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Yo, the name is Kev. I'ma a sucker for beautiful eyes, a lover, poet, artest, martial artest, writer, gamer and romantic... Need i say more?
I have 17 years of age, Ima guy, and I live in Rockville Maryland and go to Rockville High Skool. I made this thing because I wanted to try and help people... I know that there are few things to help myself... So I try and help people from ending up in a hole that I many never get out of.. So, BlackBatman at your service people

advice

question!
i'm 16 and i'm a girl
and i don't know if i should let my partner get his hands inside of my jeans... if u know what i mean!!
he tried and i didn't let him... but i'm not sure if i should...
advice please!!

(sorry if my english is bad, i'm not sure if i'm very good at it)

Well, you have to consider everything. I personally wouldn't recomend it because of your age. But if you feel that you're both responsible enough to handle a sexual realtioship then go for it. But usually people your age feel that they can handle it, but in reality they can't. So, be careful in what you do. Talk to him about too. See what he thinks.
-BlackBatman-

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...i'm simply confused. a crazy in love confused person...
i dont know what to do. about 2 years ago...i met this wonderful guy. He told me he was falling for me one night, and i the same. yet...we never went out. we stayed friends. he lives in a county away from me. only about 45 minutes. but...this guy...he knows everything about me and still doesnt judge me. but then...i'm with a guy who is absolutely amazing. he makes me smile. we've been off and on but now it seems like we might actually be working this time. i adore him. he loooooves me. i love him. but.........i tried to put space between me and guy #1, yet i cant anymore. i miss him. and now all my feelings have come back...i dont know what to do. i dont want to break up with guy #2 because he's special to me. its just. when i'm with one, i feel completely different than when i'm with the other.

i guess the real question is...

what do you do when you're in love with 2 completely different guys...at once?

Well, the first thing you should do is think about the possibilities that you have with both guys in the future. Or, you could just make a chart with both guy's good and bad traits, and see which one would be better for you NOW, and in a long term realationship
-BlackBatman-

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What happens if your so inlove with someone, but you try to think about the future and you see nothing due to their stupid age difference? What can i do to fix that?

Well, you could try to find out ways to stay close to that person. Weather it be some activity or just keeping in touch. The task at hand may or maynot be difficult, but if you truly do want something for the right reason then chances are that you're ganna get it.
-BlackBatman-

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How do you get a guys (that you like) email? without being to obvious that you like him. Oh and i work with this guy. Thanx in advance

You could simply say that you have to send him something, but never do, or send him some kind of chain letter or something
-BlackBatman-

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uggh i dont even know where to begin. thanks for reading this and trying to help but seriously what youre about to read is alot!

ok so i was going out with this guy last year and i got back together with him this year a few months ago.. well i broke up with him because he wasnt acting like my boyfriend but i still wanted to be friends.

my ex best friend (lets call her bob).. ok i got into a fight with her and i really didnt do anything and she ended up turning everyone against me, we made up a long time after but i found out she was pretty much mad at me for no reason she pretty much picked a fight, well.. theres another girl who was my best friend last year (lets call her billy) and i found out that they made a plan to get me jealous of them being best friends and after they found out i broke up with my bf they were happy (they liked him) and pretty much everyone in my school likes him that knows him.. and we had a party the day i broke up with him and he was sad when i wasnt there but as soon as i got there he was acting all happy and hanging out with my two "ex best friends" and he knows i hate them. so at the party bob asked me if she can go out with him because she found out he wanted to go out with her (this was the same day i broke up with him). what pisses me off is that he is only doing this to get revenge with me and shes doing the same probaly just like she had the plan with billy..

theres more to this that i didnt mention but really i dont know what i should do!

Well they're all backstabing. I think the best thing that you should do for now is to stay away from all of them, because they will all just try to cause trubble.
-BlackBatman-

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Well im a 15/f and recently i started talking to this guy i have liked for awhile now, well he started talking to me actually but you get the point. so anyways my friends all think he likes me because we never really said much to eachother in school but then randomly like a week ago, he commented my myspace saying hey, how are you, etc and now we've been talking like 2 hours every day, sometimes even till like 2 in the morning! soo i dont know, im really shy, and hes really shy, and he has alot of girls that are friends, and i have no clue how to tell if hes flirting with me or if he likes me. i've kind of invited him to a few things, like to a school basketball game but we dont talk that much in person, in fact in person we usually only say things like hey was^? and then we go our seperate ways. i have no clue how to act, im not good with guys at all, and sometimes when we talk online we have like a minute or 2 of silence where we both dont know really what to talk about, i mean when we have something to talk about it flows and is comfortable but when those silences happen its like in person when we talk and seem to be too nervous, or he just doesnt want to talk to me! i have no clue help and im soo sorry this is long but i have noone to talk to thats not biast because they are my friend!

Well, if he has a lot of friends that are girls, and hes single, then chances are that he hasn't found a gf yet or he just dosen't want one. If you're conversations with him go on and off then you should just find a way to talk to him that will keep him interested. Talk about something he likes, or something you like. And if all else fails just bring up a random subject. In time, if things change, then you could consider dating him or something along those lines.
-BlackBatman-

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Me and my friends brother Ben met three years ago. He was sweet and funny. We became really good mates almost as close as me and her. Then he asked me out, I liked him and his amazing personality but I just didnt think of him in that way...we lost contact after this even though I told him I wanted to stay friends. Today our youth group did a reunion dinner thing because we left two years ago and he was there, he looked different he looked amazing and he had the same Ben personality and i felt myself falling for him but he wouldnt even sit next to me in the restaurant....i need help shall i try and get in there or not bother?? am i being shallow?? i dont know i want whatever advice you have to offer....I rate 5's for good advice

xordinarygirlx

Well yeah, it dose like like you're being shallow. Seeing as how now that hes hott you wanna jump on him. I think that you should first just apologize and see what hes like now, and then go from there
-BlackBatman-

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Everytime I go on AIM, after like 3 minutes I get kicked off.
It is ao annoying I can't take it anymore.
It may be my internet connection but I highly doubt it because the web browser itself has no problems working.
Does any one have any ideas on what I can do because I need AIM and it's just very annoying getting kicked off after 1-3 minutes.

Try redownloading it
And if you're using a hacked version of it then that might be the problem also
-BlackBatman-

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Hey, how did you get your main picture like that? Did you use paint? Just wondering, it's cute. :] ♥heyybaby

Yeah, I used paint
Gatta love those inverted colors

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Okay i've got a really bad confidence problem.

I feel ugly ALL the time and get jealous when i see pretty girls, i wish that was me.

But like.. im not the ugliest person ever but im not pretty either.

i really need a confidence boost im going on holiday soon with a mate who i totally have a crush on but im gonig to be so ashamed of my looks and body and im going to be totally embarrassed.

How can i get my confidence level up and feel beautiful?

You know beauty isn't everything. I personaly look for personality in a girl. And when it comes down to it, thats what really matters in a realtionship. A realtionship based on looked is doomed to fail. As long as you're pure on the inside, you shouldn't have to worry about the outisde, because the best people are the ones who look at who you are on the inside, not on the outisde.
-BlackBatman-

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I need some help from the dude point of view. I happen to be going on a date on friday, I know go me, and its a blind date. I have met the girl who is going with my friend but I havent met the girl who is, you know, assigned to me. Can you tell me what itd be like for you?? can you also give me tips on what to say and how to act. Thanks, thatd be great!

Well, I would feel the same way that you are now. Nervious, n' all. So, you don't have to worry about that. The best tip on the right things to say and act is to just be yourself. You wouldn't want someone to like your for who you're not.
-BlackBatman-

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It would be cool if only boys answered this question as I guess they would know best...
What do guys look for in girls? Hair, makeup, clothes? A certain way of acting? Anything that you guys like? I rate, and thanks in advance

Well, to be truthful not all guys are the same. Some look for personality other than external appereance, others don't. The best thing you can do if you want a guy is to just be yourself. You wouldn't want a guy falling for you because of something you're not
-BlackBatman-

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i have a 4 pack at the top of my abs cause i do a lot of crunches at dance, but i cant figure out how to get the bottom 2. its so annoying ! any ideas ?
thanks

The easiest thing you can do is seach the web for exercises that excentuate that part of your body
-BlackBatman-

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Okay, I'm 21/f and have always struggled with my weight. I'm 5'5" and I weigh just under 12 stone (I think around 167 lbs). It doesn't help that i'm pretty muscular as I play sports. I'm the sort of girl who can lose weight really easily but can also put on weight equally as quickly. I know the easiest way for me to lose weight is to do a lot of exercise, as I can lose about 3 lbs a week as well as getting toned up. Problem is I have absolutely no motivation to do anything at all, let alone exercise. Also I've just been living off takeaways and junk food for the past two weeks which obviously isn't helping. I know I need to eat right but at the moment like I said I ahve no motivation, so can't be bothered to cook for myself.

I don't know how to get myself out of this slump! I know what I need to do, but I don't know how I can get my motivation levels up. The whole thing is making me really miserable. Please help.

Welp, you said that you play sports, so I'd think that could be your modivation. If you're not playing any sports now, then you could try and find something that you can do all around. Something good that you can do all around is Martial Arts, because it requires strength from all parts of the body and its something that you could do every session. Although in the meanwile, you still have to eat right, and try try TRY to stay active and healthy. The little things do help
-BlackBatman-

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One of my friends likes this guy that I really love, and I dont want to make her mad by saying she cant go ut with him, but they live really far away from eachother, I really love him and she knows that and now he likes her...what should I do?

I think you should tell your friend about the situation, and again tell her about your feelings for this guy. Hopefully she will be understanding of your predicament and your problem will be solved.
-BlackBatman-

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my girl-friend seems to be insecure, or at least not trust me enough. if she doesn't trust me or maybe even her-self enuff, would ther be anything i should or could do? would asking her be a bad idea or iz that what im supposed to do

Talking about is is 9 out of 10 alway's the best thing to do. It shows your partner that you are enough to use words, and it builds a foundation for a healthy realationship built on comunication. Which in your case my help you later on in the future. So, just talk to her about how you feel about the trust issue
-BlackBatman-

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Okay, so recently I started a relationship with this guy that I like a lot. Everything is going great and he calls me all the time, but there is one problem. My best friend seems jealous. He's like a brother to her so she isn't jealous of me, she's jealous of him. Everytime he calls, I can't give him my undivided attention because she acts hurt if I don't talk to her at the same time. However, then they are both talking at the same time and I can't understand either of them. I tried speakerphone, but he hates it because of the background noise. And he is getting frustrated because I always have to ask him to repeat himself. I live with my best friend and I spend time with her all the time so I don't know why she is competing with him. I just can't take it anymore. It is too much work. What should I do?

I think that you should explain to your boyfriend and your best friend about how you feel. Talking about it helps a lot in most cases. I personally think that shes competing with him because he might be taking over. Sometimes the best friend gets jealous because they think that the boy or girl friend is taking their place, or something along those lines. So, I think the best thing to do is just to discuss it with both of them. Hope I helped.
If you need anymore advice then get back to me.
-BlackBatman-

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i have told him multiple times that i want to be with him. and why. and he says he wants to be with me too...i've assured him that i wouldnt hurt him. that thats the last thing i would ever want to do. i've done everything...

and my current boyfriend and me...we're fine. he's great. except, i'm just getting sooo much guilt piled up on me for being with the guy i am now, when i'm just hurting inside because the other guy...

dificult. i know. but i dont know what else to do.

If the guuilt is really disturbing you, then it will probably affect the realtionship that you're in now. As for the other one, even though you've tried everything, you still can keep trying. Who knows, maybe one day something will happen.
-BlackBatman-

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okay...this is kind of a looong story, but i need help..so bare with me...??? Please!?? i met this guy almost 2 years ago now. we became really close. and now we're best friends. but soon after we met...he told me he was falling for me...and honestly, i was too. he lives in montgomery county, i live in howard county. only about 30-45 minutes away. we're sooo attached to one another that...he gets hurt when i go after another guy and i get hurt when he goes after another girl. he is my first love. and no matter what i do...i try and try to move on but i cant. i'm starting to get confused by him...he gets hurt, so do i...he's in love with me, i'm in love with him. yet, when i asked him why can't he just ask me out, or what he would do if i asked him out...he gets quiet and says "i dont know..." and then it gets awwkward. He claims he wouldnt do a long distance relationship again...so i thought that meant something to me, and he said one county isnt long distance... but its like he's pushing me away, so it feels like it is and thats part of the reason he doesnt want to be with me.i feel as if i spill my heart out and he just doesnt care...but no matter what i do...i cant moove on, knowing that he loves me, treats me right, makes me smile, and he knows EVERY flaw with me, yet doesnt judge me at all...i am with another guy right now. he knows. and he acts like he's fine with it. but lately he's just not the same with me...he hasnt been even before i started going out with him. i dont know if i should break up with the guy because i've done it in the past, and he hasnt done anything about it. its like he wants me when he cant have me. i love him...i'm not tossing around the word love either...its real...not a joke at all...and i'm just starting to worry...he confuses me sooo much. yet i dont want to move on...yet, im starting to feel like i might have to...its tearing me apart.

Well you're in a bit of a bind here huh?
I think that you should find out why your best friend of 2 years dosen't want to be with you, or why he won't be with you or you could just tell him why you want to be with him, and how you feel about all of this. As for your current bf, I think you should find out why hes been so weird.
--If things develop and you need anymore advice you know where I'm at
-BlackBatman-

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I'm 34 yrs old with 2 children aged 12 & 9. My marriage is extremely rocky. Sometimes I dream of a happy life but it just seems so far out of reach. My husband is not physically abusive but mentally I am suffering from his constant downputting of me. The kids can feel the friction in the house and that just makes me feel even worse. My main problem is that I have been suffering from anxiety related problems and I don't feel strong enough to cope on my own. How do I know if I am emotionally strong enough to get out of this bad situation.

Well if yoiu have an anxiety related problems, my guess would be that you'll never really feel like you'll be strong enough to get out of your situation. If you really want to get out but can't leave on your own, I suggest that you maybe move in with Family or a close friend untill you get things in order.

-BlackBatman-

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