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For my birthday im getting a coach bag. I cant decide which one i want though :
This one :
http://www.coach.com/content/product.aspx?product_no=9353&category_id=256
orr
http://mirror.replicasi.com/productInfo.asp?MercID=2&ProdID=1931
Pros and cons of each bag would be great if you want to thanks :]
Hm. That's a toughie, all right.
Well not really...
I like the second one a lot better.
Enjoy your bag!
Well, I have this friend, whom I used to be very close w/ since like preschool but the begining of this year was bad, like really bad, we just don't talk& now we're going to be freshman& she just pisses me off, like the little things add up. I mean I was wearing shorts, they were pretty short, but they weren't tight& you didn't see anything& I thought they were cute, then the first thing she says when she sees me is why don't you go put some clothes on, so I ignore it, then we were all (like 12 of us, including my crush) watching a movie& then I went to get some chips& she snatched them out of my hand& wouldn't let me have any the whole night, then I started being a bitch, because I was sick of it, so I called her a fatass(shes not really)& the last thing that set me off was I had to leave so then I was like will someone come walk me to the car, it's kinda a bad part of town& shes like I can't toren(a friend) is sitting on me, so he gets up& shes like gravitys holing me down, I was like whatever& walked out.like that night, me& my crush Kyle, were laying on eachother (not like real bad, he was leaning against a couch& I had my head on his cheast& we were holding handS) then I dated him once before, which his friend lied to me& said he was cheating on me (which he wasn't) then she was like I don't think you should get into that mess, when I said i'm gonna go back out w/ him, I was like you dated adam four times,& he broke up w/ you each time& we told you not to go back to him but what do you do? you do it.(adams her ex)& I didn't like him, which she knew that,she said it's different, when really it's not.
I don't think she likes me anymore, like as a friend& I don't care, but its hard because we've known each other for so long, what should I do? just stop talking to her, because well I guess a new group of people have started talking to me, but just because her I don't want to lose my other friends.
Get to know some new people, like that new group. Unless it's a menacing drug addicts/emo/goth group. I don't mean to label, but I don't know how else to say it with you still understanding who I mean. Anyway, she's not the nicest girl - and it amazes me at how many people go through this, including myself. I have some crappy friends right now that I'm not really talking to. So just talk to your guy friends - guys are so much funner to be with because they don't hold grudges, they just have fun; and they're not concerned in the latest gossip or backstabbing. I dunno what else to tell you.
Much Love,
Lauren
my sister just told me that my other sister was bisexual and my sister and i are really close or at least i thought we were and iam just in so much shock right now and i don't know how to handle it it's just that we've always told each other every thing.
It' natural for her to be scared, she's worried of what you'll think of her so she didn't tell you. Maybe she's afraid you'll have less of an opinion or think less of her. All you can really do right now, is be there for her. Tell her no matter what you guys will always be sisters, Bi, Straight, or Lesbian.
Much Love,
Lauren
http://artists.letssingit.com/sheryl-crow-lyrics-soak-up-the-sun-7xdngnh
what is the meaning of the song when you analyze the lyrics? i dont get it. thanks! =]
It means if bad things happen, she won't let it ruin her life. Just because she doesn't get perfect materials etc. or everything she wants, she'll still have fun with it. Just because what she wants isn't hers, she'll go for the alternative and keep trying until she fulfills her goals which is a great philosophy to live by. Here are some other good philosophies.
You only go around once.
Life's too short to live the same day twice.
Much Love,
Lauren
anyone know this song.
it goes like this,
"is this the start of it?
has this become a part of it.
maybe we should've slowed down.
this is how we watsed it,
maybe we'll get it abck somehow."
it's in alexheartbreaker's myspace btw XD
The Start of It - Meese
Next time, just go to google ;)
Much Love,
Lauren
14/f
Hey. Basically Im depressed. About my whole life. I have different issues like school work and guys and i really do not want to go to an adult about this. I dont know if im really depressed or am i just bored. Like i havent had a boyfriend since october. I really dont know, i should be very happy right now because i won this contest, but im not. I cry everyday, and nothing big happened that i should be depressed about. I mean there are little things but seriously im so confused right now and i realy need help. I do talk to my friend but she has no adivce cuz shes going through the same thing. Please help
Don't worry sweety, I went through the same thing! You do sound a little bit depressed, but not too far into it. When I was depressed, my grades went down & I thought I was some hideous girl who didn't know how to deal with her life. But the only reason I thought I was hideous was because I didn't have a boyfriend. I was depressed because the most popular girl in school, auditioned for a TV show & got the part & I wanted to be an actress, then I realized my "friend" only wanted me for his own sexual desires & I heard he was at the movies the other day with a whole bunch of other girls. I was crushed. Then my best friend turned the whole school against me! And when I got mad she told me she'd kill herself if I wasn't her friend even though she put me through so much. My grades went down, I had a weakened relationship with everyone around me & I began to alienate them all. I thought my whole life was falling apart. But then I realized, you only see things negatively when you choose to. In other words, you have control of when to be happy again! I talked to my mom about my depression, & she told me that all my cousins went through the same thing when they were my age. & It was my turn. It's a phase that everyone goes through around 13-16 because it's part of growing up. Hang in there, hun. It'll be okay, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger! When I was feeling this way, here's what I did.
Step 1) Let the pain hurt. You HAVE to let it get to you, it's the only way to forget about it. That "friend" of mine who only wanted me for sex I was telling you about, transferred so I was really upset. I had dreams about him coming back to the school & all I did was avoid him. Weird, huh? Then later I found out that my dream was because I was ignoring the feelings I had about him, I cried off and on for a few weeks then I was totally over him.
Step 2) Write it all down. I write depressing poems, that's why my username is Depressed_poet. I write sad poems or stories I've been through that aren't the happiest, then I look back and I'm able to say, "Wow, I'm glad I got that outta me. I feel so much better, not that sad anymore." You'd be amazed at how much just writing things down or talking to someone can help.
Step 3) Think positively. No matter how many times you ask yourself, "Why am I so sad?" because you can't figure it out, you'll end up resultless. Because the truth is, there really is no particular reason, everyone goes through this phase. So don't worry, you don't sound too depressed. Exactly what I went through :D
And don't worry, because you can get yourself back again :]
If my advice doesn't help you, talk to an adult. I know you don't want to, & I didn't want to either but you'd be surprised at how much they know. And shockingly, they DO understand! & Since your parents are the ones with the least influence over you at your age, it's important you try to stay close to them. They can help you get therapy or medicine prescribed if it's too severe. But I don't think it's anything to worry about. Nothing you should lose sleep over after talking :)
Hope I helped you!
With Love,
Depressed_Poet
Hi, I have a friend who is 15/16 and she has a problem with drinking alcohol. Whenever she drinks alcohol she doesnt get drunk or tipsy she just feels sick or is sick and last time she barely had much and it was her birthday and she spent all of it in the toilet :[ .
Friends have suggested that she has a problem with her kidneys or whatever but I want to help her but don't have any advice for her.
Now i dont want anyone saying that she shouldnt be drinking at her age because to be honest everyone does it o"o but her parents don't know that she drinks often and so she can't talk to them about it, and she was thinking about going to the doctors about it but wants to be sure first that she has good enough reason to.
please help as she is missing out ;]
thankyoo x x
You're not going to like my answer, but I'm not going to suck up just to get a good rating.
The reality is, she shouldn't be drinking. She's too young. And no, NOT everyone does it! In fact, I read in a Health book that less than 25% of teens do it. Sorry to be so rude. Look, she's probably just allergic - and I know she doesn't want to go to her parents but just going to someone to talk to (even if it's not them) can relieve you from a lot. But she should really talk to her parents about this first. They're the ones with the smallest influence over her at that age, so naturally... she'll be annoyed. But you'd be amazed at what just talking can do. Tell her she needs to tell them about it :] Being honest will free you from a lot of burdens. Oh yeah, she can't have a kidney problem. It would be a liver problem, like the person before me said because the liver can only handle ONE OUNCE of alcohol per hour!
Hope this helped you, hun.
Alright so i like this kid and we have been friends for a pretty long time but just this week he broke up with his gf should i ask him out or give him time..? Plzzz help
Wait a week, then ask him out. You don't wanna miss out on it again. If you rush in too quickly, he's going to get frustrated because he just got out of a relationship & there's more likley-hood of him getting much more annoyed with you.
does anyone remember this really dirty song that came out in around 2002, maybe 2001? it isn't my neck my back, or that how many licks song by lil kim. i tried to google everything i could think of in the song but nothing came out.
all i remember is that its sung by a woman and it was really dirty and had a lot of innuendo. thanks for any suggestions.
I think you mean Dirty by Christina Aguilera
I like this guy that goes to my school and it is pretty obvious he likes me to. We flirt all the time like MAJORLY flirting so much my teachers can even tell. The problem is he has a girlfriend. But he calls me more then he calls her! The other day when we were on the phone he said that someday me and him will go out. I dont know what to do because I like him alot and its obvious he likes me and I want him to break up with his girlfriend but i dont see that happening anytime soon. What should i do?
I rate well!
If he says that to you, that just screams how loyal he is. Who knows? He could be doing the same to 600 other girls. Metaphorically speaking. Anyways, if you did end up going out with him, he could end up calling other girls, too. Talk to his girlfriend about this. Maybe after hearing the news she'll get mad & break up with him. But that sounds like a mean plan... but she needs to know. Then if you're REALLY sure you're still interested, ask him out. But I really think if you did, it would make it look like you lied about everything to get him. And chances are, he would deny all he's said. Get them together with you in a conversation & say:
"You guys, I really don't think your relationship is working because... " and explain what he's done to you. I mean, it would be more concincing because who would do that in front of the person you're talking about, if it was a lie?
hi^_^
can you guys please tell me your favorite songs so i can download some new songs?
thaank you:)
Umbrella - Rihanna & Jay-Z
Just to Feel That Way - Taylor Hicks
Do I Make You Proud - Taylor Hicks
One More Time - Daft Punk
Sandstorm - Darude
Get Ready for This - Crazy Frog
Heaven - DJ Sammy
Something - Lasgo
Girlfriend - Avril Lavigne
Dancing Queen - Abba
Give it to Me - Nelly Furado feat. Timbaland
Get Low - Lil Jon & Eastside Boyz
Give me Tonight - Taylor Hicks
The Runaround - Taylor Hicks
Home - Daughtry
We Live - Superchick
Stuck in the Middle with You - Stealers Wheel
Bite the Dust - Pussycat Dolls
You Give Love A Bad Name - Blake Lewis (Find it at Americanidol.com, it works with iTunes)
Play That Funky Music - Wild Cherry
Makes Me Wonder - Maroon 5
Summer Love - Justin Timberlake
Sexyback - Justin Timberlake
If You're not the One - Daniel Bedingfield
You and I both - Jason Mraz
Break it Off - Rihanna & Sean Paul
I like The way - Bodyrockers
With Love - Hilary Duff
Walk it Out - Unk
Cohiba - Mario Vasquez
Show me the money - Petey Pablo
Dem Jeans - Chingy
You Really Got Me - Sanjaya Malakar (Found on Americanidol.com)
It's a Feel Good thing - S Club 7
Don't stop movin' - S Club 7
Floor Filler - A*Teens
Beautiful Liar - Beyonce & Shakira
The Sweet Escape - Gwen Stefani
4 the morning - Gwen Stefani
Bathwater - Sanjaya Malakar (Americanidol.com)
Don't Matter - Akon
Mickey - B*Witched
Feelin' Myself - Dolla
Hit Me Up - Gia Farrell
this weekend i was with my brother and some of his friends and we were all driving around in my new car a 2007 escalade. I was driving adn it was raining and late at night and i have only had my license for about 3 months. we were coming around the corner and hit another car totaling mine and theirs. right away my brother took the blame for it and told me not to worry about it since he has been driving for a few eyars now and wouldnt get in as much trouble as i would. since the other car didnt see i was driving it worked out fine but now i feel awful that he took the blame for this but i know that if i came forward my parents would kill me. what should i do?
I know it's hard, but you need to get yourself together and confess it was you, too. Your brother is sweet to do that, but it was also wrong of him to not let you be disciplined. Think of it that way. He did the wrong thing but for the right reason. I guess that's really all I can say at this point. But know that you need to take some of the blame with him, and life goes on.
It'll all be okay ;)
so i really like my best friend and he means the world to me but there is a slight problem. he always flirts with me so everyone thinks he likes me. i mean if a guy held your hand wouldnt you think so too? anyways i had a friend tell him that shes seen us together all the time and that we should go out. so then he told me what she said and i just said oh really and he said yea but thats what everyone said about this other girl and me and then you know how that ended up. (they broke after a week) i think he doesnt want a relationship or isnt exactly ready for one, actually im pretty sure thats it. but my friends were asking him if he likes me and he gets annooyed and or says i dont know or changes the subject. so hes a tough one to crack. what should i do? should i just continue to be friends that like eachother but arent dating? i mean whatever he wants is fine with me, its not worth being a mess over this. im pretty sure he does like me but i dont really know since he wont say. anyways thanx sorry this is long. i love you guys.
btw 14/f
I think the biggest mistake you're making here, is telling your friends all of this. Don't take this the wrong way because I'm sure your friends are trustworthy but they could really mess it up by annoying him by asking him all the time whether he likes you or not. It might even mess the friendship up =[
I think if you just stop discussing it with people, the confusion will clear up & you and your best friend have higher potential to be happy, whether in a friendship or a relationship. If you're interested in him (normally i would say to be mysterious), then go for it. You only go around once so you can't live with regrets... you have to live life the way you want. So if you want him as more than a friend, don't wait for it to happen. Because fate won't happen by itself. Someone has to help it. You know? Give it a starting push. So if you want him as more than a friend, show it. Or even ask him out if you're ready =] But in this case I advise you just to wait to ask him out.
"How did you learn to walk when you were a baby? You fell. But the important thing is that you get back up." -Lauren Cronin
In other words, keep trying until you can walk. Metaphorically speaking. Don't settle for crawling. Oh and by the way, if you're meant to go out, then asking him out and him saying no won't interfere.
Hope I Helped!
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some guy sent that on aim and i'm not sure what its supposed to be a picture of. looks like boobs but whats the Y? thanks!
It's boobs. The Y is where they like seperate. If you look at it really carefully, you'll see it. I highly reccomend you to block that creep's screen name and if it becomes too much of a problem maybe even get a new screen name.
I'm failing my Algebra 2 class!
I do my homework everynight. I pay attention in class. I take notes. I ask questions. But I do TERRIBLE on tests. I got a 65 on one and a 48 on another!
What should i do?
Hey, I'm bad at algebra too :3
Anyways, I think Sylvan learning center might help you. It helps any age group. From ranges first grade to 12th grade. Maybe it's your teacher. My algebra teacher IS AWFUL. Every quiz we've ever taken came out a failing grade. And the worst part is- EVERYONE FAILS THE TESTS! He gives us the grades he wants, not by how many we get wrong. And the highest grade we can get in his class is 94. 11 parents have complained because everytime we take a quiz the least amount we all had to retake it was 6 times and he thinks we're the problem! Maybe you're in the same situation. There's a difference between knowing how to do math and knowing how to teach it.It even got so bad with this guy that so amny people failed that he actually gave us all the answers for the quiz and said we'd never get lower than a 70 so people wouldn't complain. But I still got a 50 even though he gave us the answers, we had to match them up. I'm getting tutored this summer too. --- anyways that's off topic.
So anyway, spend an extra 15 minutes every other night on the concept, maybe? That could help. Don't spend more than 15 minutes a night on the homework. If it takes you more time you'll get too upset and frustrated then get even worse. Instead, to the homework to another subject or have a little break and THEN go back to the math homework. Like for example on the test I took today --- I got 4/25 correct. Maybe it's just me and I'm just bad at math but I think it could be my teacher, and in your case maybe your teacher. Sorry I'm getting off topic again.
Well anyways,
Hope I Helped!
i heard that coffee or like vanilla lattes make your belly even fatter... is that true?
Sounds kinda like something someone made up to either have a laugh or because they were bored. Kinda like that news about someone saying they had spider eggs in some soft gum, but that was never true from what I read on the internet.
Well it depends how much sugar and cream you put in. So if you put in like 5 sugars and 7 creams then yeah. It's true. But if you only put in like 2 creams and 3 sugars then no. It's not true. So it really depends. However, coffee does prevent liver disease. As for the vanilla latte, yeah that's probably true. It has a lot of sugar and creams and things to make you hyper so in that case- I would get a small decaf.
Hope I Helped!
so i am a procrastinator and i waited until last night to do my expo project. It's okay but it's not great. my friend kathelin's was AMAZING. we do not need to present them until next thurs. and mine is all permanent so what should i do? i want to measure up to hers!
i'm a procrastinator too ;) so i know what you mean. my science fair project is due in ten days and i havent started it yet- lol off topic. anyways, why do you wanna measure up to hers so bad? i know it's nice to have a great project but for what? a title? a good grade? yeah, good grades are nice but if your project is decent as well, the grade should be pretty high. here's what i do sometimes when i procrastinate. we have to put the dates on our papers and my literature teacher hates it when we procrastinate so i'll put like, 4/19/07 when it's due. that way, he'll think i started the project earlier. i know it's lying but it's a white lie so they don't get upset then make a scene. just make sure you put the date after it was actually assigned- lol (if you decide to do that). another thing you can do, is if you messed up somewhere then put like a picture over it or something. works good for me. maybe do something for extra credit. like, bring in a model of whatever you did or something? next time, spend more time on it. like 15-25 minutes a night on the project, and who knows? you could get the highest grade out of everyone. if you do a light load of work each night, you won't get overwhelmed, which means you won't get frustrated but you WILL do better.
okay, so i do track, and my first meet was yesterday.
So i was there,and my mom came with my 2 little sisters.
Heres me and my moms convo
me: why did you bring them?
my mom:they can come if they want too
(sister butts in and says, she doesnt want us to be home alone)
me: okay cool. why arnt you over there?
my mom: i came to watch you jump
me: im not jumping im watching people.
me: go sit over there with your parent friends
my mom: what?
me: idk go sit with like parents
then my mom left the meet angery
and i called her im like whered you go
and shes like you dont have to be a jerk to me
blahblah
and she hung up
and like when i needed a ride home, i called her and she came and got me at my school when the bus dropped me off, and im like whyd you leave and shes like bcuz you were being mean or something
and i was like your over reacting
then me and her started screaming at eachother
and we arnt talking to eachother?
any idea to get us talking again
and how i can be somewhat nicer to her ?
please help
don't take this the wrong way but your mom is being really immature. she's totally handling it the wrong way in my opinion. i think she was just offended and maybe it was "the wrong time of month" if you know what i mean and got upset over little things because of it. i mean, we all have our moments! so i think you should take the first step and apologize because i think it sounds like she was hurt. but nothing either of you should lose sleep over, if you know what i mean. maybe she had a bad day and couldn't find an outlet to channel her anger ( I don't mean to be rude) so she just snapped at you. to aplogize you should probably say this,
"Hi, mom. Look... about earlier, i didn't know i was offending you. i thought you were going to sit with the other parents and i didnt mean for you to get upset. i'm sorry." and maybe you can ask to do a favor or cook dinner to make it up to her or something? but i really think she should apologize too because you really didn't do that much. but the way you said for her to go sit with her parent friends was disrespectful because she only wanted to see you. but i wasnt there so i cant tell you everything about your tone- lol. anyways, sometimes it's not what you say; but how you say it.
14/f. I happen to drink about 3 glasses of orange juice everyday. How is this good for me?
well since orange juice has a lot of calcium and vitamins in it i would say you're very healthy. if you drink that much it should protect you against colds, sicknesses and keep your bones strong. but one thing i would definitely watch out for are canker sores because they hurt really bad and you can't have anything that has to do with fruit for like 3-5 days. and since you're only 14 and still growing it's especially healthy because it helps your blood cells and immune system fight against unhealthy viruses and bacterial infections etc. and helps your muscles stay strong.
hope i helped!
So theres this guy at my school and his moms girlfriend is really mean and so she grounds him all the time and his mom cant do anything about it, so anyways people are saying he got expelled cuz he had a knife and theres a whole bunch of rumors and he hasnt been to school for like 3 days, and i dont usually listen to rumors but i think he did, and i REALLY like him, but if hes expelled ill never see him again because i wont see him at school or on the bus and he will most likely be grounded, and im moving so we wont ever go to the same school. But how will i know if he really got expelled and how do i not be depressed about it. Because im really upset. :{ sorry this is so long.
To help you avoid being depressed, keep a journal. i find that writing about events that did or didn't go my way really helps and relieves you. the same thing kind of happened to me. i really liked him and he liked me too. but then i realized he liked sex more than me and that's all he really wanted. so he transferred and i won't ever see him again. it took me about 2-3 weeks to get over it because besides the sex issue we were pretty close friends. i cried for days but then i realized: why be friends with somebody who doesn't care about you for the right reasons? why bother being sad over that? or in your case... why bother thinking about someone or even liking him that had a knife, gets expelled and does those things? if he turns on people like that (it may not just be them) then who knows? he could turn on you as well. hang out with your friends more. and family. it will help you figure out what's really important in life. like keeping in touch with your friends, being around your family, doing what you love to do etc. maybe volunteer at an animal shelter to pass your time while at the same time you have that warm and cozy feeling inside that you did something good. so you and someone or something else can benefit from your life lesson too. something else that surprisingly helps is just talking. whether it's to him, to your friends, to your cousin, grandparents, cleargy, or even a teacher. if you explain the situation to them it will help you out a lot. maybe go shopping or see a movie or something. get some new music? or read a magazine at night to help you distract yourself? all of those things help. so instead of eating ice cream all day while watching depressing movies and moping like you're devastated because of a relationship, go have fun. but you do need to let yourself feel sad first. and it's gonna get worse before it gets better. believe me. but now i barely even care about the guy (let's call him max) that transferred from my school. all i did was run away from the pain because i missed him doing me favors and telling me jokes etc. and flirting. so one night i had a dream about him. he came back to the school and all i did was avoid him! it was telling me something. telling me that i needed to let myself be sad... or it would never get better.
hope it works for you!