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FREAKIN STUPID KIDS AT SCHOOL
ok so im a tom boy and i say im pretty freakin awsome im 15 and im girl you might of figured that cause you would hope that a boy acted like a boy any way the freakin stupid kids at school are always saying stuff like you should wear make up you are lesbian and shit and stuff i get in fist fights all the time i dont care my theme song is bad reputation one day i got backed up into a wall because of this group of "popular" girls and they were like why are you a tom boy you should act like a girl why dont you wear make up and one girl got out a bag of make up and she was like i put some blush and lip stick and shit on you and you will look great and i punched her and ran and then one time i was invited to a sleep over and a bunch of girls were there and they all were tryin to get me to look nice and shit and i hit a girl and her brother came in a gave me a black eye and one day 2 boys followd me home and when i got to my yard they beet me up and i cralwed through the door coverd in blood and my parents had to call the police i am so tierd of people doing stuff to me and calling me lesbian and making me fuckin mad I AM SO FUCKIN TIERD OF IT HELP ME PLEASE
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I'm 14 and a female-- I wear make up and all that but I wouldn't amke fun of someone who didn't! By how you started tis you sound wicked confident that you rock, so screw 'em! I know that there a big danger with this because there going as far as beating you up, but haven't they noticed you haven't changed your clothing? Tell them to go get a life and stop trying to mess with yours, or get a could hobbies because jeez!
If another mob of girls trys to put makeup on you scream your lungs off! I don't know where your coming from on hat because im my school we don't have bulling. Not as hardcore as that but.. yeahh bullying. Don't get in fights. Im telling you right now I was you. Not the whole tom boy thing but I had a bunch of guys making fun of my weight.So one day this kid said something and I snapped- I know you can't help it it happens so fast and then it's over and you feel something in your stomach that's like wow.. I just did that? Or atleast that happens to me.
Ignore Them
And I realise that in big groups you can't ignore every single one.. I'm fat. Im told im fat everyday so I tell them why are you pointing out the obvious? you think it's funny?? Wow get a life you need one..
But just think your 15-- what 3, 4 more years and the odds of seeing any of them again together is slim to none. Dont worry about what anyone says-love yourself. Yup corny little fortune cookie but still you know you rock who cares if those preppy lil girls want you in make-up tell em to go gunk some more onto there face! Personally I just wear eyeliner and Im not the girliest girl in my class. Just try eyeline i know some pretty hardcore tomboys who just wear it and it's fine.. Im not saying give them what they want. But in the future dont worry about what they say I hear im fat practicly daily- or someone makes a crack at my neck[[which is black]] laugh it off. Tell them that any girl lucky to have you go down on them-- no dont...
Okay this is getting pretty long-- but please I have soo much more I can say with my personal experiences with kicking butt and Im not done
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Like others have said, it's your choice not to be super-girly if you don't want. That choice deserves respect. You should definitely file official complaints with school administration: it's their responsibility to make sure the school environment is safe. Don't let them brush you off or blame you for being assaulted. Keep on them, and file charges on anyone who physically assaults you.
At the same time, you seem to have a lot of undirected rage. Have you considered a good martial arts school? Karate helped me get through my own angry adolescence with a minimum of problems, because I had a focus and outlet for all the crap I was going through. It also taught me a great way to handle conflicts: "If you are confronted, walk away. If you are followed, go home. If they follow you home, slam the door in their faces. If they break down the door, kill them." (A little extreme, perhaps, but it does give a good context for escalating responses.) Martial arts training will provide some relief from the constant tension, and give you tools to deal calmly with people trying to mess with you. If nothing else, it'll help you deal with the sudden surprise attacks.
Hang in there, work with your parents and the school administration, and learn the fine arts of whup-ass. Good luck.
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thats just plain out sad.
all we can say is be yourself.
who cares what people think.
you probably dont wear make up becuase you dont have to?
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Well, for one thing, tone down the violence.
From what I'm seeing, you start alot of the issues you have by hitting first.
If you just said no and walked away when people tried to get you to put on makeup, it would be different. But no, you are hitting people with what seems to be little provocation.
It sounds like to a degree you are creating your own misery. Stop letting yourself be provoked into fighting and I imagine alot of your problems will go away from there.
Beyond that, people are and always will be stupid. Ignore it as best you can and dont start fights over it.
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Ok, well first off I just got to say this: What kind of people live in your town that they feel it is, for some odd reason, perfectly OK for a boy to hit/beat up a girl? Just because you are a tom boy doesn't mean you aren't a girl.
THAT is wrong, that boys are hitting you, blacking your eye, beating you up. Where I come from, it's a BIG NO-NO for a guy to strike a girl.
Don't EVER put up with that. Your parents did the right thing by calling the police on those 2 boys. (Really proves their "manliness" that 2 of them ganged up on 1 girl, by the way...)
Ok, so you think you are pretty awesome. That is a good thing. So, why should it really matter what everyone else thinks?
Listen, I'm not the "girly-girl" type. I never have been, I never will be. I don't wear make-up and primp up my hair. I wear t-shirts and blue jeans.
Folks didn't try to pull that "let's give you a make-over" crap on me, because I made it clear that I'm not down for that. I wasn't rude about it, but I was firm about it. I made it clear that if they had any respect for me, they would leave me alone.
Don't get all rude and angry with the girls trying to do the whole make-over thing. They probably feel like they are helping you by trying to get you all gussied up. They don't know any better- being girly is the only thing they know.
Just demand folks to respect you for WHO you are. You don't have to get nasty with them to do that. Just tell them "Fine. Gotta like me for what I look like rather than the person I am, then go piss up a rope." Folks like that aren't worth your time and energy to begin with.
If people are calling you names, then you can't stop it, but you can chose to ignore it. You certainly don't want to conform to what they think you should be.
They probably really do it because they know it makes you mad. Folks like that get great pleasure out of watching your angry/upset/hurt reaction. By getting all mad, you are only giving them the satisfaction they are seeking and don't deserve.
Just try to stay calm and not let them affect your happy existence. Keep being that unique individual who is so awesome, keep loving who you are, be proud of it, and don't let anyone take that away from you. Stop letting the opinions of others effect you.
When they call you names, just laugh while keeping in the back of your mind that they are all clones of one another, because they don't have the courage to stand apart from the crowd.
They are surely too self absorbed to realize you aren't laughing with them- you are laughing at them.
THAT, my dear, is true satisfaction. ;)
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Okay first of all, contact the school and tell them what has been going on. Explain to those individuals that you have no right to be treated like that and you should not have to change to fit in. Sue those boys that beat you up and maybe they will learn a lesson. No one deserves to be treated like that.
Another thing I would advise you to do is to remember that you shouldn't get into fights because those people can sue you. I am sure those people deserve that but I think you should just walk away and forget the fact that they even said anything.
If you cannot control your anger I suggest seeing a counselor. Not to change the fact that you are a tom boy but to get rid of your stress and let go of the past. Anger can control you and it can lead to a bad past and a worst future. Who knows it could be *jail *emotional suffering *job lost and much more.
I've seen so many people do something fatal because of bullying or teasing. I just wanted to say that you should never change for someone because, its just not worth it. You are your own self. They cannot control that. You are you. They are robots. They don't deserve your tears. Save them for when you want to HAPPY cry.
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I take it you're a freshman/sophmore? (Sophmore probably?) I cannot believe that people are still being this horrible. IT IS YOUR OWN choice, to not be super girly. You don't have to. One problem I see that you are doing in response to what they've done, is beating them up. Always ALWAYS ALWAYS remember that violence is not the answer. I know they make you so irate, and that by physically hurting them- you think will solve it. Has it? Nope. If they ever surround you again, push through them, don't hurt them, but just get out of their surrounding. They cannot control you, they cannot force anything upon you that you don't want. Tell them that you are just not a GIRLY GIRL. PEOPLE dont have to be, and its not their problem, or their right to even want you to be. Most of these girls, probably have low self esteem, and are incredibly jealous of you, because you don't wear makeup, you probably have a lot of guy friends, and that you're confident. They wear makeup because they think it makes them look better, and .. I'm sure you heard that all before. If people keep bullying you and beating you up, tell a consular, the principal. I know its hard, and as you already kinda of described yourself, I can see that you probably dont want to get anyone else to help you, because you think you can do it on your own? I'm probably wrong but it was just a guess. Never the less, you do not deserve to be beat up, or teased, or bullied. These are just imature kids, in highschool taboot? You'd think by now, maybe they would have grown up. Tell an adult, and keep being the bigger person. They will have to live with what they've done, and how they've treated people. Don't worry about seeking revenge, because I dont know if you believe in karma, but what goes around comes around. <33
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