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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle

"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."

I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.

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my best friend is scared of the dark. i can't get to sleep when i spend the night at her house because she keeps all the lights on in her room and i just cant fall asleep. so when she hits the hay... i quietly go to the light switch and turn the lights off. as soon as i do that she wakes up and starts crying! what to do???
thanks in advance
Frenchy♥

Yeah, I do that all the time. But, I recently just found out that it makes your body stop growing, & messes it up. + you have a better chance of cancer. Because your body repairs itself at night, if you get a cut or anything. I now have a little light that plugs into the outlet. How old are you, that she starts crying? You realy need to speak with her, & maybe tell her mom or dad, because her health could be at risk. I hope I helped, BYE! =)

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ok. i have 2 best friends who i've been inseperable from since like 4th grade (one of them though since like kindergarten). and now i'm going into highschool. we're always together, (most of the time lol) i can tell them anything, we have so many laughs and fun times together, and i can totally be myself around them, which is great because i'm really shy. but last year, well technically still this year..lol 8th grade.. the one who i haven't been friends with since kindergarten..lets call her Jen. well Jen has been occasionally telling me some stuff about the other friend "Rachel" about how she annoys her sometimes, and stuff like that. ok so i was just talking to my friend Jen online. and this is sort of what she tells me:

she was like: no offense because i know you are really good friends with Rachel but i really dont like hanging out with her. then she gives me all these reasons why. she also telling me that she thinks Rachel has become conceited, and gave me a reason. "she just like acts immature sometimes and tries to be funny when she's not" thats also something she said. "like I'll be her friend and everything.but i definitely don't want to hang out with her a lot in highschool"

so my question is. do you think it is right of her to say this? we're supposed to be BEST FRIENDS, yet she's saying all this shit behind Rachel's back. i don't want our friendship to just die, i mean i have the greatest times with these two girls. high school will be a huge change and we'll make new friends and everything but i don't want it to completely tear apart our friendship. idk i just can't believe she's saying this because i feel like i have the best times when all 3 of us are together and now if Jen doesn't want to hang out with Rachel it will never be the same. what should i do/say to her? do you think it was right of her to say this? if you want the reasons of why Jen said what she said then give me your email and i'll tell you. thank you.

She has every right in the world to say those things. Shes probaly just trying to be honest with you. Not everyone can be the best of friends. She is just trying to tell you her feelings. She said she'd still hang out with her, right? It just means she won't consider her best friend anymore or whatever. Its not a big deal. Really, its not. Come highschool, you might not even talk to Racheal or Jen as much. You might just stay really good friends wiht one. Or none for that matter. Don't worry about it, & everything will be fine. You could also say something to Rachel. If you agree with what Jen is saying. If you agree, then just say very nicely like "okay stop it." or something. If you don't then just act like Jen never said those things & don't worry. You can't really do much more.. without causing major drama between the 3 of you.

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well, my i guess you could say im in love with my best friend.. we use to be a couple but we broke up because of the distance.. well i JUST moved here.. but we've became really good friends ! but my problem is, i wanna be with him so bad. and he says he's scared because if we break up he's afraid we wont be as good as friends as we did before we were going out. but i think that if we really cared about eachother, and we loved eachother THAT much then maybe it'd be okay, because even if we did break up, we could continue being good friends because we wouldnt let that happen.. and now i dont know what i should do ? helpp

Well, it can work both ways. It happened to me. Once, I went out with this one guy, & we were best friends before.. now he hates me. The other kid, hes still my best friend. [actually were in a fight right now, but thats besides the point. lol] Its a possibilty things won't be the same.. have you ever considered friends + benefits? =) Sorry, I don't know how old you are becaus you didn't put it. But, that could always be an option.. if like half of it is you want like that type of thing like kissing & such. Its a risk. If you believe & you have no doubt in your mind, that you will still be friends after you would break up, then go for it. If you do, then wait a while. & let fate work its magic. I really hope I helped.!
Bye =)

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im 15 almost 16 and i am still in a AA-cup bra.

mom is a A-cup, but my sister is a C-cup.

This is completely destroying my life! I have not had a boyfriend cuz' my breasts are tiny now I am old and nobody will want me.

what about breast enlargement?

are there any other wayz i can get someone to love me?

is surgery for enlarging my breasts my best way to get my life back?

i want to have a boyfriend before i get old! am i already too old? none of the boys will want me soon. i am almost 16!

Please HELP ME!

Well, first off if they all are pretty small..[espically if your sisters only a C cup, and shes older..] Then, it runs in the family. Because I am C. Almost D. And im 13 [but almost 14] But anyways, It shouldn't be destroying your life for one. Its just your boobs. If boys can't see you, for like your personality, or your face or something..then thats there problem. Maybe you just haven't found the right person yet. or maybe hes standing right infront of you, & you don't even realize it. Try using paddeddddd bras. Put tissue in it & such, anything. Oh, and I know this sounds like weird or something, but guys shouldn't be your life. Which trust me, would be deeply hard for me, to live without guys. =) But, still. Do stuff with your friends. & just enjoy them.. don't worry about boys. But, Victoria Secrets does have great padded bras! =)
Eh, I hope I helped.

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okay me and my ex broke up 9 days ago.
and i have been kinda asking him questions abou the break up the last 8 days. and yesterday i had someone else ask him questions and he found out and we got in a fight. and like hes been going in a circle with girls and its like.. he will forget his most recent ex and try to talk to his old one and become there friends and when we broke up he told me he wanted to be friends.
and now its like i dont matter anymore he went threw a break up before me like. 2 yrs ago. and hes trying to feel what that girl left but its making him go out with other chicks ( one of his ex's told me this) and. i was trying to talk to him about it yesterday and he got mad and started saying stuff about how he doesnt want to go out never again and how he never want to talk to me again and never wants to see me again.
and he said this to me b4 and he ended up talking to me and going out with me

i dont know
i need real advice
should i wait until he wants to talk to me

or send him a sorry letter for being annoying

or just leave it alone...
because you really cant say your never going to go out with someone becaue highschool changes people and you never know how you will feel about someone in 2yrs or even months

btw we are both 14


SORRY SOO LONG!

You need to get over this kid. Move on, hes not worth your time. Let him come to you. He obviously doesn't know who he wants to give his heart to at the moment. & hes just a major player. So get away from him & go find a guy that will be inlove with you & only you. =) Ehh.. hope it helped!
-hayleyy.

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Hey guys! It's summer for me right now and I've been going to the pool a lot lately. All the girls my age like run around and flirt with guys and stuff, and believe me, I'm all for that but I always feel so uncomfertable in a bathing suit. I mean, I don't think I'm fat or anything, but like my stomach is really hairy and I have to shave it (Is that normal?) and like the back of my neck is really harry, too. I can never run around in my bathing suit because it like rides up and then like half of my vagina is showing (I'm exaggerating a bit there.) But what should I do?! Please don't tell me to get a wax because i already wax my eyebrows and upper lip and i haatteee it!

I take it your like Italian? Uhm, but first off.. you shouldn't shave/wax whatever any of it.. your suppose to bleach it. It just grows twice as fast when you shave it or whatever. So I'd maybe start bleaching. Or your gonna have to shave/wax every dayyyy.

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Hello Everyone!
I am 14/f and the first time I got my period was in February of this year. I am a 32 A. My mom is a 38 C. However, I am short for my age (which I got from my aunts) Since I got my height from my aunts (who are A cups as well) will I probably have the same size breast as them or my mom?

Well..uhm, I'm bigger then your mom already, im like 40C. hah, um but yeah, and im only 13. so.. small breast probaly run in your family. & you'll probaly either stick with where your at.. or get in the middle.But, of course your breast don't stop growing until your 19! =) So, you still have a long way to go. So don't worry!

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ok well is there any other way to let a guy know you like him without actually having to say it

Flirting =). Let him come to you.. don't come go to him. or, become friends.

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my birthday is coming up in the middle of july and i dont know what to get for a present.. does anyone have any ideas that a girl turning 16 should get for her birthday (besides a car.. my family can't afford to get me one of those)

Uhm, well for my birthday [I'm not turning 16, 14.] But, what I like is, like designer purses, ipods, those cool sidekick phones =). Get something cool like that.

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im a heavy 15 year old, and i want to gett flatter abs before school starts in september. what could i do without trying to do a million crunches a night? thank you

Well.. I'm not over weight or nothing, but I wanted to get skinnier, to like a size 2. So, what I'd do.. is do the Atkins diet. All you have to do is, like eat meats & vegetables. You'll have to check into the full thing. But I lost 10 pounds in one week. But I also, drank plenty of water, and took a 2 mile walk everyday. [Personally, I like taking walks.. cute boys =)] But, my bodys also like weird.. but its guranteed 10 pounds in 2 weeks. [ you'll be shocked at how much weight that really does take off!!] Its a little hard, but if you want it bad enough.. its soooo worth it. & as long as you pick the type of meats & such you like, its all good. Hope I helped! Bye!!

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Two weeks ago I got into a fight with a man that was a close friend of mine. The fight was over msn messanger. I told him I would never have an affair with a married man but that I still wanted to be his friend. Now he wants nothing to do with me and has even blocked me off his contact list. It hurts so bad because he had been a friend of mine for the last 4 years- I was beginning to think that he was hoping I would have an affair with him because he isnt happy in his marriage- I would only ever be intimate with him IF he left his wife. I can't believe what a jerk he is being- It's kind of stupid to end a four year friendship over that. Does anyone have any advice for how I can feel better? And don't you think he is being a jerk?

Wow. Small world, same thing is happening to me. Only, I'm alot younger, & hes not married. What I'm trying to do is just stay away from him.. because, hes obviously not worth it, right? Hes not a very good friend, if he doesn't respect your opinion. & will not listen to you. Hes being a complete fag. If I were you, I'd give him room to breathe. & then once he gets over it.. start talking to him again... & maybe tell his wife. You'll be doing her a favor. Because, thats something she needs to know. Okay, I hope I helped!

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Hi I am a 14/f. I have liked this guy for liek ever. I told him so many time so he knows but somehow doesnt care. he used to tell me he liked me and everything just to like get soem and it would make me like him more and more evrytime and i felt i couldnt say no cuz i liked sooo much. and then he did all this and got a GF. wel now they are broke up and they liek eachother still and hr still trys to use me. what do say to him?

miss him

ahh. that kinda happened to me =/ only, except that whole girlfriend thing. & me telling him i liked him.. i guess it was just kinda obvious. & since i'm like i've been in your position, this is hard, but all you can do.. is move on. & if he doesn't come after you, then you don't need him anyways.

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how do you get a girl to go out on a date w/ you? i'm kind of shy and i have trouble talking to girls...sometimes i can't even say hi...help is appreciated i rate

awww=) ask online. & then just ask her, get it over with. & just hope for the best.

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im not really sure if i am depressed so ill just tell you how i feel and you can tell me if you think im depressed.

how i feel and have been acting:
empty
alone
scared
havent been eating a lot lately
have been getting headaches and stomachaches
havent been hanging out with my friends lately
i like to sit in my room with the lights out
i have trouble sleeping lately
i dont really like to talk anymore
get annoyed at little things
a little bit dizzy sometimes
sad
dont like to talk on the phone anymore
dont really like going places
anxious over stupid things sometimes

please help thanks

one more thing i use to have thoughts bout suicide but now its like i dont care about anything and dont feel anything.

Ahhhh.!!! I suggest you see a doctor immediatly. In school we just took a class in this, & those are like all of the signs. Tell a parent/guardian immediatly. Because, either if something bad that has happened or it could be the chemicals in your brain. Are uneven, & if its not taken care of immediatly, then you might have it for like ever or something (not sure on that one, but I think if your brain has uneven chemicals, and its not treated with medicine. It like never goes away or something ) Just go see a doctor. Ok, bye! =)

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okay i have recently asked a question to see if i was depressed. i told you how i felt and everyone who answered said that i was definetly depressed and that i should get help. but my question is, if your going through depression can you feel fine somedays but most of the time empty. so i guess what im trying to say is when going through depression do you still have some good days?

Yeah. ( I didn't read your last one but whatever ) I mean, you might just be going through a rough time. If this has been continues, for the past 2 weeks. I suggest you tell a friend, or most deffently a parent/guardian. ESPICALLY if your thinking of suicidal thoughts. We just had a class in this, on like the last week of school. If you'd like, to know if your truly depressed, there was thing that we checked. & if like, you have suicidal thoughts, your down, & then happy the next day. Not eating, trouble foccusing, sudden grade drop, moody. Wanting to go to school, or having a hard time waking up in the moring to go. If you have all of those, or atleast most. Then, I suggest if it continues even just the next couple days, tell a parent/guardian. & see a doctor immediatly. Because, it could also be that the chemicals are uneven in your brain. I really hope I helped. Bye =)

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ok well i have a band myspace and im not a band or singer i accidentaly turned it into a band myspace but i dont like it i would really like to have a regular myspace again is that possible?

please help im dying here

i rate high

Just delete it. And make a new myspace.

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I am a 16- years old, I got a event that takes place soon. I need to tone my stomach and mi chest. The event takes place in a month and two weeks. Can someone plz help me? Mi breast aren't saggy but I don't like em, they are to low, can someone help me to do something to help me. please help. thanks

Go on the Atkins diet. What you do is you only eat like meat, vegetables? no fruit, bread, or like sugars and such. its hard. but in two weeks you are guranteed to lose 10 pounds. But, my bodys weird. & it worked alot quicker. like in a week. & i took walks. & drank plenty of water. OH. & you can't have any more then like 14 carbs? Look into it though. It works quick. & easy. if you chose the foods you like. Like the meat, and saleds and such. Its kinda hard.. but if you want it that badly, its worth it.
Hope I helped!

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