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the guy i love is moving and wut not..
heey love <3. well, i bet you probably get this alot. oh, and i`m 14.. oohkay, i`ve known this guy since 6th grade and we`re going into 9th right now. we`ve gone out like, 6th 7th and 8th grade. i love him so much. nobody understands. i never felt this way about a guy before. my friends all tell me i can do better because he's like the "player type" but i can honestly say he`s never acted like that around me. he was my first kiss. my first boyfriend. alot of that stuff. and i can`t go out with other guys because i compare them to him.. and there's nobody that's as great as him. he's the sweetest person ever and i`d do anything for him. i`d give up my life for him. my friends all tell me that it`s wrong or w.e. and that i shouldn`t love him and i should give other guys a chance. but i do give other guys a chance. they say they understand, but really they don`t. it`s so weird to not have anybody understand.. and in the summer i dont know when.. maybe nxt month or something he`s moving.. honestly i don`t know what i`m gonna do without him. he always says he wants me in his future and everything and that he`ll always love me no matter what. we`ve been in love for 3 years; probably more. i don`t know.. but it seems really hard. when he goes out with other girls, he still tells me he loves me and that no one can ever replace me. and it`s so hard; to go on without him in highschool. and he`s moving like 1 or 2 hours away.. and he said he`ll probably be able to come like every weekend. but i don`t know what to do.. and then he asked me how far i`d go with a guy and i`m like depends and he`s like on what and i`m like who the guy is. and he's like, well.. me. and i`m like i don't know.. and i`m like how far would u go with me? and he says "well ill go all the way but it's up to you. i don't want to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or rushed". and, i been thinking about it and i think i do want to give it up to him; before he moves. i know for a ffact that it won't change anything.. but i'm scared and nervous. and i don't know if i want to do it. but yeah, that's my problem(s). if you can help me, i`d greatly appreciate it. thanks darling. <3
aand, sorry it`s s0o long!
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i hoestly agree with the 3 other people that answered your question. you shouldnt give it up to him...i mean it will get addicitve and what your friend where right about the playa thing.. see if he keeps his word and keeeps intocuh with you. i mean you dont have to break up but i think if you guys both love each other strongly then i think you guys can make it work out. .right now i am in a long disntance realtionship with a guy and he lives about 2 1/2 hours away but he comes and sees me every weekend and we talk all the time.. if you guys cant make it then listen to your friends and try going out with other guys. there are a lot of ghuys out there. i undestand that you love him and even though there are many fish in the sea he will always be your nemo. i wish you the best of luck to you and your boyfriend.
*~Stephanie~*
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This is a very big decision that you have to make. I understand that it is confusing and scary because so much can happen from it. Let me tell you something important first. Having sex will make you VERY emotionally attached to him. Most girls that hear this that have NOT had sex yet do not believe it. Both of us have experienced this emotional attachment from having sex with a guy for the first time. It is very hard because you get sooo attached and even start being really jealous, even though you are not normally a jealous person. Another thing to consider is you are pretty young to be having sex. I am not saying you are not mature, but you still might want to give it more time. Maybe wait and see if he keeps his word and visits you whenever he can. Or he calls you everyday...or he writes you or emails or gets online to talk to you. What if you give it up to him and then he slowly stops talking to you because he has a new life? Think how much that will hurt. I know you love this guy, but maybe you should test him. It is not like you will not ever see him again and this is your last chance to give it up to him. Just wait and see if he stays in touch with you and he waits to give it up to you (assuming he has not given it up yet). You have your whole life and if you really love this guy and he really loves you then you do not have anything to worry about because it will happen in the future. A long distance relationship is very hard I must warn you. I have been through that...my freshman year of highschool infact...and it did not last even though we thought we loved each other and he only lived 45 minutes away. Prepare for a difficult time. Remember you always have your friends and maybe you should date other people while he is gone just to make sure he is the one for you! Sorry this is so long =) Our advice to you is test him. See if he stays in touch with you even though you are not going to have sex with him immediately. If he puts in a good effort and you are perfectly sure it is what you want to do..then go for it and make sure it is very special..not rushed..and safe (as in condoms and all that stuff). good luck girlie!
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hey! i can relate to what you are feeling, well, not every part of it, but some of it. i too found a great guy, and he moved a week ago to greece. and yeah, high school will be hard to start without him, but you'll manage. your friends are right, do give other guys a chance. even if they dont measure up to him, cause that will determine if hes really the guy. i'm sure you've heard the saying "love is blind," and i hope that this hasnt happened to you. i mean, there is probably a reason why your friends think that hes the player type, and i think that you should find out more about that. cause they may be right, but then again, sometimes friends are wrong. once hes guna move, the distance will determine if your guys are really meant for each other. i know this sounds cheesy, but if you guys can make it through that, then you could probably make it through a lot more. he says he wants you in his future, let him prove that to you. i dont think that doing it with him would be right, if hes guna be able to come every week-end or so to visit you, i dont think that you should do it. cause i dont think you're ready, i mean, its normal to be scared and nervous, but if you're not sure if you want to do it or not, then i wouldnt advise it. you're only 14 and you've got you're whole life ahead of you. 1 or 2 hours away isnt so bad, i have a friend who goes out with a guy who lives an hour away and shes really happy. in my opinion, i think that you should date around a little to see whats out there, if you keep comparing guys to him, then you're probably "stuck on him", but still open your eyes. you never know. i hope this helped, if you want to talk more, just leave a message in my inbox. good luck with your guy! peace and love
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