Dear Readers:
I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
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iam a male and i`m 13i hope u can help me with this. this has been bothering me for along time girls only think of me as a good freind or a brother and when i ask them out they say they just want to be freinds they say i m not ugly or anything they just want to be freinds i dont know what to do i rdeally like haveing a girl freind and i really want what should i do please give me adive i dont know if i just need to wait for the righ tperson or keep on trying
PLEASE ANWSER ME ASAP thanks (link)
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Hello, and I am glad that you left me a question. My answer is "do both". You are doing both anyway. Keep looking for the right girl, and keep trying. And I hope I can put your mind at ease. It isn't you. It is your age. DId you notice that girls ask these same questions, and most of them are 13, 14, 15 or 16. I hate to say it, but kids your age are just learing about love and having a boyfriend or girlfriend. You see couples together on TV shows, in real life and you want to copy that. You want to have a special person in your own life. And that is fine, but what you don't see is what it took for that couple on TV, or those adults you know, to meet each other, decide they like each other, get to know each other, and develop strong feelings for each other and become a "couple". They just seem to be so in love. Well it took time, and they each met a lot of creeps before they found each other and they were nervous and unsure of themselves at first, etc, etc. So the old saying that "love takes time" is still true today. ALSO young girls especially, want their boyfriend to be the hottest, the most wanted, the coolest, where the best clothes, and have the coolest mannerisms. Because young people today are bombarded with advertising and stories about music and tv and movie stars, and it is normal to want to be like them. So girls and boys judge their love interests strictly on looks. And while I don't doubt that you are a nice kid, many of the boys your age go from girl to girl to girl, and the girls "still love him", "I know he cheats, but how do I get him back" Let me assure you that this will all go away when you all get older. Say 18, 19, and 20. Some of the girls will still be phony and only care about looks, and some of the boys will still be "players" and go from girl to girl, but many of you will mature and want to be in a long term relationship. At that point girls start to look for boys that have personalities, rather than "american idol good looks". Being nice will be an asset. Some girls, and I mean the best ones, the ones worth having as a girl friend, will want a boy/young man who treats them special,would never cheat on them, make them feel cherished, treat them with respect, and be their friend also. It is just not what young girls your age are looking for now.
So what I am trying to tell you is, Don't change a thing about yourself, you sound like a wonderful person, kind, caring and compassionate. It time everything you want will come to you. But there are exceptions to every rule, and there may just be a girl out there who wants a nice boy now. Who sees her friends being hurt by these "players" and is already mature enough to know that she does not want that.
So keep looking and be patient. You can save yourself a lot of pain by YOU being choosy, and look for the right girl, not just any girl.
I hope this helps.
Michele
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i have an eating disorder caused by extreme emetophobia, ive hardly eaten for 3 years. in this time i have only eat my "safe foods" which are tuna paste sandwhichs, toast, breakaways (chocolate buiscuits) and only drink fresh orange juice.
This has caused me to feel ill all the time, i'm always in pain and discomfort and regualry feel light headed and sick.
I know my eating disorder has caused damage to my body and has weakened my teeth and causing me to feel ill but my boyfriend and i are really worried about the long term effects this is doing to my body and if it will have any serious effects?
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Yes, your eating problems will indeed cause long term effects to your body. Many people who are anorexic end up dieing from heart faliure. If you don't eat enough, or get enough nutrients. An imbalance of electrolytes in your body can cause heart failure. Can you take some vitamins. Can you add powdered vitamins to your orange juice. That may help. At leastyou are drinking organe juice which does provide potasium, which your body needs, and you can die with out it. Suddenly!
Look up eating disorders on the internet, in google, you'll find all kinds of information. If you really want to know the worst of it. Maybe that will be incentive for you to get better.
Michele
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O.K. I have been on my period since the middle of sixth grade and I'm now in eighth grade. I have skipped a lot of periods in the past and I was wondering if that has anything to do with having kids. Will I still be able to have kids and is this serious? Now, my period has been going for a MONTH! Is that normal for a 13 year old girl, even if I started almost three years ago?
Signed,
Kayla (link)
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Yes it can interfere with have kids, so when you are ready to have kids, you'll go to an OB/GYN and tell them that your periods a not regular, and likely they will work with you to get them regular so that you can conceive. There are all kinds of ways. But think that you can't get preganant if your periods are irregular, it is just harder.
Michele
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hey i want to get a big butt i mean mine is pretty decent becasue i dance but i want a bigger one..like strong muscles...wats some exercises i can do to make it bigger?
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Squats and lunges. BOth need to be done with weights. That will increase your muscle size and your but will appear bigger. Leg lifts while on hands and knees also, Lift leg up straight up into the air. Like tring to touch ceiling with toes. If you can do that with ankle weights, that will be great. Remember you have to feel the burn in the muscle for it to be working. You should to three sets of 10 of each exercise. And when it gets too easy, increase the weight.
Michele
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ok, my girlfriend's dad died the other day (they were on vacation in Qubec with her, her dad, her mom, & 2 friends) & so she was very upset & so she broke up with me. I understood & said it was ok. & so I bought her a card (witch I'm gonna send once I get her address from her friend) & I'm afraid to call her & everything cos I don't want to talk about it & that'd be the only thing we'd talk about.
but what I'm asking is if I should wait for her to get over it all & maby go back with her, or if I should just move on?
more about our realationship, she lives about 45 mins. away & I haven't been able to see her much & I haven't been the best boyfriend since I'm going through some really hard times right now, but I try
I'm 14/M & shes 14/F
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This is the time for you to be a friend. You were close and shared alot, and when she is ready, you have to be there for her. Please send the card. When and if she calls, please be there for her. This sort of thing has no time table. Everyone mourns in their own way and their own time. This was very traumatic for your friend.
If it takes a long time, should you move on. Well, you can say you'll move on, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you will find someone you like, and who likes you back. Either way, if and when she calls you or contacts you, then I would at least be open to talking to her, and it is OK to talk about her dad. She will want to. Yes if feels awkward, but it is not like...if you don't mention it, she won't feel bad. She already feels bad. Having an understanding friend is more important. You should say you are "sorry for your loss" and then say something like: "Hey loosing your dad like that must really suck!" And who wouldn't agree with that.
That is a tough one, I hope you both will be OK< together or not. It is thought ful of you to ask about her and how you should handle it.
Michele
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im 99% sure my dad is cheating on my mom..i was looking at his cellphone one day and it was like his name..lets call him bill and this other girls name lets call her christy..it said bill and christy in love forever and there was a million messages saying i love you back and forth..plus my dad is never around so this isnt really a shock to me..but how am i suppose to tell my mom and should i because i wasnt suppose to be in my dads business anyways! what should i do???! (link)
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OMG what an awful burden for you to find that out. ANd to find out that your dad is acting like a teenager. You must be going through all kinds of emotional turmoil. Here is my advice. Now that you know, start to observe your mother. Watch her, see how she reacts around your dad. Do you think she has a clue? Do you think she suspects anything. DOes she worry about where he is. Does it seem like she really trusts him, or really doesn't care where he is? Does she complain that he is never around?
ONce you determine, as best you can, whether she knows or cares, then decide what to do. But first, is here an adult you can tell first, and aunt or uncle, an older sibling? I think together you can come up with the best way to tell her, and it may even be best if you confront your dad, and let him know that he is jeopardizing the family, YOUR FAMILY!
IF how you found out is an issue, find an opportunity to "find out" in a different way, a totally innocent way. CAn you "run into him" when he is out, and then hey, he is caught with the girl, and no matter what excuse he gives, refuse to believe him (because you know about the textlove messages on his phone. )
If I knew how old you were, I could answer better. If you are a young lady, you know, married and don't live there, then I would say that you are strong enough to tell her and to deal with what may come after. She can lean on you if need be. But if you are a young girl, I think your mom's first impulse will be to protect you from the reality and pain of it, and she may also be embarassed that you found out. (besides being devasted) THis is really a tough situation.
I wish you all the luck in the world, you'll need it. I am sorry for your troubles. And don't think for a minute that any of this is your fault. No matter what happens.
Michele
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Is there anything that would make eggs have a peanut butter taste to them? Thanks (link)
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The egg's shell is permeable, especially to odors. But I guess the egg would have to be next to an open jar of peanut butter. I don't know for how long. Overnight at least, would be my guess. If your eating scrambled eggs, is it possible that someone mixed peanut butter into them?
Michele
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When i was younger my dad used to beat me with anything and yes sometimes i deserved and sometimes i never anyway. Now if anyone talks about there dad or people hiting people i get all red and i panic and i just want to be out of that conversation but i dont want people knowing or wondering why i get like this so how could i change. anyone help please (link)
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No you didn't do anything to deserve it. It is NEVER ok to beat your kids, and if the police knew they would have arrested him. And that is why you have a problem when a conversation about a dad beating his kid bothers you. Because he violated you, your person and your trust. We are born totally dependent on our parents. TO survive we need to develop trust with our parents. As children we do it without thinking about it you see, in is in our nature, in order to survive. When our parents violate that trust, by beating us, it shakes us at our very core. We can't grow up normally that way. Also, usually we feel we did something to deserve it, and often our parents tell us that we did, because they don't want to believe that they would hit someone with out a good reason. Well, it's all bullshit. Your father was wrong. That is why you have problems. Maybe knowing this will help. You need to "own" the belief that you didn't do anything wrong. Then you need to be mad for a while, then maybe you can get over it. And look, maybe you weren't an angel, you don't need to go into details, buy we all grow up better when we are raised with kindness and patience. Sometimes we are told that we are bad, so much, that we start to believe it, and start to act out that way. I hope this helps. I think I gave you too much information. Listen, I don't think your friends would judge you, if they found out, though I respect your wishes to keep it to yourself, but talking to an adult about it might help. YOu can leave me a question any time you like. I will answer within 24 hours. Take care of yourself, really.
Michele
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Hi..I am a 23 yr old female.My ex bf and I have been on and off again for about a year and a half or so. We met when I first moved to this city and went out for a couple of months. Then he drifted away ,barely called me..never returned calls so I gave up. I found out a couple months later that he was in jail. A couple months later (he was in jail for 6 months) he called me out of the blue.Told me that he just got out and wanted to see me. So I visited him and we chatted and hung out a few times. Then I asked if he wanted to go out again so he said yes. He said he tried to call me while in jail but you can only call collect and he only knew my cell number. He said he was trying to get himself out of trouble. His family loves me because I am totally opposite. I have never been in trouble and don't do anything that serious to get arrested for. I have a full-time decent job and a new car. We went out for a month and things were really good,he was calling me and everything..even got his sister to wake him up so he could call me while I was on vacation to wake me up one morning at 8 am for something my family and I we were planning on doing. Then things were good and all of the sudden he's gone again..A month later he called me through a 3 way call to get my house number because he wanted to talk to me and was in jail again.Since he was on probation when he got caught fighting,was drunk and on drugs, he got arrested again.. So this time he was in jail for 4 months..we spoke the whole time...he'd call me a couple times a week..then he was out on house arrest for 5 months. He gave up calling me then. He later told me and apologized because he said it wasn't fair and he didn't want me wasting time on him. So I went out with other people the whole time he was gone since we weren't talking anymore. Then he was out working and I ended up seeing him. We just said hi and that was it. He called me about a half hour after I saw him to apologize for not talking to me and stuff but he was surprised to have seen me. So we hung out a few times and I assumed that he wanted to go out but he said he wasn't ready to jump into a relationship again. We had a big fight then after a couple days finally spoke again and said we'd just be friends. We started hanging out alot as friends and after about a week he calls me wanting me to hang out with he and his friend and says he's been thinking about me all day. He has been really nice ever since then and we started going out again. His friend isn't in trouble..doesn't have a record and they hang out alot so as long as that keeps going on he might be able to get himself straightened out. He actually has a job now working in construction. Now I don't know if I should be going out with him or not. I love him and that's why I even talk to him but I now enough that just because I love him doesn't mean we can be together. The guy I was going out with while my ex was in jail wants to go out again and I don't know now what to do:S My ex,well current bf again now, could be anywhere if he keeps doing what he did last time and I am not sure if I should put the trust in him to try to have a relationship again..
I have no idea what to do..I am totally confused..I just want people's opinions on the matter to help me decide..I know people might think I am crazy to go out with my ex since he's been in jail but when he's around me he is really nice to me..really thoughtful.He's not a bad guy just keeps hanging out with the wrong ppl. And we have had our fights about him being in jail and getting in trouble so I didn't just let him get away with being an idiot to me before.
Please give me some help!:S
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I would advise you not to go out with him. I know you love him and you think you can change him. You know you are special, and he should be grateful that someone as well behaved as you are, agrees to go out with him. He should be grateful right, and be willing to stay out of trouble. Well, I wish I worked that way, because I have been there and it doesn't. Maybe if he had straightened out the first time, MAYBE, but he got himself arrested again. And you can't blame the people he hangs with. We all have to make choices. Of course he shouldn't be hanging with those guys, and it's great now that he has better friends, that is a step in the right direction. But at this point, if you are to be interested in him. He should be making ALL his steps in the right direction. Not drinking at all, since he can't control his impluses. Working, is good, but is he trying to better himself on the job, howabout school, college, training, something that will increase his income in the future. If you want to have a nice life together, you know that you should both be earning good pay, and for that you need education and skills. If he is making future plans that include bettering himself, then maybe he is worth waiting for, very patiently. But if he is not, and you are a witness, then I think you should find someone who may not be as exciting, but who will give you a better life. You know it does not matter how cute someone is, or sexy, or exciting.....10 or 15 years from now, when you still have nothing to your names, or maybe you own a home and have kids, but can't afford the things you need and no reserves for emergencies....you'll look at your friends who have dorky, or boring husbands, who just go to work each day, and earn a living, and greet their wives and kids with a smile, and will do ANYTHING for them, and tells his wife how beautiful she is, and doesn't find fault with her, and tells her that he is lucky to have her, and takes time with the kids and everyone at work respects him, and the kids look up to him, and the bills are paid, and there's money for vacations......well i don't know, maybe you aren't thinking this far ahead. Well maybe you should.
I hope this gave you some food for thought.
Michele
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hey! well i woke up this morning and there were tons of broken blood vessels all over my chin and down my throat! and i didn't put anything on my face or do anything, and it hurts like crap! does anyone know what caused it or how to make 'em go away? thanks! :) (link)
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I agree with dreamer. I think you were choked, or you slept funny, maybe on your face. Do you have an reason to believe that you might have been hurt by someone. Did you sleep well. Do you take any sleeping aids before going to bed? I would see a doctor. I am an esthetician (skin care specialist) And I have never heard of spider veins in someone so young, unless trauma is involved. You must see a doctor.
Michele
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ok i have a kitten and i sound really stupid when i say this but i don't know if it is a boy or girl.Some people say its a girl some say its a boy and i need to find a name for it. I tried to look at the thing but i can't tell it looks like it could be both atm.I thought maybe i could tell from the tits it has 8 tits! Does anyone know if a male cat has the same number of tits please could someone help.Thank Youxx (link)
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No, both male and female cats have nipples. The other advisors are incorrect. You have to lift up his/her tail, and look directly beneath his/her butt h*le, and if you see two little dots or spots or bumps below it... side by side, then it is a boy. If you don't see anything, then it is a girl. It if is a long haired cat then I wish you luck. Either way, when it is about 6 months, you should take it to the vet to have it neutered or spayed so you won't have a lot of little kittens running around.
Michele
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Hi,
I was reading some of the questions in your column and i noticed a couple of questions about this girl named Sam. I've also been in a lot of foster homes and I have been getting really big into drugs. Is that going to happen to me if I continue to do drugs or will I be ok? I think I'm ok now I feel great all the time and nothing really bothers me anymore but is that how Sam was? I'm really scared to end up like that kid. So if I keep doing this will I deffinately end up like her? (link)
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You think I can tell you that the same thing won't happen to you. You know I can't tell you that, no one who cares about kids and what happens to them would answer your question, saying that "go ahead, keep doing drugs, I 'm sure you'll stop some day, and you'll be fine."
Sam is dead, she died horribly. A what is worse, except for a small group of friends (3) no one cared about her. She was abused at home and again in a couple of foster homes. She ran away from them, ran into some creeps on the street who were happy to take her in and feed her drugs as long as she did you know what.....
Well it sounds like you are not in that bad of a situation. Maybe your foster home is stable, and while you may have some problems that stem from the reasons why you are in a foster home, I am hoping for now that you are safe. I think in your case the drugs are a distraction, and a need to be accepted and wanted by someone, and I think the friends you have that give and share drugs with you are your friends, and it is better than having no one at all. Sort of. While foster parents can be good, and it is very unselfish of them to open their homes to kids who are in trouble (no fault of their own). Foster parents are not parents, and I know the pain that you feel inside for having to end up in foster care is not going to go away.
Sure drugs make you feel better temporarily. And drugs mask the pain. But each time you come down the pain is still there. It will always be there, no matter how many years go by, no matter how many drugs you take, UNTIL YOU DEAL WITH IT, WITH HELP, WITH THERAPY. But the drugs will only add to your troubles and pain. This is how:
1.) The drugs could land in you jail, that will follow you for the rest of your life.A criminal record. If you want to go to college (and they have special programs for kids in foster care to attend college and the government pays the bill) you won't be eligible for these funds if you have been arrested for drug possession.
2.) drugs limit your circle of friends. They all take drugs too, none of them are going anywhere fast. They will end up in dead end jobs, with no prospects for a bright future. I mean with a fun job and money to spend on things you like. The drugs could prevent you from getting a job too, because most employers drug test today.
3.) Drugs cause people to make the wrong decisions at the wrong time. many girls who take drugs end up having sex without protection and become pregnant. You're so young and you have many years ahead of you that could be great, but they won't be if you have to raise a child too. Children should be wanted and they should be born when a woman and man are in love and in a committed relationship and can afford to raise the child without relying on welfare, foster homes and state assistance for food and shelter. having a child out of wedlock is the first step to poverty.
4.) Drugs are bad for your health and can kill you they may not kill your friend, but they maykill you. No one knows why drugs kill some and just addict others. But even the ones who get addicted end up wishing they were dead.
Just the fact that you took the time to stop and ask me about your drug use tells me that you have reservations about it. You want to feel like everyone else looks....happy. Well I am here to tell you that millions and millions of people are unhappy inside for all kinds of reasons. but many of them because of the way that they were raised. I don't know why you are in foster care. My heart hurts for every kid out there that has to be in foster care. I wonder, "what are their parents thinking"! how could they turn their backs on their kids. Yes, I know it hurts and I know that you will never get a satisfactory answer on why you have to be there, but THIS MUCH I DO KNOW... IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG. And the emotional pain you feel, the loss, the feeling that somehow if you had been better, different, smarter, whatever, that you wouldn't be there. But it was not you. And yes you have to learn to deal with the pain. You have to grow up faster than kids who have loving families. And it sucks. But it can make you strong. You can turn around and even be better than everyone else because you didn;t have the same advantages. You are going to be 18 years old soon. That makes you a legal adult. The decisions you make now and in the near future can help you or hurt you. You can go to college if you want to. You write wall, and type well. You speak better than a lot of kids on this site. You are smart and I know you are strong because you have survived this long. Sam was younger than you and she is already dead. She couldn't fight her demons. You can, and I hope you do. Seek out help. Find some adults to sponsor you, or mentor you and help you get into college. But you have to be sincere. And you have to avoid the pitfalls. The friends who say" you're stupid for trying, it'll never work, here get high with us". Are those people terrible, no they're, not,but they also won't be able to help you if you get very sick, or in trouble with the law. I don't know about your foster situation, but I have a friend who is a foster mom, and the boy she was helping to raise got involved in drugs, It broke her heart to have to let him go,but she could not keep him any longer. He is now in a detentoin center, because he is 14 and no one wants a teenage boy who has been involved in drugs. He is sorry too, and he would give anything to go back and change things. He knew he had a chance at a future living with that foste mom. Now he has more going against him than for him. But there is nothing anyone can do. You are going to be 18 soon, (Iknow I said that already) What are your plans? Do you have to leave the home you are in when you turn 18? What will you do? You could apply to a collge and live on campus. Even a community college would be better than no going. I know that you can do this. I hope you don't mind my going on like this. But if I can change your mind then it was worth it. Please write again if you like. Let me know how you are doing.
Michele
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Hello Advicenators,
I have an impacted/stopped up oil gland on my ear. The impacted/stopped up oil gland is next to where my earring would go in my left ear. It is not ontop of the "hole" for my earing, it is to the side of it. The gland is swollen, reddish/purple, and it hurts really badly. When something touches it (putting on a shirt, brushing my hair, etc., etc.) it feels like someone has stabled a needle in my ear. I know that this is sort of like a pimple on my ear, but is there something I can do to help it go away? Would acne medicine and hot compresses help any? My mom said that if it didn't go away, she'd take me to a dermatologist, but should I try to mess with it or anything?
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If it is red and inflammed and hurts then it is infected. Take high doses of Vitamin C, that kills infection from the inside, (at least 1000 mg. a day) Then yes, put alcohol on it with cotton swabs, and/or Tea Tree oil if you have it. (it smells strong butit works) You should see improvement within 24 hours. Continue until it is gone completely.
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Well my mom ALWAYS calls me a whore and a slut i dont know what to do about it. My dad wont talk so i dont know how he feels and it drives me crazy when she calls me that. I always wonder...well what if I really am...but no one at school thinks I am. Why is my mom doing this to me and do you have any ideas on what I can do to stop it??
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Look, I am a mom, I have two teenage boys. I would never talk to them, or daughters if I had them, or my son's girlfriends like that. Your mom needs her head examined. She is the one with the problem. YOu should know whether or not you are promiscuous. You don't need her to tell you. If she has a problem with your behavior, than she should find a much better way to tell you. I'll bet that is how her mother spoke to her. ALso I think your mom may have behaved badly when she was young, and thinks that doing this will prevent you from behaving that way. Of course, it does not work that way. It only drives a wedge between the two of you, and she should be the person that you should be going to with questions about sex. I know you are thinking "NO WAY", but that is because she raised you that way. Many girls and boys have a trusting realtionship with their parents and can go to them about anything. My boys came to me. I trust them completely. To be responsible. They know the consequences of getting involved in sex, or drugs or alcohol. We don't scream and yell at each other, we talk. I am sorry that you have to go through this. I wish all parents had to take lessons on how to show respect to their kids. So many of them don't understand, respect goes both ways. Parents usually violate it first, because they can.
Sorry for your troubles.
Michele
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Ok so yesterday i was raped =(....but see the thing is i dont know how to tell my parents....or anyone. I kind of feel embaresed that it happend and idk. But should i tell them and how should I tell them.
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Like everyone advises, you should tell your parents, and please keep this in mind. It is never your fault. Even if at first you found yourself alone with this guy, you could not have known what was going to happen and when you said no, he was required BY LAW to stop. I hope your parents call the police on him, because he will continue to do this. He is a sexual predator and needs to be stopped Please follow through on this. Be strong. I hope your parents back you up.
Michele
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My good friend is having a pool party tomorrow and she invited many people to go. One of the people going is her boyfriend. I don't think I have ever hated anyone more than I hate her boyfriend. He treats me like shit, he treats HER like shit and they honestly make me sick when I see them together. I originally wasn't going to go because of the fact that he was going to be there, but then my friend Cara convinced me to go as well as my boyfriend. I made the decision not to go because I don't want to start anything with them. I know everyone is going to be there to have a good time, and I want to have fun but I CANNOT have fun if he is near me. I can't even begin to describe how much I loathe her boyfriend. I sort of feel bad that I'm not going but I know I'm making the right choice in staying home because I don't want to ruine it for anyone else just because I'm going to be misterable. But my question is, do you think I should go anyway? She really wanted me to go but I seriously will not be able to keep my anger inside if I see them together. (link)
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Why do you let what other people do bother you. Think about this. What if someone out there hated you. I mean really hated you! What would you do about it? Would you change anything about yourself? Would you stop doing the things that they hate about you? Probably not, and neither will the person (her boyfriend) stop. So why let him control your feelings and whether or not you miss a great party. It's like letting him rent space in your head, but he's not paying you for it. YOu are giving him power over you. He's controling you and he doesn't even have to invest any time or effort. He can ruin your weekend by just being alive. Do you think he cares. Maybe he even enjoys it.
I think you have to work on letting go of things and people that you have no control over. Sure you can have an opinion about him and you are probably right. I am sure that he is a jerk. But who is the bigger jerk if you stay home while everyone else has a great time. This is a sign of maturity, and you have to mature sooner or later. Sooner will ensure that you have a more fun this summer. YOu will be a lot happier in life if you to learn to control anger, belive me he won't be the only jerk that you will meet in this lifetime. Just be glad that you recognize a jerk when you see one, (unlike your friend ) so you can keep from getting involved with them. . He will eventually get what is coming to him. Count on it. YOu don't even have to do anything....but being there to laugh at him when he gets what is coming to him might be worth it. I hope you change your mind and attend the party.
Michele
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hey...does anyone know how to getr certain news articles online? like what website would I go to to find news articles from the daily local news? i tried dailylocalnews.com, but i couldn't find it. Please answer!! i will rate high for good ones!
~*jaimee*~ (link)
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Well just about every newspaper out there has a web page, so look for the web page of your local newspaper. For national news....try the new york times. or CNN.com I like MSNBC.com
myself, for national news.
Michele
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-I'm extremely tiny - 5'1, and thin - about 120
-and my breasts are size 34E / 34DD
-theyre so big it looks weird
-there is NO bathing suit top out there that will cover me
-at cheerleading i have to wear a regular bra and TWO sports bras on top just to support them
- i cant wear button up shirts cause they pop the buttons
-if i dont wear a bra, they hang down and it hurts
-i exercise, RUN, i eat healthy, plus im a cheerleader, and my boobs are STILL big
-everyone in my family has huge boobs, but still...
-i dont have back pain or anything, theyre just huge and embarrassing
is there any way i can exercise to make my boobs smaller? No breast reduction. I'm only 15. please help, i HATE it. (link)
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Well there are no exercises, but cutting fat out of your diet may help. Breasts are made of fat. Although that may just help a size maybe size and 1/2. And since your still growing, bones, brain, you really need some fat in your diet. You are a candidate for breast reduction surgery. But you are to young. I guess you'll have to be patient. Maybe when you are 18, it may even be covered by medical insurance because of the possibility of back problems in the future. Good luck to you.,
Michele
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it wont let me send you an email .. why?
thanks
check the column - ello_there_matie_lol (link)
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I don't know. I am pretty sure that my email is OK, but try one of these if these don't work, then it could be your computer, or your email software. mlarocque@eigercreative.com (wk)
(Home) cobweb2@adelphia.net
I will look at your column.
Michele
I looked, I can't find your column. It is on this site? if not give me the link. url
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how come there isnt a button to add you as a favorite columnist? i would like to add you. (link)
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I don't know. There used to be, but they have changed a lot of things on this website recently.
Well I see it here on the left hand site, in the blue column. It says favorite columnist. Try again. I would be happy to be listed as your favorite columnist. Thanks for your confidence in me.
Michele
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