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ok well i think my best friend might like me back cuz i like him but i havent told him. i assume hes probably figured it out by now but maybe he hasnt. today i was sitting next to me and he kept playing with my hands and stuff. and then later i was walking right next to him and all of a sudden he just grabbed my hand and was holding it, fingers laced and all. and then he was all like "im just holding ur hand for no reason?" and i was like ok and then he let go but he was holding it for like 10 seconds. he always says no whenever people ask if he likes me. so maybe this is all my imagination. he is like my best friend though. and i want to kiss him really really badly. i wish he would kiss me grrr. should i kiss him on the cheek randomly when its just the two of us? maybe it would be awkward. im not sure but ive been thinking about it. maybe even tomorrow i can try it? help please. and thank you oh so much =)

Heh, don't kiss him yet. In my opinion, this guy does have the hots for you. =)

Just be patient, he will be making a move real soon. Just make sure you get to be alone with him more often so he can pluck up the courage to 'confess'.

Heh, this is so cute =). I'm sure it'll happen soon.

Good luck.=)
Kay.

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14/f
okay well i usaully dont have luck with guys because im shy. SO i have never had a bf. i told my friends who i liked and she went to ask him who he liked and he said he heard rumors about me but there are 3 other girld with the same name as me adn my best guy friend is his best friend and he never told me anything.So what do i do? do i act like nothing happened? what do you think the rumors are?

Hey,

The rumors could mean anything. He could be teasing you, planning on hurting you, or maybe he really is talking about you. You can't really tell...

And don't trust rumors. It's best if you just ignore it and wait till something happens. At the moment, don't think about it and let everything happen naturally.

Rumors are another way of confusing you. Don't believe in them.

Best of luck,
Kay

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how do i get away from an annoying brother. cause he stresses me out

Well, what I do with my annoying little sister is that I stay in my room all the time to avoid her (and lock myself in) and if she comes and starts nagging or whining or whatever, I don't respond.

Also, walk around the house with headphones on (iPod, CD player, fake something, dunno). That works with me all the time. That way I avoid morning lectures in the car from my parents, no student bothers me at university when i'm working, etc. Soon he'll get the point that you're not to be talked to unless you talk to him first.

But don't be rude... I ended up being rude to my little sister and because I ignored her all the time, she ended up being friends with the wrong ones and now she cuts herself - she's only 12. So ye. I regret doing that now. Don't ignore him .. just let him know that you're not in the mood to be talked to.


Best of luck.
Kay.

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im 5'9" 14/f and i weigh like 140. i have NEVER weighed this much. no matter what i do, i cant seem to lose weight. ive even ate less than 1200 calories in a day and excercise, but no luck. i hate it!! what shoud i do? i cant stand weighing this much!

The worst part about weight is that gaining it is easy ... losing it takes ages. You'll lose weight eventually IF and only if you keep on exercising regularly or eating healthy for a while. You'll see results soon but nothing will change overnight...You'll have to keep working on it, stay determined and say no to candy, fast food, etc.

There are ways to help you with this. I.e. don't take the elevator, take the stairs. Don't stay seated for too long. NEVER eat while you're watching T.V. (you tend to overeat without realizing...). Dance for an hour or so every day. Jump.

Good news though. Your weight is perfectly normal! You're tall and you only weight 140 pounds when the average weight for 5'9" people ranges between 143 to 178.5! You should be happy=). So according to science, you need to GAIN weight XD. Your weight's perfectly normal and all, but if you want to lose weight, do it ONLY to stay fit, not to get thinner.

So it's your choice. I don't think you need to worry about your weight for now. Be happy - you've got the perfect weight!

Best of luck hon.
Kay.

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Hello. im 13 I cant seem to find the right color eyeliner or right color eyeshadow for me. im Brunette. i have medium brown hair past my shoulders. i need help on what color to wear and some people tell me all these different styles of how to put it on and it always looks weird on me. like alittle past my age kind of makeup. so if you could tell me what color i should wear and post some links to pictures of what styles of how i should put it on that looks like a 13 year old girl would wear her makeup. That would be great! Plzzz&&Thnxxx

The right color bit depends on your skin tone and eye color hon. If you send me those info to my inbox, I'd be more than happy to help you =).

Also I'd recommend that you keep it simple and wash your face regularly. Don't let other influence you about what or how you should wear xyz. As long as you're comfortable with it and it shows your real age, it's perfect.

I'll be waiting for the eye and skin tone thing =).

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does anyone know some really good makeup that is under 20$ that covers up pimples really well?

thx!!

Nivea, Maybelline (real good) and Rimmel (good as well).

You can check out the prices and diff. shades and stuff on their sites.

Nivea's the most expensive... $18-$20 I think (where I live, at least...)


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hey i was just wondering if anyone knew how to make some really good powerpoint slides

Well it really depends on what you mean by good.

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ok so i'm suppost to do this report about flat iron in new york.
so i pretty much got the most important things , but i just have 1 question...
who actually lives in it??
and if u have any good sites about flat iron..
show me
thx

xxx

It's an office space for book publishers.

Here's more:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flatiron_Building



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Does anyone know the guitar chords to Jimmy Needham's Lost At Sea? I have looked in a lot of places but I just can't find it. I need the chords, not just the lyrics.
Much thanx!

Hey,

I found a song titled Lost At Sea BUT it's by another artist...maybe it's the same song? Dunno.

http://www.ultimate-guitar.com/tabs/e/eisley/lost_at_sea_crd.htm

Happy strumming!

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my throat hurts and it feels like its swollen. do i need to like go to the doctor? or do you think its just a sore throat? maybe i have strep?

The doc's always the best person to ask this question to, BUT I do have some 'solution's. They might work, might not, but here goes.

Take your regular hot mug of tea. Add (pick one or more - i choose butter all the time): lemon, honey, butter, mint, sugar. This will soothe the pain.

Also, if it starts coming up your nose and you feel like you're gonna get sick with the flu, try this:

Take a small pot. Pour some water in it and bring it to boil. After it's boiled, add some camomile flowers in it and let it sit for a while (no more boiling). After 10 mins or so, take the pot, put it on the table in front of you (do this while sitted down, the process lasts 20 mins), take a towel and cover half your face with the pot under your nose (so the pot's covered at the same time). Breathe in deep through your nose, breathe out through your mouth. Don't stay under the towel for too long..it'll be too hot. Take breaks between a couple of sniffs.

This should help you. I'm kinda in a hurry so I typed it fast but if you need more detailed explanations let me know =).

Get well soon!

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fun stuff to do while making out?

There's loads, I'll tell ya the simplest one.

Touchy touch =).

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i am an indian. i have 100 mbps broadband internet connection with unlimited download facility. how can i watch free online movies in my laptop through that connection without any interruption? i have loaded real player/windows media player/ivivo/dvd player etc. in my laptop.

Yea, they are free but illegal.

alluc.org
peekvid.com

Loads more as well.

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I had 3 papers due in my class last week, on monday but I haven't been in class, becuase I couldn't face the teachers until the work was done. So I have a full week late paper, and I missed class on the third time becuase of a car accident.These papers are a pass/fail deal with ym teacher. What could I tell my teacher in order to keep my own dignity and their respect.

I agree with rick505's advice. Just tell them the truth. Teachers appreciate honesty and they don't usually get that from students...

Something far worse happened with me a couple of years back - when teachers were even more strict and narrow-minded...I stole the math final exam sheet, photocopied it and gave it to everyone in class ('cept for the nerds, heh, i was evil). The morning of the exam, i couldn't take it anymore, so I went to the principal and confessed even though noone had been suspicious. He was very surprised and forgave me but i had to write a 4 page paper about "why i shouldn't steal stuff from the staff room..."

Think about it. Do you think your teachers will be angry if you go and tell them the truth? Maybe for a minute or something but it will go away. What's the worst that could happen? Having to write another paper like me? I don't this will cause you suspension or expulsion (spl?...) but it depends on your teacher whether he or she will make you 'pay for it' but definitely not suspension.

Good luck. Summer's soon so keep your hopes up!

Let me know how it goes,k?

=)
Kay

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I really need a new haircut. Right now my hair is very long and has long layers. My face is in between a round/heart shape and my cheeks are kind of pudgy. What are some hairstyles that could work for me? I'm willing to get a shorter cut, especially since it'll be summer soon, maybe bangs, i have no idea..but what could flatter my face? I also am big boned (in other words, my body shape isn't really thin) so i also need a cut that could maybe flatter my body shape a little. Thanks!

Hey,

Personally, I think an Asian hairstyle would look awesome on you. I have the same features as you (round face, USED to have long layered hair). I got an Asian haircut and I'm in love with it!

http://beauty.about.com/od/hairstylephotogalleries/ss/asian1.htm

Check out that site. It's got awesome hairstyles!

=)
Kay

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In Salvador Dali's painting The Persistence of Memory (a.k.a Melting Clocks or Droppy Watches), what is that white thing with the clock on it. It looks like a whale kind of? Anyways, what is it and what is the signifigance of it? Thank yoU!

Taken from Wikipedia:

The well-known surrealistic piece introduced the image of the soft melting pocket watch. It's possible to recognize a human figure in the middle of the composition, in the strange "monster" that the same Dalí called the "paranoiac-critical camembert": it's a head (probably a self-portrait of the artist). In general the tree means life, but, in this case, has the same function of the rest of the elements in the picture: to impress anxiety and, in a certain way, terror. The golden cliffs in the upper right hand corner are reminiscent of Dali's homeland, Catalonia.

I'd give the the exact same answer 'cept in worse english (it's not my first lang.)

Anyway, I LOVE answering questions about art and design (since I study it), so if you've more questions about anything art/design related, drop a message in my inbox!

=)
Kay

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I'm allowed to wear make up and I do want to but there's something like holding me back..

I always believed in natural beauty but I feel really ugly and the fact that I'm the only one in my class that doesn't wear make while all the other girls do and looks good( beautiful, not slutty) makes me want to.

But I don't know how to wear make up or select colours for my face.

Is make up when you wear EVERYTHING: eye liner, blush, those things that are the same colour of your skin and you put it all over your facem lip gloss, etc? Or just liek eye liner?

I guess I just want to wear ONLY the essentials like mascara and maybe cover up but I don't want to be dependent on it. I saw picture of girls wthout make up and it looked ABSOLUTELY scary!

Does make-up damage your face? My skin is super sesitive.

What's your opinion of this?

http://www.maybelline.com/mca/index.aspx

This'll help loads.

Also try other makeup sites (Rimmel, Nivea, etc.) They're makeoever stuff online that might be helpful as well.

=) Remember, others want to see your face. Don't let your face look like a slapped butt! Less is more.


Good luck hon.

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there is a game that people play on the computer at my school all the time, and you like draw a line for this little guy to skateboard or snowboard or whatever off of it. and it looks really fun. whats the name of the game and where can i find it?

http://www.linerider.eu/

=) Enjoy!

Look at the vids for ideas - they're awesome!

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My friend hasnt admitted that shes a lesbian OR bi but me and my other friend are always freaked out because she gets really touchy feely & says she wants to have sex with us and were so hot/sexy/cute. I do this jokingly with my friends too but to a point...She actually seems serious about it. She'll say "Its so cute when you wear your hair down" and she wont say "LOL." Im not a homophobe, Im just not a lesbian. Im 100% straight, straight, straight! And I dont know WHAT to do..I cant just stop being her friend - shes nice but she gets so weird.


Also, I have kind of confronted her about it. When she does it Im just like "Ok, are you a lesbian or something..." And shes like "noo!!"

Hey,

Maybe your friend's just nervous about coming out of the closet... I think she's expecting negative reactions from the circle of people around her that's why she's taking it one step at a time.

If you're 100% sure that she's a lesbo or a bi, then leave the issue..There's no need to squeeze it out of her and make her feel embarrassed or something. I'm sure the time will come when she herself will tell you.

And don't stop being her friend just because she's too nice in a gay way or too weird and feely and touchy. That's no reason to end a friendship. For the time being, you can try to bear it. If it gets too much and uncontrolled, try talking to her. Be nice and positive about it. Let her know you accept her for who she is.

My best friend's a bi - leaning towards lesboness. She's constantly commented on how hot I am, gorgeous, etc. and I kinda got freaked out, but I paid her compliments back and it all seemed normal. I guess it's a matter of trust when it comes to gay friends. To build the trust and strengthen it, stay real close to her. It'll work out miracles.

=) Best of luck.

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Hey guys...ok sorry but this is one of the long stories so thanks in advance if you're going to read this.. and give advice =) anyways

I've been so pissed lately at a lot of things! First i'm pissed at this guy who asked me out for dinner and told me not to make any plans on the day...and he said he'd call me to tell me what time but he never called...and i talked to him before the day by like a couple of days and he never said anything about the dinner! so its either he forgot or doesnt wanna hang out with me anymore :S ??

Second i've been pissed at my friends lately...not just one or two but most of them! And none of them really know...well kinda! im only gonna mentions a couple of them and save the rest for another question...because then it'll be too long..

OK ive known this girl since grade 5!! and i moved to another skool after that year and then we re-united after a couple of years and started hanging out again!! me and her are really close!! with this other girl too...we've always talked to each other about anything and we were like sisters...anyways so you can say that ive known her for like 8 years now...

so the problem is that ive been trying sooo hard to hang out with her or even TALK to her for the past half year!! and everytime she says she cant and has a different excuse...either shes too busy studying...or too busy with her skool friends...or is grounded...or has a family visit!! im soo sick of it and when i wanna open the subject to tell her that im annoyed and i miss her i wanna hang out and everything...shes like i knoww! even though it doesnt seem like it but i miss you its just im tooo busy with skool stuff!! and shes never called and never even talks to me online!! its like she completely erased me from her world!! (Same with the other girl btw)

Ok now another friend that ive been with for 7 years! we've been best friends since! and like we always hang out and everything and i depend on her but she doesnt know about the other 2 girls...im the type who doesnt express my feelings alot..if im pissed then im pissed i dont share it with anyone..i feel like im pyling on other people problems so anyways the problem is these last few weeks ive been feeling like shes avoiding me....and hiding a lot of things from me...she knows i know them... yet she doesnt tell me :( like i always find out! easliy...but i mean i always wanna be there for her if she ever needs me but the problem is its hard to get her to open up...

Ok another friend problem.... i dunno y but maybe theres something wrong with me...thats y i have problems:S or maybe im too 'paranoid' or watevre....anyways so this friend of mine!! WE ALWAYS HANG OUT!! and shes older than me by like a year...but she went to another skool a couple of yrs ago...anyways we just completely drifted apart! i try to talk to her and hang out but i dunno :( its like she doesn't want to...agh i dunno maybe i am too paranoid ! anyways ill keep it to here for now! the rest will be on later! im gna take a break from complaining! heh thanks a lot guys!! any advice would be appreciated... :D

Hon,

I'm sure if you told at least one of them how you feel about them - face to face - the rest will come out easily for the other friends.
This is something that no one can help you with - you and only you are able to do it.

I wish you'd tell them soon. I'm sure they're waiting.

Best of luck.

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how do you do color accent like this?

http://i10.tinypic.com/2hoh8gw.jpg

http://a442.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/1/m_2f8cd089f76d65c6acbd2641c1ca9059.jpg


is there anyway to do it on photoshop elements 2.0?


thanks in advance! this is a question i have been wondering FOREVERR

I don't really know if we both have the same photoshop, but I hope you do and I'll try my to help!

1. Select the magnetic lasso tool to go around the area you want to select. If the tool gets stubborn and doesn't 'stick' to the place you want it to, then click once and continue till you've covered the entire area you wanted to select in the first place.

2. After the area is selected, leave it like that. Go up to the menu bar/tab (whatever it's called) and select 'image' > 'adjustments'. Then from adjutments (I USE) choose 'color balance'. You can play around a lot there. Also, you can choose 'variations'. That can be fun to explore as well.

I hope I didn't confuse you...

Good luck! Send me a message if you need more help.

=) I'd be more than happy to help you.

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