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hello fellow advice seekers, my name is Johanna and I'm currently a student about to enter high school. My days are spent with my friends, family, music, and camera. I've been known for my advice and don't turn down any questions. Feedback makes me happy, so I can give everyone the answers they want.

in my point of view, i accel in these topics:
-friendships
-relationships
-school/work
-ideas/helpful tips

and who knows? maybe ill gain some knowledge by actually thinking of new situations.

it cant hurt to get my opinion, now can it? so ask away my friends.

sincerely, ask_anything

advice

my best friend is a twin with a boy. truth is i love her brother, hes been my best friend since we were like 7. one problem. I have a boyfriend. and last night i was over her house and he was there and when she left the room he was tickling me, giving me wegies, jumping on me, and other childish things like that. she didnt come back. she fell asleep while upstairs so i was downstairs with him until around 5 am. at one point things got really serious (or so i think.) we may have been playing video games together (even though i suck) but he pressed pause and stared me in the eyes. i asked him if there was anything on my face. he told me no and that it was perfect as it was. he lied down on me and started talking to me about our friendship. then he sat up and gave me a hug. and i leaned over and lyed down on him. an awkward moment of silence occured... and we looked in each others eyes. before i knew it he placed his lips upon mine. i knew my friend wouldn't take it too well, and i really wanted to be true to my boyfriend, but i just dont like him anymore. its so hard because im pretty sure that i like my friends brother and that he likes me and im too much of a shy girl when it comes to showing emotions, not in real life tho. i have problems with expressing my feelings. and needless to say i dont have the guts to break things off with the other guy. and if i do, do i have to tell him that i kissed another guy? how would be the nicest way to break up with my boyfriend and still be able to have something with my friends brother -- without her thinking its wierd?

--sorry if my question is all over the place

hmm this is a tough one. if you truly feel you have no love left for your boyfriend, then do him the favor and break it off. like i say in other answers, no one wants a girlfriend who doesnt love them. it may be hard to break up with him, but it's for the best. think of it from his shoes. you dont HAVE to tell him you kissed the other boy, but he'll definitly find out or assume something if you decide to go out with him. the only bad thing about being your best friend's twin brother's girlfriend is that it might affect your best friend and your relationship. you may want to consult with her first before making any drastic decisions. see what she has to say. if she thinks it's a bad idea.. give it some time and bring it up again another day- maybe she'll realize [if you still like him] that you two should be together. if she's okay with it, remember to promise her your relationship will still be strong no matter what happens with her brother. if she's a true best friend, she'll help you out no matter what. i know people who have gone out with their friend's twin brother and it really didnt affect them too much. although your case may be different if you are always with your best friend. just remember to always spend time with your best friend, but also time with her twin- such as a time alone with him. you'll get the hang of it when you figure out what's going to happen. if you need any more advice, please ask whatever else you want! that was a tough question, and i hope things work out for the best =] -ask_anything

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well i am going out with this kid and i kinda like someone else and im having secone thoughts about the kid i am going out with. should i udmp him a just be friends or stay with him?

well wait until you are certain you like this new someone. you dont want to dump your poor boyfriend for a mislead emotion. if you are sure you really like this new guy, save your boyfriend's feelings and break it off. no one wants a girlfriend who's not into them! ;) you shouldnt say you just want to be friends with him- you still can be, but say you just didnt want to hurt him any more if you didnt feel the same way you used to. =] -ask_anything

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Whenever I get upset, lonely or just feel bored, I always go and eat chocolate. It's starting to become a problem and I do it everyday. How can I cut down on the chocolate?

find something else that gives you the same enjoyment. make sure it's something either better for you, or an excersize, or activity [art, making something] ... and try to reward yourself when you dont eat that much chocolate... such as after a month - whatever your goal is. =] -ask_anything

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Okay, a long time ago i promised my friend i would be an old time gal w/ her for halloween. now i dont no if i still want to b that. I have 3 choices picked out 4 me. Should i be...
1.) an old time gal (fancey gown, gloves, hats,ect.)
2.) Buffy the Vampire Slayer
3.) Carly Patterson a gold medalist olympic gymnast (2004)

i'll rate u

i actually like the first one, sounds like it'd be fun to dress up like that! but thats just me =] -ask_anything

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i took a girl on a first date with a girl and she is a sophmore and i am a freshman. she made me pick the movie and i accidently picked a blood and guts movie. she said she liked it and i asked her the next day for a second date and she said yes. do you think this is a second date out of pitty?

no way- she'd definitly just say no if she didnt want to go on another date. some girls like blood and guts movies because either A) they just like that kind of stuff or B) they feel like "you're gonna protect them" or something.. or so ive heard... anyways- she probably is into you, dont feel like it's out of pitty, and if you are still having doubts.. ask her! she'll give you the best answer out of any of these columnists! =]-ask_anything

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I have a great accomplishment. I am a big poetry writer and so I gathered all of my best from my teen years and present when I was 20, 3 years ago. I put together and published an 80 page book of poetry called, "Running Through the Blue." It includes my own artwork, too. This project took 2 years to complete. I paid $800 for 25 copies that took me a year to save for. Now, I know I should have done things differently when I got my copies becasue friends and family scoffed them all up for $10 a copy. I made only $120, but not all at once of course, so that money was intertwined into my life's needs and it is spent. I should have marketed my book and now I only have 2 copies left (3 if you count my own). Does anyone have any suggestions what I can do with these 2 books left, like maybe get them into the "right hands" somehow? I know my poetry is really good and I know my friends and family all appreciated it but I think those books are just filling shelf space maybe to look at and say, "cool, I'm proud of her." Yeah, okay, but I worked so hard for this, I would like it to go recognized in a deeper place, like with someone that could help me become something. Does anyone have any ideas? I already know what it is I should have done, but what can I do now that what's done is done? I can't just buy more copies, I'm a stay at home mom now, I never have money, I don't work again for another 2 years or so. Please help me find my way in the right direction!! Thank you.

you should definitly ask around to see if your friends or family know someone who is a publisher or someone who writes books themselves and has done well. if not, you could research online about near by people/places you can go to to see if they can help you out. if you've realized your mistakes, you should take note of them and write down what you want to have happen if you find a publisher/agent/whatever. im not an expert at these type of things, but im sure you will be bound to find a connection sooner or later. but keep looking out, write to authors of famous books and ask their advice as well. good luck with your book! =] -ask_anything

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HELP i really fancey my paper boy danny but ive liked him for ages but the problem is that im really shy and cant seem to speak to him i always stare at him and he looks back and smiles, once he even waved help me to get him please ill rate you.
roxie xxx

dear roxie-
im just like you, incredibly shy when it comes to boys. if you're too shy to talk to him, write him a note and just give it to him when he delivers the paper, or leave it somewhere where he'll see it with his name. say what you want to say in person, hopefully he'll write back ;) if you need to - just say "write back" on the bottom or something! hah i bet you love getting the paper in the morning! =] -ask_anything

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i like this girl. but she has a bf. i think she likes me. but im not sure., she told me im hot. i think she was kiding. so what sould i do.

thanks.... p.s. peace

just come out and ask her! it cant hurt can it? if she doesnt like you, she'll tell you, if she does, she prob. will too! from there, see what happens. =] ask_anything

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i need to get a halloween costume for halloween but my mom wont buy one and she wont take me somewhere to buy one! i don't really want to make my own costume because nobody will help me and i can't do it by myself without it looking really bad! i don't know what to do!! Should i just keep trying to convince my mom? Or make my own,really bad-looking, costume?

have your friends help you out, or have a group of people you know all dress up similar so you can all get the costume together. or do some chores for your mom and get some money to pay for the costume! =] -ask_anything

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Me n my friend want to write something to the mayor of our town about how we want buses and/or taxis in the town. but we arent sure what to do.. does anyone have any suggestions of what we can do/write to the mayor?

i rate all 5s..

-jules

jules- if you need help writing the letter ask an english teacher at your school or create an outline of points you want to make. take it step by step! =] -ask_anything

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how do u get a girl to want to go out with you?

well to get a girl to go out with you, you need to make sure she likes you! be really nice to her, and tell her if you feel confident enough. if she's interested she'll tell you- if not straight out, with little clues here and there. you'll figure it out! =] -ask_anything

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I'm 15 n I love my boyfriend with allll my heart n we've been together for a long time n we really want a baby. It might sound crazy but. Dont call me a slut or anything, cuz im not. I wouldnt just want a baby with any guy. I love my boyfriend n he loves me n we feel we're ready to take care of a kid. We'd be able to raise it no problem, we have money n stuff. I just dont kno what people would think. My boyfriend promises he'll never leave me, n I kno he will be there to support me in anything...what do you think..

i think you should finish up high school first and by the time you get to collage, if you two still feel the same- talk it over with your parents because you don't want the baby to be a bad surprise to them. id recommend getting all your education done first though (high school, collage) and marriage even before the baby. but that's just me- you're decision is your own! =] -ask_anything

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hi i just got my first period two days ago and since then ive had like 40 bottles of water but only one salad, im just not hungry at all! is it normal
thanks

yeah everyone is different during that time, some eat a lot- some eat small quantities. you just so happen to be one of those people who arent very hungry during their period. im kind of like that too... but dont worry about it- just remember that you should eat enough each day to stay energized! and drinking lots of water is a plus- you'll be fine! =] -ask_anything

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Hi!! Yeah my friend likes this guy (j) she flirts with him soo much. I never thought that i might like j, but it really bothers me to see her flirt with him so much. Wut should i do?

well, if you know your friend likes j and you do too... it might be good to tell her [if you trust her enough] because you dont want her finding out later and then having a controversy... ive experienced it once before and it was not pretty at all! :x... but if you're sure you like j, then casually talk to him more and flirt a tad without going overboard. if he doesnt like either of you enough to get beyond friends- you really have nothing to worry about. but if he likes one of you over the other- you might have some problems arise. but talk to your friend and she how she takes it- ill be glad to answer more questions as your friendship and j go on... =] -ask_anything

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okay i was on a antiobitioic for a sinus infection, and its a form of penecilin, and i had these HUGE absolutley huge hives all over me, they were disgusting, i was wondering what exactly are hives?

here's a page off of www.webmd.com about hives, (http://my.webmd.com/content/pages/10/1625_50521?z=1625_50533_6508_00_15) it should cover everything you've ever wanted to know- and it's all factual! hope you feel better soon- =] -ask_anything

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I met this guy that my friend j and her fiance r wanted me to met. so i was ok it couldn't hurt so i ended meeting him september 19th. He's 21 and i'm 17. so we all ended up going bowling. I talked i him a little bit.
that next week we all went to roger's house to watch movies. J and i ended up getting there by 7pm and we did our homework until 8-8:30pm. We finally started watching movies at about 8:30-9pm. We watched star wars. John(the guy i met) started explaining the movie(s) of star wars since i had never seen any of them before. Which was very sweet of him to do? anyway i didn't get home until almost midnight. This time i got to actually talk to john more and flirt with him cuz i was much more comfortable with him. Do u think we're dating, seeing each other, or being friends? What do u think about the age difference(17 and 21)? should i tell my parents about him (i haven't told them anything yet!)? how do u think the relationships going? should i tell my parent's about john even though we're not dating or seeing each other just friends? Because john and i have seen each other twice now and so should i tell my parent about him let me know? if john ever became my boyfriend in the future he was be my first boyfriend ever? should i still let them know about us?

today also jeni was telling me that john really needs some help and i was like me 2; but j's like he doesn't have anybody. and later on i was feeling so stressed out i was like i really need him; but it seems like he needs someone too. so help me out here. she also think that we would make a great couple. I actually trust him a lot more cuz my friend set me up with him.

also john didn't start dating until he was out of high school


From what you've said, i dont think you're technically boyfriend and girlfriend yet, you actually need to go on a one on one "date" to possibly be seeing each other. if you two hang out more and he acts like he isnt seeing anyone else... you could be possibly dating. but dont be afraid to just ask him! that way you'll get the facts straight! The age difference shouldnt matter too much because you two are close in age, and if your parents have trouble with the age difference- how old are they apart? most parents are a few years apart.. i mean what's better than a mature guy? dont tell your parents about him until you two are exactly sure you're seeing each other. it's okay to have him over "as a friend" so they know who he is, and you can find out their thoughts on him before you announce the relationship [or however you want to tell them]. well because you havent seen each other too much, the relationship has yet to begun- hang out more, talk more, you can do all sorts of things to get to know him better. like i said before, have john over as a friend and see how well your parents like him, try to make sure they can the best impression possible. if you've heard he's lonely- as you are too, then give it a go! if you need to find more about what he's thinking, have your friend J ask him what he thinks of you. dont rush things, and have fun! sounds like things should work out in good time! =]-ask_anything

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ok... i have the exact same problem as 'confused in lebanon, pennsylvania' but MY dad is sooo against me getting in a relationships with guys. he even told me the other day that guys might be starting to be attracted to me so i better use my kicks and punches (i take kicboxing). i dont even know if he was kidding! i love him so much, but i think it breaks his heart to see me grow up, and i need to change that. oo and im 13 female too.

thx

a lot of dads have trouble excepting their little girl is growing up. he's going to have to get used to it soon, but if you can- just wait one more year. your dad also seems to want to make sure you dont get pushed around by boys, and used. he wants to make sure you can stand up for yourself, and can take care of yourself. im hoping he was kidding about kicking and punching, but he might of meant to not get hurt. and if you do end up finding someone- dont tell him right away, try telling your mom and have her break it to him easy. he'll get used to it sooner or later, because no one deserves to be deprived of love/crushes. it's really sweet your dad is so protective of you, but he'll also be just as happy to see you happy when you find someone you truly feel happy with =] -ask_anything

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how do i have a boyfriend without my mom knowing?? because i really like this guy but i dont know how to go out with him without my mom interferring. also how do you ask guys out? and what do you do on dates (like you personally)?
im almost 14 (like 13 3/4) and a girl

well if you really feel you dont want to tell her, it wont be that easy. if you want to take the chance and "bend" some rules... i guess you could go to the movies with a friend, and have your boyfriend meet up with you. or just say the boy is only a friend.. your parents cant have anything against a guy that is just a friend. id recommend though to tell her, it's going to seem reallly weird, but it will hopefully make things easier. before you worry about telling your mom- find out if you are even going to have a relationship with the guy. whats the use in worrying about your parents if you arent even going out with him yet? and if you do go out with him- wait a little while before telling your parents so you know the relationship will last more than a week. usually guys ask the girl out- but if you plan on asking the guy out, then just casually ask it. id suggest finding out if he likes you too- because you dont want the wrong answer aka no... but if he likes you, find a moment where you two can talk alone and just say something under the lines.. "this is really hard, but i like you a lot and i was wondering if we could be more than friends"... sounds really cheesey.. but it should work if he likes you! ;) on dates, usually kids our age go to the movies, mall, any kinds of fair type events, really anything you both are into. me personally- ive only gone on group date type things, nothing one on one ... so i cant answer that for you... but good luck with the guy and your parents! =]- ask_anything

PS: if you plan to tell your mom, just remind her it was hard to tell her, and that you dont want her to tell anyone [unless you dont mind] ... im sure your mom will be really happy if you decide to trust her enough to tell her. but the choice is yours!

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I go out wit this guy but i like another guy too i dont know what to do ???

... dont dump your boyfriend unless you know the other guy likes you too... actually- unless you plan on breaking up with your boyfriend, try to get over the new guy. =] -ask_anything

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whos gunna win the world series??

who knows! but if i knew, id tell you . . . =] -ask_anything

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