert it before it gets you for lack of a nicer way of what it does.
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i know this sounds stupid but what is a bonfire? my friend is having a bonfire at her party and i dont know what it is. plz help (link)
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It's illegal actually to have one in most states, provinces in Canada and U.S. It is a fire hazard for burning down trees and causing major fires and disaster. Teenagers often do this unsupervised and then scatter once dry wood or ground goes up in smoke around them. When supervised they are usually done at major events. Essentially all it is or should be is a massive fire controlled. Some people might cook things in it but I would advise not too.
I remember living out in Victoria, British Columbia and was about 4-years-old. The Queen of England lit one of these in Beacon Hill Park and it started to get out of hand with everyone running away from fire as fast as they could and the fire department brought in. The minute she saw what was happening it was back to her limo and away she went. True story.
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Whats the name of the song that is playing in the episode of Degrassi: The Next Generation ,'Back in Black', when Sean is on the waverunner? (link)
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Great to see American's watching this show on Noggin. I know there has been various DVDs done from the new show and I think CDs. You might find it on a CD. You can however, though it's not usually that, phone or e-mail Epitome Pictures who produce the show and ask where will I find out who sung this song, this scene in Degrassi. Trust me, someone at the office knows this shit. Just do not bother Linda or a producer, publicity dept. They do not deal with fan requests but asking a receptionist about who does the music and where to find it is fine. She might just know the right people who pick music and write score.
http://www.epitomepictures.com/ The site actually shows behind the scenes drawings and photos of the soundstage. A little known fact they could not as in years past film at Carlaw and Mortimer Avenues in Centennial College like they did in the 1980s. So, they got the plans for the building and built it from inside and outside for the show.
I'm not name dropping but I have spoken long ago in 2001 with the girl who plays Paige. Total sweetheart and polar opposite to her character. She recently said in an interview Ellie would be more like her in real life if you cared that much to know that. Lauren's also doing a HUGE part with Antonio Banderas in a new movie on dance.
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this is my fourth year of playing volleyball. this happens to be the WORST coach i've had to deal with yet.. we're gonna call her BA. she is my sophomore volleyball coach. she acts like we're playing the world championships, ya know? our team is really good.. we've won conference for three years consectively. BA makes us all feel like crap. if we make ONE little mistake.. like hit the ball out, she makes us do like 3 suicides. and i have really bad asthma so it's hard for me. when i mess up, she picks on me the most. everyone knows im really sensitive, plus i have a horrible attitude. today, i was having an off day and she kept putting the blame for EVERYTHING on me, when something wasn't even my fault. she made us run like 15 sprints because of me. i know all of the running is conditioning, but running doesn't help you in volleyball. it just makes you more tired, you know? the first 20 mins i was really off, but the rest of practice i was doing really good. i was blocking everything that came my way and my hitting was awesome. she didn't say "good job" or "way to go" at all to me.. not once. she really makes me feel like crap, like i don't deserve to be on this team. i come home and cry bc she really makes me feel bad. this has been going on since the summer, and i dont think i can take it anymore. i only play like half a game out of two games anyway.. she doesn't even use me. i really want to quit. i know it's the wrong thing to do, but i cannot stand my coach anymore. she never acknowledges me for everything. i need to talk to one of my parents about it, but they don't understand. they think im not trying hard enough, when i really am. when i can't breathe, i still bust my butt. so i have two questions for you
1) if i don't quit, how can i handle my fear against my coach, or how can i stop being so sensitive about what she says to me?
2) how could i get to my parents to make them see what i have to deal with?
sorry this is sooo long.. but please.. i need any advice i can get. (link)
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The first thing that struck me about your question is your poor attitude. If you have an attitude problem towards teachers and ot anyone else you can be sure the coach will know. Maybe, this person is laying it on you because you are known to be a brat around authority figures. She may have it in for you. I do not know.
The problem here is basic common sense. If you cannot breathe properly it is a major concern and only you know (parents will not nor coach) that something is really wrong anytime you do something physical related to this. If this is that bad THEN GET OUT NOW. You do not need an asthmatic attack because of this or something tragic. If it agrivates your asthma then GET OUT NOW.
Health comes before anything else. You see a problem there so deal with and get a doctor's note getting you out of that program. In fact, you can see a doctor on your own without parents.
I think it is too risky for you to play. I also think quitting generally is wrong if we are being challenged to be something someone else sees in us. In this case quitting is perfectly and completely the right thing to do. Let's examine why PRINT ENTIRE E-MAIL FOR PARENTS AND THEY WILL GET IT!! TRUST ME.
1) Mental Health is foremost the most important thing to take care of. Being constantly exposed to people who make you feel worthless will kill your self-esteem completely and mentally effect you now and later too--words hurt and linger for a long time as does public humiliation in front of peers. The coach is a lousy one and no you do not have to take it. Nobody should or does.
2) PHYSICAL HEALTH IS PARAMOUNT. If you cannot even breathe easily when playing this game than that F--KING matters the most. Screw the game and forget if your parents think you are just a quitter. Look at all the newspaper reports of kids pushed too far by coaches to do ridiculous things if they might be sick. A lot of them have died as a result of being pushed too physically far with an illness like yours.
It should not take an ashtma attack to have to figure out this sport is bad news for your health. If they cannot see it they are way too dense to raise you even and need more information on the illness that could kill you from such activity.
As far as being sensitive goes you need a thick shell in live as people will try to break you down or wear you down. I think at your age though you do not need to be exposed to this kind of person because you have not got the skills to shrug it off or go on with life. Quit and use the lessons learned here to further prepare for difficult idiots later down the road.
3) KEEP YOUR EGO/ATTITUDE IN CHECK
If you are being a brat or have an attitude at school educators and principals will know all around the school that you or your parents are a pain the ass (perception) and you are sunk from there on in trying to deal with them. You have to watch your temper and learn how to zero in anger and get rid of it. This is your biggest problem and perhaps the reason for everything. And no it's not being too sensitive not to like abuse.
Bottom line: Quit. It's all about what makes you happy and comfortable and safe and sound. It is nobody else's decision but yours. If your parents agree this coach is too overboard have them write a letter to the schoolboard and not the principal. With the schoolboard they'll look into it as they get voted in (the chairpeople) with the school they always back their asshole employee no matter what they have done to a kid.
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okay i have few questions....
how old to you have to be to legally have sex?
even if you have a condom on can the guy ejaculate while still inside the girl and not get pregnant? also even if you withdrawl before ejaculation... can you still get pregnant even if you have a condom on?
i rate please answer (link)
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The law is different by State or Province or Country. What remains the same is an adult is someone 18 or older and cannot have sexual relations with those younger than 18. Most laws I have read do in fact have a legal age a person can engage in such activity so that someone older or more mature under 18 is not seen violating a trust. Typically, the laws I see say 14 is the age. Why? because a person younger can not make huge decisions like that and for safety.
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Me and my brothers best friend got really involved and I gave him my varginity!! Now I am not allowed to be near him becuase my brother feels that it would hurt me more. The fact was that he used me and I dont hate him. I want to see him so I could tell him how he really made me feel but no one will let me! What should I do? (i am now almost 16 and he is 20)
What should I do? I want him to know how much he hurt ME! (link)
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A guy like this one would not give a crap if he hurt you or not. The law stipulates nobody who is 18 or above can have sex or a relationship where trust is shattered and the adolescents is confused by it. He cannot have a loving relationship, sexual one even at 19 with someone 15 or he can be charged with rape. Your brother knows this and is protecting you but also for some reason his creep of a friend.
Your brother and you need to get wise and go to your parents and nail this guy's ass to the wall. You also need professional counselling or a psychiatrist to help you understand this wasn't love, it's fooling you and you were victimized. They will also show you how to move forward and not allow this to ruin every aspect of your life.
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All the senior football players pick a girl and they are all in the running to be Homecoming Queen. My brother (a senior) is taking me (a freshman) to homecoming which means I am in the running for homecoming queen. I'd like alot of people to vote for me. And while i know there are already some people who will....i just want to know how to become friends with more people. Like i want to be a more outgoing person but I don't know how to be. does anyone get what i mean? Please give me ne advice you might have!!! (link)
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This is the first time I have heard of a brother going as his sister's date to a dance. Do you have a crazy redneck sister loving, brother loving family going on here? I'm kidding but you will suffer tons of incest jokes and teasing from others for this one let me tell you. Then again being able to partake in the dance might be more important to you.
Every girl wants to be homecoming queen and it just does not always happen for them. Let that event unfold naturally and who votes for you vote for you or not. You are trying to push others you do not even know into voting for yourself. That comes off wrong and they will not do it.
If you want friends that is one thing. If you just want friends to get votes that is wrong and will backfire. Forget about that and being anything other than who you are. You do not have to push to make friends with new people. Be who you are and people are bound to be attracted to this and everything else friend wise or vote wise takes care of its ownself.
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i started my period about 2 months ago. my vagina is changing..is that normal? if so what changes are normal???? (link)
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Your vagina is the same as it always was and is meant to be. The vagnal opening is the same, clitoris, labia all that should be the same too and always there. By changing you must mean periods and or discharge. That is the change as I cannot fathom the physical makeup of the reproductive system different than before.
Periods are normal and you will get used to them. White discharge means ovulation is taking place. Unless a discharge looks like cottage cheese and smells awful you are fine and do not have an infection. By saying your vagina has changed nobody knows what you mean beyond what I or others think you mean with the question.
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I'm about 10, 15 pounds overweight and I'm trying to lose weight. I've always heard diet and exercise, but since I'm not EXTREMELY overweight, would it really matter if I went on a diet and instead just exercised. Would it work? I mean yes I would cut back on food a bit (especially snacks) but I don't eat too unhealthy anymore especially since I stayed at about the same weight for the passed yr. (I gained about three pounds when I've gained the extra 15 from three years before, thats about 5 a year and I cut down my food and only gained 3!) The problem is I am terrible at exercise, I hate running and playing and bikeriding but I've also put off exercise so I never really was very active. So, if I get on a schedule and actually DID my workouts, could I just stick with my regular diet I'm on now? (Except add breakfast, I've heard that helps and probably eat lunch every day (unless I REALLY hate the school lunch or forget money) Right now I don't eat breakfast, I hardly eat lunch, I eat a snack when I get home (usually chips) and dinner (except on some weekends I may get hungry at night and eat). Thanks!
Also, if anybody has any exercises I can do to work my legs (upper and lower), stomach, and butt that would be much appreaciated also!! (link)
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First of all your eating habits are all screwed up knowing from experience. You absolutely have to have breakfast, lunch and dinner for this to work for you. Breakfast is simple, have oatmeal and a banana and some juice. That's meal one. Lunch, a sandwhich, apple and juice and be done. Dinner, something light, low in fat and finish it off with a glass of milk.
Pop, ice-cream, cookies have to be illiminated totally and that can be done. I have done it so can you. The problem is you want to eat after dinner having missed meals and your body is telling you eat this etc. That's making you gain more and defeating you.
What can you or should you do then? You need to see your doctor, get weighed, learn your BMI index numbers and what weight you need to be. Next, ask him/her for a dietitian. This person will put you on a diet that is low fat and will in fact tell you what to eat and give recipies. Follow them and never go off of that.
I after being in hospital twice in '03 and '04 weight 188 which I am supposed to be but went as high as 230 because of the drugs wanting me to eat. I am now back to 188 and can do 180. I lost 26 pounds in 2-3 months. Losing 1-2 pounds a day is what is normal. You can do it. You just have to want it!
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ok i want an ipod for xmas but i was just wondering whats teh difference between the actual ipod, an ipod mini, and an ipod nano. Like I no ipod minis and nanos only hold 1000 songs and the regualr ipod holds aorund 10000 or sumthing....but thats it....so i was just wonderign which is better and price isn't an issue...I just wnt to no what they all do and stuff. Oh and I know that ipod minis their battery power is really crappy I was wondering if teh regualr ipod is better. Thanks (link)
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Understand that people will try to sell you anything if you do not know your stuff. You need to actually research online and off about such products. Try and get a copy of Consumer Reports latest guides where they rate electronic equipment, tell you brands to buy or not. Bottom line, do not go in blind knowing nothing and same goes for your gift givers. It is exactly like trying to buy a car or a computer people are out to snow you for comission or the price.
Test what your friends have, ask if they like it, cost etc and where to buy one. Check Best Buy out. Know first of all the sales guy or girl is against you and out to make a commission. Get them talking about these Ipods and listen to what the common sales point is and differences. Write it all down.
Then, the next thing is take that info and test other retailers on it and ask the same questions you did at Best Buy. If you find a common match with a brand and item go buy it for the cheaper price. If anyone tries to push you on something back away and say "I'm just pricing them thanks." and if they presist "Thank you, Got to go I was only pricing them." and then go.
Definetly ask people who own these things questions and test them as well as go into the stores and decipher truth from lies out of sales people.
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Does anyone know any good books for teens that are kinda like the princess diaries or the sisterhood of the traveling pants series. i have run out of good books to read. help!!!! (link)
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There is much more as I should have pointed out to the letter writer to Chronicles of Narnia than you think. It is not a kids book and before Harry Potter was widely read and even studied. There are a lot of religious undertones and hidden messages in it. You could say the same of Alice in Wonderland.
The books you mentioned before are not written for eighth graders or college level. If you in fact can read college level books then do it. Why read this books even if liked them? You are not challenging yourself academically. You may be able to read at a college level but if you cannot think, ponder, and reflect on books written at that level reading them will do you no good.
If you want to read at a college level as an eighth grader start reading those books. Try Grisham, try the Davinci Code, try something other than Sisterhood of The Raveling Pants no matter how good it was. There you go--once again challenge yourself and learn from the work of those writers how to write yourself and how to think.
If you read classics which I doubt from your rather snarly feedback letter that is good. I would in writing this like to challenge people to think, read, read 3 newspapers daily and actually learn before college how to write well. Right now, society is not fulfilling that mission and helping teens and kids to read and write at high levels. Learn grammar too. Use books to teach you tricks about writing.
Enough of my rant. I am not a teacher, prof. etc but did graduate from Journalism school only to see 50% of those who enrolled drop out, profs. discover they could not write, spell, read properly etc. Only 11 people graduated who started myself being one of them. I would like to see therefore people reading books that challenge and make you think. If you have college level anything including reading get materials for that age group and use them to excel.
If you want adult adventure books go and get them. They may not be about a princess but the quality of work, thinking, page turning, pondering and reflection someone of your gifted level must do is what is important. To excel in Grade 8 to advance farther using your intellect and books is what you ought to be doing.
Read those other books on the side and actually strat reading newspapers, online content, books, and material for adults and see why there are many biases and that not all that gets reported is exactly what you think.
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i wanna make out with people so bad but i dont know i can picture my self doing mad stuff with people but how do i know like where to put my hands and what if i miss his mouth or something idk just what do i do.. (link)
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What bothers me is your wanting to do this and that and not caring with whom just to get it done. That road is the wrong one to take because you will have forced this to happen and may have no positive memories of who you kissed and how it felt. Take your time, find the right person, actually enjoy it. This is not a competition or a I must do X before I turn X thing. It happens regardless of age because you waited and it was meant to be.
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