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all girls think of me as a brother or good freinds
iam a male and i`m 13i hope u can help me with this. this has been bothering me for along time girls only think of me as a good freind or a brother and when i ask them out they say they just want to be freinds they say i m not ugly or anything they just want to be freinds i dont know what to do i rdeally like haveing a girl freind and i really want what should i do please give me adive i dont know if i just need to wait for the righ tperson or keep on trying
PLEASE ANWSER ME ASAP thanks
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Hello, and I am glad that you left me a question. My answer is "do both". You are doing both anyway. Keep looking for the right girl, and keep trying. And I hope I can put your mind at ease. It isn't you. It is your age. DId you notice that girls ask these same questions, and most of them are 13, 14, 15 or 16. I hate to say it, but kids your age are just learing about love and having a boyfriend or girlfriend. You see couples together on TV shows, in real life and you want to copy that. You want to have a special person in your own life. And that is fine, but what you don't see is what it took for that couple on TV, or those adults you know, to meet each other, decide they like each other, get to know each other, and develop strong feelings for each other and become a "couple". They just seem to be so in love. Well it took time, and they each met a lot of creeps before they found each other and they were nervous and unsure of themselves at first, etc, etc. So the old saying that "love takes time" is still true today. ALSO young girls especially, want their boyfriend to be the hottest, the most wanted, the coolest, where the best clothes, and have the coolest mannerisms. Because young people today are bombarded with advertising and stories about music and tv and movie stars, and it is normal to want to be like them. So girls and boys judge their love interests strictly on looks. And while I don't doubt that you are a nice kid, many of the boys your age go from girl to girl to girl, and the girls "still love him", "I know he cheats, but how do I get him back" Let me assure you that this will all go away when you all get older. Say 18, 19, and 20. Some of the girls will still be phony and only care about looks, and some of the boys will still be "players" and go from girl to girl, but many of you will mature and want to be in a long term relationship. At that point girls start to look for boys that have personalities, rather than "american idol good looks". Being nice will be an asset. Some girls, and I mean the best ones, the ones worth having as a girl friend, will want a boy/young man who treats them special,would never cheat on them, make them feel cherished, treat them with respect, and be their friend also. It is just not what young girls your age are looking for now.
So what I am trying to tell you is, Don't change a thing about yourself, you sound like a wonderful person, kind, caring and compassionate. It time everything you want will come to you. But there are exceptions to every rule, and there may just be a girl out there who wants a nice boy now. Who sees her friends being hurt by these "players" and is already mature enough to know that she does not want that.
So keep looking and be patient. You can save yourself a lot of pain by YOU being choosy, and look for the right girl, not just any girl.
I hope this helps.
Michele
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