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older guy?
I met this guy that my friend j and her fiance r wanted me to met. so i was ok it couldn't hurt so i ended meeting him september 19th. He's 21 and i'm 17. so we all ended up going bowling. I talked i him a little bit.
that next week we all went to roger's house to watch movies. J and i ended up getting there by 7pm and we did our homework until 8-8:30pm. We finally started watching movies at about 8:30-9pm. We watched star wars. John(the guy i met) started explaining the movie(s) of star wars since i had never seen any of them before. Which was very sweet of him to do? anyway i didn't get home until almost midnight. This time i got to actually talk to john more and flirt with him cuz i was much more comfortable with him. Do u think we're dating, seeing each other, or being friends? What do u think about the age difference(17 and 21)? should i tell my parents about him (i haven't told them anything yet!)? how do u think the relationships going? should i tell my parent's about john even though we're not dating or seeing each other just friends? Because john and i have seen each other twice now and so should i tell my parent about him let me know? if john ever became my boyfriend in the future he was be my first boyfriend ever? should i still let them know about us?
today also jeni was telling me that john really needs some help and i was like me 2; but j's like he doesn't have anybody. and later on i was feeling so stressed out i was like i really need him; but it seems like he needs someone too. so help me out here. she also think that we would make a great couple. I actually trust him a lot more cuz my friend set me up with him.
also john didn't start dating until he was out of high school
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Wow,thats a lot of questions... Here goes:
>Do u think we're dating, seeing each other, or being friends?
Sounds like you are being friends, but making overtures of somthing more. It's like the pre-cursor to dating, if that makes sense.
>What do u think about the age difference(17 and 21)?
4 years isn't that bigger deal IMO. Its not like he's old enough to be your granfather, and I don't see why anyone else would have a problem with it.
>should i tell my parents about him?
Well that is entirely up to you and your relationship with your parents. If you are comfortable kowing you have a prospective son-in-law for them, then sure. If not, wait a while to see how serious things get. Also don't let them pressure you into anything. It's your life.
>how do u think the relationships going? Sorry, I can't really comment as I can't see how you act around him. Why don't you ask your mate J :)
And that final bit: Don't let anyone push you into something you arn't sure about. Keep seeing him, get comfortable with him, and if you feel you want to take it beond friends, then let him know.
All the best ^_^
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From what you've said, i dont think you're technically boyfriend and girlfriend yet, you actually need to go on a one on one "date" to possibly be seeing each other. if you two hang out more and he acts like he isnt seeing anyone else... you could be possibly dating. but dont be afraid to just ask him! that way you'll get the facts straight! The age difference shouldnt matter too much because you two are close in age, and if your parents have trouble with the age difference- how old are they apart? most parents are a few years apart.. i mean what's better than a mature guy? dont tell your parents about him until you two are exactly sure you're seeing each other. it's okay to have him over "as a friend" so they know who he is, and you can find out their thoughts on him before you announce the relationship [or however you want to tell them]. well because you havent seen each other too much, the relationship has yet to begun- hang out more, talk more, you can do all sorts of things to get to know him better. like i said before, have john over as a friend and see how well your parents like him, try to make sure they can the best impression possible. if you've heard he's lonely- as you are too, then give it a go! if you need to find more about what he's thinking, have your friend J ask him what he thinks of you. dont rush things, and have fun! sounds like things should work out in good time! =]-ask_anything
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ok well idk if u'd consider it dating yet unless u guys have like made out nd stuff yet, cuz just watchin movies nd talkin is more like frends, i dont think the age difference that bad but thats just my opinion some people mite think its like a big difference or something. i dont think u should tell ure parents until ure sure its a relationship nd ure pretty sure everythin is gonna be good cuz if u tell them nd then u guys end up not workin out parents usually get all weird about it. the relationship sounds fine like with the way its goin just dont do ne thin ure not ready for nd have fun lol he sounds cool!
hope i helped
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Well yeah u should prolly tell your parents
I don't know if you should date him or not because hes a lot older but if ur mom says its ok then i guess its ok and u guys are just talking unless u've officially been "hooked up"..lol
well thats bout all i can help you with
I hope i helped ya! =]
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wow this seems really complicated .. but ima do myh best to help you out with it - i think you need to spend a little bit more time with him before you make the decision to start seeinq him exclusively .. i think that riqht now you and him are just beinq friends - to me aqe doesnt really matter talk to him about that one .. i wouldnt worry to much about it its not that biq of an aqe difference id be worried if he was like 25 and you were like 15 lol .. i dnt think your parents need to know about him myh parents still dnt noe about half of myh boyfriends its up to you if you want to tell them or not .. qood luck with this hunn nd if you need anymore help drop one in myh box =)
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I think for now you guys should just be friends until you hang out with him a couple more times. He seems really sweet. The age difference is fine, if you like somebody it doesn't matter how old they are. You could bring John up casually Mom or Dad and say something like "Ok I'm leaving now I'm going to hang out with my friend John, maybe you can meet him sometime." If they think they can meet him they'll probably be more willing to let you go. Don't tell them about the age difference right off though because a lot of times people don't want their daughters seeing older men. After a week or two you should probably tell them that you like him or are seeing him. It's great that you two would be able help each other through tough times.. so yes you should help each other. Hope I helped! Leave me one if I can do anything else for you! =c)
Love, RacheL
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