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what should i do?
i'm 14f and this guy at my school likes me and i like him too ALOT! but my best friend likes him too but she said she only liked him like a little and everything. and the guy asked me out and he's still waiting for my answer.. so what should i do?
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Say yes.
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Now that is one hard situation. I'm sure you know what most likely will happen if you say yes. You're friend is probably going to get jealous and y'all might not be that close for awhile until she accepts everything. But you can't necessarily put your life on hold for a friend. Try talking to her about it and maybe even get her approval. You'll have a much better relationship if you know your best friend supports you. Even if she doesn't, you have to make your own choices in life even when they might not please other people. Just for now be really sensitive to what she might be feeling and you'll be fine. Hope i helped!!!
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Well you and I both know either way you are screwed. The answer is always tell the guy straight up "I really like you and would go out with you but it would ruin a life-long friendship with (girl's name) over this. You are free to do what you want but she likes you and I cannot get in the way." Tell him straight up.
Any other choice leads to losing the guy and or worse the friend. Letting him know what is happening will make you a friend out of the guy, and she will be happy. Then as usually happens if they do not have as much in common as you do with him as a friend he will come looking for you for love.
Your mission, let them be together as hard as that is, maybe find someone for now and take notes on their relationship and what does not work for either of them and play up with him what you know but do not betray her. I screwed that up with a guy friend. I have learned from losing the friendship you never FULL ON go after someone's weak side with a couple or you are SCREWED out of friendships with both.
When pissed at either of them for childish behaviour that will come up excuse yourself and go home or to the bathroom for a very good 10 minute stretch or outside. Rather than talk about those issues direct just wait for the cards to fall anyway. I lost my friend from it of 8 years and wanted the girl for myself.
Both dislike me and I have not spoken to them in 6 months--but I do know they are no longer together after she thought and I told her he's abusive and will not change. There are no secrets when it's about a couple no matter what you say to one with the I won't tell BS it's told the minute you leave. Be careful.
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You should go for it because you two like each other and he asked you out and you're thinking about saying no. What if you tell him no and then he asks your friend out and she says yes you are going to regret saying no. But it is up to you. It you say yes and your friend has a problem with it then she really isn't your friend because a real friend would want you to be happy don't you think? I hope that I helped but id not you can visit me at my column.
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Your best friend is going to have to learn how to deal with that. You never want to loose a friend over a guy though.
It's an iffy situation. I'd tell your friend, if she knew how much you guys liked eachother then she should be able to understand and just be happy for you. Seeing as how she doesn't like him that much she should be able to get over it. Just talk to her about it.
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