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So I'm having difficulty naming my grey female kitty. I've narrowed it down to a few names. I trust your opinions so let me know which one you like the best:
Pandora
Tabitha
Mabel
Scarlett
Paloma (Spanish for 'peace')
Stella
If you have any suggestions, that would be nice too. Thanks a lot!
I like Stella or Scarlett,
those both are super cute names!
:)
i just have a general question,
if you like someone, and they acted out of their character or hurt you in some verbal way-(nothing harsh/racially offensive), would you stop liking them or would your feelings persist?
this is stupid question but it's just i've noticed how some let go very easily once they are slightly doubtful and others strongly believe in forgiving, what's the norm?
For me, if they are a friend, of course I will forgive them!
If its a boy that I suddenly have a crush on, but then they do something weird, like say something mean to me, I do stop liking them. Because its a side I've never seen of them, and I dont find it to be a good characteristic for someone to have. Atleast in my opinion, I don't want someone who would make me feel out of place.. if that makes sense you know? BUT! I forgot to mention.. only if its over and over again, that it happens. I mean I forgive very easily, because it is my nature, depending on what was said/done. But yup :)
my hair has become so burnt from all the straigthening and highlights and product that ive put in it. i HAVETA strighten it now cause scrunching just poofs and its so discusting and frizzy. I dont know what to do with it! my mom says japeneeze straightening will just make it worse . frriizz stuff does not work. anything i can do or get done at the salon?
Deep condition your hair, and don't straighten it for a couple of weeks. Give it time to heal, try using shampoo that is specifically made for healing split ends, and dried hair. AND if none of that seems to help, go to a salon and see what they say. :)
16/f
I was thinking about trying the Alli weight loss plan. I just want to know if it's worth the money and if it works?
Another thing. If i go to the grocery store and use self checkout to buy the starter kit, will I not be allowed to for some reason?
Thankssss.
Actually, consult your doctor about it first. Alli, you need to be stuck to it, a very strict no fat diet. Any fat you eat, will.. be disposed.. ie, having to go to the bathroom. So you have to be pretty careful. And I know that just eating healthy and exercising, does not always help EVERYONE. People always give that .. our because they have nothing better to say. Anyways, I think you could get it, try looking at http://www.myalli.com/ and find some more information there about it :) Make sure its safe for your age, otherwise, I highly suggest at least talking to a pharmacist at the grocery story (some have that) and see what they say. Over all good look, and be safe ! :)
When I scrunch my hair, the mousse leaves my hair looking totally gelled and very sticky/dark. I tried Aussie Sprunch spray, but it still leaves my hair looking plastered together! Do you know of any products and or tips to keeping my hair natural looking but wavy?
I use garnier fructise (however you spell that, I'm in no mood to spell check haha..)
Curl boosting gel, I also use the aussie sprunch spray. Do you put the stuff in before or after your hair is wet? I normally put my hair in a towel, let it dry a little, and then spray it and scrunch it. Also, after I do it to mine, sometimes it gets all hard looking, but if you just use your fingers and break it up a little bit well smoosh it, and kinda I dont know exactly how to put this into words, but squish it, it looks better.
But the main tip is, wrap your hair in a towel until its somewhat damp yet, and then spray it, because have you heard of beach hair? Go to the beach and then you go in the water...come out, it dries and its all wavy, you want that but controlled right? Anywho... hope I helped, if you need anymore help, or need me to elaborate on anything drop me a line
i dont get it. are you supposed to have this much spit when using the crest white strips? i can barely keep the strips in place because there is so much spit.
advice, anybody? thanks.
Yeah, I just used whitening strips today too, and I kept drooooling, ahaha, but just swallowing it or spitting is good. The kind I have are waxy though, so you press the gel side on your teeth and it stays pretty well.
ok so i really appreciate it if you help me. ok im learning how to play the acoustic guitar and i want to know how to play aly and aj out of the blue. thing is i dont know like wats D OR C OR A on the guitar. like if you can tell me like that d is 2nd fret 3rd string. i know thats not right but yea i really appreciate it!
these are the tabs for out of the blue.
Chords:
Em:022000
C:x032010
G:320033
Dsus:xx0233
D:xx0232
Em7:022033
C9:x32033
G/F#:2x0233
CAPO 2
Intro: Em C G Dsus(D)
Verse 1:
Em
When something's pure
C G
How can people just say
Dsus
We're not meant to be?
Em
And when something's true
C G D
How can people just keep me away from you?
Pre-chorus
Em
Suddenly I'm all alone
C
Pushed away from nothing wrong
G
Don't you have the guts to say
Dsus
How you feel about me?
Chorus:
Em7 C9
Out of the blue
G D
They said we couldn't be together
Em7 C9
I have to get over you
G
We're given no choice
Dsus(D)
We have no voice
Em7 C9 G Dsus
Out of the blue
Verse 2:
Em C
I can't even call on the telephone
G Dsus(D)
Don't even know if you're at home.
Em C
But took control, just how we feel
G D
Between you and I, not for one to still
Pre-chorus
Em
Suddenly I'm all alone
C
Pushed away from nothing wrong
G
Don't you have the guts to say
Dsus
How you feel about me?
Chorus:
Em7 C9
Out of the blue
G D
They said we couldn't be together
Em7 C9
I have to get over you
G
We're given no choice
Dsus(D) G/F#
We have no voice
Bridge:
Em
Just wanna hear what you've got to say
G/F#
Are you feeling the same 'cause I'm not ok
C9
Thought when we met that was something more
G D
But the others said no, they shut the door
Chorus:
Em7 C9
Out of the blue
G D
They said we couldn't be together
Em7 C9
I have to get over you
G
We're given no choice
Dsus(D)
We have no voice
Em7 C9
Out of the blue
G D
You knew we should have been together
Em7 C9
Don't wanna get over you
G
When Love makes a choice
Dsus(D)
It has a voice
Em C
Out of the blue
thankyou
http://www.ultimate-guitar.com/
Go there, and they probably have that song in there, if not, other songs have the same chords, and it shows you where on the guitar you put your fingers for chords!
ok so im a tom boy and i say im pretty freakin awsome im 15 and im girl you might of figured that cause you would hope that a boy acted like a boy any way the freakin stupid kids at school are always saying stuff like you should wear make up you are lesbian and shit and stuff i get in fist fights all the time i dont care my theme song is bad reputation one day i got backed up into a wall because of this group of "popular" girls and they were like why are you a tom boy you should act like a girl why dont you wear make up and one girl got out a bag of make up and she was like i put some blush and lip stick and shit on you and you will look great and i punched her and ran and then one time i was invited to a sleep over and a bunch of girls were there and they all were tryin to get me to look nice and shit and i hit a girl and her brother came in a gave me a black eye and one day 2 boys followd me home and when i got to my yard they beet me up and i cralwed through the door coverd in blood and my parents had to call the police i am so tierd of people doing stuff to me and calling me lesbian and making me fuckin mad I AM SO FUCKIN TIERD OF IT HELP ME PLEASE
I take it you're a freshman/sophmore? (Sophmore probably?) I cannot believe that people are still being this horrible. IT IS YOUR OWN choice, to not be super girly. You don't have to. One problem I see that you are doing in response to what they've done, is beating them up. Always ALWAYS ALWAYS remember that violence is not the answer. I know they make you so irate, and that by physically hurting them- you think will solve it. Has it? Nope. If they ever surround you again, push through them, don't hurt them, but just get out of their surrounding. They cannot control you, they cannot force anything upon you that you don't want. Tell them that you are just not a GIRLY GIRL. PEOPLE dont have to be, and its not their problem, or their right to even want you to be. Most of these girls, probably have low self esteem, and are incredibly jealous of you, because you don't wear makeup, you probably have a lot of guy friends, and that you're confident. They wear makeup because they think it makes them look better, and .. I'm sure you heard that all before. If people keep bullying you and beating you up, tell a consular, the principal. I know its hard, and as you already kinda of described yourself, I can see that you probably dont want to get anyone else to help you, because you think you can do it on your own? I'm probably wrong but it was just a guess. Never the less, you do not deserve to be beat up, or teased, or bullied. These are just imature kids, in highschool taboot? You'd think by now, maybe they would have grown up. Tell an adult, and keep being the bigger person. They will have to live with what they've done, and how they've treated people. Don't worry about seeking revenge, because I dont know if you believe in karma, but what goes around comes around.
I am 16 years old and I really want to see a therapist. I just need someone to talk to. I cannot ask my mom because she is simply a bitch and does not believe I have any issues. All she thinks of me is that I am a drama queen. Please, I all I need is someone to trust and talk to.
You can talk to me if you need to. I get a long with most people, and I can see things from their perspective, sometimes all a person needs is for someone to be in their shoes. So if you want to chat, or email with me. Feel free,
my msn is lover_109432@hotmail.com and that is also my email. So feel free to drop me a line.
latley, ive been really bored with life. i havent had any suiciadal thoughts of any kind. im just bored with life...i do the same stuff everyday. and then i got to sleep, wake up, and then do the same stuff. is their something wrong with me?
I wouldn't say things are wrong with you. Honestly, you're just changing, maybe even growing up a bit? When that happens, our tastes in things change, we move on to better things that suit our interests. Maybe thats exactly what you need to do? Maybe you need some change. This world is ugly, but so beautiful if you really just look at it. Pay attention to the little things, they can change your whole day, and make it that much better. Try taking a walk, go out of your way to talk to someone, make a difference in someones life. Change up your schedule, don't just wake up, do the same stuff, go to bed. During the day there are many things you could be doing, talking to new people, making new friends, you have to be willing to go out there though and do it.
What are some positive choices for me to do after when someone calls you something rude?
This has happened to me a lot.. during work, my job.
My best friend told me, to take it like a grain of sand, its that small. Be the bigger person, help someone out, let your soul feel that amazing feeling, of when you do something good and make a difference in someones life. Little things make all the difference, also, your choice in general to be positive after a bad situation. Which reminds me of the poem, 'The Road Not Taken' by Robert Frost http://www.cs.rice.edu/~ssiyer/minstrels/poems/51.html
Anyways my dear, I have faith in you, you can do it, just believe in yourself.
14/f. i am just so confused latley and i dont no what to do or think or anything. i dont even no who i am anymore. okay so for some odd reason i am like so majorly attracted to gay guys. like i love them so much. i think it might be since my brother is gay so it made me appreciate them more? but i have no idea. so i went out with a gay guy and i new he was gay, but eventually since he was gay we broke up because he wasn't attracted to me in that way, obviously since i was a girl. so were friends now. but whenever i see a gay guy or anything my heart just skips a beat and i cant take my eyes off of them, even if their not all that cute. i dont no what to do and i dont no my problem. im not attracted to any other guys, at all. i'm not attracted to girls, so im not a lesbian, at least i think. is god trying to tell me something? i have no idea what to even think anymore! there is absolutley no other guy i am attracted to except if their gay. please, anything will help. thank you!
Well my dear.. there are just some things in life that are and always will be unexplainable. I dont know why you.. like gay boys? Maybe its possible that you like them, because you know you can't have them? Its human nature to want what we cannot have. I also can say that I know how you feel about not knowing who you are at the moment. I'm sixteen and a half, and I sure as heck don't know who I am. But its all right. When I was a freshman, I thought I had everything together and that I knew me, and I was who I was. But as you get older, things change, your personality changes, the way you view things, and change is never bad, but make sure you include the people you love in this change, and if the change is making you feel good, show them;so they can feel good too. .. but back to your problem, with liking gay guys? I think first you need to state to yourself, that you cannot be with a gay guy, since obviously that will not work out, second; maybe think about why you like them in the first place? It helps for me sometimes, to just sit, think and solve my own problems, most of the time we can solve our own problems, we are just too upset to realize it. I hope things get better for you, I really genuinely do. Life is better when you're at peace and happy.
hey well i dont go out with this kid but me and him have been hookin up and he said that he is falling for me. wekll a week back i heard he was driving around with some other chick and they were flirting and stuff...well when i asked him he denied it....so i let it go then today i heard again that he has been hooking up with some girl and her ex is trying to fight him...do you think its true has he been playing me?
Sounds like it.
You should never be in a relationship, where you don't trust the other person.. you need to be able to trust that when you're not with him, that he'll be faithful.
13/f.My friend can't hear herself sing.She gets bad grades and she's quite DUMB to say one thing.She has no like particular good "talent" except maybe art which she is good at but not really good..She's also kinda ugly,short, and very overweight.She really wants to be popular,skinny,pretty and all but she is lazy and in my opinion,doesn't try very hard.She likes music,and wanted to be a singer(found out a month ago and convinced her or at least I hope I convinced her)that it isn't the thing for her.I recommended a guitarist(not really) and an artist,but i don't think it'll happen.She is always teased by boys and other girls and she is always saying "I hate (whoever whoever that gossips about her) or I hate myself or I wanna die."Her personality doesn't stand out either because she is very self-conscious,sensitive,shy,quiet,unconfident,and just plain WEAK.Also,I can tell she is very jealous of me,which I HATE.She makes me mad when she acts so mean when I complain about boys chasing me,and random guys on the internet saying I'm pretty and all.I'm quite the opposite of her:friendly,cheerful,popular,slim,tall,pretty,smart,and such(well I guess sometimes I brag to her).I don't think it really matters and I try to point out the things that she is better at,which is her drawing and her tame character trait.Otherwise,she's a really good friend.She laughs easily and doesn't get mad too quick.She's patient,forgiving,and loyal.I really like her and I don't think I'm HALF as obedient as her.Can anyone give me advice on convincing her that looks and reputation aren't all??
... After reading your 'problem', you do not sound like a very mature person yourself, talking so DOWN about your 'friend'. IF you are actually her friend, you would not call her dumb, or talk about how 'over weight' you think she is. I think you need to get off your freaking pedestal and take a step back and look at what you just said. In the end of your question.. you said this "Can anyone give me advice on convincing her that looks and reputation aren't all?" YOU Need to realize that yourself first. YOU are acting very shallow, saying that shes ugly and fat and that you're skinny and popular. Looks aren't everything, and I know that. But do you? I feel so bad for your friend, you mentioned she is very self-conscious, but don't you think you are contributing to that? By down-talking your FRIEND? You are making it seem like you are a such a perfect person and yada yada yada. Well obviously you are not. And neither is your friend, everyone has flaws. And I think that you are especially flawed because you don't see the beauty of a person. Everyone is equal, everyone is beautiful IN THEIR OWN WAY. No one has to be "skinny,and popular" to be beautiful. You're in middle school, everyone is so shallow then. I'm probably making you so angry by writing this, because you don't want to her it. But I feel the need, because what you have said about her, is horrible. You don't even realize anything now, but when you're older you will understand. Beauty is NOT defined by your physical looks. Grow up.
F/13.My friend I described in my first question I asked on Advicenators like this guy.She told me a week ago that she liked the guy and has been liking him since 5th grade!!I talked her into telling him,but instead she made me tell him.He said "Eww.Gross." and whenever he sees my friend,he always says to me "I hate that girl".Yes,he has a mind of a first-grader.I really don't think he's a wise choice for a guy since he's so veangeful and I think he's ugly and a show-off.He sits behind me and has always been talking to me.After I told him my friend likes him,he found out my number.Now he text messages me pink hearts and "Merry Christmas" and all.He also called me once asking about a project though I doubt he didn't know because he gets the best grades in my class.I told my friend about the texts and she just rolled her eyes and acted mean towards me.So,now I don't know what to do since if I tell my friend,she might think I'm showing-off and act all the more jealous,if it's possible..
Just stop talking to that boy. Tell your friend that you dont like him (you don't right?) It sounds like he does like you from the texts and stuff, but like you said, if he acts like a first grader... he's just being imature. I know its hard to be blunt at your age with friends, but just tell your friend flat out what he said about her, and that you don't like him like that, and that you're not trying to show off. And she's probably just acting jealous to hide her hurt feelings you know? Hope everything goes well.
Ok this is what happened
I was tlkin to this guy and we were like in love but we only got to tlk on the internet but i honestly loved him and i think he loved me too. About 2 mounths went by and his internet completly broke and in this time he got a gf in a few mounths he had a car wreck and wen he herd i was very upset he called me w/in 2 mounths we were sayin i love you again we were inseperable ever other word was i love you he knew from the begining i wasnt gonna have sex til i was marrid but i dont think that was wat it was too make a long story short i hadnt herd from him in a while so i texted him to day and said hey all of a sudden he goes i hate u never call me again and i asked him y and he said it was cuz he didnt want to cheet on his gf wat is this about a mean a week ago He didnt care if she died he wanted to run away with me are all guys like this or wat
Boys are really stupid sometimes. I think since you said that this was an 'online' relationship, that he didn't really love you. He probably said that to you, because he just wanted to break connections with you, and just stop communicating. In my opinion, forget him, just leave him alone, and move on. I know its easier said than done, but you'll be better off in the long run. He may have said he wanted to run away with you and etc, but that may have been at a low point in his life, and he felt he only had you.. online, you know? And now that he has a girlfriend, he's probably happy.. and is all hoohoo and not thinking correctly. So just try to move on, he sounds
like a jerk anyways.
what is a song about doing something that hurt so bad, and youre soo sorry for hurting the person, but it was the right thing to do for now, but you love them with all your heart and its hurting you too?
is there one?
preferably rock/alternative.
three days grace, seether, linkin park, all time low, etc...
or even like rascal flatts..
and preferably something newer.
thanks.
withlove.
Sorry - Buck Cherry
www.myspace.com/buckcherry
you can listen to it there.
I love that song, not sure if thats what you had in mind, but I think its pretty fitting.
Hope I helped
14/f
i want to do IT like im not even going to lie. it does matter who it is i have a boy in mind but idk yet. i don't feel comfortable naked i know im very flat chested and i skinnyy, but everyone say im pretty if i had a butt which i need to get so any help with that. and how do to get this guy actuallyy 17
You know, I do believe it is normal for you to have these feelings. "Lust", desire for someone. It's part of our nature I guess.. and its stronger for some, and less for others. Apparently since you're only fourteen its quite strong for you. I highly suggest that you do NOT, just find someone to sleep with. I know you said you have a boy in mind, but there is more to a relationship than just "sex" and "doing it", have you asked yourself the appropriate questions? Are you READY to have a baby, and care for it? Do you have plans for college? Do you want to get an STD? There are so many STDS out there, and yes their are medication for some of them, but many of them.. are still undiagnosed, and there is no cure for them. And if you are not comfortable with your body, don't have sex with someone. You need to love yourself first, before you should even imagine having sex with someone. When you're older you will understand what I'm trying to explain. And I know you think you are ready, and that it's not that big of a deal, but it is. You may be pretty, but sex is a personal, emotional thing. Just wait until you truly understand the concept of it, and when you are really really in love.
my friend wants me to copy her videos on youtube, but i dont know how. she needs me to copy them so they can be seen more. is their any way that i can do that?
I don't think you can. You can have her send you the videos, through like a file sharing thing. Or like on msn, just have her send you the videos, and you can upload it yourself on to your youtube. OR you can just take the links or html from her videos and post them on websites, and that way it will get around.
Why is it that TV shows and movies make the smart kids look ugly and the pretty kids be stupid? That's so not the way it is. In my school, the prettiest people are athletic, smart and beautiful. At least two-thirds of our Honors classes are beautiful. Is it like that everywhere else? I mean, I know smart kids that are ugly, but I also know athletic kids who are ugly too. If that's the way it is, then why do people assume smart people are ugly/nerdy? Or why beautiful people aren't smart enough to do anything? Where did everyone get this stereotype?
Stereotypes are sterotypes, honestly, they are called that because they don't make sense. We all know that they are silly and its not true.
Some people will believe it, and some wont. I dont nkow why tv shows do that. They see things as black and white. But we all know not everything is black and white, hardly.
I think everyone is beautiful to someone, maybe we dont see it, but to someone they are. You know? TV has that way of over glamorizing people and things. It's stupid.