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My friends brother....
Me and my friends brother Ben met three years ago. He was sweet and funny. We became really good mates almost as close as me and her. Then he asked me out, I liked him and his amazing personality but I just didnt think of him in that way...we lost contact after this even though I told him I wanted to stay friends. Today our youth group did a reunion dinner thing because we left two years ago and he was there, he looked different he looked amazing and he had the same Ben personality and i felt myself falling for him but he wouldnt even sit next to me in the restaurant....i need help shall i try and get in there or not bother?? am i being shallow?? i dont know i want whatever advice you have to offer....I rate 5's for good advice
xordinarygirlx
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I don't think you're being shallow. When you knew him before, there just wasn't any chemistry there. It wasn't that you thought he was ugly and now you're only attracted to him because of his looks. It's just that you didn't feel anything more than friendship for him before. This is just the way things happen sometimes.
I think you would do well to begin by salvaging a friendship from this. Speak to him and tell him it was good seeing him again and it'd be nice if you could see him again and hang out. By saying hang out, you're implying it isn't a date so he should agree to this. My guess is that he really liked you before and the reason he tried to ignore you at the reunion was because he didn't know how to handle it. So saying 'hang out' is just casual enough.
When you actually see him again, try to get him to relax. Have a good chat about how you've been getting on and what you've been up to and how he has been etc. When you think you've both relaxed, mention to him about what happened before and say that you had hoped you would still be friends so you were really sad when he didn't talk to you afterwards. See what he says to that and take it from there. If you think you can try to regain your friendship properly, do what you can to do this. Otherwise, you might have to let it go.
I would also recommend you don't tell him you think you like him right away. Get to know him again and if in a while you think your feelings won't go away, do something about it but you need to be sure of what you feel first, or you risk hurting him again. You might be able to get him back this time but do it again and you might lose him for good.
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well...i think that you should try to talk to him agian...see wut he's been up to...get to kno him more...try to be friends again...and if that works...tell him ur like he's personallity...not his looks...
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Well yeah, it dose like like you're being shallow. Seeing as how now that hes hott you wanna jump on him. I think that you should first just apologize and see what hes like now, and then go from there
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Well now its sound like you are kinda just going for looks. LIke now ou like him cause he looks better. You could try to talk to him again and see if he wanted to go out with you but dont be surprized if he says no.
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Well the best thing to do is to talk to him. Find out what hes been up to, has he missed you, then start to talk a little more personal like is he goning out with anyone. If he is then start to become realy good freinds so if they break up then you will know and you can make your move. If you think hes not fellin it then id say talk to him about, or leave a romantic love note. and if he talks about it then tell him who wrote it. And then you can ask him out. It might be scary but if you realy like this guy then you shouldnt let that stop you. Good luck.
love luvsu
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You really need to sit and ask yourself why you didn't like him in that way years ago but all of a sudden now you do? Once you figure that out the rest of the decisions shouldn't be that hard. And don't go for him just because of his looks. It needs to be because of his personality and how he treats you. How things are when you two are together. But if you liked his personality back then and didn't have romantic feelings for him then, why do you have them now? But if you genuinly like him for his personality and the way he treats you then go for it. Don't let him slip away. I hope all of this helps you. And remember if he still won't talk to you or hang out with you then it is his loss not yours.
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