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does he like me?
so i really like my best friend and he means the world to me but there is a slight problem. he always flirts with me so everyone thinks he likes me. i mean if a guy held your hand wouldnt you think so too? anyways i had a friend tell him that shes seen us together all the time and that we should go out. so then he told me what she said and i just said oh really and he said yea but thats what everyone said about this other girl and me and then you know how that ended up. (they broke after a week) i think he doesnt want a relationship or isnt exactly ready for one, actually im pretty sure thats it. but my friends were asking him if he likes me and he gets annooyed and or says i dont know or changes the subject. so hes a tough one to crack. what should i do? should i just continue to be friends that like eachother but arent dating? i mean whatever he wants is fine with me, its not worth being a mess over this. im pretty sure he does like me but i dont really know since he wont say. anyways thanx sorry this is long. i love you guys.
btw 14/f
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Man, you're in the same hubbub I was in earlier this year (8th grade). I didn't actually think this happened to other people, but lo behold, it does. Anyway, I'm jsut going to tell you what I did and you can pick and choose. Just go with it for now. Stay friends like you have been, but try to get closer. Not obviously closer, just slightly so he knows you're interested. After a while (yes, this is an on-going-patience-required process), you'll start to notice whether he likes you back or not. My guy asked me to dance. We fell out because he was really shy and by the time he got the courage to ask me out, I didn't like him anymore, but when you're sure of it, you can talk to him about it. For now, just be friends and hang out a lot and go from there. If he makes some move to show that he likes you, go for it. If you say he's shy and tentative, YOU go talk to him about your status (after you're sure he likes you). Ask him whether he likes you or not (truly) and if you're going out. Because I had this ongoing this for about 3 monthes and we were practically dating, but if was never official. So when it's like that, talk to you. And have your friends stop bugging him. It does get awfully annoying. Sorry for my endless blabbering. I'm an all-out person. And if you're guy really likes you, he'll probably say something eventually. Mine didn't because he was the biggest nerd in school and that's how he is =P
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I think the biggest mistake you're making here, is telling your friends all of this. Don't take this the wrong way because I'm sure your friends are trustworthy but they could really mess it up by annoying him by asking him all the time whether he likes you or not. It might even mess the friendship up =[
I think if you just stop discussing it with people, the confusion will clear up & you and your best friend have higher potential to be happy, whether in a friendship or a relationship. If you're interested in him (normally i would say to be mysterious), then go for it. You only go around once so you can't live with regrets... you have to live life the way you want. So if you want him as more than a friend, don't wait for it to happen. Because fate won't happen by itself. Someone has to help it. You know? Give it a starting push. So if you want him as more than a friend, show it. Or even ask him out if you're ready =] But in this case I advise you just to wait to ask him out.
"How did you learn to walk when you were a baby? You fell. But the important thing is that you get back up." -Lauren Cronin
In other words, keep trying until you can walk. Metaphorically speaking. Don't settle for crawling. Oh and by the way, if you're meant to go out, then asking him out and him saying no won't interfere.
Hope I Helped!
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